B: Dinner this week? Him: I didnt think i would hear from you again.. haha, Im availble early next week B: You need to have more self-confidence boy! Him: haha
K: Haha. You called him ‘boy.’ B: Guys love that. I think. K: The few times I’ve been called ‘lady’ I liked it so much it was almost a problem, so I can see that. Although maybe the reverse is ‘sir’ and in this case it’s more like you are like his stern but ultimately kindhearted grandmother. Or maybe it is really cool and he was like “whoa.” Anywayyy, what happened after? B: Nothing. [...]
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Before we get into the really good advice about managing your more-difficult interpersonal relationships, an obvious caveat: end your most difficult interpersonal relationships. You can't always do it, of course. Sometimes you love them, sometimes they're family, sometimes they work next to you, and you have to keep them in your life. So, let's proceed with that understanding: this person is there to stay, so we're going to make it work. Oh, and, ideally, you've already tried to be honest with them about your issues and nothing has changed.
The Fundamental Fake-Out: Pretend you already have [...]
We are tempted to think that our little “sips” of online connection add up to a big gulp of real conversation. But they don’t. E-mail, Twitter, Facebook, all of these have their places — in politics, commerce, romance and friendship. But no matter how valuable, they do not substitute for conversation.
Another day, another popular piece about the lonely sterility of the internet versus the good old days. This one's by Sherry Turkle for the New York Times, and she ends it with a half-hearted call for "conversational Thursdays" (casual Fridays' socially inept little sister), among other proposed solutions. It's a nice piece, like the Atlantic one [...]
Him: Are you familiar with the Myers-Briggs personality assessment? M: Yes. Him: Might I ask what your results were? M: INTJ. Him: That's what I surmised. M: Haha…why? Him: I noticed in class that your lower jaw is slack during class, and INTJs typically have underdeveloped facial muscles.
K: I’m just going to very quickly grab a butcher knife. I’ve seen like six episodes of CSI that start this way. M: I know. I’m SO glad I know karate. I mean … it’s probably fine, I just think he’s never actually interacted with another human being before, ever in his life. K: No kidding. He [...]