Posts Tagged: having it all

The Real Fantasy of Downton Abbey

Warning: light spoilers.

Bitching about Downton Abbey has become a new cultural pastime: It’s horrible, it’s melodramatic, Julian Fellowes is a hack, if they kill one more person I’m quitting for good…..

….and yet we don’t. It’s like the Valentine’s Day candy corn I’ve been devouring for the past week: so cute, so sweet, so makes me want to barf. But I can’t resist! Here I am, even paying for episodes so that I can watch at the gym, even though they’re available on public television. Usually, we watch a show once it’s gone bad for one of three overarching reasons:

1) Emotional investment in the storyline;


2) [...]


The New SAHM

When Kelly Makino was a little girl, she loved to go orienteering — to explore the wilderness near her rural Pennsylvania home, finding her way back with a compass and a map — and the future she imagined for herself was equally adventuresome. Until she was about 16, she wanted to be a CIA operative, a spy, she says, "like La Femme Nikita." She put herself through college at Georgia State working in bars and slinging burgers, planning that with her degree in social work, she would—

But guess what? Hm, hard to say.

The latest New York magazine cover story, if you're interested, is "The Retro Wife."


Business School vs. Cake, or Business School and Cake?

Over the weekend, Jodi Kantor of the New York Times wrote about Harvard Business School's years-long "gender makeover" project, which sought to "remake gender relations at the business school." The overhaul was, in many ways, a success—the George F. Baker Scholar Luncheon, held to honor the top five percent in each graduating class, for example, included 40 percent women in 2013:

It was a remarkable rise that no one could precisely explain. Had the professors rid themselves of unconscious biases? Were the women performing better because of the improved environment? Or was the faculty easing up in grading women because they knew the desired outcome?

“To my head, all [...]


All vs. Enough

"While our friends worry about the quality of middle schools, our parental duties include bringing our son to the ER to get stitches after he puts his head through a window, then arranging for a window replacement and for a special treatment for all the glass in our house so it won't shatter — at a pretty penny. Other friends declare, 'I couldn't do what you do.' If I am to conform to their expectations, I'm not sure what I am supposed to do: Beat my son? Kill myself? (Sadly, parents with kids like my son have done exactly that.) Maybe it's my Buddhist outlook, but I'm not consumed with [...]


The A.R. Ammons Poem That Remains Relevant to Every Situation

If you are of two minds on anything in particular today, remember: you're never alone.

One can't have it

both ways and both

ways is the only

way I want it.

-A.R. Ammons

This poem is also the epigraph to Maile Meloy's excellent short story collection.