Posts Tagged: advice

Ask Baba Yaga: Should I Put Out The Fire In My Belly?

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Precious Emotional Energy, Getting a Haircut, and The Gay Man's Crush-o-Meter

Last winter I went to an art museum with my mom and girlfriend. We ran into a lady who frequented my place of work (retail). We'd always been friendly and had known each other (in a work-customer relationship way) for a few years. I’ll call her "Jane". Jane approached us to say hi, and I introduced my girlfriend.

Jane: Ooh, girlfriend? As in, a friend or a mate? Because my daughter just told me she has a girlfriend and that she's fluid! Are you fluid? What does that even mean? Me: That means she isn’t attracted to just one gender. Jane: Oh! So, let me ask you something, I'm [...]


Clean Killjoys, A Lack of Chill, and Crop Tops

Hi guys! Classic Hairpin advice column "Ask a Lady" is back and I am very excited to announce that this time the Lady is me, your friend Monica Heisey. As an anxious and bossy person (great combo), I basically live to over-analyze situations and offer life suggestions based on that analysis. I have even written a how-to book about generally being alive, a little volume called I Can't Believe It's Not Better, which you can buy in Canadian bookstores after April 28th and in American bookstores in September.

In the meantime, I have tried my best to answer a few pressing questions from [...]


Friendships with Men, Jokes about Men, and Spiderwebs for Catching Men

How would you describe your friendships with other men, and do you wish they were different? Hah! Ugh. This is a timely question, because I am currently making a concerted effort to develop more male friendships. Not an easy thing for me! I'm not really sure why that is? I mean, I have theories. Among them: men are mostly terrible. The only thing worse than a man is a group of men. I should know! I am a man, and I've been a man in a group of men, and I'm sure I've been a terrible man in a group of terrible men. It happens! Anyway, the point [...]


Ask Baba Yaga: Am I Watching Too Much Television?

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Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Stand This Lack of Humility?

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