Posts Tagged: breakups

How to Live with an Ex in Five Simple Steps

New York is a town with a double edge. It’s a city where you can cheap out and spend a day in The Met for a $1 (and almost feel good about it until you realize you should have given at least $5, why are you so cheap?), but then afterward, go for a walk in Central Park and not think twice about forking over $4 for a so-so cup of coffee.

It’s a city where you can have a negligible amount of money in your checking account and a non-existent savings, but when you walk around the West Village—and specifically West 10th Street—stalkily peering into the windows of the [...]


BANKS, "Drowning"

Here's BANKS delivering very scorned realness on "Drowning," a recovery anthem that dips and dives around her vocals. Pair this with her last release, "Goddess," and you've got something like a soundtrack to a girl gang's post-breakup assessment brunch. BANKS' debut album, Goddess, is due out in September, and she's got some shows coming up, possibly in your vicinity.


An Original Break-Up Song


Save Up, Move Out

For a reminder of what to keep in mind the next time you want to move out of a home you're sharing with someone, has a quick and blazingly pink infographic, excerpted (and sepia-ed) above.

What else does's infographic magic eight ball (RIMEB) know? It seems practical, and wise. RIMEB, who is the fairest of them all? RIMEB, what do you do when something feels right but most people you respect would probably advise you against it? Or would they? RIMEB?


Ask Baba Yaga: How Will I Know When It's Time to End My Ultimately Doomed Relationship?

Transcript after the jump.


How to Dress for Things You Hate

How to dress for your terrible office job: 

Black pencil skirt, large-print silk blouse, great bangles, tight smile that masks your inner hatred, heels that make your ass look great while people metaphorically try to kiss it.

How to dress for a dreaded double-date:

A dress loose enough that you can sigh easily, comfortable shoes for frequent walks to the bathroom, pockets for easy phone access, necklace for fidgeting.

How to dress for a restaurant job that you got out of desperation after getting fired from your office job you hated:

Black tights with runs in them, empire-waist black dress with cap sleeves and a low neckline, [...]


What Goes With Your Breakup?

Breakups and alcohol are inextricably linked, so here are some ideas to get you through your next one. I mean, if you’re going to be lying on the floor listening The Boatman’s Call and crying, you might as well drink something worthy of Nick Cave.

More often than raspberries, blueberries, gooseberries, or snozzberries, wine evokes a state of mind or type of person to me. I stick my nose in a glass of boring Merlot, the kind that's marketed to grocery stores and mid-tier hotel restaurants, and get a visceral image of this mean, small-minded office manager I worked for right after I graduated from college. I mutter, “I bet [...]


Lykke Li, "I Never Learn" (Live at KEXP)

Here's Swedish singer Lykke Li performing the title track off her new album, I Never Learn, at Seattle's KEXP studios recently. The album, if you haven't listened yet, is a work of pure heartbreak—take, for example, Li explaining her creative process in Carrie Battan's Pitchfork profile from late last month:

When Li talks about the difficult period in her life that inspired I Never Learn, she launches into a discussion of the astrological phase known as the Return of Saturn with the graveness of an environmental scientist explaining climate change. “It’s in every person’s life, around 27 to 29 years old,” she says, “the stars and the [...]


Louis Calls His Girlfriend

Fern’s phone rang while she was in line for the fitting room at Zara. She fumbled the stack of dresses on her arm, dropping one of them as she reached for her cell phone, which was nestled in a gummy pile of nickels at the bottom of her purse. It was Louis.

“Hey,” she said, her phone pinched between ear and shoulder. She tried to flip the dresses back up with her foot, but her heel got caught on the hanger and she tripped. Fuck. She stared at the boot print on the white flowered fabric.

“It’s time we had the talk,” Louis said.

“What?” Fern said, stepping neatly [...]


Bi Identification, Moving Out, and the Rhinestone-Encrusted Manicure

1. I am a lady who has identified as bi since she was sixteen, in an 'I like people based purely on music taste and tattoos' kind of way. I lived in a conservative town so I didn't act on liking ladies seriously until uni, when I had some short-term relationships with unsuitable women. I ended up dating a man who got very turned on by the idea or inviting a woman into bed with us. He was really into BDSM, and we had a master/slave aspect to everything we did. He wanted it to be like that 24/7, but it was just the entirety of our private life. Eventually [...]