Wednesday, March 12, 2014


Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Tell the Difference Between Prestige and Personal Satisfaction?

Dear Baba Yaga,
I am afraid that I cannot distinguish what satisfies me because it is prestigious and challenging from what truly makes me happy. I haven't yet found a balance, so the former wins out every time and I am afraid of wasting my youth on my career. The other day I found my first gray hair.

You cannot tell the difference because, in part, they are the same thing, & because you do not yet know all the other things that make you happy. ; You must find & name yr hungriest wolves & then feed them accordingly. If yr work wolf howls louder than the others, throw him some good scraps to shut him up, then feed the second hungriest, & so on. —You . are a smart girl. Now do what you can to know yr wolves & keep them all strong, not starving.

Previously: "How Do I Keep From Dwelling on the Love I Haven't Had?"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

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Well.. this is 100% true for me. I'm having an incredibly difficult time choosing between a career as a lawyer or a teacher. I feel truly fulfilled when I teach people, but I also don't want to feel like I turned down the challenge of law school. Law also gives me an opportunity to concretely affect change (although it is true that teaching does as well). My family pressure.. is just.. wow. I don't want to choose one and then feel terrible about myself 5 years down the line.

up cubed

@sjöhäxa: Have you considered working in law as a non-lawyer to figure it out? Law school is a huge financial investment and social-justice and policy fields are oversaturated, so jobs are pretty competitive. Teaching is tough, and I hear terrible things about doing TFA, but there might be ways to get experience doing that, before you make a decision.


@sjöhäxa My boyfriend went to law school for the challenge [partly and also because he wanted a stable career.] Now he's a law-school graduate with a huge law school debt and no job. Please listen to Up Cubed and work in the field before … everything she says is too true. Turning down the challenge of law school might be the best thing you ever did.


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There is always (at least) one line in each Baba Yaga missive that knocks me back in my seat, mouth agape.

This time: Now do what you can to know yr wolves & keep them all strong, not starving.


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Registered to comment on this . Baba Yaga is the best thing that I read online every week. And today this was exactly, 100% the right thing to read. My career has nothing to do with any of the other things that make me happy, but advancement and prestige have been strong motivation for a while now. I'm just starting to notice the other wolves that I've been neglecting.


Spot on as always, Baba. On a side note, I feel like the pin is conspiring to make me revive my childhood dream of running the Iditarod.

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