This story is an update to this story, published here in April 2012.
Six months ago, I sat waiting in my gynecologist’s exam room chair, fully clothed and wishing I were anywhere else. At that particular moment, I’d even have preferred being naked and spread-eagled on the paper-lined bed. It’s not true what they say about the stirrups being the worst part of the ladyparts exam room: it’s the chair. Once you’re clothed and in the chair, it means you’re there to talk.
You never forget your first time debriefing with your gynecologist. Mine was four years ago, at age 22, when I sat crumpled in a chair [...]
If you had to guess which one of the guys you slept with wrote sex reviews on prostitute Yelp, which one would you guess?
If you had to guess whether the person you've been hanging out with for a while carves his own sporks and then uses those sporks to the exclusion of all other utensils, what would you guess?
If you had to guess how many guys you will do who totally start picking their nose and eating it after the first time you have sex, how many would you say?
If you had to guess whether you're with someone who used to have those big earrings and then [...]
Eliot is a 31-year-old graduate student working in media studies, and we talked just as she was finishing up an article on lesbian pornographic comics and the nature of female fantasy.
Jia: Hey Eliot! I'm so intrigued by this article you’re writing.
Eliot: Hi! Thanks. Yeah, it’s certainly sort of weird to spend all of your time studying people who perform and write acts that you, for the majority of your life, have had zero interest in. But I think that in academia, we always end up focusing on things that compel us in ways that we don’t fully understand. Part of the reason I so frequently use the lens of [...]