Wednesday, October 16, 2013


The World's First "Vadge Sommelier"?

"Before I boarded the bus, I made sure to take off my lanyard, which featured the words 'AGENT OF ORGASM' above a picture of my face."

-Gawker's Nitasha Tiku spent three days at OMXperience, a three-day conference in San Francisco this past August intended to "kick off the industry of orgasm" via orgasmic meditation, or "OM." (Some NSFW video guidance here, if you're interested.) Tiku, pre-initiation, frames the practice as a uniquely tech-bubble creation ("Everyone is interested in doing fun things with their bodies. But the impulse to systematize, replicate, package, sell, and build an ideology around it is uniquely Silicon Valley"); Nicole Daedone, the 46-year-old leader of OM company OneTaste, calls it an effort "to go into the belly of the beast and begin to heal this trauma about misused sexuality":

If I were a person out there, and I heard about a group of people who were living together and were doing this practice where they were stroking genitals, I would probably think the same thing. Because I wouldn't have any context to understand. Because there IS no context for connection in our culture. There's no context for any kind of female pleasure. There's no kind of context for sexuality within a rigorous practice.

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Pretty sure that was supposed to be "badge sommelier," i.e., one of those people at the fancier conferences who picks out a lanyard matching your outfit. The article is rife with typos, that's just one example.


you are good!@k


On considering being half naked in a crowded hotel ballroom, pawed at by a complete stranger, my lady parts yelled a loud "NOPE" and walked off.


A VERY adventurous friend of mine has been to one of their events. Her stories are hilarious. And she did have a great orgasm, so there's that.


So curious about this, and also so weirded out. A huge part of me is screaming "if they were serious about helping people there would not be this corporate structure around it. They would seek for it to be therapeutic medication like massage can be." And then the other part really wants to find instructions so my fiance can learn how to do this.


@Jaya Yeah, I mean, I think I genuinely hate these guys--something about the fetishization of one specific subtype of female orgasm and separating it out from all other orgasms is REALLY bad in ways I can't articulate (I had a fling with a guy who had this kind of attitude towards female orgasm generally and while it was nice that he was into my orgasms in a pretty big way, I found the mysticism he shrouded it in deeply weird). Like, guys, most of us have orgasms and we all have them in different ways.

And then there's the part where you're not supposed to do it with your partner, and THEN there appears to be a reference to doing it with people you work with when you are having conflict?!?!

So, to all of that: nopenopenope. But, do I want my husband to learn this and do it to me? Hell to the yes. It sounds like THE MOST relaxing.


@OhMarie Omg yes, you articulated that so well. I also was weirded out about that bit where everyone was pairing off and that one woman was begging this guy to do it to her. It just showed it wasn't as enlightened as it could be.

And I mean, I'm all for awesome orgasms for me, and being able to relax and just have it done to me, but I also feel strange that there's no equivalent for men? Because 1. sharing both ways is nice and 2. it seems like gay men cannot participate in this at all.

Passion Fruit

@Jaya Yes, I was totally thinking about how I'd love for a dude-version of this. But then I realized that the words I'd use to describe this type of experience (vulnerable, open, emotional, spiritual, relaxing, centering, etc) are kind of verboten for men, at least according to predominant bro-y scripts.

I'm just curious about how this would play out with the roles reversed. Where a man was naked from the waist down, listening to a neutral, non-judgmental description of his genitals, and then, uh, manually masturbated by a fully clothed woman in a large group setting with other orgasming men nearby on their own expensively branded yoga mat "nests," and then finally, being "grounded" by firm pressure to the pubic bone. All done by a stranger.

I have no idea what my opinion on all of this is.


I get paid over $87 per hour working from home with 2 kids at home. I never thought I'd be able to do it but my best friend earns over 10k a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The potential with this is endless. Heres what I've been doing, www.Best96.com


Not gonna lie: as a pervert, this intrigues me.


Its like you read my mind! You seem to know so much about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you could do with some pics to drive the message home a bit, but other than that, this is great blog. A great read. Medical Nurse

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