Posts Tagged: dating
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Every Dating Problem, Solved: An Interview With Chiara Atik

Dating expert, travel enthusiast, HowAboutWe writer (and Hairpin contributor) Chiara Atik has a new book out today: Modern Dating: A Field Guide. We emailed about it.

Edith Zimmerman: Okay Chiara. Just respond with "…." if I ask you a question you probably get asked all the time, and I'll picture you staring blankly at me with your BIG AND BEAUTIFUL eyes. Question one: Would you describe your eyes as big and beautiful?

Oh, I’m constantly describing my eyes as big and beautiful to anyone who will listen.

Question two: Isn't it crazy to write about dating, don't your dates get weirded out when they find out what you [...]

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Honesty, Asexuality, and the Un-Recloseting

1. I can't talk to my friends about this, because they all think my girlfriend and I have the perfect relationship. We met through Craigslist casual encounters, and started out as fuck buddies. Which was fun! No shame there. Gradually, we fell head over heels in love with each other. She was talking marriage by the fourth month we were together, all that kind of stuff. She was an AMAZING girlfriend who went over and above (weekly cookie care packages! lovely love texts nightly! sweetest letters ever!). I was a pretty good one, given the fact that I'm a sporadically employed undergraduate student who can't afford things like surprise [...]

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Loneliness, Mistakes, and the Inner Questionnaire

1. You know what's a mess? I mean, it's a good mess to have, I guess, but when you start dating someone, and it's okay, and then a few dates later you know it's not great, but it's also fine. What then? Especially if you have like three of these things going on at once. Because partially you wonder if maybe it'll get better or more interesting as it goes along, but you also know you're kidding yourself. Probably. But then it seems like a big hassle to break things off honestly ("no it's actually fine, I do basically like you? I don't know, just not that much, although maybe [...]

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Dates and Dates

JDate owes me a husband. I’ve paid them more than a thousand dollars, not to mention at least two hundred hours of dating time–this doesn’t include prep time of pedicures, waxing and therapy. If dating were tax deductible I could write off half my life. Ergo, I must meet someone on JDate.

I was the guy you went out with when the guy you really cared about had broken your heart.

I vaguely recalled something about my school’s ‘No Fraternization’ policy, but agreed to pay a visit to my twenty-two-year-old Russian-Greek student’s home.

It's Valentine's week; get ready! Haha. Narratively kicks things off with seven rousing tales of dating in [...]

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Friends' Relationships, Sex, and the Ones Who Get Halfway Away

1. Is there a loving, appropriate way to handle a friend who you feel moves too fast in relationships? Like maybe a friend who moved across the country to continue a relationship that you suspected should have ended a year before it did, who then finally gave up trying to win that person back and moved back home six months after the relationship ended, but who is now asking you to analyze conversations they are having on OkCupid? And also every time you GChat, this friend tells you when the person they are talking to last logged in to OkCupid? Or is that normal now? I am a married [...]

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Sex Phases, Red Flags, and "I Just Don't Think You'd Be a Good Parent"

1. I've been conditioned by quizzes in magazines and movies to believe that it's a red flag when a man has trouble with the idea of marriage. My boyfriend of a year and a half and I talk about marriage frequently. Neither of us are in a hurry to get married. Recently, he blurted out, "I don't really like the idea of marriage."

He then went on to say that he loves me, and is committed to me. That he wants to have kids and buy a house with me. That, because he knows marriage is important to me, he'll be willing to marry me in a few years. He [...]

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You Need a New Man

Previously: A Video Response to the BIC for Her Pen

Eudora Peterson is a comedian.

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If You Had to Guess

If you had to guess which one of the guys you slept with wrote sex reviews on prostitute Yelp, which one would you guess?

If you had to guess whether the person you've been hanging out with for a while carves his own sporks and then uses those sporks to the exclusion of all other utensils, what would you guess?

If you had to guess how many guys you will do who totally start picking their nose and eating it after the first time you have sex, how many would you say?

If you had to guess whether you're with someone who used to have those big earrings and then [...]

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Interview With a Virgin: Eliot

Eliot is a 31-year-old graduate student working in media studies, and we talked just as she was finishing up an article on lesbian pornographic comics and the nature of female fantasy. 

Jia: Hey Eliot! I'm so intrigued by this article you’re writing. 

Eliot: Hi! Thanks. Yeah, it’s certainly sort of weird to spend all of your time studying people who perform and write acts that you, for the majority of your life, have had zero interest in. But I think that in academia, we always end up focusing on things that compel us in ways that we don’t fully understand. Part of the reason I so frequently use the lens of [...]

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Choose Your Own Catfishing Adventure

I'm married, so when I say this actually kind of worked, I mean that I wasn't horrified by the person I was "fixed up with" via this silly interactive YouTube dating game. Fine, I was mildly delighted for two seconds before quickly closing my browser. Good luck!