Wednesday, December 18, 2013


Ask Baba Yaga: My Best Friend Just Got Engaged and All I Can Do Is Weep

Transcript after the jump.

Dear Baba Yaga,
My best friend just got engaged and all I can do is weep, left alone as the last of the single ladies in my circle of friends. How do I suck it up, move on, and be happy for her and her happiness when all I do is fear I will die alone, eaten by squirrels and badgers in the wilderness? How do I find my own happiness along the way?

Everyone dies, alone in their own cauldron–yr death will be no more or less gruesome than any other’s. & happiness is a thing that passes through you, not a thing you meet & hold in yr deathly grip for ever afterwards. You are afraid; of being the last at a party without the others, but the others have gone on into a wood they do not, understand. It is the same wood you stand in, weeping. & the trees look at all of you the same, & say nothing.

Previously:: "I Feel Tired and Powerless and Ill When I Spend Time With My Family"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

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Jocasta Carr

Oh my GOD this is good. "Happiness is a thing that passes through you, not a thing you meet and hold in your deathly grip forever afterwards" is somehow exactly what I needed to hear. Happiness is not the end goal, because it isn't guaranteed no matter what your circumstances are, and because it's a constantly evolving state of being, not a static thing you can hang on to. This column is seriously one of my favorite things the Hairpin has ever produced.


this absolutely gutted me, in the best possible way.

oh! valencia

This is honestly the first "Ask Baba Yaga" that ever meant anything to me, and it means a lot. The bit quoted by Jocasta Carr up above.

Very Quiet Cricket

"The others have gone on into a wood they do not understand. It is the same wood you stand in."

Originally started reading Baba columns for what I perceived to be their quirky, crystal-balled irony. Now, not so sure.


Oooohhh, THISSSS. That's all I can do, just point at it and say "THISSSS."

Wanting to share this with a particular friend, buuuut she's engaged.


Baba baba baba. How do u do it.


Taisia, I sure hope you can persuade Baba to allow these messages to be compiled in a book. I would place them on paths in the woods and office corridors where strangers might be lost.


@gulleyjimson Yes! Please.

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