Wednesday, December 18, 2013


Ask Baba Yaga: My Best Friend Just Got Engaged and All I Can Do Is Weep

Transcript after the jump.

Dear Baba Yaga,
My best friend just got engaged and all I can do is weep, left alone as the last of the single ladies in my circle of friends. How do I suck it up, move on, and be happy for her and her happiness when all I do is fear I will die alone, eaten by squirrels and badgers in the wilderness? How do I find my own happiness along the way?

Everyone dies, alone in their own cauldron–yr death will be no more or less gruesome than any other’s. & happiness is a thing that passes through you, not a thing you meet & hold in yr deathly grip for ever afterwards. You are afraid; of being the last at a party without the others, but the others have gone on into a wood they do not, understand. It is the same wood you stand in, weeping. & the trees look at all of you the same, & say nothing.

Previously:: "I Feel Tired and Powerless and Ill When I Spend Time With My Family"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

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Jocasta Carr

Oh my GOD this is good. "Happiness is a thing that passes through you, not a thing you meet and hold in your deathly grip forever afterwards" is somehow exactly what I needed to hear. Happiness is not the end goal, because it isn't guaranteed no matter what your circumstances are, and because it's a constantly evolving state of being, not a static thing you can hang on to. This column is seriously one of my favorite things the Hairpin has ever produced.


Friggin awesome@y


this absolutely gutted me, in the best possible way.

oh! valencia

This is honestly the first "Ask Baba Yaga" that ever meant anything to me, and it means a lot. The bit quoted by Jocasta Carr up above.

Very Quiet Cricket

"The others have gone on into a wood they do not understand. It is the same wood you stand in."

Originally started reading Baba columns for what I perceived to be their quirky, crystal-balled irony. Now, not so sure.


Oooohhh, THISSSS. That's all I can do, just point at it and say "THISSSS."

Wanting to share this with a particular friend, buuuut she's engaged.


Baba baba baba. How do u do it.


Taisia, I sure hope you can persuade Baba to allow these messages to be compiled in a book. I would place them on paths in the woods and office corridors where strangers might be lost.


@gulleyjimson Yes! Please.

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