Posts Tagged: advice

Ask Baba Yaga: Last Year I Met the Love of My Life During Harrowing Circumstances

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Vintage T-Shirts Are Not Made In a Day

"Just the Tips" is a new web series by Katy and Katie, two best friends who "try out all the internet's advice so you don't have to." This installment has them making "vintage Ts" out of perfectly good, new T-shirts, and ends with an important lesson: Rome was not built in a day. BRB, gonna go ruin all my shirts with a cheese grater and some sodium carbonate washing soda. (See also: the DIY Vogue spread.)


Advice From a Mom

"The morning after I was rescued my mom gave me the best advice I've ever been given… My mom said to me, 'Elizabeth, what this man has done to you, it's terrible, there aren't words strong enough to describe how wicked and evil he is. He has stolen nine months of your life from you that you will never get back. But the best punishment you could ever give him is to be happy, is to move forward with your life and to do exactly what you want to do… The best thing you can do is to move forward because by feeling sorry for yourself and holding on to [...]


Boy-Crazy But Curious, Dating While Disabled, and Introducing Parents to Your "New Norm"

I've always identified, both to myself and to others, as straight. There were times when I thought about other girls as a young girl, but then read in some magazine or other that this was "totally normal! Just a passing crushphase!" and I brushed it off, as seems to have happened to some other readers.

The thing is, during my, uh, (oh dear this is quite personal) ALONE TIMES, the only thing which seems to pop into my head and turn me on is LADIES. But sort of in a older women younger girl, oh we're two girls at a sleepover and what's even happening sort of way. And then [...]


Ask Baba Yaga: There's Got to Be a Way to Exist Without Constantly Inflating and Deflating My Ego

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The Glittery Fountain In the Sky, Staying Closeted For Your Career, and Lesbian FOMO

I feel like, abruptly and without warning, my sexuality has changed from a basically heterosexual girl (with some twinges of attraction towards women), to a homosexual girl (with some twinges towards men). The 'Are you a lesbian?' videos and articles I've Googled have mentioned that some people are not born gay, but these seem to be uniformly written by born-gay folks. I'm really uncomfortable with this change and its abruptness, and have a few questions. Is sexuality changing a thing?

Xena was a childhood hero of mine, but I've always had crushes on boys (like, my vagina hummed for a week after I got into this boy in college), [...]


Ask Baba Yaga: I Seek Comfort From Others Because I Am Uncomfortable With Myself

Previously: "How Do I Deal With My Boyfriend's Past Partners Gracefully?"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at

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Ask a Three-Year-Old: Doing the Right Thing

Dear Three-Year-Old,

I've seen other people get what they want because they go after it without regard for anyone else. While I know that won't make me feel any better, sometimes I want to do just that: I want what I want and I want it now, even if it will hurt somebody else. What do you do when you don't want to do the right thing?



Dear Frustrated,

Are you a monster? Monsters say: Grrrr. I do the monster stomp and chase the monsters away. But sometimes *I’m* a monster, and Mommy and Daddy and brother are monsters. We’re all monsters together! We all say: Grrrr! We [...]


Ask a Three-Year-Old: Heartbreak

Dear Three-Year-Old,

I am heartbroken. I fell in love—wisely or unwisely, I have yet to determine—and it didn't work out. I know that life will go on, and it is going on, but how do I make this stop hurting?




Dear Heartbroken,

Today Mommy said to take a long nap because I was reaaaallly tired. But I can also just go lie down if I want to, and close my eyes (like this). And I can snuggle with my animals: Girl Cat, Mommy Cat, Lambie, Lion, Squid, Gorilla. I might be lonely, but that’s okay, because then I just go to sleep! Maybe you can take a [...]


Ask a Three-Year-Old: Best Friends Forever?

Dear Three-Year-Old,

I had a huge falling out with my best friend. It’s a long story, and at the end of it, we hated one another. But, my question: I'm getting married next year and I don't have a 'maid of honor'. I have other friends, but not best friends.  Should I try to repair my relationship with my former best friend? If not, how do I make a new best friend / potential maid of honor?




Dear BFF,

I have a best friend: her name is Mommy. Sometimes, when my Mommy is being a pugnacious Mommy, I’ll say, sorry Mommy, sorry you’re being a little bit [...]