Posts Tagged: gchat
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Asking for a Raise: A Series of Conversations

| February 22nd, 2012

This series is brought to you by TurboTax Federal Free Edition.

November 9th, Gchat

Me: So I just met with BOSS and he's giving me a lot more things to do because DUDE left. I'm doing three people's jobs now. I should negotiate a raise, right?

PROJECT MANAGER: yes, I think you should try. tell him that the situation was different when you accepted your position and at this point you're absorbing two jobs. you def have to make your case….tell him you've made plenty of sacrifices (shortening your vacation after DUDE left) and that you're ready to step up but that you have to be compensated.

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Bad Sex, Paying for the First Date, and Asking Out Your Barista

| May 17th, 2011

Is bad sex ever a reason to break up? Not even bad sex but lack of chemistry? I have a been with a guy for six months (known for a year) and while everything else is awesome and wonderful and he makes me laugh and loves me… the sex is, for a lack of better term, awful. I don't feel chemistry in that way with him and everything I have tried to spice it up doesn't work. How can it be possible that everything works but this one area? It it selfish of me to want good sex AND a great relationship? I am afraid that I would be [...]

communication
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German Words for Gchat-related Psychoemotional States

| August 24th, 2011

Speaking of Gchat…

Verkendokumentaugenstich: The momentary pinch of inadequacy and remorse felt when you glance away from a chat and spot the work you are supposed to be doing, before returning to ask your friend "fix my liiife? fix it?"

Dunksturrfenvlecht: The desire (conscious or unconscious) to leave, and concomitant pleasure derived from leaving, your chat window "available" after you've gone to bed in order to elicit other people's drunk messages and wake up feeling like you have a lot of friends.

Dopplepastenschande. When you make a successful joke in one chat window and paste it in another only to realize you pasted the name of the first person you were talking to along with your [...]

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Talking to Women, Gchat Crises, and Pre-Adolescent Encounters

| April 25th, 2011

What is the "right"/"best"/"most appropriate" way for a strange man (me) to approach a strange woman (not that we are odd, but that we are strangers to each other)? I am painfully shy, and even though I know I should just say "hi," I can't bring myself to do it. I have the yips. I get nervous, and then I do nothing, and then I regret my wallflower-ness the rest of the day. Even when a strange woman smiles nicely (politely?) at me (is she sending a sign, like, "hey, if you won't do it willingly, come talk to me you silly fool"?), I often can't return the favor. [...]

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The Arrival of Gchat

| August 24th, 2011

Listening and talking became even easier in the 1680s, with the introduction of the sofa. Seating for two! For the first time in history, people could sit comfortably together indoors for long stretches — thereby making it easier for them to speak comfortably together for long stretches.

Here's an interesting essay in N+1 about the evolution of conversation. It starts in the velvet-lined salons of the 17th century, the cradle of banter, and ends with Gchat, which we use all day, every day, to talk with "other people's boyfriends," until someone's circle turns orange.

Is he really gone, or has the sneak downloaded that add-on that [...]

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GChat and You

| January 7th, 2011

Caroline Bankoff has written a long and charming essay for Thought Catalog about GChat, which for some of us has replaced speech as, if not the preferred than at least the most frequent form of human communication.

4. I started GChatting on March 6th, 2007, and as of this writing, I have 9940 chats in my records. If you have an idea for how I should commemorate my 10,000th chat – I estimate it will take place sometime late next week – you should let me know.

Interesting! I'm 11,069 from June of '06. You? What does it mean? Nothing? Literally nothing? Bankoff was also brave enough to search [...]