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Friday, February 15, 2013

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The Week of February 11 - 15

In case you missed it...

- A Queer Chick on spectrums, titles, and attraction.

- Do you need a new man?

- Or are you lying on your online dating profile?

- A month alone in India.

- Jim Behrle's Valentine contest and results.

- Classic Scandals: Errol Flynn, scandalously attractive.

- First Pages of Fake Lifetime Movies: 'New Pope, New Love.'

- "Wonderful Sentences About Tourism in Finland."

- And Ask an Archivist.

Have an excellent long or regular weekend, and we'll see you back here on Tuesday!



131 Comments / Post A Comment

pwomp

Hello there, I am a casual reader of this site, and I love it!
I just have one point of order- the links in the articles are a too much like the non-link text of the article. I don't know if it's just me, but a lot of the time I just can't discern which words are links unless I highlight the entire page. The color of the link is just too similar to the color of the regular text. It's especially bad when the link is hidden in a block of text; I always feel like I'm potentially missing out on some delightful link the author wanted to share with me, the reader.
I'm sure the website design was very deliberate and it looks great, except for this one tiny thing. Could you maybe embolden the linked text, or make it so it's always underlined, not just when you hover over it? Just one reader's suggestion.

Edith Zimmerman

@pwomp I totally agree -- this has been a longstanding thing. Hopefully we can update soon, and thank you!

fondue with cheddar

@Edith Zimmerman I agree, and I'm glad it's something you're aware of. Thanks!

Lulu22

@Edith Zimmerman I actually love that the links are so unobtrusive! I find it distracting when links are bold or underlined. It disrupts the reading experience. Never change! (OK, sometimes change, but not the links!)

fondue with cheddar

@Lulu22 Maybe they could be a slightly more contrasting color? The dark green against blue doesn't look much different than the black.

Helvetica

Oh, US holidays. You are too difficult for me to handle, all the way out in Europe, without any Hairpin for a day.

iceberg

@Helvetica even in the US most of us don't get today off; I had to ask someone what the "holiday" was (Presidents Day, for those of you playing at home).

londonienne

@iceberg Is there a criteria for who gets the day off? I was just thinking that you guys just had a holiday, here in the UK we have a big holiday-less gap between Christmas and Easter.

mcleodglen

@Helvetica
hehe what's wrong with an extra holiday anyway?

iceberg

@mcleodglen no Hairpin duh!

OhMarie

@londonienne It's a government holiday--so everybody who works for the government and banks and stuff like that has the day off. For private companies, it's kind of scattershot. Some people get the day off, my own company only has 8 actual holidays throughout the year and then gives you two "floating" holidays to take whenever you want. Martin Luther King Jr. Day and Columbus Day are similar in that some people get the day off and some don't.

londonienne

@OhMarie Thanks!

iceberg

NO HAIRPIN TODAY WTF????

Monday open thread?

londonienne

@iceberg I'm in!

Scandyhoovian

@londonienne I'm also in! I need the 'pin to help me through the "I'm working on a widely-observed holiday" feelings.

iceberg

@iceberg soooooo... does anyone know how to get non-washable marker off baby skin?> Not permanent marker, just not "washable". Google was... inconclusive.

londonienne

@iceberg Where is it on their body? I would be tempted to leave it and let it "grow" out. Or baby wipes?

iceberg

@londonienne just hands really. hand sanitizer, soap & water did nothing, rubbing alcohol faded it a bit...

funfetti

@iceberg anyone interested in a live chat room?

londonienne

@iceberg It will probaby fade in a couple of days. Hands are not so bad. Faces are more of a concern. It's very brave of you to put pens near your babies. 5 minutes with mine I was like, nope I am not cleaning that up, back to crayons and pencils.

iceberg

@londonienne it was NOT my choice! I guess someone gave them to us for the babies birthday and Mr Iceberg pulled them out last night - once they had them in their hot little hands there was no going back to crayons! but I think we might buy some washable ones.

Scandyhoovian

@funfetti Alas, I don't think I'd be able to keep up with a live chat while working. I like the open threads 'cause I can pop in and out of them and catch up when I have a free moment, but an ongoing chat would be harder to do that with.

Judith Slutler

@iceberg Try dish soap. That's what I use when I get nonwashable pen all over my hands.

par_parenthese

@iceberg Aerosol hairspray. If that doesn't work, nail polish remover. If that doesn't work, you're just going to have to send the kid back to the manufacturer, I'm afraid. Nothing to do but trade 'em in at that point.

fondue with cheddar

@Scandyhoovian It's not really "observed", though. Really, what does one do to celebrate President's Day? Nothing.

garli

@iceberg I learned in college that nail polish remover can get sharpie off skin, if you want to put that on your baby.

Scandyhoovian

@fondue with cheddar Maybe it's secretly become a holiday which people observe by going to work as usual, and we're all observing it unwittingly.

fondue with cheddar

@Scandyhoovian In that case, I observed the hell out of it. :/

carolinaclay

creative and cool@y

raised amongst catalogs

I'll be spending a three-day weekend in NY at the beginning of March. What do I paaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack and how do I avoid looking like a Midwestern schlub?

iceberg

@raised amongst catalogs everything in black?

raised amongst catalogs

@iceberg Aha, yes, and then I can use my fanny pack* to add a pop of color!

*not really

MollyculeTheory

@raised amongst catalogs NO FLEECE UGH FLEECE. Or this kind of tennis shoe. Really, though, clothing is only a secondary identifier, like *see person stopping directly inside subway doors, look at shoes* "ah yes".

raised amongst catalogs

@MollyculeTheory Ha! In that case, I should be fine because a) I own neither a fleece jacket or those shoes and b) I am super aware of my surroundings and crazy vigilant about not stopping in stupid places. Whew.

Judith Slutler

UGH GUYS this time of year is so shitty. I just don't even know. I'm not coping so well :(

I keep trying to tell myself to just do the work and get it done but I'm completely scattered and exhausted. I can't afford to crash and burn right now.

par_parenthese

@Emmanuelle Cunt Is it busyness that makes it so bad? Or seasonal depression? Or...? I sympathize with scattered and exhausted. :( Sorry it's a rough time, sending good thoughts your way.

iceberg

@Emmanuelle Cunt i KNOW, it's like "just hang on until the sun comes back..." sympathy in buckets :(

Judith Slutler

@par_parenthese Finals and depression! I know that I can write a paper in 2 1/2 weeks when most of my research is done, but for that I would have to get out of bed everyday and get into a healthy work routine. :/

par_parenthese

@Emmanuelle Cunt Are you doing the Melatonin/Vitamin D combo at night and B complex in the morning? That's been REALLY helpful to me the last couple years.

Judith Slutler

@par_parenthese ooo thanks for reminding me to take my vitamin d.

adorable-eggplant

@Emmanuelle Cunt Ugh WINTER. The other thing that helps me is really embracing the seasonal stuff.

Maybe space some rewards out through the day, like, 'when I sit down at my computer, I can have a warm cider/cup of tea'. I like to do things that make my house smell nice. For example, take some mulling spices or cinnamon sticks or whole anise and simmer it in water = mmm winter, you're not so bad.

Also, consider scheduling in a midday walk to enjoy what little shreds of light there are. Maybe as a reward for finishing a paragraph. ;)

laurel

It seems like everyone I know is struggling this winter. Everybody do all the self-care things and help each other out too.

zamboni

@Emmanuelle Cunt I have been having a Hard Time so I bought a kitten calendar and a pack of multicoloured metallic star stickers at the dollar store, and assigned different coloured stars to different self-care behaviours--for me getting some exercise, "recreational" writing or music, and packing a veggie-intensive lunch for work are big ones, you'd probably want to focus on your sleep schedule and whatever else--and I try to get at least a star every day. (In practice I seem to not do anything on Sundays, but whatever.) I have found this rather effective, as apparently I have the motivational profile of a five-year-old.
Either way, you end up with a baby animal calendar and some shiny things.

area@twitter

@zamboni I was thinking of picking up a self-care/exercise/eating right app, but I think I like a baby animal calendar and stickers even better.

adorable-eggplant

@zamboni WHoa, I am stealing that idea! I got a free calendar from the world wildlife fund and it's been sitting in my drawer cause that's too much pressure to be organized, but yes! Star stickers here I come!

fondue with cheddar

@everyone THIS. I had a very stressful autumn and early winter, and the lack of sun has made it really hard to cope. I've been playing a lot of Xbox while cuddling under blankets on the couch with my cats to escape/destress, which is comforting but not exactly the healthiest thing.

@par_parenthese Melatonin/Vitamin D/B complex sounds like a good idea. I'll give it a try!

sandwiches

@Emmanuelle Cunt that is an awesome idea; i hope target has neon stars to match my neon highlighting in my day calendar!

Faintly Macabre

@Emmanuelle Cunt Relatedly, and hopefully this is cute enough to cheer you up and not just be a random story?

Last night at 3AM, I was whining on the phone to my mom, who is far across the ocean, because I'm sick but couldn't sleep because of all the above things you mentioned.
Mom: "Well, just think that in a few weeks, it'll be spring and it'll be sunny and warmer. But in the meantime, you need to try to sleep. [half-jokingly] Do you want me to sing you a song? Mister Moon, Mister Moon, you're out too soon..."
Me: "Haha, no, it's okay, I'll just try to go to sleep."
Mom: "Oh, now the dog is whining because of the song. *Starts singing again* Nevermind, now he's just sniffing my leg because it rubbed against a bag of dog food earlier."

I think I would be functioning about 200% better if I had a dog here, sigh.

fondue with cheddar

@Faintly Macabre Oh my goodness, your mom is ADORABLE.

par_parenthese

OK, EXTREMELY important question for you few but faithful MOT-ers: What should I watch while I'm home doing nothing all day today?

My favored options are: 1) keep plowing through Battlestar Galactica, 2) Rewatch all the good parts of the Romola Garai/Jonny Lee Miller Emma, or 3) ogle Giles Coren and Sue Perkins on The Supersizers Go... and try to work out why a straight married man and a commitment-phobic lesbian have better sexual chemistry than most rom-com pairings.

raised amongst catalogs

@par_parenthese For what it's worth, I re-watched Terms of Endearment yesterday to give myself an excuse to enjoy a good cry.

Lucienne

@par_parenthese I vote for all of that Emma, because I think all the parts are good ones.

par_parenthese

@Lucienne Well, for "good parts" read "all the parts where Knightley is being all noble/delicious." Because I agree with your assessment but as I said in the FOT JONNY LEE MILLER GET IN MY PANTS. Which might be my new life motto?

iceberg

@par_parenthese I vote BSG, but I haven't seen any of the other ones you mentioned! Louie got me through 3 weeks of end of pregnancy bedrest (on netflix instant)

laurel

@par_parenthese Have you been watching Elementary? I was highly skeptical but I'm enjoying his performance.

I think I like it because they're sad.

par_parenthese

@laurel YES. I watched an episode over Christmas, belligerently, fully intending to hate it, and I loved it and have seen every episode since? The original JONNY LEE MILLER GET IN MY PANTS was in reference to Elementary, as it happens.

laurel

@par_parenthese It's so much better than I expected and seems to be improving lately. I loved his performance when they had their little chat last week about the future. He does so little but is so expressive.

par_parenthese

@laurel Yes. I am just loving his performance. I think he's gotten ahold of something unique about the character. I mean, I've seen all the Jeremy Brett shows, watched all of Cumberbatch and RDJ, listened to radio versions of the Basil Rathbone movies... and I think JLM's interpretation of the character is totally different from those. Big fan.

laurel

@par_parenthese If anything--and I'm reluctant to even say this on the internet--he's making BC's Sherlock seem a little... broad? I would not have expected the American version to be more subtle.

adorable-eggplant

@par_parenthese I am so excited to start! I am finally caught up on the Mindy Project (best show in the universe, where does she get all those beautiful dresses??? I still want the one from the club and now also the black dress from the valentine's episode) so I can start something new.

par_parenthese

@laurel That cracks me up.

(Also, I just made myself snort trying to think of what a hardcore Cumberbatch fangurl would be called. I started with Twihard and ...you can fill in the blank from there.)

laurel

@par_parenthese Oh. Oh my.

YouCan'tBuyACarWithCookies

@par_parenthese BSG! BSG!

fabel

I'm in the U.S. but am at work & NO HAIRPIN WHAT DO I DO

Also, I had to attend a wedding last night because I guess they were like, "fuck it, no one has work on Presidents' Day!" except I had to work & now am hungover :(

fondue with cheddar

@fabel BOOO poor planning on their part. MOST PEOPLE HAVE TO WORK ON PRESIDENTS' DAY

par_parenthese

@fabel Oh no, they Did Not Do The Research. (And augh, being hungover at work = the actual worst.)

@fondue with cheddar Seriously! Even the public schools here don't have the day off.

iceberg

OK I got another one for y'all - apparently I need A Clean Perosn, but needs must - is there any way tyo clean out a computer keyboard that has stickily-dried soda under some of the keys? I need my up arrow and my quotes!

fondue with cheddar

@iceberg Can you pop the keys off? If so, do that and try cleaning underneath with a Q-tip soaked in rubbing alcohol.

laurel

@iceberg Have a look here maybe?

fondue with cheddar

@laurel Oh man, I got so grossed out looking at those pictures I had to stop.

iceberg

@laurel THANK YOU!!! Looks like I'll be bringing in cleaning supplies tomorrow!

laurel

@fondue with cheddar Sorry! And yeah, so gross.

@iceberg If you have to buy isopropyl rubbing alcohol, look for the higher percent alcohol versions (>60%, 90% is best I think). They contain less water, which is better, generally, for your computer and dry faster.

fondue with cheddar

@laurel I had no idea there was a difference! That's great to know. And no worries, it actually made me feel better about the cleanliness of my own keyboard, which I tend to think is gross but is nowhere near as bad as that one. ;)

Jinxie

@iceberg My solution was to just, um, buy a new keyboard. And this time I got one where the keys are nearly flush with the base, so there's no room for me to get crumbs and junk under them.

fondue with cheddar

My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half, and while we both have friends, it's always his friends and my friends. We like each other's friends but we don't have anyone who are our friends. But it's hard to make friends as a grownup.

But this weekend we went to a wrestling social for his son's sports organization (which I was dreading because his ex wife was going to be there). We spent the evening mingling with the people he knows, who were all very nice, but there were also a lot of new people who he didn't know because he's been out of the circle due to the omnipresence of said ex.

Anyway, we struck up a mundane conversation with another couple at the bar (how old is your son, how long has he been wrestling, blah blah) and the guys discovered they had a shared interest and before long the four of us were talking about all kinds of things. They were really nice and fun and they like us! They want to hang out and be our friends! We were all giddy about it on the drive home like a teenager with a crush. :)

iceberg

@fondue with cheddar adorable! we made couple-friends with parents of twins that were born at the same time as our kids :)

fondue with cheddar

@iceberg That's awesome, and has the added bonus of giving your kids more friends to play with. :)

I don't have children, which makes it hard at my age to feel a connection with other adults because most of them are parents and a lot of parents are super into being parents. Which is okay of course, it just is a huge part of their lives that I just can't relate to. And while I'm happy to listen to people talk about their kids I don't want that to be the only thing they talk about.

As for the wrestling event, it seems like a lot of those parents are super into the high school wrestling culture, which again is totally not a bad thing! It's just one more way in which I don't relate to them (because I'm not at all into sports). But this couple was not like that. It was clear that they love and support their son, but they aren't all about him and/or the sport.

I really hope none of that came off as bashing parenthood or anything. I didn't mean it that way at all. It's an important job and I have tons of respect for it!

iceberg

@fondue with cheddar No not at all, I totally get what you mean! To be honest I'm not sure how else I would have met new people at this point, other than at work, where I have also made friends. I have a friend (without kids) who started out as a coworker and began liking me because I don't drink and she can't, so I never want to go to a bar or whatever!

fondue with cheddar

@iceberg Yeah, work is the only place I really make friends anymore, but my workplace is very small so that's not very many people.

Not drinking is a good thing to have in common! I'm not a drinker either. The couple we talked to was drinking (in fact, she was adorably tipsy by the end of the night), but that doesn't necessarily mean they're Drinkers for whom socializing always revolves around alcohol. I guess time will tell!

EpWs

@fondue with cheddar My boyfriend and I have made communal friends in pretty much two places: our local comic shop (friendly employees!) and trivia night. It helps that he's one of the most extroverted people I've ever met so he makes friends everywhere and I get the bonus of NEW FRIENDS. But I think group activities (like trivia) are good, they make bonding and conversation easy!

fondue with cheddar

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Trivia is a good idea! I know that do that sort of thing in bars (we're not really bar people) but I hadn't considered other venues. My boyfriend is the extroverted one too, though he claims he really isn't and that he had to force himself to develop it because of his profession (photographer).

Miss Maszkerádi

Soooooooo Downton Abbey season finale. Go.

par_parenthese

@Countess Maritza I have been mentally composing hate mail to Dan Stevens ever since The Incident, and that's literally as far as I've gotten. Did he seriously just ruin one of my favorite shows? Matthew is the glue that holds that fucking family together and I am way too emotionally invested in him, CLEARLY.

Miss Maszkerádi

@par_parenthese The ending was seriously the worst thing Julian Fellowes has ever written, but on the other hand, what other way out was there? Divorce would be stupider, running off to India would be still stupider, so all that's left is Tragic Untimely Death.

I'm still going to watch series 4. I'm addicted even though I know it's gotten so terrible. Maybe now that Matthew is out of the way my beloved Tom Branson will become the true hero I always knew he was.

par_parenthese

@Countess Maritza Did you read Tom & Lorenzo's recap? I just kept shouting, "YES!!" at my screen.

I seriously want to knee Dan Stevens in the balls. Yeah, I get it, you don't want to be defined by the role that made you famous blah blah, but seriously, you just ripped the beating heart out of DA. I mean seriously: the friendship between Matthew and Tom was probably my favorite thing that's ever happened on the show, and who else is going to keep the place running, or dole out sensible but supportive advice to Poor Edith? Now Mary will never be Countess of Grantham which is basically what the whole show has always been about, and ARGH.

Sigh. I will obviously watch season 4 if for no other reason than to see how Invasion of the Bright Young Things plays out, but I'm pissed. I get too involved in my shows, dude.

RubeksCube

@Countess Maritza SO.DISTRAUGHT. Seriously, can we not have ONE happy couple? I mean, they had their issues, but they worked through them, and therefore gave me hope. My husband is threatening to never watch again. I will probably continue, but I feel I have been burned, and will be wary.

SuperGogo

@Countess Maritza You mean when he's done being completely emotionally swayed by everyone around him, including second maids? :)

I agree that there was no way to write Dan off the show without killing him, but why did Fellows have to up the body count by going that route with Sybil too? It seems pretty reasonable to me that she could have moved to America, especially after Branson got kicked out of Ireland. Of course, that would've required writing Branson out too, since he couldn't very well stay if she went. Ugh, I don't know, I just think Julian could've plotted their departures better. And don't even get me started on Matthew's horrible opposite-of-subtle dialog last night! Isn't it a given a character is doomed as soon as he starts going on and on about how wonderful his life is and how happy he is??

SuperGogo

@Countess Maritza P.s. I'm going to keep watching because I'm excited to see Poor Edith begin rebelling and living in sin.

laurel

I think having Matthew run off to India would have been great. They could have justified it with further conflict with Robert over running the estate and with a return to Matthew's season one independence and employment. At first, he would have written a lot but eventually stopped, never to be heard from again. Lady Mary and the Dowager Countess would have to travel to India--which would have been gorgeous and hilarious--to look for him, only to find he'd been eaten by a tiger. The end.

adorable-eggplant

@laurel Let's retcon this into existence please.

RubeksCube

@adorable-eggplant @laurel Yes please!

par_parenthese

@SuperGogo Re: Sybil, I said the same thing. It would have been so easy to write Sybil out of the show without killing her (and MY GODS that death scene was the most awful thing, I was shaken up for hours) to give our hearts a rest. And re: Edith, I just want to see her OWN it next season, rather than sort of sidestepping into it. I want to hear her say, "I just decided that marriage isn't for me -- tried it once, got my heart stomped, not going down that road again. I'm happy with the choices we've made," instead of constantly feeling like Julian Fellowes has it in for her AGAIN, making her go after any man who gives her the slightest bit of attention, no matter how ill-matched they are. I mean, so far she's gone after a married farmer and a wet dishrag because they looked her way for a second. Edith is NOT pathetic. She is smart and sassy and awesome and I want to high five her and I don't think she deserves YET ANOTHER Whoops! I'm inappropriately entangled again! plotline.

SuperGogo

@par_parenthese I love TLo's idea that his departure was utterly ridiculous on purpose to give Fellows revenge.

RubeksCube

@par_parenthese I completely agree about Edith. He just hasn't given her a break, and it's just silly. She can clearly make her own decisions about other things (hello, writing for a newspaper!), but not about men?? Ugh.

Miss Maszkerádi

@SuperGogo I definitely had that thought, actually, when they showed the gruesome closeup of him staring dead into the camera with the blood coming out of his ear - I could almost hear the writers going "OK, you want to fuck up our casting? THIS is how you're going out, asshole!"

Regarding Edith, I want to see her have a kickass fulfilled life too, but it's always seemed understandable and believable to me the way she would get So Attached too fast to anyone who gave her the time of day. She spends her whole life getting passed over, considered the "middle" and the "plain one", so whenever anyone treats her as the special one she gets carried away. I mean obviously I hope she manages to outgrow that habit because it's kicking her in the face repeatedly, but I don't think it's the writers being assholes, I think it's consistent with her character's background.

teaandcakeordeath

@Countess Maritza
That photograph taken of the 3 sisters at Edith's wedding is so so sad as it's the last moment of happiness before Edith is jilted, Sybil is killed and Mary is widowed. Waaah. Downton became so sad! I need to rewatch the scene where Matthew proposes to Mary in the snow.

teaandcakeordeath

@teaandcakeordeath
Though nothing will stop me watching. Downton for life.

par_parenthese

@teaandcakeordeath A friend with whom I was watching last night said as soon as the credits rolled and we all picked our jaws up off the floor, "Well, at least we're not British and this is the last thing we see before we go to bed on CHRISTMAS NIGHT."

Miss Maszkerádi

@everybody Oh thank you for introducing me to Tom and Lorenzo. This is the best TV review I have ever read!

“What a marvelous day! Look at that blue sky! Look at these green hills! Look at anything but the road!”

*SNICKER*

teaandcakeordeath

@par_parenthese
On Christmas day one of my friends posted the following facebook status:
"Did Julian fellows just ruin Christmas?"
and then I knew.

MEGA VENUTIAN SPACE SCORPION

@teaandcakeordeath Oh man I have been waiting for everyone to catch up for ages *after watching through totally non-sketchy channels obviously*. I didn't even have spoilers and the entire episode was like a horror movie. Anytime someone went off alone or just in a pair I thought they were going to die. Anna and Mary taking a train on their own? No, don't it!

rosaline

@MEGA VENUTIAN SPACE SCORPION It was like having a sword hanging over the whole episode--I was sure Matthew was going to get shot while out hunting deer in the highlands.

Jinxie

It's 4 days post-I-Got-Dumped-on-VDay, and I am doing...alright, all things considered. Friends have absolutely blown me away with the love and support and distractions they've given me over the weekend, but now it's time to ease back into the real world and I'm feeling decidedly "meh". I normally love cooking and food and thinking about cooking and food but right now I've just got no appetite. I mean...I'm feeling hungry, I'm able to eat if there's food in front of me, and even enjoy said food, but I've got no motivation to prepare anything for myself. Does anyone have suggestions for recipes that are comforting and nutritious and will maybe inspire me to get back in the kitchen and start fending for myself? This is going to sound totally corny (but I live in San Francisco, so I'm expected to be a little bit of a hippy), but I need food that will nourish both my body and soul.

Judith Slutler

@Jinxie IMHO, try roasting some veggies! It's really easy, I mean just chop them up, mix them in a bowl with oil, herbs, garlic and/or flavored vinegar and some kind of alcohol, throw them in the oven for 20-40 minutes depending on the vegetables you've picked out, and then dip them in herbed yogurt and eat them. It's really easy and uncomplicated and good, which is nice for those times when you're like "ugh cooking, what a major task"

I'm glad you had a nice weekend! Keep on going...

adorable-eggplant

@Jinxie Seconded the roast veggies! Also, (from another dirty hippie, in another dirty hippie city) maybe you need to give some love? Bake something to show your gratitude for your awesome friends. Consider making anything from this blog: http://www.dessertsforbreakfast.com/ *

*I went to the blog to double check that my link worked, and she has a post up about sweet places to have dessert in San Francisco: it feels like fate!

raised amongst catalogs

@Jinxie Do you check 101cookbooks.com? Her recipes sound like EXACTLY the kind of food you could use right about now. Hugs to you, btw!

Jinxie

@raised amongst catalogs 101 Cookbooks, yes! Man, I'd totally forgotten about that blog and you're right - that is exactly the sort of food I could use right now.
Oh, and I see @Laurel had the same idea, how perfect!

Jinxie

@adorable-eggplant "Give love back" - that is such a smart and beautiful idea. I tend to forget that giving love can be as therapeutic as getting it, and I certainly owe my peeps a lot for all they've done for me. The least I can do is bake something for them!

raised amongst catalogs

@Jinxie @Laurel Derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrp. Sorry, Laurel!

laurel

No worries, @raised amongst catalogs, 101 Cookbooks ftw! Smitten Kitchen is also loaded with good (if perhaps less health-focused) recipes including a red bean curry I want to try but 101C is, like, the stuff of life. She's even in SFran.

londonienne

@Jinxie I agree with @adorable-eggplant, baking, like a big baking project (it's perfectly acceptable to eat cake for every meal post-breakup). Or how about foods you love but didn't eat so much because your ex didn't like them? Make a really fancy meal for yourself, set the table with candles etc?

par_parenthese

@Jinxie Yay cooking! I find it very therapeutic, most of the time, but after my last breakup I had to give myself permission to order a pizza (with all the things He didn't like) and eat it in the tub with a giant glass of wine. Or whatever. I agree with @londonienne that it can be a healing thing to do/eat/watch all the things you haven't done/eaten/watched in a while because of an ex, not in a vindictive way but in a caring-for-yourself way.

iceberg

@par_parenthese Oh man if Mr Iceberg & I ever break up I'm eating meat at every meal for a YEAR.

EpWs

@Jinxie Seconding the idea of cooking for others! That way you get the therapy of cooking/baking (and it really is therapeutic, isn't it?) and don't have to eat it all if you don't want to. AND you bring joy to others. As far as specific foods go, I'd suggest making things that smell phenomenal, in the hopes of tickling your appetite a bit. Things that come to mind right now are roasted garlic on practically anything (yummmmm), French onion soup (time-consuming if you have an afternoon that you want to spend caramelizing onions and not thinking about much, and then you get to load it up with fixins and eat. This is another good one to share..), and since I have chocolate cupcakes in the oven right now, pretty much any chocolate baked good.

Take care of yourself!

area@twitter

Not only am I at work, I've got a 200-page document to finalize by the end of the day, and there are five different people offering editorial input on it. And someone's already tried to throw my project partner under the bus. Lord, give me strength.

area@twitter

augh, augh, augh, augh augh augh augh. So I went to the GYN last month for a checkup- first in a while- and took the first doctor that had a spot available. Seemed like a nice guy- professional but friendly, took an interest in my medical history, easy to talk to. I was like, "Sure, I'd see this doc again."
Flash forward to today, when I click on a news story about a local doctor found dead at his home. The cops think it might be suicide; he'd recently been dismissed from his job for secretly recording his patients. That was the doctor I saw last month. Holy fucking Christ almighty, I cannot tell you how skeeved out I am right now. Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew ew ew ew ew EW

laurel

@area@twitter I don't even know what to say. Except I'm so sorry. Has the whole world lost its mind?

iceberg

@area@twitter OH MY GOD. (1) call the police and find out if you can if you were recorded (2) there is a counseling hotline mentioned in the article...

par_parenthese

@area@twitter WHAT NO AUGH. The hair just stood up on the back of my neck. Skeeved-out solidarity right here. And also what @iceberg said.

Judith Slutler

@area@twitter wtf, oh shit. DEFINITELY listen to iceberg. I am so sorry you even have to think about that!

area@twitter

@laurel @iceberg @par_parenthese @Emmanuelle Cunt Thank you all. Called the police and talked to a very nice detective who took my information and chatted with me a bit; said she would certainly call me if anything came up I should know about. I also called the hospital and received- I felt- a less than satisfactory response, so I am filing a complaint with them regarding the way they handled the situation (why did I have to find out about this from the news, ffs?! NO phone call? No letter?!). So now I'm just having a drink and contemplating on how seriously fucked-up this day got. Christ. In any case, thank you for your kind words- it means a lot to know y'all are here to commiserate with. <3

Miss Maszkerádi

@area@twitter Auuughhhh that is so fucked up!!!!! I'm so sorry!!!

Many drinks, counseling hotline if it helps, dumb movies, cuddles of favorite animals and/or humans, more drinks. Christ, I'm skeeved-out on some sort of sympathetic frequency with you.

Scandyhoovian

@area@twitter OHHHHH MY GOD THAT'S CREEPY D:

redheaded&crazy

I suspect this MOT is now dead, but if anybody is following/cares about my delightful dating escapades here's a new contender for mr. universe, jackass edition.

dude: hey your profile actually made me smile, the only woman's profile to not be vacuous. why are you single?

(on his self-summary: i'm a demi-troll here to bitch slap feminists, attention-seekers and ... [something else that I forget] back into the void from whence they came)

me: well, I guess since I'm a big ol feminist, no guy can handle it ;)

dude: Yep that would do it. Please rant to me about the patriarchy and oppression, I haven't hate fucked a feminist in a long time. I guess you get off on the self-loathing and internal conflict of being attracted to a misogynist

par_parenthese

@redheaded&crazy If there is a hell, that guy is going to it.

Scandyhoovian

@redheaded&crazy ew, ew, ew.

adorable-eggplant

@redheaded&crazy I'm a devout atheist with the exception of a firm belief that there's a hell to roast douchebags like that (except surprise! It's here on earth, because slowly he will be consumed by the acidity of his own hatred for everyone else and his life will crumble inward and he will realize that he is truly and horribly alone, because even his friends don't respect him and he will try to go to a bar during rush week and the bartender will give him a pity pbr and it will taste like dirt in his mouth because he has lost the capacity to feel even the most basic joy).

Mwhahaha, seriously, I hope that dude rots.

par_parenthese

@adorable-eggplant To paraphrase Sartre, "Hell is that asshole. Nobody else. You're all ok. But that guy?"

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