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You Can Still Count Resolutions If You Start Them Today

...because WE'RE back, right? That's a thing, now! Resolutions are kind of great, I think. I have a resolution against making body-based resolutions, with the exception of my first body-based resolution this year:

1. To wait out the full cycle of four quadrant beeps on my electric toothbrush instead of just turning it off when I get bored or sleepy or the tile is too cold on my feet.

But the other two are totally not body-based:

2. Because of this hot mess, turning off devices before bed and reading a Physical Book a week. This week it's a shiny review copy of William Nicholson's Motherland, which has a great cover and so far is like a butch Atonement with similarly weird descriptions of having your vulva touched in the early and/or mid-20th century. It's working for me, but I already have a paper cut. Physical Books: a double-edged sword.

3. More 'Pin Picks. Tomorrow! New 'Pin Picks tomorrow, everyone.

Okay, let it out. Are you not Facebook stalking that guy anymore? Are you going to finish your dissertation? Are you trying to stay on top of the popular music this year?

If you are not doing resolutions, just tell us what horrible things people said at dinner. My father-in-law dissed "The Muppet Christmas Carol," which, by the transitive property, is the new blasphemy.

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iceberg

So I already shred this because @Inkling asked in the NYE thread, but: this year, I resolve to learn to manage my emotions so I can be a good example for my kids. Starting therapy on the 9th will hopefully help with this!

NeverOddOrEven

@iceberg
All the luck to you! If it's going to be your first time in therapy ever, it can't be overstated that you should feel free (encouraged, even) to shop around. If you're just not feeling "it" with any one therapist, find someone else! It's incredibly important to have someone you like and not always the easiest thing to find.

area@twitter

@iceberg Ahh, congratulations! Therapy was so useful for me; it helped me understand why I'd learned to react and feel in particular ways. That (and in my case, an SSRI) has been so, so helpful. Best of luck! Don't be afraid to shop around for a therapist that fits you best.

Briony Fields

@iceberg WOOO! I stan for therapy so hard. It's the best. Good luck!

iceberg

@NeverOddOrEven etc. Thanks all! I am hoping it will help.

I'm Right on Top of that, Rose

@iceberg I'm of the mind that everyone should attend several therapy sessions by the time they turn 25, because we've all got shit and we've all got coping skills, but we need to check in with ourselves more. We don't skip the doctor for 25 years. Mental health should have the same priority. Good for you, @iceberg.

Inkling

@iceberg
I like it here and I like it there. That's such a selfless resolution, best of luck!

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Lily Rowan

Basically inspired by the Happiness Project (although I haven't read the book or website or anything!), I want to make one positive facebook update every day. That should be doable!

Ellie

@Lily Rowan Read the book, it has improved my life in IMMEASURABLE ways and I can't shut up about it to a point that may or may not be beginning to annoy everyone around me.

Lily Rowan

@Ellie I will check it out!

MrsTeacherFace

@Lily Rowan I did that for about 6 months, and it definitely made me approach the day with a "silver lining" sort of flair, although it got really obnoxious eventually and I just had to stop. I am not that positive.

Ellie

@MrsTeacherFace I love being positive on Facebook but I'm pretty sure I'm turning into a "mom on facebook" at this point. But I can't stop!

Heat Signature

I used to have a hair dresser who resolved each year to read the complete works of a specific author, such as Charles Dickens or Shakespeare. She was awesome.

Sister Administrator

Anyone else doing Drynuary?

Ophelia

@Sister Administrator I'm having a baby, so I'm basically doing Drynuary-Dryuly, and then launching Drunkgust.

fruiting body

@Sister Administrator I am!! I realized over December that I had slowly started drinking a lot at home in the evenings, basically every evening. Last night I made myself tea instead bourbon and I managed to stay up and read 50 pages of my book! It was great! Especially since one of my other resolutions is to read 50 books this year.

Briony Fields

@Sister Administrator Well, kind of. I quit alcohol before January, but I'm hoping to continue my dry-streak well into the year/forever.

themegnapkin

@Sister Administrator oh, yes. Starting today (and possibly ending early at a party on Jan. 26) - yesterday didn't work because I didn't want to waste the last 1/2 glass of a wine bottle I had in the fridge.

Sister Administrator

@themegnapkin I got a cold right after Christmas, which kind of kicked things off early. I am so ready for this it isn't even funny!

meetapossum

@Sister Administrator Yup! I've actually been looking forward to it. I'm re-quitting cigarettes, too, but not until the 8th. My drinking has been...a little excessive as of late, so a dry out is much needed. I also want to save some money for my trip next month. Can we do weekly updates on FOTs?

smidge

@Sister Administrator Not Drynuary, but Mr. Smidge and I decided to limit ourselves to one drink each on weeknights at home, instead of finishing that entire bottle of wine.

Sister Administrator

@meetapossum FOT Drynuary updates for sure.

Quinn A@twitter

I wasn't planning to do resolutions, because I actually really like my life as it is. Then I remembered that two weeks ago I basically ruined my face forever in an attempt to get painful cystic acne out from under my skin. So my resolution is to stop doing that. I've had acne since I was twelve (I'm twenty-eight now) and my doctors consistently fail to fix it and refuse to refer me to a dermatologist. If the problem is not going away, I need to at least stop making it worse.

glitterary

@Quinn A@twitter Ugh. Good luck! My intention (resolution is too strong a word) is to stop touching my chin absent-mindedly because the spots there are SO PAINFUL and I'm only making it worse. It's really really hard not to do it, though.

Quinn A@twitter

@glitterary It is! Good luck to you as well.

sharkbyte

@Quinn A@twitter that's ridiculous your doctors won't refer you to a dermatologist - it's a dermatological problem!! if you flat out tell your doctors that you want a referral, do they refuse? because that's crazy. maybe look for new doctors... but i totally understand your pain, i had problems with my skin for years, and the breakouts for some reason became completely crazy when i was about 28. finally my dermatologist convinced me to complete a cycle of accutane. it has scary sounding side effects, but in my case i experienced none of them, personal conclusion - accutane is the best. i wish i had done it YEARS ago.

Ellie

I have sort of mild dermatillomania (I used to have really bad trichotillomania, but I somehow stopped having it and now basically just do my eyebrows really, really enthusiastically, but have the typical amount of hair) and I just got folliculitis from messing around my eyebrow with a dirty tweezers because that was the only tweezers available at the moment. It seriously may be the most painful experience of my life, which sounds ridiculous, but the pain literally kept me from sleeping and brought me to tears at points in the day. I went to the doctor Monday and got the diagnosis and antibiotics which have improved it a lot but it still hurts and isn't gone yet, also I was prescribed to take 3 ibuprofen 3x/day for the pain so between that and the antibiotics I've been nauseated and dizzy. (Miraculously, it's not noticeable to others because of where it is.) I have, hopefully, learned a serious lesson because I do not want to ever experience this pain again. So I'll join in the encouragement!

Quinn A@twitter

@sharkbyte Yeah, they refuse. They're like "here, just take this cream, you'll be fine. You don't need a dermatologist. If this cream doesn't work, we'll try two more and then we'll discuss Accutane, which is a really bad idea". And I keep trying to explain that I definitely have mild eczema as well as acne, and that treating one tends to aggravate the other, and I really just want a specialist to fix both problems. But they seem to take it as a personal insult, and then the creams work on the acne but not on the eczema, and then they stop working on the acne, and then I am sad. Again.

sharkbyte

@Quinn A@twitter ugh i am so frustrated on your behalf!! i was very much against the idea of accutane, but looking back i'm really not sure why... i think it gets a bad reputation from all of the personal injury lawyers attempting to get money from a legal precedent that was established in the 80s. i haven't looked into this in a while - but as i recall, when accutane first came out the drug companies were found guilty of not doing enough to warn women of the birth defects that can occur if a pregnant woman were on accutane, and they lost a lot of money in a lawsuit that i think is still open, or something. i am obviously not a lawyer. but nowadays the drug companies are super serious about it bc they don't want to be sued - i couldn't renew my prescription each month until my dermatologist submitted my negative pregnancy test to the pharmacy. also every pill box had an illustration of what my alien accutane baby would look like if i were to become pregnant... it goes a little overboard now, frankly.

but that aside, i say to heck with your doctors apparently fragile egos - you should get that referral!! if they refuse, i would look into changing doctors. it isn't worth it to stick with doctors who dismiss your concerns and allow their personal feelings to interfere with your health. and if you do consider accutane or any other serious drug, you'll want a dermatologist to walk you through it. i saw general practitioners about my skin for years as well, and once i found a good dermatologist i realized what a waste of time that had been. they either didn't have the time or the inclination to take my problem that seriously.

piekin

@Quinn A@twitter First, your doctors sound like dicks and if they won't give you a referral then you should see a new GP. Second, see if you can get a script for spironolactone. I tried tons of topicals and antibiotics for my cystic acne, and nothing worked until I got on spiro. (My brother had bad side effects with Accutane, so my derm and I agreed that we should avoid that route.) The spiro takes SEVERAL months to start working, but eventually my skin cleared up beautifully (bonus: it's cheap and has minimal side effects). I went off of it totally about 3 months ago (after tapering down over 2 years) and I'm still clear. Cystic acne is SO AWFUL, and I hope you find something that works!

Quinn A@twitter

@piekin Thanks! I will definitely ask about spironolactone.

quinoamuffin

@Quinn A@twitter Oh man I have that fun little mix of acne and eczema too. First you need to INSIST on a referral- doctors can be authoritative dbags but ultimately their sole purpose is to help you so just be firm and persistent. When you see a derm, ask about acanya- it's really great for people who dry out from most acne topicals. It's the only thing I've tried that hasn't worsened my eczema so it sounds like it might work for you too. It does take a few months to kick in though, but I'm really happy with it otherwise.

Also! Try CeraVe moisturizer. It's over the counter and at most drugs stores. It's a little pricier than other moisturizers but it's fantastic- it totally cleared up all my dry patches without causing more breakouts. Anyway GOOD LUCK. This stuff can be so stressful...

Quinn A@twitter

@quinoamuffin I have also made a note to ask about acanya. Thanks! I really do need to be firm about seeing a dermatologist. The last thing my doctor prescribed turned out not to even be available in Canada (he was practicing in Britain before he came here), and I really just want someone who knows what they're doing to fix my face.

theotherginger

@Quinn A@twitter oh quinn, if you are Canadian, as I am, finding a new GP is very hard. But if you live in a city, there are many walk-ins that can refer you, even if their waits are long. If you are a student and can access health services through them, the referral time to specialists is not bad (I had one month once).

Quinn A@twitter

@theotherginger Yeah, and I mostly really like my GP. It's just this one issue, which I suspect he thinks is more cosmetic than actually painful. If he refuses to refer me again, I will try the walk-in route.

OhMarie

I am going to drink very little/possibly not at all in January. Not sure if that counts as a resolution or as body based. Went back and read the Dryanuary posts from the Awl that Jolie took part in last year, which was fun but also made me realize how quickly my NYE-fueled desire to Never Drink Again is going to go away.

Sister Administrator

@OhMarie Let's go all out and do not-at-all!

Ophelia

Someone gave me a Michael Pollan book for Christmas, and though it's not a resolution per se, I'm aiming to make 2013 the year of "real food, not too much, mostly plants." So far, if yesterday's diet of bagels and sour patch kids holds up, I'm failing. But whatever.

sunflowers

@Ophelia I started going to a nutritionist a few months ago (I'm in college for one more semester so it's currently free - temporary advantages!) and I was AMAZED at how much eating a wider variety of nutrients/"good" food made me feel. Like, just leagues and leagues better. Especially compared to coming home and just eating junk at my parents' house these last few weeks, bah. Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is, awesome goal!

Adult Footie Pajamas

@Ophelia Nope, you did NOT fail. You are attempting to re-shape your entire relationship with food, and that's a gnarly learning curve. Start again every day, and practice, practice, practice. You'll be GREAT.

area@twitter

I try to call mine goals, if only because resolutions are made to be broken. Having said that:

1. Floss every day
2. Vegetables with every dinner
3. Continue to work on credit card debt

I'm still working on building in little rewards for myself as I go. Maybe a month of flossing gets me a new nail polish and a month of veggies gets me pizza for lunch?

Also did the annual clean-out, where I go through my closet and make a pile of stuff for Goodwill. This year I also managed to do the bathroom closet, the hall closet, and my desk drawers. Everything's so pretty and organized, I love it. Got a pile for recycling, a pile for Goodwill, and a pile for electronics recycling. (I really didn't need that many A/V connectors. One of each type is fine.)

Ophelia

@area@twitter Do you mind if I send the bit about A/V connectors to my husband? Because we have an ENTIRE BOX of them. Many are the same. [insert bad joke about male-male plugs here].

area@twitter

@Ophelia Indeed you may! FWIW, questions I asked myself while working on the computer stuff: "If I bought a new piece of equipment, would this cable come with it? How old and/or reliable do I think this equipment is? Have I needed this equipment in the past three years, or will I need it in the next three months? How expensive would it be to get a new one of these if I needed it?" I was able to trash a lot of CDs and manuals this way too (almost everything has drivers and manuals online now); shrunk my computer/electronics supplies down to fit in a shoebox. /flex

Ellie

One tip I like (but haven't adopted yet) is to put paraphernalia like cables and connectors and manuals for each device in one of those larger, more durable freezer bags and label it with which device it's to with a permanent marker, then put them all together in a drawer or box.

Ophelia

@area@twitter I think we also need to ask the question, "Is this cable/connection obsolete?" Because we definitely have some stuff that, unless we're getting a light board or professional sound system, just isn't going to connect to anything else anymore.

area@twitter

@Ophelia YES. I dumped most of my RCA composite cables because the vast majority of my stuff is DVI or HDMI now.

RK Fire

1. Put together a thoughtful and outstanding job application at least once a week so I can hopefully get out of my job by the end of March 2013, which I had been working towards last year but now March is significantly closer.

2. After losing 10 lbs last fall and with most of that being fat, not muscle, I am going to try to maintain that weight loss and tinker with body compensation. I'm going to try to do the Whole 30 challenge starting next Monday. Why next Monday instead of yesterday? Because my in-laws are doing their holiday thing this Sunday.

3. Spend another year finding that balance between "overcommitting to volunteering, deciding that you don't want to do it anymore and definitely not in any organizing position, and feel guilty" and "not doing anything at all."

4. Try to move unused possessions outside of my apt and into the hands of people who will make better use out of them.

Shit, I'm more ambitious this year than I thought.

SuperGogo

@RK Fire I've been too long on the "not doing enough" downswing, so I'm resolving to do one volunteer project a month this year. Chicago Cares (www.chicagocares.org) shall become my new friend.

RK Fire

@SuperGogo: That's a pretty doable goal! After writing this up I realized I needed to put in some measurable, attainable goals (work is rubbing off on me) and hadn't figured that out yet.

I'm trying to use volunteering as a venue for networking too, so two goals at once? Yay.

EDIT: I know! One good deed a month that allows me to develop my career skills and abilities (building relationships, doing research). Another good deed for a month that isn't so job-focused, and is just something I want to do (like a stream clean up or something).

Briony Fields

Lol, mine are entirely superficial.

1. Acquire new wardrobe pieces (accomplished today!)

2. Get my tightest ass YET. Started yesterday! Buns o' steel, here I come!

miss buenos aires

For the third year in a row, I am resolving to get my driver's license! I really have to do it this year because I am going to have a baby.

Lila Fowler

Quit smoking! I already have 2 weeks of cold turkey under my belt, suckas.

I'm Right on Top of that, Rose

@Lila Fowler You know Elizabeth Wakefield would totally high-five you for that, but Jessica might think you're getting a tad square.

MissMushkila

My number one resolution is to finally clean out my email inbox. I get SO MANY emails everyday, because I never created a fake email to give to the checkout people who harass you at stores. My inbox also always says it has about 800 unread emails, which isn't true, because I had my college mail combined with my gmail. It just stresses me out. (I am procrastinating so hard on fixing it though!)

I also want to figure out how to like running. I like exercising, but I do not like running. No one will do anything else with me though since we graduated from college? It's like now that we are no longer in school we can't have a soccer team or go rollerblading; we are an army of 5k, 10k, and half marathon people. UGH! (clearly, this perspective flip will take some time) I have downloaded Bossypants and How To Be A Woman from audible to listen to while at the gym, as I think that may make running somewhat more interesting.

MissMushkila

@MissMushkila As an add on to 1 - I just generally need to figure out how to keep up with all of my social networks. Because between facebook, work and personal email, texting, and phone calls I feel like I am constantly letting people down and losing my mind.

iceberg

@MissMushkila UGH I just got a warning email about how much email I have. HATE. The longer we let it go the worse it will get :(

glitterary

@MissMushkila I need to figure out how to like running too. The closest I've ever got was when I was running every other day, and got addicted to the endorphins, so while I still didn't like it in the way I like, for example, lying in bed for an extra hour or eating chocolate cake, it did make me feel really good and I started appreciating how nice it was to be out in the morning light, and I got super grouchy if I missed a day. It was pretty good, actually. I'm aiming for that attitude again this year...

packedsuitcase

@glitterary Ooooh, I want that attitude! It will be one of the few exercise options left for me (recovering from knee surgery) and I would at least like to not hate running.

Ellie

@MissMushkila You don't have to like running! I have made myself unhappy trying to run, trying to like running, and wishing I liked running for like seven years. I even went running four times this past summer and came the closest yet, but it still didn't work. I hate it, and can do and enjoy pretty much every other form of standard cardio exercise. It's ok not to run - the best form of exercise is the one you actually do! I know that running is sexy and hard core and portable and fashionable and ubiquitous (I admit I'm not 100% over it myself) but I urge people to say "Yeah, not for me, moving on" if it's not for you!

smidge

@MissMushkila I don't know if this would work, but what worked for me was 1. Don't run at all after high school 2. sign up for a marathon in your 20's 3. do two stupid marathons ugh 4. love running so much now that you only have to do it for like 30 minutes instead of three hours

MissMushkila

@iceberg I did it! I just went through, unsubscribed from about 30 different senders, and deleted everything I don't actually need. Now the year long resolution part will be to keep it organized. I just hate being contacted all the time. I sometimes hide from my cell phone. No one gets it - I feel like everyone else doesn't get exhausted by the thought of responding to other people IMMEDIATELY, but when I say I hide from my phone I am not even kidding (my phone is smart which means it displays facebook updates, email, texts, AND voicemail all in one, horrible place!)

MissMushkila

@Ellie Yes, and this is how I feel EXCEPT that a lot of the fun exercise things I want to do require other people - and all of my other people are obsessed with running. (I am not as much of an introvert as my fear of email would indicate)

Ellie

@MissMushkila Fair enough - I prefer to exercise alone so that wasn't something that occurred to me, and I agree that running is an easy form of exercise for a group. But there are a TON of biking groups too, I think (I live in Boston and there are many many here). I've also seen rugby and pickup soccer clubs around here. Maybe you could meet some new people in such a way?

packedsuitcase

@Ellie Yes! Pick up clubs and adult leagues are the best. I play ultimate frisbee, and I knew nobody when I started. Mostly people are just excited to have a place to do something they enjoy and are very welcoming of newcomers.

supernintendochalmers

@MissMushkila If you're mostly a treadmill person, I'd try running outside more. One of my favorite parts about running is that it gets me outdoors and exploring my neighborhood. Lots of good people-watching!

wee_ramekin

@MissMushkila Have you looked into any Meetup groups for team sports? My friend joined a tennis meetup a few months ago and loves it! She was also able to "customize" in that she chose a group that was more laid-back instead of really really hardcore.

TheLetterL

Didn't make resolutions and everyone was remarkably well-behaved over the holidays. (The closest we came to unpleasantness was disagreeing over the Les Miz movie)

So, I'm kind of useless here, but I wanted to say: Who on earth disses Muppet Christmas Carol?! D:

Scandyhoovian

@TheLetterL Ah, Les Miz. The more I think about it, the less pleased I am. I should stop thinking about it.

area@twitter

@TheLetterL SECOND. One does not diss the Muppets, good sir! Not in my household!

TheLetterL

@Scandyhoovian I've been stifling myself, figuring eventually there will be a Les Miz thread/discussion on the 'Pin. See you there?

SuperGogo

@TheLetterL This needs to happen soon, cuz I have thoughts to share.

EDIT!: OMG, my work finally installed Chrome on my machine and at last I can edit my comments! It's a whole new world!

TheLetterL

@SuperGogo Samesies. I HAVE OPINIONS, AND THE INTERNET MUST KNOW THEM!

Scandyhoovian

@TheLetterL I ... second/third/fourth this "I hope we have a Les Miz thread/discussion on the 'Pin" thing. Even if it ends up just being a thing in the FOT. I WILL MEET YOU UPON THE BARRICADE THERE.

Scandyhoovian

1. Read more
2. Write more
3. Project 365 on flickr
4. Learn new things kitchen-wise and have more variety in my food life, because I am definitely someone who falls into ruts easily.

olivebee

@Scandyhoovian YES to number 4. My husband and I cycle through the same 6 meals for dinner all the time. We really need to get more creative and branch out. If you find any new meals/foods that you like, I'd love to get some ideas!

iceberg

@olivebee y'all we are in such a rut because toddlers - everything has to be able to be eaten by hand. BUT I discovered they will eat enough of spinach & ricotta manicotti (/cannelloni) to make it worthwhile. it takes fucking ages to cook but it's soooo delicious and easy. let me know if y'all want the recipe :)

anachronistique

@Scandyhoovian 4! Yes! My dad gave me Cook This Now for Christmas, which is organized seasonally, so I'm hoping that'll give me lots of good ideas. (I already have a bunch of stuff I want to make from the January and February chapters.)

theotherginger

@anachronistique another good seasonal cookbook is Simply in Season. Last Jan 1 I started cooking from a cookbook I got for Christmas and now I'm almost done. It's a fun project.

lobsterhug

Last year I resolved to read only books that I already owned. That lasted a month and for most of the rest of year I read romance novels that I downloaded from the library via Overdrive.

No regrets.

I got a Kindle for Christmas so I see a lot of free classic literature in my future.

glitterary

I am going aim to...

1. Have more sex. And do kinky stuff. Because I only discovered kinky stuff was an awesome option for me last summer, and then there was a great deal of emotional fuckery that prevented me from really getting into it (correlation but not causation) and I'd like some of the first without the latter this year, please.
2. Spend less time bumming around the internet and more time working on projects I do actually care about and enjoy doing but are harder than refreshing imgfave.
3. Look after my body better, by going running and doing yoga and pilates.

supernintendochalmers

My resolution is to stop reading Internet comments, except on The Hairpin.

Megasus

1. Eat better (I am currently eating a pizza I ordered for the next two days, so clearly I am already doing great on that one).

2. Stay out of Sephora because I spent [REDACTED] there last month alone. But less makeup in general BECAUSE YOU DON'T NEED ANYMORE MEGAN JESSUS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM.

3. Buy less in general. (Hahaha I almost wrote 'but less')

4. Get a paying job, though that is more of a goal than a resolution. Or is that the same thing? I HAVE NO IDEA.

madge

@Megano! i have the same sephora problem you do, and my name is also megan! for the past few months i have had 400 sephora points just hanging out there and i keep wanting to go spend 100 bucks so i can get something freeee ... they totally have their hooks in me.

but there is a point at which even i cannot justify buying more eyeshadow palettes, and i am at that point. staying out is the best plan ...

Blondsak

Like so many other people, my resolutions are to eat better and exercise more. I started a bit early (Dec. 30th!) and besides NYE have been fairly successful. I also co-opted a break-up method I learned here at the Hairpin, and bought a bunch of gold stars to put on my calendar for every day I work out. Putting the stars on the calendar makes me SO incredibly happy, though I only have 1 star so far (but it will be two after today!). And for lunch I am heading to the Co-Op instead of for Chinese! Yay for feeling healthier and more confident!

packedsuitcase

@Blondsak Totally stealing the gold star thing. This is good. This is very good.

Blondsak

@packedsuitcase The original break-up method was to put a gold star on your calendar for every day you successfully do not talk to/fb stalk/text/etc. your ex. I figured it was easily applied to other endeavors though! I even bought this mini calendar specifically for the stars to help motivate me:

http://www.amazon.com/8x8-Color-Quotes-2013-Calendar/dp/B009ZZFC3Q

RK Fire

@Blondsak: That is a fantastic idea and honestly, gold stars (or any stickers) make anything and everything better.

coolallison

@Blondsak Holy crap, the gold star thing is genius.

Alli525

@Blondsak My eyes just lit up and started brainstorming all the wonderful places I could buy gold stars after work today!

packedsuitcase

Fiscal responsibility and getting into grad school. I really like how one basically negates the other. Be better with money! Sign up for more debt! Wooooo!

Blondsak

@packedsuitcase Best of luck! As someone who is in grad school right now and will spend probably half of my life paying it off, I understand how you feel.

Valley Girl

@packedsuitcase Me too! Good luck, meet you back here in awhile to celebrate/commiserate over acceptances and rejections.

Dancercise

Considering that I lifted weights for the first time in over a month last night and injured my shoulder, I think the universe is conspiring against my resolutions.

bitchycrosstownexpress

I'm pretty sure all my resolutions boil down to "Finish what I start." Finish all the old knitting projects I have abandoned, finish the bag I promised to sew for my mom, finish the draft of my novel, finish paring down my belongings so when my boyfriend and I move in together I'm not bringing along sacks of stuff I don't actually want like the last time I moved....

Interrobanged

1. Learn to drive
2. Stand up straight more often
3. Antidepressants, maybe?

mangosara

My resolution: have less stuff! Be neater. Also, buy less cookies from Trader Joe's. (They get me EVERY TIME.) Aaaaaand... cook more for myself. I always end up eating healthier if I'm doing my own cooking.

So basically, grow the fuck up.

SarahP

I don't normally do resolutions, but I think this year I'm going to try to write more than I did last year.

I was also thinking of setting the goal "work out at least twice a week" but got really sick this week and just the walk to my bus stop this morning almost did me in, so I'm alread blowing that one.

RocketSurgeon

I like to make fun New Year's resolutions. Last year's was to try and wear more interesting eye makeup, after being stuck on the same daily shade for the previous couple years. I now own and wear royal blue eyeliner!

This year, I'd like to learn French. Or at least enough to not mispronounce wine labels.

frigwiggin

1. Take better care of my nails, vis a vis: a) Take biotin. (Does this actually work?) b) Use Nail Envy or a related product. (Again, does it work? How?) and c) Stop pickin' at the cuticles and making them tear and bleed fergawdsakes. So far doing better on a) and b) than c) because c) happens unconsciously and possibly in my sleep.

2. Get professional help for my anxiety and catastrophic thinking.

3. Blog about books at least once a week! Blogging about myself and my clothes is so easy, but I got super-lazy on the book blogging.

4. Get enough sleeeeeeeeeeep oh man this will never happen because having to get up anytime before 9am is a crime against humanity.

frigwiggin

@frigwiggin

Oh yeah, and 5. Get into cross-stitching so I can make crass samplers for my friends.

frigwiggin

@frigwiggin

Double oh-yeah, 6. Don't accidentally buy nonfat Greek yogurt again. This stuff tastes like nonsense.

ms. alex

@frigwiggin Re: nails: I seemed to improve my nails (they are no longer super peely and sad to behold) by eating more vegetables, maybe? Even my weird thumb nail ridges that I had for forever have mostly gone away.

I just mention this because I totally meant to take biotin and stick with it for reals this time many times, and it never stuck because I won't ever bother to take daily pills that I can't take before I actually leave my bed, and vitamins are too large for that business.

frigwiggin

@ms. alex I thought this might be the case! My nails have always been a little weak but they've been moreso recently and I think it's because I've been living with my boyfriend and he has a strong aversion to any vegetable that isn't broccoli or green beans. More dark leafy greens for me this year, and for him too if I can manage it!

Dancercise

@frigwiggin
Try Healthy Hoof! I've only used the cream, but they sell polishes and other stuff, too. My understanding is that it was developed by horse farmers to heal cracked horse hooves, and they found that it made their nails and cuticles stronger, too, so it became a beauty product. I used it after destroying my nails the first (and only) time I got acrylics and it was fantastic. I used it nightly before bed for a couple of months, and now my nails are strong enough that I only have to used it once a week or so.

VerityStandingStill

@frigwiggin For #1, purchasing and keeping on your person at all times a little manicure kit did wonders for my cuticles. It's just a little pair of curved scissors, a nail file, and tweezers in a pouch, and I carry it with me all the time - it even makes it into my going-out clutch. If your cuticles are all cleaned up and free from raggedy bits, you'll pick at them less!

VerityStandingStill

@VerityStandingStill This one is cute.

planforamiracle

@VerityStandingStill this method worked for me too! Starting with carrying an emery board in my pencil case in high school so I'd stop biting. It worked well enough that I can now limit my nail grooming and fidgeting to at-home only. The downside is I sort of excessively trim my cuticles, which I have heard is not so great, but I'd rather that than my previous habits.

Also I take an omega 3 formula for my skin that I think has helped my nails and hair grow faster and stronger. And I'm convinced it helps balance my mood. Might be worth a go?

Adult Footie Pajamas

@frigwiggin I got my fiance to eat kale like every day by sautéing it briefly in bacon fat.

TheclaAndTheSeals

1. Have more sex.
2. Don't engage with things I know will make me angry or upset*. Don't read baiting articles from The Atlantic or Slate. Unfollow negative blogs. Turn off the radio when NPR is reporting on the NRA.

*Doesn't include things that will educate and inform me, e.g. good reporting on poverty, global issues, women's rights, etc. But no more reading opinion pieces when I can tell from the headline I'll end up mad.

cd
cd

welp new years eve I moved back in with my parents, slept with my ex, ate mcdonalds the next morning and had a drink in my hand by 3pm, so I'm off to a great start. but for 2013: get into a full-time nursing program and start running!

Ellie

I have a lot of resolutions!
1. Use only the recommended amount of detergent that the box says, not throw in extra "for good measure" (Everyone makes so much fun of me when I tell them this resolution, but I'm pretty excited about it).
2. Spend more time with my dad - my mom and I work at the same place so I see her ALL the time, and I want to make the effort to see my dad more of a priority.
3. Get more sleep - always something I'm working on. I find it useful to tackle this with auxiliary actions like "Brush my teeth as soon as I decide to go to bed 'soon'," "Dim lights in room," "Turn computer off" that help you go to bed earlier.
4. Cook more, don't spend so much money on soup from Whole Foods. (I haven't yet identified any auxiliary strategies about this that would likely work for me specifically, but I'm thinking about it.)

I also have a lot of philosophies on resolutions. Like, I think it's better not to make resolutions that have a specific number attached (e.g. "work out 3x a week") so that you are in a state of positive growth rather than of self-evaluation and judgement. Also because it's easier to do something every day than only some of the time, which leads you to engage in all this useless mental strategizing and self-bargaining about which days, whether you deserve to skip, etc.

Beericle

@Ellie
You could make your own soup? It is really easy - you can do it on the stove top, or in the crockpot and take it for lunch.

Lila Fowler

@Beericle Yeah!! Making soup was my fall hobby and it is so awesome. As long as you have the spare time to watch the pot, it's super easy and pretty fun. This soup is da bomb. (It's also good if you take out the tomatoes and replace them with a billion different kinds of mushrooms!)

Beericle

@Lila Fowler
That soup looks pretty tasty but like a ton of work. Did you really roast the onion and tomatoes? When you used mushrooms did you roast those?

Lila Fowler

@Beericle Yeah, I roast the tomatoes. I like to soup-make during hangover marathons, so letting things cook forever fits my lazy vibe, I guess. The mushrooms I don't roast though. Just cut all those bad boys up into equalish-sized pieces and let them cook down in some EVOO and their own juices for 15 minutes on the stove. Yum.

Ellie

@Beericle I really hate cooking (I used to enjoy it, I don't know what happened) and therefore am totally unmotivated to do it. little freezer space. The extent of what I enjoy cooking is toast, oatmeal and frozen peas and occasionally mac and cheese or pasta. This might be more of a willpower than a strategy thing so I should probably just do it instead of continuing to whine about it. :)

rallisaurus

My resolutions are always some combination of eat better/exercise more/socialize more. NYE is like a shy person's litmus test of success from the previous year's resolution. The year I spent NYE watching a True Blood marathon was my low point.

This year I think I want to focus more on less tangible goals. Soooo...does anyone have any tips on how to stop worrying about what other people think of you? I'm finally at the point in my life where I am actually pretty happy with myself, but then I start thinking about what other people are like or imagining what other people would think of me. Wedding planning has been this battle between myself and the stuff I imagined I was supposed to want, but no on actually told me I needed to have. My true (lazy and cheap) self has mostly won, but I would like to banish these thoughts.

MissJudgeMental

@rallisaurus good luck & TrueBlood marathon sounds cool to me!

terrific

My resolutions are the same thing they always are: drink less, smoke less, eat less. Oh, and work on managing my shitty shitty anxiety, because I'm tired of being an emotional yo-yo!

I need to stop making resolutions I can't keep. Maybe my resolution will be to stop setting unattainable and/or difficult goals and then beating myself up when I don't achieve them?

harebell

@terrific Maybe setting smaller, related, very doable goals? So you can allow yourself to feel the glow of accomplishing them, which is so much more motivating?

MissJudgeMental

@terrific boiled down, be sweeter to yourself? Good luck.

madge

this year's resolution came from this awesome, realistic video about fitness: 23 1/2 hours. my man got me a fitbit pedometer for my birthday and i'm trying to hit my 10,000 steps and/or ride my bike and/or do half an hour of yoga every (week) day.

anyone else on fitbit? want to be friendses?

piekin

@madge I was all "I just got a fitbit and I do!" and then I was like OMG PITTSBURGH PERSON and then I was like OMG MEGAN DIETZ and now I /rly/ do. I just Facebook-messaged you my email address bc I'm a creeper like that.

VerityStandingStill

@madge Thank you for sharing that video! Yes, I can - and WILL - limit my sitting/sleeping time to 23 1/2 hours a day this year.

ms. alex

1: Actually read and finish books
2: Vegan. It's been a slow transition so it's not really a big change except for the fact that my favorite places for lattes are also my favorite places for baked goods that are most certainly not vegan.

I'm Right on Top of that, Rose

My resolution is to listen to my gut more, and stop second-guessing my feelings. Also, to reduce said gut somewhat with less beer, more skiing.

Elsajeni

My goals (like other people, I don't really like the "resolutions" concept) are:
1. Clean up my closet. While I was student teaching I was so stressed and exhausted all the time that I just made giant heaps of Stuff To Deal With Later -- now it's later and I still haven't dealt with the stuff. Get it picked up and organized so it won't get like this again.
2. Maintain the apartment at the approximate level of cleanliness it's at right now. (Some things stacked on tables, but enough clear table space to eat/work if needed; some dishes waiting to be washed but not many; floors, kitchen, bathroom generally clean.)
3. Silliest goal: finish and post online some fanfics. It's been years and years since I've actually posted any of my writing online, and that's mainly because I get mostly done with something and then get all stressed and perfectionisty and never finish it. I figure concentrating on fanfic is kinda low-stakes, and maybe if I manage that I can move on to "actually finish an original project for once."

area@twitter

@Elsajeni For goals 1 and 2, may I recommend Unfuck Your Habitat? It is no-nonsense without being mean, and looking at everyone's before and after photos motivated me to tackle my closets over the break. Pretty closetssssss
and as an avid consumer of fanfics, best of luck with 3! What's your fandom/s?

Elsajeni

@area@twitter I actually already follow UfYH on Tumblr! It does really help me get inspired/motivated. And we did a Big Clean before Christmas because my parents were coming, so now it should be easier to keep it that way, right?

Thanks! My home fandom is Hobbit/LOTR, which is where I'm doing my stuff right now. I also hang around the edges of Avengers fandom but who doesn't. How about you?

royaljunk

@Elsajeni yaaaaaaay, always need more Hobbit/LOTR fic!! I love that the fandom is relevant again, it's so warm and comfy and familiar.

area@twitter

@Elsajeni UfYH is fab- I actually just started following it on the recommendation of folks here. (Thank you, 'Pinners!)
I'll try pretty much anything, but I have been solidly into Avengers fandom for...geez, years now. Steve/Tony 4 lyfe, yo. I love a universe where Captain America turning into a werewolf is canon.

Elsajeni

@royaljunk I KNOW RIGHT? The first fanfic I ever wrote was LOTR. I was nine. (It was about Sam's daughter Elanor being a total badass, in case anyone is wondering.)

@area@twitter I'm just getting into comics, and so far I find that I can't really deal with anything about a team -- too complicated, too much going on at once, can't tell people apart, etc. So I have mostly avoided the Avengers comicverse, even though I'm interested in it. Is there any particular starting point or storyline you would recommend to a noob?

area@twitter

@Elsajeni I used to be hugely intimidated by comics (decades of canon! Much of it contradictory! Major events every year or so!) I actually haven't read a great deal, but I've had the most success browsing around and finding stories I found appealing without worrying too much about keeping up with canon or current events. It seems like the good stuff stays around for years and gets referenced again and again, while the bad stuff disappears pretty fast and/or is retconned out. Personally, I loved the first two trade paperbacks of Young Avengers, and there's an Iron Man and Captain America trade paperback that I gobbled up. I've been meaning to get the new Hawkeye books, I've heard nothing but good things. Marvel Adventures: Avengers was a great all-ages series with wonderful art and clever writing; so was Captain America: The Fighting Avenger. And peripherally related, if you like your dudes with humor, a little angst, and buckets of bromance, see if you can find Cable and Deadpool. I loved it.

VerityStandingStill

I want to take my dog for more walks (street or park). We have a fenced yard, and I'm ashamed to admit that the vast majority of days that's the only outside time she gets. She's a well-behaved dog, not one that *needs* walks to be calm, so it's easy to just not go out for a walk. But this year, for her health and my own, more walks!

Best pun ever.

I do my resolutions on my birthday so I'm already three months into mine: No more getting drunk! I had one slip up where my anxiety took over at a party, but that is a story for another day when thinking about it doesn't make me want to cry-vomit.

MissJudgeMental

@Best pun ever. Don't beat yourself up! Sounds like you're doing well.

wearitcounts

I resolved (and I've already done this an an EXTREMELY satisfying way New Year's Eve and Day) to Take Back My Power in my romantic relationships.

Also to type properly with capital letters and such because I've always been too lazy even though I have my BA in English. Unacceptable, apologies all around.

wee_ramekin

@wearitcounts WHAT DID YOU DO?!?

wearitcounts

@wee_ramekin Haha, hoo boy. Well, since this is a safe-space for long-and-inappropriate-story-telling (I love The Hairpin so much for that):

There's a guy that's been a romantic interest of mine for the past 6 months or so, but has been playing with my head and generally treating me terribly. I finally called him on it a few weeks ago and just basically told him "the way you treat me makes me feel shitty, and I don't want or need any response from you, I just think you should know that." He tried to respond in a defensive sort of way, but I pretty much just shut him down.

Three weeks pass, and I receive a package in the mail from Amazon. It's gift wrapped for the holidays, and it is a detachable showerhead (this is a joke we had between us months ago, that he promised to buy me one for Hanukkah if I promised to send him pictures of me using it). I ignore the gift and the text message he sends me on the 25th.

Last Thursday, he gets in touch that he's going to come to the NYE party I'm hosting that I'd invited him to months ago that he had since been flip-flopping about and refused to commit to. I reach deep into my inner calm and tell him fine, whatever, fully expecting him to just bail at the last second, and realizing in that moment that I truly no longer cared. He does actually show up, and of course, it's New Year's Eve and we're drinking and the sex was always good between us so we end up in bed together. But I'm fine with that, as now everything is on MY terms. We have sex until I'm satisfied and then when I get tired, I stop, even though he hasn't finished. He asks me to head downtown and I refuse, pointing out he hasn't done that for me. He proceeds to do so, and I enjoy, but afterward tell him I'm very sorry, but I don't really want to just the same, and I'm going to sleep. And that if I'm up to it, we can have another round of regular sex in the morning. The end. He tries to get to me by talking about My Feelings For Him and I tell him that there's no point in having that discussion anymore, as I no longer have said feelings, so we should just enjoy this thing for what it is and then get on with our lives.

And in the morning we had sex again and he WORKED for it. And then I wished him well in life and sent him on his way. It felt GREAT.

(And I realize I switched tenses a few times in that story but it would take a long time to figure out which one I want to use and then edit accordingly so I am going to leave the story as such and hope it is nonetheless enjoyable.)

wee_ramekin

@wearitcounts Long and inappropriate storytelling is always enjoyable! And heck, doesn't it feel good to be in a good place with something that was formerly shitty? Here's hoping you continue to take 2013 by the balls (heh. heh. heh.)!

RNL
RNL

@wearitcounts This is great! GOOD FOR YOU!

I did something similar - sent a dude packing who had been making me feel like crap for months (although in my story, he left my NYE party early to go out with his new girlfriend (they are not exclusive, even though she wants to be, just FYI I'm not a totally horrible person)).

The very worst thing about guys like that is how they turn it on when you withdraw or withhold. Oh, like you're going to care NOW? When I've been through hell wanting you to care? TOO LATE. You made me feel like garbage and I am not garbage.

The second worse it the defensiveness. This guy actually said "you know, I just have to say - people get hurt, it's a natural part of human interaction." As if when he hurts people, it's like gravity or the wind. Dude you are a person with responsibilities, not a force of nature.

wearitcounts

@wee_ramekin Thanks :D 2013 - The year I stopped tolerating bullshit.

@When robot unicorns attack Thank you, and right back atcha! Defensiveness in that kind of situation is just... unacceptable. I am allowed to have feelings about the way you treat me. You might not like them, but they are valid and they are mine and I don't need you to help me define them, thanks VERY much. Hurrah for self-advocacy!

laserbeams

I'm aiming for manageable, so my resolutions are:

1. Drink more water.
2. Walk more.
3. Actually use all the lipstick I am for some reason hoarding.
4. Be more appreciative of the little things.

That last one is harder to measure than the others. Hmm.

royaljunk

I'm about halfway through my first read of Anna Karenina BUT I'm reading it on my Nook. Does that count?? (It counts.)

royaljunk

@royaljunk But okay actually real resolutions:
(1) MOVE OUT OF MY PARENTS' HOUSE/GET OWN PLACE, DANG
(2) Finish reading ASOIAF instead of dragging my feet after finishing A Game of Thrones

royaljunk

@royaljunk oh, and make an effort to only read books that are ALREADY on my to-read shelf on Goodreads.

Ellie

@royaljunk I finally read AK, too, in the last couple weeks (so that I could see the movie)! How do you like it?

royaljunk

@Ellie It's difficult for me to have Deep Thoughts about a book until I'm 100% finished, but so far I'm really liking it and it's going by a lot faster than I expected! Levin makes me severely eyeroll though

Ellie

@royaljunk Really? It took a lot for me to not skip the Anna/Vronsky parts and just read about Levin and Kitty. To my mind the point about Levin is that he is very relatable and human. For example, although he is very idealistic, when he goes to Moscow, he falls into all these pretentious intellectual debates, participates in club life and dumb social standards all the while having these little moments of self-criticism and being frustrated at the insincerity he is surrounded by but not really either making a stand against it or accepting it in a good-natured and expansive way. I can totally get how it can be annoying, but I think that it's annoying because that kind of mild hypocrisy totally reminds me of myself - which is part of what makes it so great for me.

Baby Fish Mouth

@royaljunk My goal was only to only read my to-read bookshelf too but then Nicole announced that 'pin picks is returning so I know this resolution will not last.

royaljunk

@Ellie Yes, I do think Levin becomes more likeable as the novel goes on, whereas Anna/Vronsky have begun to annoy me more. I'll see how I feel when I've finished!

no bricks

@royaljunk I just finished Anna Karenina (and went to see the movie yesterday)! I was also not a big Levin fan, although I feel a bit bad about it because like @Ellie says, he's very human. I think it's because I went into the book thinking it would be all about Anna and Vronsky and felt like the Levin/farm parts were intruding.

wee_ramekin

I might resolve (maybe) to try to go on one date per month. I hate first dates and online dating, but then I realized that it is hard to meet someone if you don't...you know...meet new people.

So maybe I will do that. But just one date per month, because dating is exhausting and I need energy for enjoying the rest of my totally awesome life.

theotherginger

@wee_ramekin oh little contained for soufflé, this sounds like a decent goal. like, you've assessed the situation and it sounds possible for you. i hope that it is. or, if it doesn't work, that you can also be happy with that.

wee_ramekin

@theotherginger Thanks for the encouragement!

Yeah, I decided on one date a month because that's really all I can handle. I wasn't lying about really enjoying the rest of my life, and I don't want to exhaust myself or get myself worked up into an unproductive lather about this.

I think that even if it doesn't work out, I will feel good about it. Right now, there's a little niggling part of me that's like "You have no right to mope about being single if you're not actually out there trying to meet people!". So, if 2014 rolls around and a year of very active (for me) dating hasn't panned out, I can just dust my hands off and be like "Welp! Looks like it's The World's fault and not Mine!", which will honestly be a load off these self-critical shoulders. #virgoproblems

theotherginger

@wee_ramekin yup. props to you for your self-awareness. I dated very exhaustively (for me) a couple of summers ago, and I know that when the time comes for me to feel like dating, to the internet I will go, because it is much easier to blame the world than myself. there is a side of smug feeling (ie doing something about it) that I also enjoyed.

jonquils

I've resolved to continue dating all important documents as whatever/whatever/12 until around this time next year. I am succeeding admirably.

Alli525

I have a couple that are vaguely body-related but mostly just quality-of-life: join a gym and go regularly - at least 3x/week, and "maintain yourself, woman!" meaning floss, put away your laundry when it's done, replace all shoes that have holes in them because you will be 27 this year, etc. Just take better care of yourself and stop being too lazy/"tired" to do responsible-baby-deer-legs things.

And somewhat out of my control but I would like to date someone this year. I've had quite a dry spell, and I haven't had a REAL relationship (6 months or longer, or falling in love, whichever comes first) since my last one ended in April 2008. 2008! Nearly 5 years ago!

frumious bandersnatch

All the usual goals about being a getting fit/getting smart/getting money.

One actual resolution, just for 2013 (with the possibility of renewal), is to write down one thing in my journal that delighted me every day and then meditate for 5 minutes.

I've done the journalling thing irregularly in the past, and it's changed fleeting moments into memories and helps cements experiences if that makes sense (the child sneezing in the middle of his temper tantrum on the streets of Paris, the crazy clouds on my road trip through the South - that walk down the Parisian street and that unremarkable part of the drive are now indelibly inked in my brain). The meditating is because meditating is great and I can spare at least 5 minutes, hopefully more one day.

I am happy and in touch with myself, but I am a sociable introvert who is having trouble getting the alone time I need while seeing friends/doing things enough. And a lot of the time my alone time is whole days watching bad tv/lounging, which is great sometimes! but doesn't leave me feeling very good as a regular thing. So I'm looking for more productive and efficient (those sound like sort of awful words but I mean it) ways to be alone with myself and be recharged. Reading more is one, which I've been doing recently. Suggestions welcome plz thx.

ETA: also to be more vocally feminist!

wearitcounts

@frumious bandersnatch I'm a lot like you. I love hanging out with friends and Doing Things, but I need me-time in a major way. Reading is great; cooking works for me also. I learned how to make my own spicy pickles this year and that was a productive project done during me-time that turned into gifts for family/friends.

I've also been toying with the idea of taking myself out to the movies when I want to see something spur of the moment. I feel like that could be very liberating and enjoyable.

wee_ramekin

@frumious bandersnatch If you enjoy fantasy/romance/fairy tales/strong female characters, I'd recommend reading everything Juliet Marillier has written, starting with Daughter of the Forest (4.5 star rating on Amazon with over 300 reviews). She is my favorite author, bar none, and if you'd like to hear more about her, I will talk about her all day long.

Those sound like really great, fortifying resolutions, by the way!

planforamiracle

@frumious bandersnatch your reasons for journaling and meditating are really inspiring, and the way you cal yourself a "sociable introvert" really speaks to me. I live alone, but 6 months into a new relationship (along with winter making me want to cocoon) I am having trouble remembering to take time for myself until it's too late and I'm in a sulking/melancholy zone that I know is the result of not enough alone-time. Do you schedule alone-time as a regular thing, or do you notice when you need it and take it then?

My favourite thing to do alone is go for walks in the park near my house. I went skating by myself on New Year's Day this year and it was grand.

I smell burnt toast

@wee_ramekin Daughter of the Forest! Yes! Swans and Ireland and witches and brothers! I can also talk about this book all day.

Also, to Fruminous Bandersnatch.. something that I have incorporated into my life to increase my productivity when I am alone is knitting. I can knit and watch tv at the same time, and I can therefore somewhat justify tv-watching, as I am at the same time creating something. Like socks.

Also, going to the movies by oneself is the way to do it.

wee_ramekin

@I smell burnt toast Heee! Someone used this GIF on Tumblr to describe how they felt when they met another Juliet Marillier fan. I think it is apt:

Also, did you know that JM just came out with two new books? There's Flame of Sevenwaters, the sixth book in the Sevenwaters series, and Shadowfell the first book in a new trilogy. Merry Christmas!

I smell burnt toast

@wee_ramekin AH! I just read Shadowfell. It's YA and the kind of book I would have loved dearly if I were fourteen, but even now appeals to my secret love of fantasy romantic fiction with female protagonists that don't understand their fey elven powers and love interests who wear cloaks, and that I only talk about on the internet.

frumious bandersnatch

@planforamiracle I am trying to get better, but right now I seesaw between DOING ALL THE THINGS and I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO ANYONE! which is clear sub-ideal. My strategies for this are being more firm about Monday night = alone night and proactively scheduling friend time so when spontaneous invites come up I can go or not go based on my mood, not my lingering guilt that I am so lucky to have such wonderful friends living nearby but I don't see them nearly enough.

I have been wanting to go skating and I think maybe now I will do it by myself!

frumious bandersnatch

@wee_ramekin I am definitely looking for books that hit the sweet spot of well-written but easy to read with a good story. Fantasy can be hit or miss with that, but when it's a hit it's great. I do love strong female characters, to the point my netflix suggestions are basically all "[adjective][genre] with a strong female lead."

I will check it out, in part because as a long-time lurker I like your commenting style. *blushes*

frumious bandersnatch

@I smell burnt toast I really should pick up knitting. I want to be a self-sufficient homesteader so badly.

My grandma used to knit to pass time, and just knit similarly-sized squares of different pretty colors when she didn't feel like focusing, and then she and my mom made it into a really beautiful blanket. I think I could be that kind of knitter. (Or a million boring scarves.)

theotherginger

I am resolving to co-sleep with my laptop less often, and more often with a partner (as yet unobtained) or a book. Yesterday was hard.

Olea

I resolve to find awesome groups of people on the internet (looks like I've succeeded so far!), and to be more "spontaneous". (I hate that word). More open to adventure/randomness, I guess?

I'm moving overseas (from Melbourne, to Paris (hopefully), via London) so I'll need some sort of place I feel welcome to rant or complain or brag or whatever, and the MMO (yes, I know) I was playing last year shut down, so I'd like somewhere less evanescent to belong to a community online.

Also, I feel like "getting out and doing things on my own" will be a good goal, because otherwise I'll be "on my own: bedroom edition" endlessly on repeat. And, honestly, I need more sunshine than hiding in my room can offer.

Also, also, I started a happiness journal last year, to help with a sort-of-heartbreak, and I want to keep doing that - noticing happiness is never a bad thing.

MissJudgeMental

@Olea I love that you used the word "evanescent". I love it, and good luck.

MissJudgeMental

Not a resolution but I decided to stop texting a guy-friend (who I like-like and who I'll definitely see anyway in a few weeks for work reasons, I'm not a terrible person, I just wanted to make sure the friend-ness was a 2 way street and not something I was foisting upon him). I wanted to see if he'd think of me and contact me (possibly juvenile of me, but it was HARD to do because I'm quite anxious and impulsive). And I did it! 8 days, yeah! And he contacted me to see how things were going. Self control and self-esteem for the win!

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