Things to Do When Someone Unfriends You

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"We are living in an isolation that would have been unimaginable to our ancestors, and yet we have never been more accessible." —Stephen Marche's cover story for the Atlantic on misery and Facebook is a great if not particularly uplifting read (share it on Facebook!), although envisioning how the vampire-Jetsons photoshoot went down takes some of the edge off. ("Like this?" "Can you be … emptier?") The good news, though, is that the answer is and always has been "simple": "The greater the proportion of face-to-face interactions, the less lonely you are. The greater the proportion of online interactions, the lonelier you are." But also: "The more you try to [...]

POLITICS
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Unfriending en Masse
Jane Marie | March 13th, 2012
One way to look at this new Pew study of social networking and politics is to look in the other direction. Snooze button, am I right? Just kidding! The real way to look at it is with awe and curiosity. Interesting finding: 38% of social network users have learned through posts that they had a friend's political views all wrong (38%!) and 18% of users have unfriended or unfollowed someone over politics — including disagreeing with them or being worried that something they posted might offend a friend of a friend. Have you done this sort of unfriending? If you need one, here's another reason.

the internet
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The 10 People Who Wished Me Happy Birthday on Facebook
Erin Somers | January 30th, 2012
1. Girl from my high school basketball team who once punched me in the back of the head at practice.

2. Friend of a friend from college last seen on a network sitcom two seasons ago. If memory serves, he's deep into hugging.

3. Middle school stoner who had the same No Fear shirt as me in seventh grade: “The meek shall inherit NOTHING.”

4. My cousin's mother-in-law on behalf of her labradoodles, Magnificent and Kevin.

5. The Russian girl with whom I did a pre-college summer program, wishing me “an extravagant birthday to my gorgeous interior and exterior.”

women in the news
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Things to Do When Someone Unfriends You
Edith Zimmerman | November 3rd, 2011
OK, this one might be a little tricky, but … SIGTSMFOFBOIGTBTHD. (For reference.)

Correspondence
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Signs of Possible Snobbery: A Partially Fictionalized Facebook Exchange
Kristen Roupenian | April 2nd, 2012
(Yesterday) D: K I have always thought the world of you. It bums me out you don't answer my Facebook messages. Did I do something wrong? Do you dislike me or just don't have time to answer. It would be so cool to hear from you but I don't want to be foolish and waste your time by trying to contact you.

(Yesterday) K: Hey D – I don't really know what to say. I don't want to be a jerk, but you send me a lot of messages and I don’t always have time to respond to them. Also, I'm in a relationship and sometimes the [...]

New Study Reveals
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Must… Tweet. Can't… Resist.
Jane Marie | February 3rd, 2012
Tweeting or checking emails may be harder to resist than cigarettes and alcohol, according to researchers who tried to measure how well people could resist their desires.

They even claim that while sleep and sex may be stronger urges, people are more likely to give in to longings or cravings to use social and other media.

"Mmm, a cocktail, some sex, then a cigarette (of course), followed by sleep would be awesome right now, but I haven't left my cave in ages. Maybe someday there will be a way out of this lonely, lonely prison of my own making, if only an escape into an imaginary world full of [...]

the internet
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The Rules of Romantic Unfriending
Edith Zimmerman | November 16th, 2011
"Mr. Bennett and Ms. Grunwald (hereinafter 'the former couple') shall change their Facebook relationship status to 'Single' within three (3) days of each other, and no more than three (3) weeks from the end of their relationship. Furthermore, each party shall wait a minimum of six (6) months before changing his or her status to “In a relationship,” even if said new relationship began earlier." —Frank Lesser's tidy guide to heartbreak.

life
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Timelines
Rebecca Armendariz | March 20th, 2012
My reminders of Clark, who died nearly three years ago, are still visible, but as my life adjusts to a world without him, I've moved a few things so they're a bit more out of the way. Instead of keeping my favorite photo of us right by my bedside, I've put it on the bookshelf on the opposite wall, angled so I don't face it head-on every time I'm in my room. And that's fine, to create nooks for my keepsakes, though it took me a while to get over the guilt I felt for removing them from the front lines.

My therapist taught me that it's okay to [...]

ask a married dude
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Ask a Married Dude: Bob and Eli
A Married Dude | January 31st, 2012
Going to try to be concise here, but I have a feeling that won't be easy and I might skip over some of the stuff that won't make me seem like a total monster, but oh well.

Rewind nine years to me as a fresh-faced and vaguely promiscuous 23-year-old working at a dream job in Boston that was perfect for me. Enter Bob, an account guy at my work 14 years my senior and so incredibly wonderfully grumpy and brusque that what could I do but fall head over heels in love with the guy? He had just left a ten-year marriage and wasn't ready to give me a [...]

comics
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Wall to Wall
Ana Benaroya | November 7th, 2011

This is the "wall to wall" conversation that a new couple I happen to be friends with on Facebook had over the span of a couple months. I thought it would be funny to make it continuous.