Monday, June 4, 2012


The League of Ordinary Ladies: Miniature Tea Sets

Previously: Short Dates.

Esther C. Werdiger has a weekly podcast and a rich internet life, but also a job in Jerusalem.

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Ikea does do that to a girl.


@Megano! Meatballs and lingonberry tarts are key!


@Megano! Truth.


Sometimes being able to do whatever you want feels a bit overwhelming.


@acefreakly I don't know how true this is, but I heard somewhere that when the Soviet Union collapsed and Western products began making their way into those countries, the occupants were utterly bewildered by all the choices - like, couldn't function because they had never been able to choose what type of products they wanted. Like I said, not sure how true that is, but I always think of it when I have what seems like too many options.


@MoxyCrimeFighter eh, i don't think it's more true in the former soviet union than it is everywhere--and it IS true everywhere, there have been lots of consumer behavior-type studies of how poorly people handle it when they have too many options.

Heat Signature

@plonk Yes! And also how it can negatively impact our mental health, which I think about a LOT when I'm faced with choosing one of the 2,354 varieties of toothpaste (seriously, why do we need so many toothpaste options? We do not, is the answer).


@MoxyCrimeFighter In a similar vein...I lived in DC for ages, and they knocked down the Safeway in my neighborhood to renovate/rebuild it. So, for 2 years, the only grocery stores nearby were Whole Foods and a Giant from 1950, neither of which had many options of anything. On the weekend the new (gigantic) Safeway opened, it was entirely full of people staring with googly-eyes at the shelves, slightly panicked at all the choices, and accidentally running into each other with their enormous, full-sized shopping carts.


@MoxyCrimeFighter I have heard similar sentiments about North Korean refugees and immigrants. Since the regime in North Korea doesn't exactly allow free will, if people escape from it, they are often bewildered and have difficulty adapting to a life where each person takes the initiative and actively chooses and pursues a lifestyle, rather than being told/ordered what to do.


@MoxyCrimeFighter A professor of a class I once took mentioned something similar in relation to people winning the lottery (or any situation that causes someone to have tons more money than they're used to) and becoming absolutely, sometimes suicidally crazy over the sudden amount of freedom and choice they have. I feel like there was a name for it, a syndrome or something... but being that I can't even remember what class this might have been, I doubt I'll be able to come up with it.


@plonk My former housemate, a very sweet and very naïve woman from China, came home from her first shopping trip here almost in tears because there were so many choices.


@planforamiracle Oh yeah, I read a really interesting book about North Korean refugees (I think that describes everyone from there living elsewhere) and it touched on that. It's called "Nothing to Envy: Ordinary Lives in North Korea" by Barbara Demick and I highly recommend it.


@acefreakly I get like this every May when classes are over. Like every other teacher on the planet, I still work through the summer - I don't teach, but I do the research I've been putting off all year, and trying to figure out how to get all that work done is hard when I have huuuuuuuuge blocks of wide-open time. I get more done when I have to cram my stuff in between all kinds of other things.


@MoxyCrimeFighter #showing my age I was in Germany when the Berlin Wall came down and there were East German people passing out/breaking down/being carried out of shopping centres stories abounding. I never witnessed it myself, I believe it though. Also I grew up in Australia in the 70s when there were about three kinds of breakfast cereals to choose from and I still freak out when I walk down the promenade of new cereal/biscuits/juice whatever! available today. I'll have the toast. Seriously.


@Xanthophyllippa Exactly this.


@Heat Signature Toothpaste and toilet paper. I always end up staring at all the options for like 5 minutes waiting to remember what my go-to choice is, or waiting for one of them to speak to me. But I guess it beats having only one terrible option.

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@redonion I'm good with toilet paper; my problem is that the store keeps discontinuing the one I buy, but now I'm buying the store brand so I should be good.

Toothpaste is one I always have a problem with, too! Currently I'm using one that has a different-colored package than the rest so it's easy, but when they change it I'm screwed again, which sucks because I really am particular about my toothpaste, it's just that the names don't mean anything. Is it "cool mint", "clean mint", or "fresh mint"?!

I hate how often they change packaging on stuff. I've got a visual memory; I know what the box looks like but I don't always remember the name. Stop confusing me, manufacturers! Don't you want me to buy your products?


@acefreakly I was just gonna leave THIS here! It's "The Paradox of Choice" by Barry Schwartz, who is quoted in that RadioLab show! How 'bout that. :)

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@gigglefest That sounds like a great book; I remember wanting to check it out when I first heard the show, but then I forgot. Thanks for reminding me!

oh! valencia

@jen325 I was hoping that link would be the extra scene from the end of Borat, where he is in the grocery store harassing the stock boy about all the cheese. "And what is this?" it's cheese. "And this, over here, what is it?" that's cheese too. "And this?" This is all cheese.


coffee! coffee! coffee!

Ten Thousand Buckets

I can't imagine that I'm the only one who would be perfectly happy decorating an entire house with stuff from the children's section at Ikea. The curtains! The duvet sets (which only come in twin, thus breaking my heart)!

Ten Thousand Buckets

@Ten Thousand Buckets This rug! http://www.ikea.com/ca/en/catalog/products/50203793/


@Ten Thousand Buckets the kids duvet sets are SO GOOD. there is one of woodland creatures and mushrooms in this panoramic, gorgeous style that i want real bad. there is also one of grinning vegetables, which i want less bad.

the last time i went to IKEA, there were multiple adult persons passed out on showroom beds, looking grim.


@Ten Thousand Buckets lol i think we are simultaneously talking about the same woodland-creatures theme.


@Ten Thousand Buckets Oh my gosh! That rug is so, so cute. I think it would fit in just fine in my kid-free space. Oh why must it be available in-store only?


@Ten Thousand Buckets -- That giant leaf canopy/thing! I actually knew an adult who had one of those.

Ten Thousand Buckets

@plonk I love the new woodland creature stuff! The vegetable people are cute, but a little creepy. Nothing would stop me from getting these curtains if it weren't for the people at the bottom: http://www.ikea.com/ca/en/catalog/products/10194861/

I might actually get the rug, though?


@Ten Thousand Buckets I once purchased a rug from children's IKEA for my residence room. I thought I was being all simultaneously fancy (for having a gd carpet in my res room!) and whimsical (cuz it had blue spiral swirlys on it)

but in reality it just got super super super super dirty and since my residence did not come equipped with vaccuums, I used to use a little suede brush for shoes to clean it.

*stupid ideas i've had*

Ten Thousand Buckets

@WhiskeySour Road trip!

@xx-xx-xx I knew somebody with one of those Dr. Seuss-looking dressers. I wonder if she still has it. Those aren't really my style, but I can think of a few uses for a giant leaf canopy... (mostly pretending to be a Borrower.)


@Ten Thousand Buckets I would, but my closest Ikea is under renovation. I forgot and drove there. It was awful. The entire Marketplace was gone. That's the best part! At least I got to eat some meatballs, so not all was lost.


@WhiskeySour I haven't been to that damn Ikea since I they dashed my dreams by telling me no, I could not buy another "Aneboda" dresser unless I wanted it in white because the birch (?) was discontinued! What? Why? I do not live in a huge, elegantly weatehred beach house with 2,000 open windows blowing my wispy drapes around ever so perfectly! Birch! It's the most aesthetically pleasing of them all! Oh, man.


@Ten Thousand Buckets I'm pretty sure I have Borrowers - the other day one of them left my new bike shorts in the middle of the couch, which was pretty unnerving - but if I had a leaf canopy I'd pretend to be Luna Lovegood, waiting for Snorkacks.


@Ten Thousand Buckets That rug is so cute!

You know that inflatable hedgehog Ikea had? (Has?) I unapologetically have one in my apartment. My cats love it.

ETA - This one http://vernon.kijiji.ca/c-buy-and-sell-baby-items-toys-ikea-hedgehog-air-element-W0QQAdIdZ373158359


I still have my teeny-tiny childhood tea set. It's decorated with owls (I have an owl tattoo partly for this reason). I haven't used it in years but I won't let my mom throw it out.



I had a sip of pretend-tea just yesterday. After, I have to say: "Ahh."


@EternalFootwoman I have mine, too! It is somewhere in my mom's basement, and is actually really nice. It is an Alice In Wonderland set that is real porcelain, and as a child, it made me feel SO GROWN UP.


@EternalFootwoman Mine had Peter Rabbit on it, along with some of the text. Which is why I can type without looking "around the edge of the cucumber, who should he meet but Mr. MacGregor, who jumped up and chased after Peter, waving his rake and shouting 'stop! Theif!'"

I can hear it in my mom's voice.


@PistolPackinMama ! I have a Peter Rabbit tea cup with text on it! I didn't realize it came in a set. Thanks for nothing, Mom.


@EternalFootwoman I left the parts of my tiny tea seat behind furniture for the borrowers who were surely in my house, and therefore no longer have it.


@RobotsNeedLove That is simply wonderful.


@meetapossum They don't always! I only had bits and pieces, from the PETER RABBIT SHOP, but my sister had a different whole set. But my bits and pieces were nicer.


@RobotsNeedLove <3 this!

I drank a lot of sugar free cool aid out of those peter rabbit cups. And when I could bake, I ate a lot of teeeeeny jam tarts off the plates, as well.

I still have mine. Should I ever have kids/ nieces & nephews, giving them the tea set will be something I am going to really enjoy.


@PistolPackinMama I have some Peter Rabbit cereal bowls and Peter Rabbit egg cups (one of which I used just today at lunch).

Katie Scarlett

This seems like the perfect place to admit that I've looked at SO MANY (too many?) pictures of you at other people's weddings, Esther.

Why yes, I am a creep. Thanks for asking!

Esther C. Werdiger

@Katie Scarlett


i was just thinking today about how i'm an adult and can do whatever i want, and how TOTALLY WEIRD that is. thanks esther!


@plonk I can eat all the candy I want!!!


I was overwhelmed by this a couple of years ago when I went to Barcade in Brooklyn and faced down my teenage addiction, Moon Patrol. I suddenly realized that I had a twenty on me and could spend it all on the video game. And then. I could go to an ATM and get ANOTHER TWENTY. I calmed down a little after a beer, but for a moment, it was a demented form of paradise.

tea tray in the sky.

@plonk Me too! I was looking through my cupboards preparing to make dinner, and lo and behold, all I have is a box of blueberry frosted Pop Tarts.



I have to say that your drawings alone sell me on that wedding as the BEST. WEDDING. EVER.

(seriously. woah.)


I'm glad I'm not the only one who has almost passed out from hypoglycemia while shopping.


@MademoiselleML I think that's why Ikea puts the snack bar right by the check-out counters.

Ten Thousand Buckets

@Ophelia I tend to have pretty enjoyable Ikea trips (aside from one notable occasion where I'd already been shopping all day, I couldn't find the item I wanted, and somebody's baby would. not. stop. crying.), but the prospect of getting a frozen yogurt after checkout probably goes a long way to keeping me happy.

Though I've never had an actual medical issue, I do have a well documented tendency to insane crankiness if I'm not fed and watered frequently enough.


@Ten Thousand Buckets Me too. I'm generally pretty even-keeled, but 3 hours of shopping can turn me into a cranky toddler. That said, I also like Ikea, particularly when it's not super-crowded, so it's easier to wander through and imagine what it would be like if my world was that perfectly organized.

Ten Thousand Buckets

@Ophelia I'm the person sitting on the couches saying, "who are all these people, and why are they in my living room!?" and commandeering an office chair to roll between and inspect all of the display desks.

It's like a playground for adults!


@Ten Thousand Buckets Hangry! My best friend and I call that "hangry," when you get so hungry that suddenly you're angry at everything. I have this problem so badly that she makes a point of telling me that I need to eat something before she'll talk to me. She has almost resorted to force-feeding me when we travel together and I crabbily claim I'm not hungry.

Also, the comment above suggests that we could be shopping friends. Because I do things like that all the time (The Best Time I Walked Around Target With A Bath Caddy Suction-Cupped to My Forehead) and the people I'm with are soooo embarrassed.


@Xanthophyllippa I have this compulsion where if I see a big stack of things I have to take one or two of the top ones off and look at it. Then I realise I'm not interested and move on. Often I move on to the next stack of identical items, and prise the top one off.

If they get stuck and I can't get them out, I will become unreasonably enraged and might even shout at them.


@Craftastrophies We all need to go shopping together. It'll be like Monk, Rain Man, and Bobcat Goldthwaite out for a day on the town, with a little PeeWee Herman thrown in for balance.


@Xanthophyllippa Let's make it happen! :P


@Xanthophyllippa @Ten Thousand Buckets I also get really hangry (and call it hangry, haha!). A conversation from the other day:

Me: *general grumbling and short temperedness*
Boyfriend: Are you hungry?
Me: No! Why!
Boyfriend: ...you seem hungry.


@mustelid I too get hangry! It has led to far more than one fight with my long-suffering boyfriend.

Ten Thousand Buckets

@Xanthophyllippa Hangry! I like it! The good news is I can recognize that I'm getting cranky because I'm hungry/thirsty, and keep my ragey instincts in check (for a short period). Usually I tell people about my insane urges after the fact, when the danger has passed. The other (really hot) week it was, "I'm glad we got these drinks, because I was starting to feel like punching you in the head."

Sign me up for the Hairpin hangry shopping trip! I call fixing all the display items so they're lined up properly. We'll probably want to bring a bag of cookies for emergencies.


@Ten Thousand Buckets Wait, are you my BFF? Because we've totally said stuff to each other like, "If I don't get something to eat soon I'm gonna snap and dump your body in a ditch." (Reason #246 I only have two friends.)

The display items are all yours. I've got dibs on wearing the (non-clothing) merchandise.

Cat named Virtute

Ohhhhhhh the second comic is way too apt. I was just thinking about the being a grown-up thing--I was having an antisocial homebody week and kept thinking "how awesome is it that I can spend EVERY SINGLE EVENING this week watching tv in bed while eating popcorn and drinking beer! No one can tell me I can't!" Which is true, and great. But I'm also really underemployed, and coming off the end of a long period of being depressed that comes with that "depression hangover" feeling, and really, I kind of just want someone to tell me what to do all the time. Being self-motivated is EXHAUSTING, and I'm really struggling to find it in myself these days.


@Cat named Virtute I hear you. It's sometimes worse if you live alone, too, since there's no one there to see you spending every single night watching tv in bed while eating popcorn and drinking beer and suggest delicately that maybe you might enjoy going to a movie with him/her and his/her friends for a change. I'm too old to live with people I'm not sleeping with, but sometimes having someone else around to lure me into their shenanigans would be really nice.

Cat named Virtute

@Xanthophyllippa I can absolutely imagine that--I was living with just one not-often-home-and-into-doing-her-own thing roommate for all of April and May, and I had to watch myself to make sure I was doing social things at least two-three times a week. When my new roommate knocked on my door when she came home tonight to say hi and check in about my day and some house things, it was actually super disorienting for a moment.

It makes me think about one of the more useful things I got from that Kate Bolick piece about single-dom from a few months ago, where she talks at the end about singles, especially women, forming new kinds of living arrangements where we do maintain various incarnations of living-together-ness that aren't biologically- or romantically-based. I'm really into the idea of chosen family, and I hope that if I don't settle down with one person long term, that I can do something like that. Three of my good friends living in separate apartments on the same apartment building floor (two live with live-in boyfriend/girlfriends, one lives alone), which seems totally ideal to me--my own kitchen and bathroom, I can walk around naked, no one vacuuming when I'm trying to read, but always someone's door to knock on to borrow some sugar or share a bottle of wine.

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@Cat named Virtute I am the worst at having a life. I don't have a hard job or a lot of stress but I am soooooo unmotivated. I go home from work and spend the whole night in my apartment, watching TV or looking at Facebook and hating myself. And when I try to make plans for myself, I find lame excuse after lame excuse to get out of them, and then sit around at home wondering why I did that. UGH. Why?!

Cat named Virtute

@sudden but inevitable betrayal :-( I don't know if you want advice or not, but some things that help when I get like that myself:

1) have projects at home. Even if you don't want to go out, having something to absorb yourself in, like cooking something complicated or knitting something new. Listen to a podcast while you do it, for company.

2) Have standing dates. When one of my friends from home moved to my current city, we instituted a standing Friday date, either coffee in the morning or happy hour before dinner.

3) Have people over. This has the added benefits of forcing you to make your apartment nice and not having to go out anywhere. It's also more awkward to cancel on people! Start small--cake and tea after dinner, Sunday afternoon board games.

4) Write more letters and emails. It can be hard to throw yourself into a lot of social contact when you're not used to it. Engaging with people from a distance is a good way to warm up--it forces you to develop articulation skills that are good for conversing with people. Get a Pin Pal, strike up a regular email correspondence with a close friend, or write to your grandparents. Added bonus: letters back, which allow you to spend some time in other people's lives.

5) Make dates with yourself. Sometimes you just want your own company, and that's totally okay, but make it more special that tv and facebook on the couch. Take your book to a nice bar and have a fancy cocktail you'd never make yourself at home. Go to an art gallery (I WAY prefer doing this by myself than with people). Find a cool neighbourhood in your city that you don't know well and go exploring. Wear comfy shoes, nice clothes, don't look at your phone too much, and enjoy being out in the world.

It's hard, forcing yourself to be social. I emailed a good friend/former roommate about some hard stuff I was going through a while back, and got a lovely but stern email back reminding me to get out of the house and go to things/make plans with people. I have. It's helped.

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@Cat named Virtute Thank you! Those are some great tips. I think I just need to get over myself. And stop letting my boyfriend enable my laziness/insecurity. :) Your list feels very do-able. Start small, dream big, or something.

Cat named Virtute

@sudden but inevitable betrayal You can do it!

Plus there is the fact that being alone isn't a character flaw! It's just nice to have some contingency plans for when you need a pick me up.

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@Cat named Virtute As I get to know myself and my limits, I am discovering that I like to have plenty of solitary down-time - classic introvert exhausted by other people, here. But I think mostly that trap I'm falling into is that it's just easier to sit at home with my dude and veg out. Which is exactly what I need sometimes! But is it what I need ALL the time? Probably not...

RK Fire

What is it about other people's wedding pictures that are so damn engrossing? I have even had my own wedding recently and yet I still love pictures of other people's weddings... and looking at wedding dresses.

Reginal T. Squirge

Maybe because it's the pinnacle of the manufactured lifestyle? It's a person's entire life rearranged to look perfectly happy and serene. Like, "Here's me and all my family and friends fully content and loving each other." When, in reality, it's probably a really stressfuly day where the bride is being a control freak and somebody's uncle is drunk and mom is being a bitch and the groom fucked a stripper last night (shout to Mario Lopez!).


@Reginal T. Squirge ugh, poor Ali Landry. That AC Slater is a skeeze.

@RK Fire-just make sure to not look at rando's wedding pictures on your phone and accidently "like" them. Not that this has happened to me or anything.

RK Fire

@Reginal T. Squirge: I think you hit the nail on the head. While I intellectually get the whole "modern wedding as performance" thing, even though I can remember that my own wedding had some serious family drama, and even though I don't think I looked great in my photos, I still can get caught up with the whole "oh, isn't she beautiful? isn't the wedding gorgeous and perfect?" thing.

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I also have a tendency to let things happen and just deal with it I guess. It's more difficult but also easier.

ms. alex

Sometimes I still have that moment of "I can go out on a "school" night and it totally doesn't matter!" and it is quite exciting.


Oh my gosh, is that COLOR in TLOOL? Or is color a frequent thing and I've not noticed till now?


@Lemonnier Right??? What kind of magical fridge is that????

Katie Heaney

@okaycrochet my excitement over colored fridge contents was, probably, inexcusable

Esther C. Werdiger

@Lemonnier (baby steps)


@Esther C. Werdiger I dig the baby steps! Occasional Color is SO cool.

I'm Right on Top of that, Rose

1) My mom made me a tea set when I was a kid and I still have it.

2) My niece is 3 and dresses full-up for her fake tea parties, tiara, fairy wings and elbow-length gloves included.

3) Sometimes I think my niece is better dressed for her fake tea parties than some of the people in wedding photos I see on Facebook.


I guess this is as a good a time as any to post this:


I AIN'T SCURRY i'm nice!


@nyikin Can I use this as my desktop photo?


@PistolPackinMama If you can get over the fact that I spelled relatability wrong, go for it!

seriously, it's bugging me so much now


@nyikin Usually, I can't tell when things are misspelled unless they have a squiggly red line under them, or are really obvious howlers. I am a terrible spellist.


@nyikin ..unless i was making a point about relatability by making a relatable spelling mistake.



@nyikin this is incredible

Esther C. Werdiger

and to think that I've been aiming for horror this whole time.


@Esther C. Werdiger For me, horror = Lynda Barry.


@redheaded&crazie wow, thanks so much! This is going to get all circle-jerkish, but you're totally the commentator that I 'thumbs up' most often :)


@nyikin see I've been going for scary so clearly this isn't working for me!

no but seriously, at least in a circle jerk everybody gets off right!

also venn diagrams are awesome and everybody needs to make more of them


@melis i fear because i love.


@nyikin I love this! Especially because of the horror-fear created by the Billfold. The whole tone of that site reads wrong to me.


@lagreen the billfold isn't in the horror-fear section! but schadenfreude is definitely a very accurate word for my reaction.

I love the billfold myself.


@redheaded&crazie Aaahhh--I see. Thx!


@lagreen Yeah, I mean no harm to the Billfold! It just makes me justify all my pointless expenses as prudent financial decisions, because at least I'm not dealing drugs, right?


@nyikin Naaaah, don't worry, it's not a real word anyway. I always cross out "relatable" in student essays and write in crazy red letters, "NOT ENGLISH!!"


That is the exact same spot in the 'fridge where I put white wine.

sarah girl

Last Friday I went to Ikea to pick up a lamp for my brother, and got there 20 minutes before closing time. It like, physically hurt to have to go through the store so quickly (and I of course went up to the showroom floor without thinking and could not figure out how to get out without winding my way through the WHOLE THING). Things! So many things! Cute things! Shut up and take my money, Ikea!


@Sarah H. I only go to Target 20 minutes before closing time because I know I have to get in and get out fast, but it doesn't work because I act like I'm on an episode of Supermarket Sweep and throw ALL THE THINGS in my cart.


@Slutface There is a Target just too close for comfort to my office. A lunch-break stop-in usually results in six bags under the label of "Stuff I don't need (but, hey! I'm here anyway)" and me walking out without the cat food and Method dish soap I went in for in the first place.


@Hellcat The first time I went into a Target and walked out empty-handed, I felt like I'd broken some sort of magical spell. WHAT IS THIS MADNESS I DIDN'T BUY ANYTHING oh wait it kind of feels good and now I don't have to make more space in the closet!

Also, @Slutface: Supermarket Sweep, hee!


@Slutface Ten seconds to go! Do I fill the cart with canned hams or just grab the inflatable bonus penguin and sprint to checkout?

You think I'm talking about Supermarket Sweep...

sarah girl

@Sarah H. Haha, I love this thread, especially because I just did the Target Walk of Shame.

It's when you walk into the store, look down and suddenly realize that every single item of clothing on your body was purchased at Target. Bonus points if your purse was, too.


@Sarah H. That would be pretty much every trip to Target for me.

@TheLetterL BONUS PENGUIN! No one needs that much canned ham.


@Sarah H. Been there.

@Xanthophyllippa Always Bonus Penguin.


Being able to do whatever you want is usually nice, but sometimes I really wish I could say I couldn't go to whatever social function because my mom won't let me. It was really the perfect excuse.


@angelinha it wasn't until I moved out that I realized how much of my intense introversion I was concealing with the excuse of "family commitment" and "sorry, strict mom!". when I had to start coming up with excuses or just straight up telling people I was feeling antisocial, it was so weird

that being said, freedom to do whatever is fantastic. spend the day eating goat cheese and crackers for all your meals? sure, why not!


@curiouscamel I still use the 'family commitment' thing. It's handy!

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@angelinha I blame things on my boyfriend constantly. People probably think he's a huge jerk, but he's just my convenient scapegoat.


@sniffadee this is amazing.


@CrescentMelissa Yes. I empathize. Sincerely.


Once I had hypoglycemia so bad I had to eat a peanut butter granola bar in the middle of a dentist appointment. Somehow being in a huge store and getting hit sounds much worse.


the dentist's all: *shakes head* *sighs*

at least, that's what i picture my dentist doing every time i eat/drink anything sugary which is all the time! I can't imagine having him right there watching


@redheaded&crazie I was alone for most of the time, thankfully. I was finishing it up when the hygienist or dentist came back (I can't remember which), but when I started apologizing, she was like, "Oh, do you get hypoglycemic? Me too!" :)

tea tray in the sky.

*tea set in the sky.*

Betsy Murgatroyd

I just ate an entire 6 oz container of Beecher's cheese curds and justified it with, "I'm an adult, I'll do what I like". And then I read this and felt completely validated.
Fortunately, I bought another container to specifically make Poutine.

Regina Phalange

Esther! May I ask what you are studying (for)?

I am a really passive person who is trying to be more self-directed (especially with regards to grad school/"my career"*), so if any 'pinners have advice...

*This is basically how I feel about adulthood, esp. w/r/t my job:

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@Regina Phalange Me too, me too!!! I desperately want to change careers but I'm absolutely baffled about how to proceed. THERE ARE SO MANY CAREERS HOW DO I EVEN.

I've heard a lot of people say that we're all faking it, which makes me feel better. Here's my favorite verse from "What Do You Hear in These Sounds?" by Dar Williams:

And I wake up and I ask myself what state I'm in
And I say well I'm lucky, 'cause I am like East Berlin
I had this wall and what I knew of the free world
Was that I could see their fireworks
And I could hear their radio
And I thought that if we met, I would only start confessing
And they'd know that I was scared
They'd would know that I was guessing
But the wall came down and there they stood before me
With their stumbling and their mumbling
And their calling out just like me...



I say "What." She says "Exactly."
I say "What. You think I'm angry, does that mean you think I'm angry??"

might be my favourite line.

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@sniffadee Oh, that's a good one. So many of Dar's songs have so many favorite lines. <3 her.



I often feel like I could have an entire day's worth of conversations just by quoting the contents of my iPod.

Regina Phalange

@jen325 @xanthophyllippa @sniffadee Ohhhh, man. I have no wisdom to add, only to heart you for the Dar Williams love. "Am I the habit you're too tired to break?" / "All that's left to chart is nothing less than your own heart" run through my mind coooooonstantly.

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@Regina Phalange
And February was so long that it lasted into March
And found us walking a path alone together.
You stopped and pointed and you said, "That's a crocus,"
And I said, "What's a crocus?" and you said, "It's a flower,"
I tried to remember, but I said, "What's a flower?"
You said, "I still love you."


@jen325 WHY do you bring up lines from the ONE SONG that can make me get all juicy-weepy first thing in the morning...

So to offset the weepies...

fondue with cheddar

@sniffadee I'm sorry I made you weepy first thing in the morning! That is a very weepy song, but a really good one! Actually, lots of her songs make me weepy (sometimes happy weepy) but that one particularly hits home since a bout of depression and being neglected/cheated on over a period of years.

Job, why must you make it impossible to watch videos with sound during work hours? I'm not familiar with that song!


@jen325 OH GOODNESS yes the happy weepies!

You should definitely listen to that song when you are not at the Job (mine doesn't allow sound either!)

ANND how about
Once I had everything, I gave it up
For the shoulder of your driveway and the words I never felt
And so for you, I came this far across the tracks
Ten miles above the limit and with no seat belt, and I'd do it again
For tonight I went running through the screen doors of discretion
For I woke up from a nightmare that I could not bear to see
You were wandering out on the hills of Iowa and you were not thinking of me...

For I woke up from a nightmare that I could not stand to see

fondue with cheddar

@sniffadee Wow. Dar is the best.


I have always wanted the tiny tea set from IKEA, and all the other tiny kitchen sets. So tiny! So perfect! So utterly useless!

So actually, the net effect of this comic is that next time I see one, I'll probably buy it and use the cups as salt pinch bowls. Also sugar! And other small things!


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