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Friday, May 18, 2012

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Friday Open Thread

What's everyone up to this weekend? Eat some fruit!



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EpWs

I am packing up my apartment (it's going...okay, HOW DO I PACK MY KITCHEN?) and trying not to freak out because I start my first this-is-real-life big-kid job on MONDAY. AAHHHH.

Tonight I am drinking margaritas on a patio because fuck packing, that's what.

noodge

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher packing is WAY overrated. I have historically only started packing about 48 hours prior to moving. And I've done just fine.

SarahP

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher We're moving in two weeks and I realized yesterday that I have NO IDEA how one packs a kitchen.

bloodorange

@SarahP I suggest hurling the dishes against the wall one by one while yelling obscenities. Problem solved.

EpWs

@bloodorange I like you.

SarahP

@bloodorange It will not be satisfying or effective! We buy non-breakable dishes because I am clumsy!

BadWolf

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher But oh, my god, your job is aaamazing! And packing is always, always better when one is a couple sheets to the wind.

ALSO DUDE THESIS EXCHANGE! We gonna do this up! Stand by, I'll send you an email over the weekend. I am actually giddy excited ;)

bloodorange

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher <3 :D

bloodorange

@SarahP Kill Them With Fire™?

Terrifying Wife-Avatar

@SarahP I misread as "how one packs a kitten" and thought "Yes, well, that would be challenging."

I need a nap, maybe.

EpWs

@BadWolf Yessssss I'm hyped!
@SarahP I'm pretty sure allll my shit is breakable because I have broken more of it than I'd like to admit. However, I think that if I throw my dutch oven against a wall, it'll be the wall that breaks. And then there goes my security deposit.
RELATED, how do we patch a hole in the wall where I mayyyy have accidentally hammered a nail THROUGH the plaster? Where is Ask A Handy Femme when you need her?

Lil Sebastian

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Meeeee tooooo! The only thing I am feeling very lucky about it my decision not to take any of the china we got for our wedding last year out of its boxes. But where do the pots and pans go? How do I not destroy our assortment of wineglasses?

EpWs

@Lil Sebastian I may throw all the pots and pans in a laundry basket and call it a day.
I am assuming all of my glassware is going to get shattered because even though I've been hoarding packing material these things just...happen?

Lustful Cockmonster

@Lil Sebastian Oh man, I wish I could come over there and pack all of you because PACKING IS MY FAVORITE. I am not even kidding. I love it.

Lily Rowan

My #1 tip is to use your towels and sheets and stuff to pack breakable items -- two things in one! Plus, your glasses don't get dirty from newspaper.

SarahP

@Nicole Sauvage@twitter Ugh don't remind me! We have cats and moving them will probably result in revenge-pee all over our new place.

EpWs

@bandgmeg WHERE DO YOU LIVE

meetapossum

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Newspapers! You can also get bubble wrap for not that much money at hardware stores.

TheLetterL

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Kitchen packing is the worst. My tradition is to do as much of it as possible while tipsy. Not enough to get clumsy, just enough to accept how terrible it all is. So margarita up, friend, put on some fun music, and THEN pack.

Also, seconding @Lily Rowan about using towels and other stuff as cushioning. Tissue paper and newspaper will do the trick. Then get yourself several big Rubbermaids and start tossing.

Lil Sebastian

@bandgmeg You are welcome to! We have to pack up into those storage cubes and move them 3000 miles, so it's a serious job.

Inkling

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher
If it's a biiig hole, buy a little tub of caulk and stick it in there (HAHA GET IT) but if it's a little hole, on a white wall, plug it up with a bunch of toothpaste.

WaityKatie

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Packing the kitchen is the worst. I suggest throwing everything out and starting over in the new place?

chnellociraptor

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Congrats on your big-kid job!

Ophelia

@Inkcrafter And if it's big enough that caulk or joint compound won't stay put/fill it (like, if the whole head of the hammer went through the wall), they make little wall patch kits, with this mesh stuff you stick on and plaster over.

ImASadGiraffe

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher When I recently moved, I wrapped breakables in plastic shopping bags. I refuse to pay for packing materials other than some boxes (and even then, I'd rather scrounge for months looking for cardboard boxes from work and stuff).

EpWs

@chnellociraptor Thank you! I'm nervous but excited, and am still trying to break my brain out of we'll-be-going-back-to-class-in-the-fall mode.
@SadGiraffe I have plenty of boxes for free, just too many breakable things.

fizzle

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I am also packing! I have, oh, I dunno, six days to throw everything I own into boxes where it will presumably break and/or molder. Packing is the terrifying.

melimania

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I hate packing too but have found that wine boxes with those dividers are great for glasses, vases, and all kinds of other breakables (and of course the wine). Good luck!

EpWs

@melimania Oohhh, boyfriend's roommate works at a liquor store, must remember to ask him to locate some of these for me. Thanks!

Hellcat

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Someone needs to invent packing supplies for this exact chore... like lightweight styrofoam/cardboard boxes in the shapes of portable cabinets and drawers. Same for bathrooms. In fact, same for all of the rooms!

jilt

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I always nest mugs - wrapped up in lots of paper - inside the larger pots, and tie the lid down. It saves space and keeps the mugs from going all over the place in the box. Also, I use fabric grocery bags as packing sleeves for pans, so I can stack them together without worrying about the nonstick.

EpWs

@Hellcat We are going to make ALL THE MONEYS with that idea. BRILLIANT.
@jilt Those are awesome ideas, thank you!

MsChilePepper

@SarahP If you're in the greater Seattle area, I'll volunteer to help you! I kind of love packing, honest to Pete!

Myrtle

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher If you're serious: You will need a) a piece of windowscreen larger than the hole b) wall-filler material, (one brand name is DAP) c) a length of sturdy, heavy thread, d)something with a straight edge, longer than the hole is wide e) a pencil or some such, longer than the hole is wide f)sandpaper, med and fine grits g)alcohol

Ingest enough alcohol to let your body know there is more coming, and soon!

Put a large gob of DAP on the crook of your finger.Put finger into hole and smear enough DAP around the *inside* of the wall bordering the hole, to throughly coat it.
Cut screening to a size that would cover the hole with about an inch overlap. Find the center of the screening and make a tented, "ghost" shape. Weave the thread in and out of a couple squares in the head of the ghost/screening mesh, then even the thread ends so both long thread ends are inside the ghost.Tie ends together firmly, as this is your handle.
Take another pull from the alcohol bottle. You're doin great!
Hold handle with one crooked finger. Push the ghost headfirst into and past the hole in the wall. Gen--tly pull back on handle, flattening ghost against inside of wall so that handle is centered in hole on your side of wall. Screen should be flat and on the inside of wall, and sunk into the ridge of DAP.
Grab pencil and put through handle. Gently twirl handle and thread loop will shorten until pencil is flat against your side of wall, but screening is no more than snug. Allow to dry several hours/overnight. Drink, as needed.
When dry, the screening forms a solid backside to the hole. You should now be able to spackle in more DAP to fill the hole and blend back onto wall. *Slightly* overfill to allow for shrinkage, allow to dry throughly, sand lightly (don't use too much pressure; let the next tenant knock the thing loose, not you) and paint.
Grab bottle and run like hell.

EpWs

@Myrtle You are a goddess among 'Pinners. All my thanks.

bloodorange

I am going to hang out with my dog and clean up my house (and undoubtedly look to Jolie for advice). I had enough kinky non-monogamous sex on weeknights this week! :D

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@bloodorange What is this "enough" word...? :)

bloodorange

@sudden but inevitable betrayal Let's say my crotch has limits and needs to recharge.

noodge

gah! love summer fruits! can't wait to get me some cherries!

EpWs

@teenie PEACHES. I have been dreaming about them all kind-of winter.

Bonita Applebum

@teenie Agreed. It is one of the best parts of living in Washington. I can eat my weight in cherries on the daily.

olivebee

@teenie Yes, cherries! A nutritionist once told me that cherries are the absolutely healthiest/best-for-you fruit there is. Plus, I enjoy spitting the pits out at a high velocity into my trash can like cowboys spitting into those old-timey metal cans.

noodge

YES! <3 cherries <3
Sadly, Mr. Teenie has discovered he's somewhat allergic to cherries, so he can't eat them anymore. But that means that my cherry addiction is an excellent tool to get back at him when he's been annoying me.
"mmmm, these cherries are SO DELICIOUS!!!! yum, I may just have to eat the WHOLE BAG!"

hellomynameis

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher grilled peaches. mmmm

dj pomegranate

@teenie fresh cherries = heaven. There is just no comparison.

JennyM

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I just bought my first batch of peaches yesterday, they were so good! I made a sriracha-peach crisp with them and it was delicious.

noodge

@JennyM
what is this magical sriracha-peach crisp you speak of? is there a recipe online?!?!?! it sounds FUCKING MAGICAL! does it also contain unicorn bacon?

EpWs

@JennyM TELL ME ABOUT THIS.

Gracefully and Grandly

oopsssssss accidentally deleted. BUT I said I love: peaches, cherries and nectarines. And that summer truly begins when I've had my first bowl of cherries. Summer Fruits! Gimme!

noodge

@Gracefully and Grandly
cherries are soooo reminiscent for me, i wonder if it's like that for some of you too? it completely takes me back to family picnics. I feel like a little girl again.

JennyM

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher @teenie

Sriracha-Peach Crisp

I had some for breakfast this morning, too, it's just as yummy after a night in the fridge.

Gracefully and Grandly

@teenie I have such strong memories of eating cherries! Most of them involve some sort of pit spitting though. They make me feel like a rascally kid again because I used to spit the pits at unsuspecting passersby or out a window(I was a really lovely child).

dj pomegranate

@JennyM I am seriously so excited about sriracha-peach crisp.

stonefruit

@dj pomegranate ME TOO ME TOO ME TOO

EpWs

@JennyM OH MY GOD I'M SO HYPED

purefog

@teenie Sour cherries. PAH!

TheDragon

@Gracefully and Grandly
I could never spit successfully. Then I started running competitively in one of the driest states in the USA. I now can spit like a CHAMP. Since I never got that out of my system, now I am a really lovely adult.

Mingus_Thurber

So glad this week is almost over. My beloved big dog died on Saturday, and I've had four twelve-hour shifts this week, so almost no downtime.

*sigh*

noodge

@Mingus_Thurber :-(
so sorry about your dog...

bloodorange

@Mingus_Thurber :'( pups.

EpWs

@Mingus_Thurber Oh no, I'm so sorry hon. That is a terrible week on top of a terrible, terrible event. *hugs*

anachronistique

@Mingus_Thurber Oh, that's awful. All the internet hugs.

Cavendish

@Mingus_Thurber I'm sorry. :( Hugs to you.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@Mingus_Thurber I'm so sorry. :(

paperbuttons

@Mingus_Thurber So sorry about your dog! :(

olivebee

@Mingus_Thurber So sorry about your dog! Hugs for you!

Lily Rowan

@Mingus_Thurber I'm so sorry about your dog.

julia

@Mingus_Thurber Oh this is the worst, we lost ours a couple of months ago. It's hard to lose such a good friend. Makes one hope for heaven.

smidge

@Mingus_Thurber Oh no! Not your lovely dog! I'm so sorry.

phillystout

@Mingus_Thurber Oh no :( I lost my dog 6 weeks ago and it still hurts. All dogs go to heaven. :'(

laurel

@Mingus_Thurber oxoxox(

AniaGosia

@Mingus_Thurber I am so so sorry. Dogs are just the best - I wish they could live much much longer than they do!

mabellegueule

@Mingus_Thurber So sorry :(

Hellcat

@Mingus_Thurber I'm sorry; that's terrible. Pets, man...

TheDragon

@Mingus_Thurber
I am so sorry. Losing a dog is so rough. Hugs.

Mingus_Thurber

@everybody: Thanks, y'all. I've been doing okay, then not okay, then okay. This is one of the not-okay days. I think I'll just drink all day (wine with CUBES!) and then, this evening, try to unfuck the habitat for the guests I have coming over tomorrow.

The worst thing about losing the Max-Zoats is the way my brain twitches toward the back door, or his food bowl, or his bed, at specific times of the day. Then I realize that I don't need to let him in out of the heat, or that he doesn't have to come in for the evening (he preferred to be outside, playing Braveheart, in any weather except hailstorms/tornado warnings), or he doesn't need dinner tonight. It's a series of small losses that's way worse than one big loss.

I was out of town, and my neighbor called to let me know he had just gone to sleep and not woken up. When I got home, he was lying in the same place, looking so peaceful. No signs of distress, no nothin'. He just laid down for his mid-day nap. It was the death he deserved: Max was a peaceful, sweet, laid-back, enormous dog with a soft spot for kitties and toddlers.

Tomorrow will be better, or maybe this afternoon will be better. I know things'll keep going back and forth for a while. It's just that the hours of bad-ness suck. I miss him so, so much.

Hellcat

@Mingus_Thurber Oh, man--I am tearing up over here, but what you've said is pretty much right on, and I remember feeling that exact way when I lost my 17-year-old cat a few years ago; every time I saw a certain pair of black DM boots on the floor out of the corner of my eye, they looked like teh shape of Tim sitting and I'd kind of be like, "Oh, hey you... oops, nope." And I'm glad that you at least know that it was an easy kind of passing for Max, and the kind that we all hope for for our pets.

Obviously, it will get easier and you'll get used to it. I'm afraid, though (in my case, at least), that it's never not sad, and never something I want to think too much about; it still feels bad--which, I guess, is just an indication of how much someone loved a pet. But it does feel "normal," eventually, if that makes sense. Just take care of yourself and, you know, have your freakouts and tears when you need to.

laurel

@Mingus_Thurber "It's a series of small losses that's way worse than one big loss." That was beautifully put and exactly so.

If you feel like putting one up, I'd love to see a picture of Max-Zoats on Pinpets.

SarahP

Four years ago today I met my husband! Four years and one day ago, I would have laughed in your face if you told me that by now I'd be married and buying a house. (We're buying a house!)

EpWs

@SarahP Hooray for buying a house! And for meeting your husband! That is all fabulous and lovely.

olivebee

@SarahP Congrats on all of that! Yay for happiness!

Donovanesque

@SarahP hey hey, congratulations~!

Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

i met the new girl at work a few days ago & i said to myself “she could be my annie hall” despite my not seeing that movie or even knowing what that means

okaycrochet

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood "new girl at work" kind of reads like "new york" if you are a sloppy speed reader, which indeed makes me think this girl is your Annie Hall. Now go watch the movie and hope to God your Paul Simon doesn't walk into work next.

lora.bee

@okaycrochet "Hello? I forgot my mantra."

Equestrienne

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood The fact that you even said that leads me to believe that you will get along well with Alvy Singer.

Lucienne

@Equestrienne Which is kind of a red flag for your chances of future happiness.

Barry Grant

@lora.bee "What we have heah, is a dead shawk."

WaityKatie

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood Was she wearing a lot of awkwardly mis-matched clothing?

Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

@WaityKatie she was wearing dress pants, a dress shirt, glasses slid down her nose and a cardigan hanging halfway off. i had to go hide behind a thing after talking to her in order adequately swoon.

WaityKatie

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood That does sound like Annie!

tessamae

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

"i had to go hide behind a thing after talking to her in order adequately swoon"

Awww, how adorable are you! :)

Inkling

@tessamae
- to adequately swoon
+ to hide-adjust boner
FIXED FOR HONESTY.

Bittersweet

@tessamae Having met him in person, I can confirm that Josh is, indeed, adorable.

(And now he's hiding somewhere, wondering if the old married lady is insane or just likes making people uncomfortable.)

anachronistique

IT IS SO NICE OUT IN BOSTON TODAY. Seriously mad that I'm not sitting on a porch with a frosty beverage right now.

SarahP

@anachronistique I can't even tell because I HAVE NO WINDOWS at work. :(

anachronistique

@SarahP Me either, but I went out to get soda and nail polish and lunch (and cookies) and I really did not want to come back inside.

cat_ballou

@anachronistique I may have just had lunch in the courtyard at the BPL. My cube/cage is not nearly as pretty.

boyofdestiny

@anachronistique I'm a few hours away from a grand tour of the rooftop/outdoor bars of Harvard Square.

Slutface

@anachronistique I'm in Boston too! I can't see outside though because I'm in a cubicle and there are no windows near me! Dreaming of frosty porch beverages...

SarahP

@boyofdestiny Does this include Daedalus?! I've always thought their rooftop looked really great, but was informed by my friends it's not worth going to drink-wise, so we never go.

Daisy Razor

@anachronistique I am out on my porch, but I have a toddler instead of a frosty beverage. (The toddler's toddler-like behavior caused me to drink all of my frosty beverages a little early this week.)

We're going to look for 4-leaf clovers in the backyard, but since we found one last week I don't think our odds are very good.

@boyofdestiny: Are you hitting Charlie's Beer Garden? Love that spot.

anachronistique

@boyofdestiny What places do you like best? I have to work commencement tomorrow but this knowledge will come in handy later.

cat_ballou

@boyofdestiny @SarahP I love the rooftop at Daedalus! You should totally go.

Bittersweet

@anachronistique I'm late to this conversation because I was sitting out on my patio in the Boston 'burbs with a frosty beverage, until it got too hot in the sun and I came inside for a bit.

I'll be at a conference in Harvard Square in 3 weeks, so a list of rooftop bars would come in wicked handy. (My knowledge of Harvard Sq is some 10-15 years out of date.)

noodge

this weekend is the famed "Kensington Kinetic Sculpture Derby" which is just a half block away from my house. And this year, Mr. Teenie has made a team, and they have made a kinetic sculpture, and I'm so excited to day drink and cheer him on and then wander around and see all my friends who I don't see enough but they're all going to be there because it's just so fun and GOD I'M GLAD MY SEMESTER IS OVER AND I CAN ACTUALLY HAVE A LIFE!!!

phillystout

@teenie I love the Kinetic Sculpture Derby! I'll be missing it this year because I have to work an event for my job though. Oh man, the weather is going to be perfect and you're gonna have so much fun. Drink a few Kenzingers for me!

travelmugs

@phillystout @teenie I'M GOING!

dale

Pinners!
My weekly cajoling for submissions of pet pictures is here.
Main tumblr page: pinpets.tumblr.com
Submission page: pinpets.tumblr.com/submit

My suggestion to you is to use the photo post option rather than the text post, as the text post doesn't always display the image properly in the feed? Or at least that's how it seems to me - you can still see them, but you have to click on the specific post to do so. Also remember to put 'submitted by (your pinner name)' so we know who you are!

Now, I haz the dumb as far as tumblr is concerned, because I'm a little old lady who's new to it, so if there's anyone who has super-awesome skills who'd like to help make both the 'Ask' link work, and add in a link to the 'Submit' page, I would be more than grateful. I've been trying to follow the tips I can find or that have been suggested here, but it's still failing on me.

likethestore

@dale Awesome, just submitted!

highfivesforall

@dale I submitted mine!

dale

@highfivesforall Just bear with me, my lovely work firewall doesn't allow me to log in to various things including tumblr, so I'll approve everyone's pics when I get home later!

whatsherface

@dale I just spent THE LONGEST time admiring everyone's pets. I want to smoosh all of their adorable faces right now!

Maria

@whatsherface Me too!
@dale Thank you for the Friday afternoon squee-fest. Submitted my favorite kitty.

highfivesforall

@dale You're awesome, thank you! This tumblr is a great idea.

TheDragon

@dale I am a 22 year old, so I should really be better at this technology shit then I am. HOW DO I SUBMIT?
I have an angel dog and gay kitties cuddling to show off!

dale

@The Kendragon If you go directly to pinpets.tumblr.com/submit, then there's a submission form right on that page. You have a spot to browse for your photo, and then a text box below to put your writeup in. But! You can also email me your pic & text and I can post it for you, and that email is pinnerpets at gmail. Just be sure to say 'submitted by Kendragon' so I know exactly who you are!

Scandyhoovian

The fiancé and I are doing mothers day stuff with both our moms this week (I was sick last weekend so we waited). Otherwise I plan on doing very little outside of wedding centerpiece planning and DJ estimate comparing (one came in at 3x more than all the others. Whaaaat.)

okaycrochet

@Scandyhoovian That DJ will follow you on your honeymoon, playing situation-appropriate tunes from a discreet distance to enhance the mood of every moment.

Scandyhoovian

@okaycrochet I think I would die laughing if that DJ also had a terrible sense of humor and a knack for awful timing. First romantic night alone on the honeymoon? "Welcome to the Jungle."

EternalFootwoman

@Scandyhoovian I would hire that DJ in a second.

KatieBarTheDoor

I'm visiting Chicago for the first time next week! What must I do? What should I NOT do? Is that Chicago city pass thing where you get into 5 major attractions at a discount a good idea?

I'll be there about 3.5 days and won't have a car. 

noodge

@KatieBarTheDoor
You must go to Blues on Halsted - best blues guitar I've ever heard there.

smackeroni

@KatieBarTheDoor you'll need to have a lot of deep dish pizza and greek food, it's a requirement.

EpWs

@KatieBarTheDoor Best thing I've gotten every time I've gone to Chicago is a three-day unlimited metro pass. I forget how much they are (maybe $18? Not too much, either way) but your transportation is taken care of!

Tropical Iceland

@KatieBarTheDoor Do you know anyone who lives there? If so, they can get free passes to all the museums through the library. Even if you have to pay though, Definitely go the the Field Museum and the Art Institute, which is my favorite art museum anywhere. Hang around Wicker Park for all the hipster shit, Earwax cafe there is really good. Chicago is one city where all the typical tourist shit is actually really fun to do. Deep Dish pizza is totally gross though.

smidge

@KatieBarTheDoor Improv Shakespeare at the iO theatre. It is the funniest thing in the world.

Maria

@KatieBarTheDoor Architecture boat tour is really fun.

Jane Marie

@KatieBarTheDoor Gino's East, Geja's, go to the beach at North Ave, to to The Wieners Circle at 2am.

olivebee

@KatieBarTheDoor If you want a cute, lovely little neighborhood with boutiques and good restaurants, go to Lincoln Square. Mainly, though, you should go there because of Merz Apothecary (I started a thread on the Hairpin about Merz a few months ago). It is the greatest place in the world. Delicious-smelling, organic, cruelty-free perfumes, lotions, soaps, candles, creams, shampoo, etc etc etc. You can get there on the Brown Line.

Other fun neighborhood with great shops & food: Wicker Park, which is on the Blue Line. Have fun in my city!!! You'll love it.

liverwortlaura

@KatieBarTheDoor generally the big pass is a good idea if you're a big museum person, but be aware several institutions are shut down for the coming half-week because of the NATO summit, including the Art Institute, so make sure you check websites so you know what's open. Hopefully within four days everything should be back on track. Merz is seriously awesome so yes, do that. Architecture boat tours yes. Lincoln Park Zoo is awesome and free. I feel totally left out and secluded on the far north side of the city, so don't have much other fun nightlife stuff to offer. But have fun!!!

New Commenter Name

@Tropical Iceland "Deep Dish pizza is totally gross though"
What whaaaat?
Clearly you don't know anything about pizza.

KatieBarTheDoor

@olivebee and everyone: Thank you! Super great tips from all! I am now very excited for museums, transit passes, music/improv/food, boats, zoos, and awesome cruelty-free organic stuff. (And I'll just miss NATO, phew!)

liverwortlaura

@Curiouser and curiouser oh, you can love pizza and hate deep dish. i think a lot of the deep dish in chicago is pretty gross, although pequods is an exception. the true chicago gem is flat crust, like you can get at pat's pizza on lincoln near... fullerton? diversey? excellent toppings on crust as thin and crunchy as a matzoh. amazing.

Myrtle

@KatieBarTheDoor Check if your home museum membership allows "reciprocals" to other museums; some do. Some of the paintings I saw at the Chicago Art Museum still haunt me in a good way. Another thing that fascinated me about the city was looking down at a street from a height and realizing horse-drawn wagons carrying blocks of ice in straw, must've seen pretty much the same view. And if you think you've ever had deep-dish pizza before, you have not. The Chicago stuff is a whole delish world to itself. I remember a place that looked like Cheers and they made their own root beer. I was a bit overwhelmed at seeing the amount of cheese-laden sausage product people were tucking into at 7am. Have fun, Katie!

Myrtle

@Myrtle "...the same VIEWS." Of the streets and architecture. sigh.

Danzig!

@KatieBarTheDoor Take a night and go to Kuma's Corner. You'll need at least an hour and a house to wait for table, at any given time of the week.

likethestore

I'm turning 27 tomorrow. I can't accept the fact that I'm now in my late twenties. I've really failed this whole adulthood thing and I feel like crap. Happy Friday!

dtowngirl

@likethestore
Happy Birthday! I'm turning 30 next week. I'm pretty excited, actually. Especially since I look better as I age (or so I tell myself...)

JadedStone

@likethestore woo! I turn 29 on Tuesday! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO US

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@likethestore Happy almost birthday! I think you're doing fine.

leonstj

@likethestore - Don't sweat it. As I began my late 20s, I had like, six months of "work experience" that did not being involve a hungover substitute teacher or putting hot tar onto highways in the summer sun, I never paid any bills on time, and I never knew if I'd have a paycheck by the time rent was due.

I've just started my 30s, and my apartment still sucks, but now it contains a nice stereo, lots of books, no angry landlord, beautiful memories, and like, 8-10 kinds of cheese. I have a 401k and a career, not just a job.

It wasn't because of some grand revelation or all new plan or anything. I just kept grinding out one day after the other, and one day I realized I'd kind of fallen into living an adult life which maybe wasn't the one I wanted for myself, but was one which honestly did make me feel good about the world.

Keep your chin up, and your whatever body part it's supposed to be in the old idiom to the grindstone. Life has a way of working itself out.

And happy birthday! Celebrate. Never forget that it's important to celebrate.

themegnapkin

@likethestore you're not in your late twenties until you're 29 1/2 (applying this logic to my 30s). Happy birthday!

oh, disaster

@likethestore Happy birthday! As far as I'm concerned, 27 is still mid-20s (I turn 27 in July).

likethestore

@leon.saintjean Thank you for the pep talk. That sounds great, especially the cheese.

aliceandstuff

@likethestore I am 27 now and I took it hard. The only thing keeping me going is that James Murphy did not get huge with LCD Soundsystem until he was 35. We have a little time left.

Scandyhoovian

@aliceandstuff I just finished off 27! I dreaded it going in but it ended up being a pretty awesome year. I hope perhaps it shall work this way for all the pinners!

Biketastrophy

@likethestore To make myself feel better, I definitely made 27 mid 20s. Now I'm 28, so yay late 20s?

H.E. Ladypants

@leon.saintjean This sounds awfully like my life in a lot of ways!

I am turning 30 soon but what I'm secretly celebrating is how okay everything is now. I have a clean place full of books, nice dinners on the table, a sweet man to snuggle in the mornings. It's not perfect (still don't have that career thing down) but it's a life and it's okay.

And it's the same thing. I just kept pushing and eventually things started to take shape.

Athough, if I ever did have any big revelations these would be them:
1) Life doesn't have set markers. There is no timeline. No set milestones. Just a life. Comparing "where you are" to where other people are is useless. There is really no such thing as "ahead" and "behind." Just lives.

2) Things are hard sometimes. Money. Illness. Death. Things can suck in a life. It's part of the package. Just remember to breathe.

It's not huge but realizing both of these things was very freeing to me.

WaityKatie

@likethestore Once you hit your mid-30's, you'll be happy just to still be alive. Plus, you might start actually liking wine. It's all upside.

Lucienne

@aliceandstuff Also worth considering: Toni Morrison didn't publish a novel until she was 39.

EternalFootwoman

@likethestore I turned 28 two weeks ago. Everyone I know (including people I trust very much) tells me that your twenties are for making tons of mistakes and that the idea of being a fully-formed responsible adult who has it together when you're in your twenties is laughable. I like this advice.

anachronistique

@likethestore I had a job interview the day before my 27th birthday. Since then I got the job, moved to a city I love, found a great apartment, and found out that I can be good at something I never thought I could do. I hope your 27th year is even more amazing. <3

AniaGosia

@likethestore Luckily, you haven't completely failed as long as you're alive. And keep in mind that you can do adulthood anyway you like! That's the whole thing with being an adult - its up to you how to do it.

wee_ramekin

@leon.saintjean I think the body part you're looking for is "loins". "Keep your loins to the grindstone", is how that saying goes.

[*No, it doesn't. Ouch.]

Passion Fruit

@leon.saintjean This response was so sweet, I loved it. 8-10 types of cheese -- you're living the life, man.

Hellcat

@likethestore Recently 41, you young people, and I assure you, it's all good (mostly) on this side of the... line? Fence? Grave?

@leon.saintjean I really love that you frequently work cheese into your posts! And thank you for reminding me that I have a wedge of brie in the refrigerator.

likethestore

Thanks everyone for the sweet comments. They really cheered me up today.

redheaded&crazy

long weekend in canada!

dale

@redheaded&crazie Party On, Wayne!
(I will be doing no such thing, but relaxing and being glad to be away from work, so please, other people, do feel free to party on my behalf)

Kulojam

@redheaded&crazie In Chile, too! Here it is the Glorious Navy Day or something like that. The "glorious" is definitely up in there. What you got?

all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

@redheaded&crazie Wooooo! Doing anything special for Our National Day of Celebrating the Monarchy? My plans include cleaning out all the dustbunnies under the bed*, and seeing if green tea will do anything beneficial for my hair/scalp/skin. PARTAAAAAAAY**!

*Hoping to impress another Clean Person aka my partner.
**I'll probably do both of these things while drinking beer & blasting The Gossip, so it won't be *that* boring.

Bittersweet

@redheaded&crazie Take off! Play some Beerhunter for me, eh.

redheaded&crazy

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy i am getting a poooooool open for the summmmmmmer

and taking in a jays game!

and going for a bike ride along the lakeshore :)

and drinking and also consuming other illicit substances :D

Lemonnier

I am currently walking around with crutches and an aircast on my ankle, and TWICE IN TWO DAYS men have looked at my disabled state and jokingly asked me if my boyfriend beat me up. WHAT THE HELL.

okaycrochet

@Lemonnier Just get a deer-in-the-headlights look and start crying. Whenever people make jokes on me that aren't appropriate, I become 110% serious and freak them the hell out. When I have to run the switchboard at work, the meanie callers who try to be mean/funny to me get punished by my grave persona.

EpWs

@okaycrochet PERFECT

SarahP

@Lemonnier It had to have been a way to get you to bat your eyelids and say "Oh, but I don't have a boyfriend!" Casual jokes about domestic violence are a great way to pick up chicks.

anachronistique

@Lemonnier The fuck?

However, aircasts are great.

Lemonnier

@okaycrochet I did ask one of them if he had been raised by wolves, but your suggestion is much, much better.

laurel

@Lemonnier This week, on a beautiful New Mexico day, I went out to a ranch that does horseback riding programs for disabled people to take some photos of kids from the local school for the deaf and do interviews for a little piece on their work. I interviewed a volunteer and at first he was great. He talked about sharing the love of horses with people who'd felt isolated or fearful. He said it was revelatory to him, how as a man he was used to forcing, like, mountain bikes or motorcycles to do what he wanted but that it was impossible with horses and that he was having to find a softer way. Then he followed that up with how the women he worked with at the staff were so much better at it "because they're so used to manipulating men."

The ranch director and I just groaned and did this perfect Buzby Berkeley mirrored spin away from him and walked away. Later I cropped him out of all the photos.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@laurel Barrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrf.

TheDragon

@laurel AHHHH!!!! FELLOW NM PINNER!
WHERE?
Sorry, there aren't many of us, so I geeked out for a second.

laurel

@The Kendragon SFe. I know, when I realized you were in southern NM I was all, "So yay and yet, so far!" But if you're ever of this way, please let me know. We could make Qream/chile smoothies or something. :P

TheDragon

@laurel
Sounds great! I'll be driving up in July on my way to Montana, maybe we could do lunch or something?
The only conundrum; Are these Qream/chile smoothies red, green, or christmas?

EpWs

@The Kendragon QRISTMAS. Come on, woman, we have standards here.

laurel

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher BURNNN

@The Kendragon Oh hells, yeah. As for the smoothies, maybe we could get some kind of layering thing going?

TheDragon

@laurel I like that idea. Qream Qristmas smoothies = you'll be puking before you're even drunk!

@Everpresent
Damn. I should have seen that coming a mile away.

redheaded&crazy

this week in pros/cons

pro: I told my supervisor I need to be paid on a regular basis.
con: nothing has come of it yet.
pro: but next step is to talk to my boss. movin on up

pro: I asked a boy out for a second date!
con: he rejected me
pro: I'm still proud of myself
con: not very impressed with his methodology

pro: it's a long weekend!
con: there is no con to this.

JadedStone

@redheaded&crazie are the crazy people outside with signs saying that we SHOULDN'T have the day off a pro or a con?

I feel maybe a pro because it's hilarious...

redheaded&crazy

@Jade I will take pro! Is this some anti-royalty thing?

no, there should always be long weekends. long weekends improve people's sanity.

JadedStone

@redheaded&crazie Yeah, I think it's something to do with the queen? SILLY PEOPLE. You think they'd enjoy a day off!

PS - if the juicebox rejected you he was a dick and GOODBYE.

redheaded&crazy

@Jade it's true, GOODBYE has been my response. there's legitimate reasons to reject me. but it's the way he went about it that was r.u.d.e.

Craftastrophies

@Jade My sister is coming back from Ireland for an event that's on our (Australia's) queen's birthday in June. All her Irish friends think that's hilarious apparently.

I am fairly anti-royalty. On the other hand, I'm pretty sure only about 10% of the population remember what the day off is for, despite the name. ALL THE LONG WEEKENDS!

Cavendish

I have a question about tampons and period supplies.

I have at least 4 friends who only use OB tampons, one size, and nothing else. How do they do it!?! I have two types of tampons, have to use a liner or I leak (how do you know when to change it?), and I use pads at night so I have a couple of sizes of those. Am I crazy? I feel like a period weirdo.

EpWs

@Cavendish I use two levels of tampons and liners all the time. You are not crazy.

BadWolf

@Cavendish Totally not crazy. I am, personally, a one-size OB type of gal, and I always thought I was the weirdo. My period is a "sound and fury, signifying nothing" event, if you follow.

OhMyGoshYouGuys

@Cavendish I have a similar system to you. Are your friends on the pill? That lightens things up. I could never get into OB even though it has a cult following.

meetapossum

@Cavendish I buy the variety pack of OB and also use pads at night, so I don't understand your friends either.

maybe partying will help

@Cavendish

I use a Divacup with a pad, always. Even when I was on the pill those were my necessary objects. I would LIKE to be a one-menstrual-item gal, but alas.

Scandyhoovian

@maybe partying will help My birth control took me from "all the varying sizes of tampons plus a liner" to "the smallest tampons only, no liners necessary." I don't know if it works that way for everyone, but it has done magic for me.

oh! valencia

@Scandyhoovian Mine has now taken me to "pantyliners only" territory. it's pretty awrsome. (But I used to be like your weird friends, @Cavendish.)

thebestjasmine

@Cavendish That's me, OB regular all the way only. I'm on the pill, but have always been like that (I think I've used a super occasionally on the first two days, but only when I've had them because I had to buy the combo pack).

The Lady of Shalott

@Cavendish I have a variety of OB sizes, plus pads and liners. (Actually what I have this month is a gynecologist appointment for a fucked-up weird ten-days-of-spotting, but no-real-period period. That spawned a fear of pregnancy. That was hopefully unwarranted.)

H.E. Ladypants

@Cavendish Part of me wonders if it also has to do with the shape of a lady's insides, as well as the heaviness of the flow? I use the OB multipack and nothing else and that works fine for me. The Super Plus ones are fine for even overnight. (The regular sized ones, though, are last day only. Sigh.)

EternalFootwoman

@Scandyhoovian What tampons do you use? I am the crazy girl who stands in the feminine hygiene aisle muttering bitterly that NOT EVERYONE NEEDS SUPER-FATTY TAMPONS. For the last day and a half of my period, the regular tampons are a little too much, but it seems like that's the smallest size available.

Scandyhoovian

@EternalFootwoman Tampax Pearl, the small purple-packaged ones. They're about as small as the smallest OB ones as well but for some reason the stores I shop at aren't consistently stocking OB lately.

terrific

@Cavendish I've got the OB Party Pack, and that's it, but I'm on the pill. It makes things nice and even, for me. In my less heathen days I was a regular period pro, with multiple sizes of pads, multiple tampons, panty liners, the whole shebang. You know how some people have a wrapping station? I needed a period station.

Megasus

@Cavendish Tampons can never handle mine. Either too light or two heavy. I'm unpredictable like that.

gobblegirl

@Cavendish I am a one-sizer right now because I bought a really big box on sale. I just change them more frequently on some days. Also, OB4lyfe.

Cavendish

@terrific I totally have a period station. Heh.

I'm guessing all my friends are on the pill then! Thanks for letting me know about your systems, ladies!

Beaker

BAY AREA PINNERS! WHO IS EXCITED FOR BAY TO BREAKERS THIS WEEKEND?

I'm super excited (obviously)!

snakejuice

@Beaker I'm excited that I'll be at an apartment on the route near Alamo Square, drinking champagne in my plain clothes in close range of a toilet. Cheers!

Tropical Iceland

I have been sitting on the floor for two hours now and I do not plan on moving nor listening to anything besides Melissa Etheridge and other lesbians because it's THAT KIND OF DAY.

K, but for real I need to get up and apply for this job and go buy a futon and go to my leasing office. Juuuust as soon as my legs no longer feel like they are made of sand. Until then I will be handling all my business from the floor in front of the couch and you all know where to find me if you need me. It's just a simpler place down here, y' know?

EternalFootwoman

@Tropical Iceland My floor and I have a special relationship. All the chair-sitters don't know what they're missing.

BadWolf

Y'all, this week was BANGIN'! Graduated my dreadful program with my lovely degree, at LAST! And I introduced the boyfriend to the parents at the ceremony, and they all liked each other! And a good, celebratory time was had by all! I am kind of bowled over by how much I love my friends, and my family, and even my advisor, who FINALLY told me my thesis was "very good." And by how relieved I am that I never have to see most of my classmates ever again. And how gorgeous it is outside, and how all I have to do at the moment is drink with people who are wonderful. I might seriously explode with happiness.

EpWs

@BadWolf Yay yay yay yay yay yay yay! You are the best and you are DONE. Drink with lovely people!

Equestrienne

@BadWolf There are far too few moments in life where we feel we might explode with happiness. Enjoy, you!

liverwortlaura

@BadWolf I am so happy for you! And I want to channel all this kick-ass graduation energy into my own life! ONE MORE MONTH

BadWolf

@liverwortlaura YOU CAN DO IT! ALL THE COFFEE! GO GO GO! And big pre-emptive congrats, because you are totally going to kill this school thing dead, I know it.

paperbuttons

Friday Say Anything: This week I got all dressed up in my hot black jeans and my Michael Jackson jacket and went out to what was basically a cool kid party in a warehouse/gallery. I was one of the oldest/least cool people there, but tried to overcome my out-of-placeness by drinking steadily and forcing myself to talk to seemingly friendly people.

At one point I went to pee in the bathroom, laying down toilet paper on the grimy seat. I checked myself out in the mirror, I looked fine, whatever. Then I went back out and stood talking to a girl I vaguely knew, my back to the large crowd. It was about 25 minutes into our conversation that I guess I ran my hand down my own back and paused at some weirdly textured thing that seemed to be coming out of the top of my pants.

Yes, it was a foot long tail of crumpled toilet paper. Yes it was coming up out of my underwear and billowing slightly behind me. Yes everyone had seen it.

AND THEN I RAN UNTIL I DIED.

paperbuttons

@paperbuttons Actually I froze, tucked it back into the top of my pants, and then busted out laughing. The girl I was talking to was like "Uh, what?" So I told her, and five other girls, who were HORRIFIED.

It was kind of great actually.

elysian fields

@paperbuttons I have done this. I've also done the thing where you tuck the back of your skirt into your underwear and walk around obliviously with partially-exposed buttcheeks for 15 min. or so until someone tells you that your undies are exposed. Yep. Precious, precious memories.

SarahP

@paperbuttons YOU ARE THE BEST.

Lemonnier

@paperbuttons I AGREE THAT YOU ARE THE BEST.

datalass

@elysian fields I'm wearing a kind of poufy skirt today, which means that I can't really feel it against the back of my legs, which in turn means that each time I walk down the hall there's a point at which I stop and frantically grab at my own ass to make sure it's covered. Very chic, as I'm sure you can imagine.

BadWolf

@paperbuttons I AGREE ALSO. THE BEST.

laurel

@paperbuttons Every time I fall down or trail toilet paper or whatever I think, "There, done. I've done my [embarrassing thing] for the year. I don't have to do it again for 12 months."

Girl Named Jack

@elysian fields I did that once, when I was in 5th grade. It was pretty much the worst day of my life up to that point. And possibly for a few years afterward.

Equestrienne

I'm eating honeydew and drinking carrot juice right now! But make no mistake, I just inhaled a half pound of chorizo for lunch. Bachelorette party tonight with a bunch of girls that don't really seem to like me. I have no idea why I was invited.

anachronistique

@Equestrienne Half pound of chorizo sounds like a perfect lunch to me.

meetapossum

@Equestrienne Honeydew's the money melon.

Girl Named Jack

@anachronistique Seconded.

Girl Named Jack

@Equestrienne Also, hanging out with people that don't really like you like you? Ugh. It's SO TIRING for me, I dunno. I feel like there should be a card for that that you can just give people. "I know you don't like me like me. Please don't feel obligated."

charlesbois

@Equestrienne know how I like to handle the invitation by people who don't like me? Strike up really witty and involved convos with people at the bar who are NOT part of your party, and spend all your time ignoring those juiceboxes who do not like you.

Equestrienne

@charlesbois I really dig your idea, and this is something I can definitely see myself doing.

Xanthophyllippa

@Girl Named Jack I did actually say something like that to someone once. She blinked and was all, "Oh. Okay." And then we smiled at each other and walked away happy.

elysian fields

Hey New Yorkers! I am here for the summer and I have a question. What are your favorite places to shop for clothes and/or shoes in Manhattan? I'm looking for stuff like cute skirts, simple but nice-looking t-shirts, and some basic but good-quality flats. Also, I am on a grad student budget, so anyplace nutso expensive is out. Thanks!

smackeroni

@elysian fields go down broadway in soho but not on a weekend

LabRat

@elysian fields Nolita has a few boutiques that can be affordable, and hella cute, but you really have to look for things that don't break the bank.

twocats

@elysian fields If you're looking for staples on a budget, I would suggest some of the larger discount stores - Century 21, H&M, Zara... boring but dependable. Also, what about Brooklyn? Buffalo Exchange has some reasonably-priced and cute second hand stuff.

H.E. Ladypants

@elysian fields New York shopping can be a tear-inducing experience if you are on a budget. Discount stores are probably your best bet.

Daffy's and Century 21 can be great but they require some patience, as you'll be wading through a ton of hastily organized stuff. Uniqulo is good for t-shirts and jeans. H&M is your buddy but make sure to look at what you're buying since quality varies a lot. If you can stick your head into Strawberry without wanting to stab your eyes, they can be good for things like tights and leggings and occasionally they have some okay dresses. (I got this insanely cheap Calvin Klein dress to wear for a wedding this weekend there. So weird.)

Shoes- go to the DSW on Union Square and head for the sale racks in the back.

Marquise de Morville

@elysian fields For basics I'd recommend Uniqlo. My favorite cheap flats are from Old Navy, they last forever and are very comfortable with drugstore insoles. Loehmann's (W70s) and DSW are nice for bargains, too. I second that you go shopping during the morning on a weekday if your schedule allows.

Emma Peel

@elysian fields Don't overlook J. Crew sales. I renovated my closet earlier this year almost entirely with stuff on sale there and I think exactly 2 things in it cost more than $40 apiece. They put out new stuff all the time so they already have very summery things on sale, and honestly it's perhaps $10/piece more than H&M and holds up way better.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

I am getting out of fucking Pittsburgh (<3 u, Burghie, but I am sick of you right now) and going to Wine Country and drinking all the wines with some of my favorite women in the whole world. FUUUUUCK WORK, is what I'm saying.

olivebee

@sudden but inevitable betrayal Ooh that sounds delightful! Have fun!

(And I love Pittsburgh much more from afar than I did when I lived there).

Passion Fruit

@olivebee Huh, really? I heard Pittsburgh was really awesome and hip, and I am considering applying to school there...

olivebee

@Passion Fruit Definitely apply to school there because the cost of living can't be beat for a city. I should have been more clear about what I meant, but I grew up there and was SO BORED because at the time, Pittsburgh was known for being an aging, old-folks city. It's also very small and has (almost) zero public transit, so I was like, what the hell is there to do for a teenager around here? But I moved to Chicago for college 6 years ago, and then all of a sudden Pittsburgh started showing up on all these lists of best places to visit and live, and because of that, a bunch of young people moved there. So in quite literally less than a decade, Pittsburgh has gotten infinitely more hip, artsy, and youthful than it ever was when I lived there. (Read: this also means a ton of gentrification has happened).

I love to go home to visit and really enjoy it in small-ish doses, but it's still just a bit too limited and limiting for me, personally. Everyone I know who isn't originally from there, however, and has moved or traveled there, LOVES it.

Which school are you looking at?

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@Passion Fruit I've been here almost 10 years and I really love it (but my dude is chafing to leave, so we're in our last year here). There's a lot of great stuff going on and coming in here, but there's a lot of bullshit too. Gentrification, like olivebee mentioned. Apparently developers got together and decided what Pittsburgh is really lacking is ugly, expensive "luxury" rentals. Which - gross. And public transit is being gutted, which sucks if you don't have a car.

But it's super cheap to live here (cheaper to buy than rent, in some areas), there's a good amount of green space, good art scene, fantastic accent/local slang. :) It's a very cool city.

maybe partying will help

So early you come to us, dear Open Thread!

Weekenddddd I am going to have hot dogs and buy tea tomorrow. And discuss The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks with cool ladies on Sunday. And read the 15th Animorphs book and probably watch another Jean Claude Van Damme movie tonight.

#thuglife

maybe partying will help

@maybe partying will help

ALSO I am excite because Nightwish is coming to a city near me in September and Kamelot is touring with them and even though Roy Khan AKA my husband has left the band, they still kick ass live and it will have been a lengthy concert drought for me since The Sword in December.

This has been a long, boring sentence. Thank you.

...fellow power metal Pinners?

alannaofdoom

@maybe partying will help I LOVE THAT BOOK SO MUCH THAT I INSTANTLY FLIP INTO ALL-CAPS WHENEVER ANYONE MENTIONS IT. Deep breath, okay, I'm lower-cased again. Frankie! That book makes me want to have a daughter so I can give it to her. Or... give copies to random girls on the street? (Which of those is the worst idea?)

Xanthophyllippa

@maybe partying will help Finnips! Inpeas!

maybe partying will help

@alannaofdoom

I dunno, I'm all for giving books to random anyones on the street. I don't want to have kids, but I have a thirteen-year-old cousin and buying her books for Christmas is my favorite hobby. I went on kind of a Lockhart binge and am reading all the Ruby Oliver books out of order. :B

runner in the garden

@maybe partying will help - listening to Blind Guardian right now

Nicole Cliffe

My mom is arriving from Canada in FOUR HOURS, and then we're gonna hang out and drink wine and play with the baby and basically perfect happiness.

@serenityfound

I'm probably buying a television, because my dumbass dude roommates finally decided that the 64" TV in their tiny bedroom is too big, got rid of it, and have now reclaimed the one in our living room. There goes my scooter savings!

Hellcat

@@serenityfound But why didn't they just put the big one in the living room? That is where big TVs go!

@serenityfound

@Hellcat Because they're dumb? Needed money? I honestly have no idea, because I didn't know about it until after that tv was already gone. I came home one day and they'd switched out the couch in the living room for one of their futons, then a week later they sprung this on me. ....and it's not at all unlike them.

Hellcat

@@serenityfound UGH, ROOMMATES! Never again!

camanda

FRIDAY! Today is actually my Sunday, though.

I'm having some family drama involving money. My grandmother has offered to help me buy another car. I really really really wanted to say no, but my mother convinced me to talk to her about it, and it's turning into the shitstorm I predicted it would be. My grandmother's a giant drama queen anyway and always has to make a bigger deal out of everything than it is, but I can see where this is going and I'm really tempted to tell her to forget it. That's not going to end well, either. I HATE MONEY.

I have spent today doing things like rescuing a bird (dead) and a garden snake (alive) from the puppy, which about sums up my week, personally and at work.

Ti:Sapph

Apparently the Australians let you apply for a Temporary Residency visa totally online. It is deceptively simple and straightforward. Surely I'm forgetting something and this is going to blow up in my face. Surely.

Inkling

@Ti:Sapph
Surely you are forgetting A CLOCK SPIDER.
http://failblog.org/2012/05/14/engrish-funny-engrish-funny-baz-whats-for-dinnah/

ohnoohno

Who's got a good endocrinologist in NYC? Tell me all about him/her!

Also, this was one hell of a week and I am glad that it is almost over.

OhMyGoshYouGuys

Meeting the BF's parents this weekend. I am NERVOUS. What are some good conversation topics?

JadedStone

@Mere Just be interested in WHATEVER it is they do. Find out their hobby and then be friggen intrigued if it kills you.

EpWs

@Mere Avoid politics and religion until it's well established that you share the same views. If you don't, AVOID AVOID AVOID.

Ask the boyfriend for help!

OhMyGoshYouGuys

@Jade Ok, I'll try that. I'm sure they're lovely people because he is so great. I just want them to like me.

likethestore

@Mere If in doubt just ask to hear baby stories.

EpWs

@likethestore PERFECT

phillystout

@likethestore Indeed. My MIL will go on for hours with baby stories. It makes her day to tell them.

OhMyGoshYouGuys

@likethestore Or baby photos of the BF. THAT I would love to see.

sarah girl

@Mere Get your BF to prep you ahead of time with some topics - their jobs/basic interests, maybe recent changes to their house, stuff like that. Then you can say things like "So, [BF] mentioned that you guys just took a trip to Italy - I've always wanted to go, how did you like it?"

It shows that your BF is talking kindly about them (win), that you pay attention when he talks about them (win) and that you're genuinely interested in your BF's family (win). Wins all around!

OhMyGoshYouGuys

@Sarah H. You've obviously done this before. I'll get them to talk about their new grand baby even thought babies are my least favorite conversation topic.

EternalFootwoman

@Mere Yeah, even if you have nothing else to discuss, grandbabies are an awesome topic. The grandparents get to tell ALL THEIR STORIES, thus saving you from having to come up with topics of conversation, and you can get by with minimal contribution (just smile and agree that whatever they're telling you is, in fact, the cutest thing you've ever heard).

JadedStone

My boyfriend's dad is coming down to visit tomorrow and I have settled on tangerine coloured jersey knit capri's.

To match the pants I have painted my toes a RIDICULOUSLY bright yellow.

That didn't seem enough so I put tiny fruit all over my big toe nails.

I feel all this needs a decorative head scarf to really pull the look together.

I have no idea what this look is. Early Rhianna meets Jack Sparrow chubby chic.

SarahP

@Jade I want to see your toe nails so much right now.

EpWs

@Jade "Early Rhianna meets Jack Sparrow chubby chic" is not only perfect, it's making me keel over with laughter.

Bonita Applebum

@Jade Ain't no half steppin' with you, sister. Sounds brilliant.

smackeroni

@Jade Amazing.

BadWolf

@Jade Any time you can look in the mirror and say, "Jack Sparrow chic," you have obviously made at least one, if not many, right decisions.

olivebee

This week I made my final student loan payment AND opened an IRA! It was a very fiscally freeing week for me.

Also, I am so excited for Monday to come because I am getting my next tattoo! It's going underneath the one that I currently have cascading down from my shoulder, so it will end up making it a half-sleeve. Yayy!

EpWs

@olivebee WHOA go you! Those things are all amazing! What's the tattoo going to be?

SarahP

@olivebee CONGRATS! Paying off student loans deserves much celebration; I hope you'll be rockin' out this weekend!

anachronistique

@olivebee YAY TATTOOS. What are they of?

sarah girl

@olivebee Hooray for paying off your student loan!! I still have a ways to go, but I just paid off my car and one of my credit cards; such a liberating feeling, even though it means I haven't been able to afford little things like fun new shoes for a while. Frustrating, but worth it to not have those bills hanging over my head!

olivebee

@Sarah H. Congrats to you as well! It is most definitely liberating (but I also feel way poorer now, so yeah...no more fun nights out for awhile).

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher @anachronistique It's going to be a spotted doe! That arm is my Nature Arm, because I already have mountain laurels on my shoulder and a silver maple leaf on my wrist. So Monday is the spotted doe, and then to fill in the space between the doe and laurels (so to complete the half-sleeve) I will eventually get a bird, once I choose the species of bird to get.

I chose a doe because a. they are pretty and b. I'm an animal activist, and I wanted to get an animal that represents the mistreatment of mankind towards animals, but a cow or pig wouldn't jive with all the flowers and leaves, so...

EpWs

@olivebee A cow or a pig would TOTALLY jive, but the doe sounds absolutely lovely! My older brother has a Nature Arm too--full sleeve, full color, lots of animals and things--and it's gorgeous. I'm sure yours will be amazing!

Lemonnier

@olivebee Congratulations on paying off your loan! I have another 3-4 years on my loans, and can't wait until I'm done with 'em!

anachronistique

@olivebee If I saw you I would go OH MY GOD AN ARTEMIS SLEEVE.

sarah girl

There is a strawberry festival in walking distance of my apartment tomorrow! I am excited to check that out.

Donovanesque

@Sarah H. That sounds almost ridiculously pleasant and cheerful. :)

AJ Sparkles

@Sarah H. Oxnard??? Say it is so! I've been looking for "not quite LA" pinners with no luck so far!

Girl Named Jack

I'm going to Copenhagen next week for a few days, and then Reykjavik for an overnight/long layover. Anyone have suggestions as to where to go/what to see/etc. etc.?

Also, can I just say, I am having minor anxiety about the potential for any activity that would reveal that I am not very good on a bicycle, and therein could cause some sort of nightmare scenario where a crowd of fit Danes all stop to giggle at the fat American.

(The ultimate irony is that I am the bike/ped coordinator at a transportation council. Perhaps that is relevant.)

liverwortlaura

@Girl Named Jack do you knit?? if you do there will be plenty of nice yarn stores. also, this is maybe strange, but one of my favorite things to explore in foreign cities is grocery stores.

@serenityfound

@Girl Named Jack Yay, Copenhagen! It is a nifty/pretty city. The touristy things would be Tivoli (if it's open for the season yet), going to see the Little Mermaid, taking a canal boat tour, etc. I recommend also checking out the Royal Library/Black Diamond because it's a nifty building, there's a pretty garden in the back, and it's attached to the Danish Jewish Museum. Also, find as many bakeries (they have a funny little gold pretzel wearing a crown shingle out front) as possible and eat all the things. I still dream of cinnamon snegls. Also, parks! Carlsberg Brewery! Just walking around!

And don't worry too much about the bike thing. It is a great city to bike around (and you can rent them at little stations around the city!), but it's by no means required ;)

Girl Named Jack

@liverwortlaura I don't knit, but I like the tip about the grocery stores. I'm staying with friends, so I will definitely make them go shopping for food with me so I don't eat them out of house and home.

@serenityfound I am all about the gardens! And eating ALL THE THINGS. I am doing the paleo thing, and I was going to try to keep it up while I'm there, but then my boyfriend reminded me, "there's a reason we call them danishes." So, there will be a paleo-reprieve.

Danmark Ødelægger Alle!

@Girl Named Jack I second all of serenityfound's suggestions! You might want to visit Freetown Christiania as well, it's a pretty cool place.

@serenityfound

@Girl Named Jack Don't even bother trying to be paleo. There are too many delicious things made of starch and covered in poppy seeds for that to work. On the grocery store topic, if you want a lulzy experience find the international/American foods store and laugh at how much peanut butter and related items cost.

@serenityfound

@Danmark Ødelægger Alle! I forgot about Christiania! Probably because I only went there once and it was kind of...dead. The history of the place alone is well worth the visit, though.

....good heavens, I miss Copenhagen. Take pictures and report back, @Girl Named Jack!

districter

@Girl Named Jack The apt I rented for a few days there came with bicycles you could use. I took it out once in the late evening when there was light traffic. I was such a wimp; bicycles were flying all over the place I thought I was just going to get in everyone's way and cause a minor disaster. So I took the bus/train everywhere and did just fine.

I did go out to the Louisiana Museum modern art, which was a short train ride and rather busy on the beautiful day I went, but the sculpture garden overlooking the sea was THE GREATEST. Did the usual things too, Rosenborg Slot, canal cruise, the national art museum which I really enjoyed (Statens Museum for Kunst), Tivoli, and staring at fashionable people carrying carts full of babies on their bicycles.

The food was so good! You will have a great time! Also dress warmly, I was there in June and the weather was so erratic from sunny to rainy to freezing within 20 minutes.

SlightlyOverboard

@Girl Named Jack Since no one had any Reykjavík suggestions I'm just gonna go ahead: If you can get out of the city, go for a hike, since the weather is just getting spring-y and kinda cool and it just smells so nice and fresh all the time! Find a way to get to Esja, seriously. Walk around downtown, visit Harpa, the new concert hall, eat fish, stay out partying all night... Truthfully, what are you interested in? Food, culture, shopping? Tell me and I'll suggest more.

ETA: Oops, missed the long layover bit. The Blue Lagoon is a must then.

noodge

OH! and Philly Pinners: don't forget about our Pinup at Frankford Hall at 12 noon on Sunday! bring your sun hats if you have 'em!

Wrecking Ball Gown

Also, Indianapolis Pinners: our (first?) Pinup is tonight at 8 pm at MacNiven's (bar side) on Mass Ave. I'll be there and hope to see some fellow Pinners!

P.S. @teenie Sorry for the thread jack -ish (hopefully it wasn't meant to be Philly-specific but rather Pinup-specific).

noodge

@Wrecking Ball Gown yes! pinup specific!

whateverlolawants

@Wrecking Ball Gown See ya there!

OhMarie

Y'all, I am going to Wine in the Woods tomorrow. This is a big wine festival in central Maryland, in the woods, that features only wine made in Maryland.

It is 99% terrible, and bad wine hidden by other rando fruits is quite common, but it's still super fun and Springtimey and outdoors!

Lil Sebastian

@OhMarie Oooh I wanted to go, but transportation issues! My friend and I are going to an outdoor wine bar in DC with bocce courts instead. It's just not the same though! I'm actually going to Columbia tonight though, to see the Black Keys at Merriweather, eeee!

OhMarie

@Lil Sebastian That sounds great too!!

cuminafterall

@OhMarie I too will be in Columbia this weekend! But it's to clean out my mom's laundry room :/

EpWs

OH (commenting too much on Open Thread, ahwell), I'm running my first race tomorrow! It's just a 2k, but I get to run it with my dog (hooray!) and considering I couldn't run a block without feeling like death a few months ago, this is huge for me!

Running 'Pinners, where you at?

JadedStone

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher WOOOOOO!!!!! GO YOU!

I run away from zombies in zombie run.. but only inside on my trampoline. I'm afraid to go outside because I live in one of those towns that seems to be populated ONLY with very fit runners who are always outside in their lululemon gear.

SarahP

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Enjoy! I LOVE when people run with dogs, because the dogs always look so happy!

I run, but not long distances, and never in races. I am sort of sheepish about it, actually. But I do run a few times a week! (Less now that I've taken up hot yoga.)

olivebee

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I'm running my very first race (5k) next Thursday and I am in the same boat as you (i.e. NOT a runner, feels like death, etc.). I wish you the best of luck!! Also, I am super jealous that you at least get the company of your dog. I will just be surrounded by 59,999 athletic Chicagoans :(

swamp hag

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I just started running again after...two years of slacking? I got really into it over the summer a couple years ago and then got a job and moved out of my mom's, so having a Real Adult Life got too distracting. That's awesome that you're doing a race and get to bring your dog! I hope I can get to that point someday. Congrats!

EpWs

@olivebee YEEK that's terrifying. You'll do great though! Some friends and I are hoping to do a 5k in August here in our town--it's at night, downtown, and I've wanted to do it for a while so I'm pretty excited!

Cat named Virtute

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Oh! I've been meaning to ask in an OT about starting running for a while! I am the most un-inclined person when it comes to physical activity, but I'd like to give running a try to get rid of some of my excess energy and sleep better. Right now running makes me want to die and I have no proper running shoes. Do you have any helpful tips?

Beaker

@Jade Do you use that "Zombies, Run!" app? How is that? I was tempted by it but I wasn't sure if I would just get bored of it or not... I tend to get bored running anyway, haha.

Emma Peel

@Cat named Virtute Everyone will pile on and recommend Couch to 5K. It seriously, seriously works, though. Basically the idea is you alternate running/walking for awhile, until the running makes you not want to die, and suddenly you go from wanting to kill yourself after a minute to being able to run 20 and it's not even that hard. I did a modified version (basically the first 5 weeks, then I just started doing 20- to 25-minute runs) and ran my first 5K this week. I sort of wanted to die, but only because DC decided THAT was the day to start being humid and summery.

There are a bunch of apps that can help with it, as well as podcasts, but all you reaaaally need is a timer of some kind. As for "proper running shoes," I wear just generic exercise shoes, as I didn't want to buy running shoes until I was more committed to running. They worked fine.

Biketastrophy

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher How do you run with your dog! My dog is pretty well behaved (though energetic) and if we're walking I'm all Dog Whisperer you walk beside me hold the leash close but running that doesn't work, and then sometimes she runs in front of me before I can pull the leash tight. Luckily that hasn't resulted on both of us collapsing in a heap, but I have ACCIDENTALLY kicked her a few times, which is obviously not ideal.

AniaGosia

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Yeah! Awesome! You and the dog are going to rock it.

Xanthophyllippa

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I'm doing a mud run on Sunday (5 miles + obstacle course + mud pit) but I have a pulled hammy and am in pain. :( I went for a run yesterday and it wasn't too bad, though, so maybe I'll be fine.

EpWs

@Xanthophyllippa Yowch, take it easy.
@Biketastrophy He is very content to trot just ahead of me and slightly to the left--I don't run very fast, so he doesn't have to break out into a full-on run. I think if we were doing that he'd get more OMG RUNNING and have a more varied pace, but since I'm going slow and he's just trotting we do okay.

JadedStone

@Beaker oh, zombies run is AMAZING. It plays a snippet and then it plays one song from your library and repeat for about 30 min.

What's neat is that the storyline is super engaging. You want to do the next one cause you're like What the heck is going on? Like, you don't know who you are? Maybe there's a conspiracy? Who had the rocket launcher? Somebody is a spy, IS IT YOU?
Plus, this voice is like "COLLECTED BANDAGES" and then you're like 'oh good! Now I can level up my hospital'

There's also a nice ethnic/gender mix - something that's generally overlooked but much appreciated.

TheDragon

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher
I am jealous. My dog is impossible to run with. I finally trained him not to pull, so now he runs directly in front of me, and occasionally directly underneath me. I have knee scars from that damn dog.

falconet

I am celebrating my fifth wedding anniversary tomorrow! Still pleased to have married a dude who folds up my pajamas into a little square and puts them on my pillow, every morning, without fail.

Also, an open warning to the German frat house behind my flat: if you guys have ANOTHER alfresco all-night awful-music drunkfest, I am going to liberate the dozen eggs that I've kept sitting outside in the sun for the last three weeks expressly for this eventuality.

EpWs

@falconet Congratulations, that is adorable. You guys should probably egg the frat house in celebration.

SarahP

@falconet Forget egging them, go join them and make them toast to your anniversary! Congrats!

olivebee

@falconet Happy anniversary! What are you doing to celebrate? (And that pajama thing is adorable).

likethestore

@falconet That just made me tear up a little. All I want out of life is a guy to fold my pyjamas. Happy anniversary!

EternalFootwoman

@likethestore "All I want out of life is a guy to fold my pyjamas." When you find him, please introduce me to his sister. Thanks.

falconet

@olivebee Ha, preparing for a week of solo parenting while the dude is away in Greece for work. And also brunch. Fun tiiiiiimes!

dj pomegranate

@falconet He folds up your pajamas into a little square and puts them on your pillow, every morning, without fail! The cutest.

sarah girl

Oh, is anyone else just kinda baffled by all the banner ads for the movie Hysteria on here? I canNOT figure out the tone they're going for, it is so bizarre. Especially the weird laughing/orgasming/??? lady at the bottom, huh?

Biketastrophy

@Sarah H. I KNOW. She's totally a rip-off of Aww Yeah Guy.

http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/aww-yea-guy

WaityKatie

@Sarah H. I know, I love costume dramas, Hugh Dancy, and vibrators, and yet I have zero desire to see this movie. How did they accomplish that?

lobsterhug

@Sarah H. I much prefer them to those huge Gap ads at the top of the page. I'm also dying to see this movie.

nevernude cutoffs

Boston... anyone else super bummed WFNX is having its last day? I've been listening all day, and they've been playing awesome music, and it's making me sad that I won't hear it anymore.

Daisy Razor

@nevernude cutoffs Julie Kramer made me cry three separate times. I've been listening to her for 15 years. It's definitely a piece of my youth disappearing.

Biketastrophy

@nevernude cutoffs Is there anything left in Boston that isn't owned by clear channel at this point? I know we have mikefm...and I don't know what else. Not sure who owns WAAF, but they always play the same music over and over again anyway.

stonefruit

@nevernude cutoffs WAIT WHAT IS THIS. I grew up listening to FNX! Is it switching format? to what? oh G-d the trauma.

Biketastrophy

@stonefruit Yeah it got bought out by Clear Channel, no one knows what they're going to do with the frequency yet though.

stonefruit

@Biketastrophy 92.5 WXRV? (says the transplanted Bostonian listening in via TuneIn)

Slutface

@nevernude cutoffs I cried during Adam XII's show yesterday. I'm so sad about this. At least there's 88.9 it's Emerson College so we can be assured it won't be bought out. I hope.

Bittersweet

@Biketastrophy MikeFM has been replaced by WEEI sports radio, unless it's moved somewhere else on the dial. WXRV is still ok. Can't believe FNX is done...end of an era.

nevernude cutoffs

@Slutface I know! I do love 88.9, but I really can't believe fnx is gone. So heartbreaking. I guess I should invest in sirius or something.

VolcanoMouse

Guh, I have not done nearly enough work today to justify hanging out in the open thread. All y'all work-from-homes/self-employ'ds, how do you stay even remotely productive? I have manic productive days and slogging-through-mud bad days, and I can't seem to predict when I'll get what.

@serenityfound

@VolcanoMouse Oh same (although not working at home).

VolcanoMouse

@@serenityfound Ugh, powered through and got SOMETHING done, at least, thanks to a strategic combination of additional coffee + This America Life.

It's Grad Student pseudo-Vacation now, which, sadly, coincides with VolcanoMouse busy season. I want to go frolic with friends, but alas!

@serenityfound

@VolcanoMouse I keep trying to get something done, but then I come on the Open Thread instead. Or talk to someone in the office about how "this Friday is too Friday."

runner in the garden

@VolcanoMouse You said it.

Equestrienne

Oh! Big news here. I'm going to see the Bolshoi perform Swan Lake tomorrow in Toronto. This has been on the bucket list since I was, oh, I don't know, 6?

likethestore

@Equestrienne !!!! My inner ballerina just squealed. Have an amazing time.

martinipie

I graduate from college in a week! Currently oscillating wildly between joy, debilitating fits of the cries, and total denial. And also worrying about the massive amounts of crap I have accumulated in my 4 years here. Any other grads hangin' out here?!

EpWs

@martinipie I just graduated from graduate school, but the undergraduation was recent enough that I totally remember the joy/cries/denial/where-did-all-this-stuff-come-from. Congratulations, enjoy graduation, don't be afraid to throw away PRACTICALLY EVERYTHING.

olivebee

@martinipie Congrats!! Enjoy celebrating during your final week!

hellomynameis

none of my friends want to go to madison square eats with me today! so i think i'll go by myself after work.

RocketSurgeon

Going out tomorrow to watch the Champions League final, drink some daytime beer, probably follow that up with a schnitzel and then go dance/drink/hang out at a rooftop bar. Heck yeah, summer!

okaycrochet

There is no way to make tenured attorneys give you a decent amount of notice on projects. AT ALL.
I run marketing over here and this week I had THREE (count 'em, THREE) different partners roll into my office and tell me they had seminars the next morning and would you please put together 35-75 publicity folders and oh, would you make this 20-slide powerpoint into something that is not a bunch of Times New Roman nonsense on blank slides?
So I created a firm PowerPoint template, made two 20-slide presentations, and churned out 175 folders.
Can they tell me about things earlier? No? Oh right. What was I thinking. It's not like they've known these events were coming for MONTHS IN ADVANCE.

I bought bubble bath and bath salts yesterday. I am going to put on some peppermint/China clay mask from Lush (LUSH WILL SAVE YOUR LIFE, GO LOOK AT THEM NOW), pour myself a pinked gin, get in my tiny apartment tub, and listen to Gershwin. And read Bruno Schultz. And that will heal me.

dale

@okaycrochet The inability of (some) lawyers to understand the Gregorian calendar never ceases to amaze me. Friday seems to take them by surprise every week, as do statutory holidays.

Cat named Virtute

@okaycrochet OMG, gin and Gershwin in the bath sounds amaaazing. But what is pinked gin?!

And sympathies about the stupid attorneys. My mom's a legal assistant, and she's constantly griping about the lawyers in her office who don't remember that they need something done until the last possible second. Like quarter after four on a Friday, ugh.

TheCheesemanCometh

@Cat named Virtute They learn it from their law school professors that forget to tell the library what books they need ordered for their classes until the second week of the semester.

okaycrochet

@Cat named Virtute Pinked gin!! I am basically it's apostle. I shall spread the word:
Pour a few drops of bitters into a glass (I use Peychaud's, YUM), swirl it around until it's all over the inside of the glass, and fill that sucker up with gin and soda water. It is delicious, it is pink, it is fizzy. That is all I have asked for in life.

OooYeahAboutThat...

@okaycrochet LUSH & Gershwin = PERFECTION of an evening. You deserve it!

Quinn A@twitter

Does anyone here use the "envelope system" when on a tight budget? My job covers my bills & I have a little money saved for emergencies, but I can't exactly spend freely on fun things (or on, y'know, food) for the next two years.

I feel like the envelope system would be a good idea for me, because I'm not great at keeping track of what I spend when I'm just swiping my debit card all the time, but I also kind of feel like I'll end up raiding my food envelope to buy books and then living off white rice and canned tuna for a week. Which cannot be good for my health. But, books! And how much damage can I really do to my health in two years, right?

...yeeeeahh. That's about how that's going to go, I think.

So yes! Does the envelope system work well for you? And if yes, do you normally have really good self-control, or does it work even if you don't?

smidge

@Quinn A@twitter It works pretty well, unless i have a big event like a trip or something in that month, and then my budget goes to hell. But yes, for the few weeks it's in place, I really like it. Also, as a person who doesn't usually carry cash around, it's handy to have cash on hand when you go out for dinner with friends, etc.

redheaded&crazy

@Quinn A@twitter i use the envelope system and it works relatively well for me. because i get paid irregularly (ugh) i take out my food/drink/entertainment money for the month and then only carry the weekly amount in my wallet. I find it helps me to keep track of my spending really well.

also if I spend less than I'm allowed (rarely happens), I put it aside in a different envelope to be used for whatever I want whenever I want. it's a good reward system

noodge

@Quinn A@twitter ooh! ooh! I use the envelope system, because i've been on a tight budget for FOREVER. It works great, I just have three envelopes: spending (eating out, drinking out, shopping, anything not essential for life function), gas money, grocery money. the rest goes to bills or savings.
You just have to make sure to revisit your budget that you base your envelopes off of to make sure you're not over or underestimating what should be in the envelopes. Your ideal is to not have a surplus, but not be wanting. The good news is that if you do have a surplus, it can cover those weeks where you just need to buy more stuff (like prescriptions, or those weeks where you run out of shampoo AND conditioner AND tampons AND ibuprofen ALL AT THE SAME TIME)

sarah girl

@Quinn A@twitter I'm doing sort of a version of the envelope system, in that I now have two checking accounts! I basically have one account for bills and one for everything else, and I give myself an "allowance" on the everything else card each paycheck. I'm not great at actually budgeting out everything, but I can keep an eye on the balance of the card on my phone and use that to help keep me on track.

oh, disaster

@Quinn A@twitter I think I should use the envelope system because I just realized it's going to be a rough week ahead until next Friday. I have a bunch of automatic withdrawals mid-month that tend to catch me off guard (like, now).

meetapossum

141 comments already! I'm slow.

I have been thinking about this all week, and it’s sort of a bummer, but here it goes.

I’ll have been at my job for 4 years in November. This is my first “real” job. We’ve had a salary freeze that entire time, had three separate sets of layoffs, yet somehow acquired a new company. I’m pretty sure our CEO is an idiot. Because everyone any middle position has been laid off, there’s literally no upward mobility. I work in an industry where no one really makes a lot of money (publishing), but despite getting a slight raise due to my boss’s efforts two years ago, my salary is still laughably small. Furthermore, due to said layoffs, I end up doing a lot of work that isn’t editing (photo permissions, drafting contracts).

I’ve had about 4 interviews over the last year which ranged from terrible to what I thought was very good (but then never heard back from the company despite following up with them three times afterward. Wtf?). Obviously I didn’t get any of the jobs, so I start to get depressed. And when I feel stagnant here, my motivation drops. I know I just have to keep applying and networking, but, ugh, I am just so miserable.

I guess this is turning into more of a rant than a question or conversation starter. So commiserate with me about terrible jobs you’ve had/have. Alternatively, if you work in publishing, give me a job!

Or give me more music to listen to. You guys have great taste.

noodge

@meetapossum I have a friend, and your letter describes her life perfectly one year ago. Now she is living in her dream city, doing a job she loves, and life isn't all roses but at least she's squared away her professional life much better, and gotten into a job that is using her talents. It's just a numbers game... eventually, with ongoing effort, you'll get where you want to be.

QuiteAmiable

@meetapossum I completely feel you. I've been at my current job for over five years. We've been lucky not to have any layoffs, but there aren't any positions being created. Therefore, no chance for me to move out of this crappy position.

And then last week, out of the blue, a company I had interviewed with in February called and offered me a job. Making $6,000 more than I make now with the possibiliy to be promoted within a year. !!!!! I flipped. I couldn't (and still can't) believe it's happened. Next week is my last week at this job.

My point is: MIRACLES CAN HAPPEN! Keep looking, keep interviewing. And it's ok to feel bad/lose motivation every once in a while (God knows I had several weeks of that back in March), but keep your eye on the goal: GETTING OUT OF YOUR JOB.

Music recommendation: We Are Augustines. Check them out.

EternalFootwoman

@meetapossum I can commiserate! I'm trying to get hired with my shiny new MS and it's difficult. Like, why don't places follow up with you? And would it kill them to contact you after an interview to say yay/nay? And could someone please hire me because I'm twenty-eight and living with my mom and have student loan debt up to my ears?

It will happen. It will happen. It will happen. And then we can write happy posts on the Friday Open Thread.

KatieBarTheDoor

@meetapossum Aahhhhh are you me?? Seriously: I'll have been in this first real job of mine for 4 years this September. It is publishing. The pay is crap. I can't stand the incompetent management and they take advantage of me. And there is for real ZERO opportunity for advancement. I'm as high as I can get... and that's not even high! I had one interview last year and was sooo close... but I got overconfident (because I'd done so well on the phone interview and editing test) and also super nervous at the same time? And blew it. It is super demoralizing and I'm really starting to feel like a loser.

Anyway, I have no advice or anything to offer-- just wanted to say that I totally feel you and wish you lots of luck.

meetapossum

@KatieBarTheDoor Oh, yeah. I totally blew my first interview once I got back in the game because I was so nervous. I had to cry to my friends at the bar about it :( It also doesn't help that I see editorial assistant jobs at Penguin offering 35k, because, wtf? Can I revert back to that position, please?

@all Thanks, guys! Definitely helps to rant and see that I'm not alone. It helps even more to see that there's hope.

@EternalFootwoman Yeah, boo for no contact from companies after an interview. This company wasn't even a large one. I get that it's not fun to tell someone you've decided to hire someone else, but it's also not fun for me to have to send you three e-mails asking if you've made a decision.

Faintly Macabre

@meetapossum This is my life! Kinda! Except I'm only a year out of college (the 22nd is the one-year anniversary and I kind of want to get drunk and cry that night, but it's a Tuesday--not that I have work the next morning!) and have one barely-there job. I've worked about 6 temporary, less-than-part-time jobs since graduating and sent a million careful cover letters into a void. I had an interview last week for a part-time position that was accepting 18-year-olds, and despite a follow-up email and two assurances that they'd reply to all applicants: nada. The apply->no response->less motivation->apply less->feel worse cycle is very familiar to me.

I'm lucky in that my parents are financially secure and mostly great, but I'd feel much luckier if I had a full-time job in my field and lived in an apartment. Media coverage on recent graduates is actually making me crazy--there are so many stories on how coddled and lazy our generation is, but meanwhile I'm desperate to work and be independent. I finally decided to teach English in France even though it has nothing to do with my field because (among nicer reasons) I figured French bullshit will have the excuse of being a foreign culture.

Not helpful/encouraging, I know! But comiserating? And I can recommend music if you say what you like!

chnellociraptor

I'm having trouble sleeping lately, due to my absolutely wretched, landlord emailing me daily asking for my rent, no idea how I'll afford groceries next week financial state. Does anyone have a spare hug lying around?

smackeroni

@chnellociraptor hugs.

EpWs

@chnellociraptor Oh, honey, ALL the hugs.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@chnellociraptor Hmm...let's see...yes, here it is. *SO MANY HUGS* I'm sorry you're dealing with all that right now.

paperbuttons

@chnellociraptor HUG!

dale

@chnellociraptor As long of a hug as you need.

olivebee

@chnellociraptor I'm so sorry! Financial woes are easily the most stressful part of life (IMO), so I am sending so many hugs your way!

KatieBarTheDoor

@chnellociraptor Hug hug hug. And it's a sunny, friendly southern hug too :)

Donovanesque

@chnellociraptor mmmmmph! (<--big hug!)

AniaGosia

@chnellociraptor (((hugs!!)))

Inkling

@chnellociraptor
Hug with a cat on the shoulder that drools when he purrs?
I wish you lived nearby! I am all the time rehoming friends/friends of friends/strangers in my big livingroom-with-privacy-shade. Do you have any friends to go to while you get back on your feet?

liverwortlaura

Hey! It's been a pretty great week! JUST picked up the very last analysis for my thesis and I could stick around for a laaaaame journal club.... orrrrrrrr get the fuck out of dodge and enjoy a beautiful bike ride home!!! I think I'll do that!! Honey-almond cake awaits me at home and I need to buy a new pair of sneakers cuz I have a zumba date with my husband tomorrow and the sneakers I'm wearing now are held together with duct tape. OH! AND! My best friend just dumped her loser bf. I am PUMPED but this is the only semi-anonymous place I can say so, you know how these things (bffs, bfs) tend to go.....

liverwortlaura

@liverwortlaura "So.... I told him I wanted to break up and then he threw a tantrum and made me watch and then talked me into letting him move in for two weeks to give it another chance. Should I dump this asshole?" YES. And reader, she did.

dj pomegranate

@liverwortlaura I love it when friends make good choices.

Cat named Virtute

Well, Messy Roommate is moving out in July, so I guess that's one more problem solved.

Also, I am SUPER broke right now and am thinking of putting my English degree to good use proofing undergrad summer student papers so I can pay my dang rent. Anyone have tips on doing this? I was thinking a craigslist ad and maybe some posters around campus. I'm thinking of charging $15 an hour for proofreading only and $20 an hour for substantive editing (this is in a pretty large city at large uni with lots of well-off students). Does this seem reasonable?

Ti:Sapph

@Cat named Virtute Double your rates. At least. When they're paying for someone to bail them out of a last-minute bind with Daddy's money, no one is going to bat an eye at $30-$50/hr.

Terrifying Wife-Avatar

@Cat named Virtute From a prof's POV: Be careful & very specific about what you are & aren't willing to do for each level of editing. I suspect you'll get a lot of students wanting you to write their papers for them from scratch.

grammarqueen

@Cat named Virtute I do some freelance editing and my last job was a dissertation. I charged $25 an hour for not super critical edits, $35 for thorough edits (I've been told I charge low, though, so keep that in mind). However, I'm a newspaper editor as my "day" job and I've been a professional for more than six years so I think you're right on target there, but ONLY for proofreading. Seriously, make sure they know this. I've run into problems before where they want me to rewrite sentences or basically write for them. So I would lay out specifics.

whatsherface

@Cat named Virtute I'm sorry I don't have anything to add to this other than I love your user name.

Cat named Virtute

@Nicole Sauvage@twitter Yes, good point! I will make sure to make that clear.

Xanthophyllippa

@Cat named Virtute Definitely make it clear that you're not going to rewrite for them - and it might also be worth deciding if you're going to just do grammar/syntax or if you're going to try to give feedback on things like organization and argument, too. I'd suggest staying away from the latter; I've had a number of my own writing students tell me they went to the writing center and were told X, where all along I've been telling them to do Y. Then they want to know why they're not getting As when their papers are full of X. I'd recommend not getting yourself or the students you edit for in that position.

Cat named Virtute

@Xanthophyllippa Good to know! I was planning on offering rates for just grammar and syntax corrections and charging a little more for more substantive edits ("your argument will be more logical if you put this argument first", "this argument requires more research-based evidence", "this is an awkward metaphor" type edits, rather than telling them what style of essay to write or how their thesis doesn't work (not going there, ugh), but I might reconsider if you don't think that would be very helpful in the end.

@grammarqueen, do you arrange to meet your clients in person or do you do everything online via paypal and email? Still figuring out the nitty-gritty before I go diving into this.

Xanthophyllippa

@Cat named Virtute I think the examples of comments above would be fine - they're specific enough that they know what to change, but also general enough that they could apply to a wide range of genres and contexts (especially the one about research, for which I thank you!). My experience might be a little different because I teach a pretty specific genre of writing, so outside folks who aren't as familiar with its requirements sometimes give feedback that I have to undo (my favorite was the student who told me, "The tutor at the writing center told me to take out all the technical detail, so I did" when the technical detail was the entire point of the assignment). That's part of the reason I ask my students to come to me first and not to seek help from the writing center or outside editors. So I guess what I'd recommend is, if the students who contact you say they do want more than just a quick proofread-and-polish, then ask them how much feedback they get from their professors or if there are any specific parameters for the assignment first. The more you know about the expectations they're working under, the more helpful you can be to them.

But good luck, though -- let us know how it goes?

grammarqueen

@Cat named Virtute I do everything online through PayPal or secure check, mostly because I get jobs through others I know who may live out of state. But even in state, I recommend dealing with everything through email so you have written expectations. Good luck with everything! I suggest setting up a simple contract for them to agree to do all expectations are discussed before anyone is upset. If possible ask for half of the payment, a deposit, up front.

Splendiferous

@grammarqueen Do you get all your clients through word of mouth, or do you advertise on campus or in college newspapers?

ReginaSavage

My life still sucks and nothing has changed.

But today has been pretty cool so far. I get to leave work in 20 min, I got a free beer while out for a walk on my lunchbreak and its a long weekend! So woooohhhh!!

(I'm sure by about 5pm tonight my boyfriend will have brought me down from this awesome good-feeling-ness but whatever. I don't even fucking care anymore!)

Porn Peddler

@ReginaSavage I suspect I missed something in a past open thread but internet hugs :(

Also: is that a kitten peeking out of a toilet?

Inkling

@ReginaSavage
What's happening? Why's he bringing you down? DOES HE NEED TO BE SHOWN WHAT FOR?!

Porn Peddler

Sex questions for your sex maniac?

You guys, Americorps has the worst website ever. It's unbelievable. Also, if I don't get into my city's program, for the second year in a row, I will be devastated.

Also I am going to a party on a farm tonight and I bought a big bottle of Ommegang Rare Vos for the occasion. BEER! FARMS! YAY!

JadedStone

@Third Wave Housewife I'm thinking of making a sex toy chest. (No really, I want an actual treasure chest.) A list is in order, so what would you put on your dream sex toy list?

EpWs

@Jade I'm hopping on this thread because this sounds like an excellent question.

BadWolf

@Third Wave Housewife Zomg, Ommegang Rare Vos is so delicious! Also...I want updates on Jade's query...

phillystout

@Third Wave Housewife Rare Vos! That and Hopslam were the beers that opened my eyes to the wide, wonderful world of craft beer/microbrews.

realtalk

@Third Wave Housewife got any advice for those of us wanting to get more in touch with our g-spots? I know on some women it's just not a super sensitive zone, and I think this might be the case for me, but I'm hoping against hope it's not, because it just sounds like so much fun.

SarahP

@Third Wave Housewife Ommegang is from my hometown! ENJOY. <3

Biketastrophy

@Third Wave Housewife Mmm anything Ommegang makes is deeelish. My favorite is the Three Philosophers though.

bloodorange

@realtalk I'm not Third Wave Housewife, but I also love sex (and Rare Vos!!) and thought I'd throw in my two cents:

I've never reeeally dug g-spot stimulation too much... UNTIL I recently started having anal sex? and found that it (along with clitoral stimulation from a vibrator) makes me go off like a firecracker? So, um, approaching from a different angle works really well for me. Your mileage may vary...

realtalk

@bloodorange oh interesting! I think I'd heard that before... I'll bring it up to the boy :) thanks!

Porn Peddler

@everyone BEER BEER BEER! SO PUMPED! I love beer so muchhhh

@Jade I WANT ONE OF THESE TOO. The issue is that I can't find a cheap enough wooden chest (I would stain it a nice dark walnutty color and line it with purple velvet, not that you are asking this) My taste in sex toys for myself, though, is boring. My favorite products to recommend to people who do like buzzy toys/bells and whistles etc? I'll go with those.
-Okamoto Crowns or Beyond Seven Condoms. Durex Maximum Love condoms also good (if allergic to latex: go for polyisoprene, it is way better than polyurethane)
-Vinyl gloves
-V Water Based Gel Lubricant and V Hypersensitive Liquid Lubricant
-Tissues, alcohol-free unscented baby wipes, towel for period sex/quick cleanup/whatever
-Backup batteries for....everything
-Cordless bullet- whichever you desire (Evolved has very nice bullets) Adam And Eve's Bree Olson mini vibe is a pretty cool little toy, too
-Strap-on compatible dong (for use with or without a strap-on, your choice as to whether or not you have a harness, too) Fuck it, two of these.
-Two to three sizes of basic, non-vibrating butt plugs (the Joanna Angel Trainer Kit is a good one, but Doc Johnson's small Mood butt plug might be a more realistic starting point for most people)
-Aneros Probe, Picobong Tano Plug Vibe or California Exotic Novelties Flexi Risque vibrating butt plug (I didn't forget about you, boys and others with prostates~)
-I assume y'all like rabbits, so I'll point you to the WOW! Vibe by Pipedream, that thing is pretty cool because you can bend the shaft and make it more or less twisty (MADNESS!) Dorcel also came out with a comparatively cheap rabbit pretty recently. Or, go nuclear and substitute in your favorite crazy high end rabbit.
-G-spot wand (The kind with a curve on the end, not an egg), either vibrating or non vibrating, according to whether or not you like a buzz (I do not like vibrating toys)
-A nice basic straight vibe for good measure- I'll go simple and say the California Exotic Novelties seven or ten function Classic Chic
-Liberator wedge!
-Cock ring of your choice
And should we get into any bondagey things? I feel unqualified to talk much about that stuff, but Kinklab makes very nice products, if that's yo' thang. Anything missing?

@realtalk I'm going to assume you mean without a partner, because you don't specify otherwise. But specifics would help here!

The easiest time to find it is when you are really really turned on, because the uh, topographical features that give away its location will be...pronounced (engorged with blood). You can think of it as sort of being the back-end of your clit, which should tell you about where it is. You might say it feels bumpy or spongy as opposed to the smooth/folded texture of the rest of the vagina. Once again: g spots are super friendly when you are REALLY REALLY TURNED ON. From here, two easy options: a non-vibrating, angled g-spot massager (or careful aim with a straight dildo, whatever you prefer/have access to) to apply pressure or rub it, or go for our old friend the vibrator. For you I will recommend a "tulip" vibe, which is essentially a big bulb/egg on the end of a stick that will give you pretty serious coverage once it's in there. I recommend one with a quick "pulsating" function (quick successive bursts of vibration). Once you have your equipment....go to town. The opening and first inch of the vagina are such a fun place, and putting bulbous things right there is WEEEEEEEEE! But, my favorite use of the g-spot is as a companion to oral sex, so if you can...y'know...enlist a mouth and hand in that task, go ahead and be like "find the bumpy bit and I might squirt in your face!" (or maybe don't tell people that until it's about to happen?)

Porn Peddler

@realtalk AH YOU DO HAVE A BOY. Enlist his help in this task! He will have more manual dexterity in the situation because he isn't...attached to your vagina. And isn't craning his neck/stretching his arm/throwing out his back trying to access it. Oral + g-spot = FUN (for many.)

@bloodorange Isn't it great when you try something new and it turns out to be more fun than you could have anticipated? Someone recently told me of her success story with the back door and I was so pumped for her.

realtalk

@Third Wave Housewife oh, he does his best during oral, it just doesn't feel like much of anything? We're long distance, so I'd like to experiment on my own and see if I can figure out stuff that works for me. Thanks for all the suggestions! I'm so psyched for a Good Vibrations trip now...

EpWs

@Third Wave Housewife SOMEONE NEEDS TO GIVE YOU A COLUMN
(This is not a referendum on the length of your answer, but rather the awesomeness of it. ASK A SEX LADY)

JadedStone

@Third Wave Housewife how disturbing is it that I ALSO WANT IT LINED IN PURPLE VELVET???
With compartments, natch. And a spot in the lid for cords/batteries.

Thank you for the list! I was mentally checking stuff off (cept for the harness, which I have wanted forever) and I find myself looking at my own stuff and thinking... something is missing... WHAT COULD IT BE?

Then again, my plan at the moment is BUY EVERYTHING MADE BY LELO. har har har

realtalk

@Third Wave Housewife HATE TO BE A DOWNER, but I just got dumped, so your solo suggestions are even MORE appreciated.

EpWs

@realtalk GIRL. That is rough shit. Hugs.

realtalk

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher thanks hairpin friend :)

FromTheFuture

I'm having a clothes swap tomorrow! Do you guys want to come? I made quiche and bought wine!

smidge

@FromTheFuture YES

Jane Marie

@FromTheFuture I got afraid of clothes swaps after I got afraid of bed bugs. Anyone else? SORRY TO BE A DOWNER. I really do want the quiche and wine!

FromTheFuture

@Jane Marie I went straight to my boyfriend's house from a clothes swap one night and he made me put everything I got there in the freezer.

SarahP

@FromTheFuture Aw, I wish!

@Jane Marie Hm, I've never thought to be afraid of bed bugs at a clothing swap, because I assumed my friends would know they had them and would tell me!

Jane Marie

@SarahP Aside from the fact that it's not a fun topic of conversation, some people are immune! Either the bugs don't like them or they don't have a reaction to the bite so they don't know they have them. OMG I really am so sorry to even have brought this up.

redheaded&crazy

@Jane Marie some people are not immune

i got bed bugs when i went to cuba! my friend and i kept waking up with bug bites when our friends in another room did not. also, trick to finding bed bugs is to look at the seams in the mattresses for bugs. which I did. AND FOUND A BUG. AND KEPT SLEEPING IN THE ROOM.

anyway we were all like "yeahhhhh it's probably just sand fleas" and then got home and I looked up the symptoms and it talked about the "breakfast lunch and dinner" three bites in a row style of bedbuggery.

I look at my arm and see three bites in a row. I look at my leg and see three bites in a row. then my other leg. then my other arm. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

anyway I left my suitcase outside in Canadian winter for like 2 months and at the end found two dead bugs lying on top of it. gross gross gross gross gross gross gross

worst part was one website which advocated keeping a flashlight near your bed, then waking up in the middle of the night, flinging off the covers quickly and turning the light on to see if any bugs would skitter away. PARANOID SLEEPING FOR WEEKS.

redheaded&crazy

@redheaded&crazie good story ... or GREAT story???

SarahP

@Jane Marie Ohhhhhhhh god I didn't know that!

I'm immune to poison ivy, maybe that makes me immune to bedbugs? I WANT TO BE IMMUNE TO EVERYTHING BAD, IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK.

redheaded&crazy

@redheaded&crazie now i feel itchy all over

Jane Marie

@redheaded&crazie I think you forgot the bedside spray bottle of rubbing alcohol for the larvae. :)

redheaded&crazy

@Jane Marie JANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

it's okay this was years ago years ago years ago i'm not thinking about this anymore i am immune.

Jane Marie

@FromTheFuture That is smart! Or you can throw everything in the dryer on high heat I hear.

FromTheFuture

@Jane Marie I had to have an intervention with him (boyfriend) about his high heat wash/dry obsession after he shrunk the wool socks I got him for Christmas.

TheLetterL

@Jane Marie I am terrified of bedbugs and will sometimes conduct mattress checks just because WHAT IF?

Join me, won't you, in a true tale of the laundromat: Prior to my last move, I decided I wanted to wash everything I own in the space of 24 hours and hauled things back and forth to the local Wash'n'Dry. As I was folding the last load, I looked down and noticed something crawling on my clean, fresh-from-the-dryer pants. Yup. It was. At least, that's what Google and several glasses of wine confirmed. So I went completely hysterical, partly because I didn't have the time/energy/quarters or a desire to go back to that laundromat.

Thankfully, nothing came of it, but that was like living a nightmare.

MilesofMountains

@Jane Marie And some people don't think it's a big deal, apparently. I was dating a guy and after hanging out on his bed for an hour noticed I had super itchy bites on the parts of me that were touching his bed. I was all"OMG, I don't want to panick you but I think you might have bedbugs" and apparently he already knew and all his roommates had them two and no one was really concerned. I'm sad to say I didn't break up with him immediately, but I wouldn't go over to his house and if he came over to mine, he had to walk immediately to the bathroom without stopping and put all his clothes in the bathtub for quarantine. On the plus side, instant naked guy, on the minus, I still get the heebie jeebies from it.

Cat named Virtute

Also also Fig 1! I am SO SORRY I never got in touch about hangouts while you were in town. It completely slipped my mind and I feel terrible. I hope you and Fig 2 had a really wonderful time. I want to hear all about it!

swamp hag

I have to work tomorrow, but tonight the local ~craft brewery~ is going around town and distributing swag! I am just going to camp out at my normal bar until I get to the state where a keychain will be the best thing that happens to me all night, I think.

maybe partying will help

@chim chim cheroot

Happy National Craft Beer Week indeed!

smackeroni

Went shopping over my lunch. What's up with stripes - EVERYWHERE! High end, low end. It's like the Rainbow Brite 1880s Prison Collection. I bought a striped shirt. I'm wearing a striped shirt.

Kate Kane

@smackeroni Stripes everywhere is probably better than when I walked into Target last month and thought they'd gone through my grandmother's closet. And Gram was never very fashion-forward. (Her nurses have only recently introduced her to pants. It's a weird mix of cute and sad since she doesn't remember not being much of a pants-wearer.)

Tropical Iceland

How long do you guys think is an acceptable period of unemployment? I know the longer it is the worse it looks, but I'm qualified and I got skills so I'd really rather hold out for the right job. On the other hand, that could take a while. I just don't want to waste time on something I know I'll leave, especially when my last job really wasn't so bad.

smackeroni

@Tropical Iceland Volunteer! It's perfect for your resume and who knows, maybe a job will open up. Plus you can fill your time and give back.

dj pomegranate

@smackeroni Agree--I was technically "unemployed" for 6 months but I volunteered/took on weird weekend projects at a respectable organization in my field and put that on my resume so it didn't look like I was lazy. No one ever asked about it. It works!

smackeroni

@dj pomegranate that's so smart! when i review resumes i always look favorably on people who have volunteer experience. and when we have volunteers at the office (i work for non-profit) i make sure that the work is challenging and i help them pick up a few new skills to slap on their resumes.

aliceandstuff

I am flying out to New York for a job interview on Sunday and then flying right back after it is over on Monday. I will be in New York proper for 16 and in transit for 14 hours.

olivebee

@aliceandstuff Ooof. That's no fun at all (I hate doing that much traveling in a short time). But good luck on the job interview!!

Bonita Applebum

Hi everyone. I've been lurking here since I got banned from jezebel last October. I figure it's time to step out of the shadows. I love cooking, long walks on the beach and sunsets. Just kidding, I'm a hard-core hip hop head with a super silly sense of humor.

What's your story?

EpWs

@Bonita Applebum You will do well here!

paperbuttons

@Bonita Applebum ooooh what'd you get banned for??

maybe partying will help

@Bonita Applebum

You got banned from Jezebel? *high five*

redheaded&crazy

@Bonita Applebum hahaha I also want to know what you got banned for! WE ARE SO NOSY.

BadWolf

@Bonita Applebum Congrats on your banishment! That is awesome. But...what did you doooooo? #nosy

Reginal T. Squirge

@Bonita Applebum I think we should be best friends. What kind of stuff are you into? I really want to get that new Obie Trice album but the mixtape he put out before it (Watch The Chrome) was kind of awful so I'm skeptical about the album. Have you heard it? Is it any good?

dj pomegranate

@redheaded&crazie Another nosy one. Was the banishment official (did you get a certificate?!) or unofficial (SILENT TREATMENT!)??

redheaded&crazy

@Reginal T. Squirge did YOU get banned from jezebel? and if so, WHAT FORRR

Lemonnier

@Bonita Applebum Yes, DISH

smackeroni

@Bonita Applebum I am so interested in this I can't stand it! I was booted from a parent's listserv, which I thought was bad ass. But I think that you must have mad bad assery skills to pass along. Let us learn from you!

Bonita Applebum

@dj pomegranate Oh it was official. Little miss editor swooped out of nowhere to move my comment to #bye and ban me. When I sent her an email to discuss, she was a total mean girl. Glad to no longer be supporting the shite they were writing, but I miss my community! That's the only reason I stayed as long as I did.

werewolfbarmitzvah

@Bonita Applebum WELCOME to the land where Jezebel refugees gather.

Bonita Applebum

@paperbuttons This was my comment:

Is this really your first post on Occupy Wall Street?! You stay classy, jez!

Remember when jez had AMAZING political coverage? You know, before all the posts about important matters like more stuff to girls to buy! and where do nail polish colors come from?

Jane Marie

@Bonita Applebum We love the raps and jokes. And, ah-no-duh, your name.

Bonita Applebum

@smackeroni I love you already! I had been grumbling about the ever declining quality of the posts on the main page. The last straw was a ridiculous piece on Occupy wall street and this was the comment:
This was my comment:

Is this really your first post on Occupy Wall Street?! You stay classy, jez!

Remember when jez had AMAZING political coverage? You know, before all the posts about important matters like more stuff to girls to buy! and where do nail polish colors come from?

dj pomegranate

@Bonita Applebum but...where DO nail polish colors come from?!?

Bonita Applebum

@maybe partying will help I've loved you since I saw you. Your screen name pretty much sums up my life philosophy!

Bonita Applebum

@redheaded&crazie This was my comment:

Is this really your first post on Occupy Wall Street?! You stay classy, jez!

Remember when jez had AMAZING political coverage? You know, before all the posts about important matters like more stuff to girls to buy! and where do nail polish colors come from?

Lucienne

@Bonita Applebum Your name is so perfect it makes me want to use anime emoticons.

*_* *_*

Bonita Applebum

@dj pomegranate Fuck if I care.

smackeroni

@dj pomegranate solange knowles

Bonita Applebum

@Jane Marie Uh, now I'm a little starstruck. I heart you so hard.

Bonita Applebum

@Lucienne Thanks. I blog and dj under that name. It's helped me embrace my inner funky bad-ass. xo

maybe partying will help

@Bonita Applebum

Well then, aren't I glad I changed it last week? :B

Re nail polish colors...I just want to be the person who gets paid to name nail polishes.

smackeroni

@maybe partying will help ...and ice cream flavors

Bonita Applebum

@werewolfbarmitzvah Thanks, I miss my homegirls. I'd had it with the main page content for a long time, but I stayed for the community. I was an OT girl, through and through.

BadWolf

@maybe partying will help I feel like it's probably like the Mitch Hedberg Kitchen Appliance Naming Institute. "What color is this?" "That is Pop Culture Reference Red. Lunchtime!"

Bonita Applebum

@Reginal T. Squirge I haven't heard that, but I love the de la soul mix tape I downloaded not too long ago. I still haven't gotten the album, but I will. I will always support all members of the native tongue family. I need some new music. I love the BOB song with Andre 3K: Play the guitar. Awesome summer ass shaker. I also got the new Zion I and the Grouch, there are some tight jams on there.

EternalFootwoman

@Bonita Applebum Getting banned from Jezebel makes you, like, the coolest person ever. For real.

Bonita Applebum

@EternalFootwoman Thanks, it did put me in the company of some awesome ladies who took no shit. My hat's off to Ms. Jenkins, she's been banned four times.

mabellegueule

@Bonita Applebum I cannot _believe_ they banned you for that comment. That wasn't even in the realm of troll comment, it was an actual, valid response in the same jokey-because-I-can't-believe-it's-true style that they write in. Screw 'em. Welcome here!

Reginal T. Squirge

@Bonita Applebum De La is the best! I need to get that First Serve joint.

Reginal T. Squirge

@redheaded&crazie Never been on Jezebel.

Lily Rowan

@Bonita Applebum / You gotta put me on.

Hey Bonita, glad to meet ya!

(I'm sorry, someday I'll say other things to you, but today is not that day.)

Jane Marie

@Bonita Applebum awwww

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

@Jane Marie @Bonita Applebum
WELCOME! You are going to love it here. Except I hope you can deal with a serious lack of angry and/or passive-aggressive comments. (I don't always read Jezebel, but when I do, I stay away from the comments.)

MsChilePepper

@maybe partying will help For serious, I think the people who name polishes at OPI must all just get high and think up the silliest shit possible. (Says the girl who's worn "I'm Not Really A Waitress" exclusively for about 10 years now.)

Myrtle

@Bonita Applebum I left partly b/c they banned Ms. Jenkins!

paperbuttons

God I am in a big fight with my mom, which almost never happens so when it does it feels epic and gut-wrenching. This is not a conversation starter, just have to vent. :(

liverwortlaura

@paperbuttons moms are the worst/best. so sorry you're in the thick of it. BIG HUG

paperbuttons

@liverwortlaura thanks. The worst part is we haven't spoken and my sister has been acting as intermediary. So like, I get to vent to my sister and my mom gets to vent to her and all the wires get crossed and neither of us are actually talking to each other and it's just bad bad bad.

shawbaby

guuuuuuuuys approximately every single one of my friends will be at a wedding this weekend that I wasn't invited to and the overwhelming "Everyone is hanging out without me" feeling is killing me

redheaded&crazy

@shawbaby aw man my ex has been planning beach days for the summer that everybody will be going to except for me. i feel ya. wanna go to the beach with me? :(

BadWolf

@shawbaby Aww, that is the worst feeling! I am so sorry, dude. I hope there is at least someone awesome around to chill with you, but if not, I hope you watch all of some epic tv series and drink a lot of very nice booze and loll about reading outside.

shawbaby

@redheaded&crazie: YES LET'S GO TO THE BEACH. I live in Nebraska, I hope that won't be a problem. Also I feel you, I stupidly dated a friend and then things recently fizzled and now I'm still dealing with the whole "Well we WERE going to invite you but Mike was going..."

@BadWolf: I have purposely been saving tv shows from this week for this very purpose!

smackeroni

@shawbaby in omaha? take yourself on an "i love me date" to filmstreams and then ted & wallys for ice cream.

Elvis Costello's Spectacles

AHHH what a week. Started looking at apartments in the area I'm moving to in a few weeks for work; can't wait to get out of this dump!

On a more miserable note: things are NOT GOOD with the manfriend. I'm starting to really struggle to enjoy spending time with him, and most nights I spend with him I lie there close to tears because I just feel so lonely. The worst thing is that he's not an awful person or anything like that; I'm just gradually realising that we're super incompatible in a lot of ways. I'm not even sure that Being In A Relationship is right for me at all. Doesn't help that I recently reconnected with a pants-blisteringly hot acquaintance who does an excellent job of reminding me what I'm missing. Gah.

AniaGosia

@Elvis Costello's Spectacles At least you're moving! Can you leave man fiend behind? The sooner you break up, the better, in my experience.

dj pomegranate

My mom is visiting NYC! It is the first time in a year that we have had more than one hour of mother-daughter time. We are going to the Botanical Gardens tomorrow and to a fancy French restaurant tonight. MOMS!

Slutface

I broke up with the guy who said his "future self" would worry about his credit (32, parents pay his rent, etc...) and now I'm back on OKCupid. My prince is out there!

redheaded&crazy

@Slutface GOOD FOR YOU! I'm also back on okcupid. we can commiserate on horror stories

nevernude cutoffs

@Slutface go slutface! go slutface!

SarahP

@Slutface Whoo hoo! Both for freeing yourself from this guy, and for getting on OKCupid!

Slutface

@SarahP Thanks everyone! We were only dating a few weeks so he took it well. I'm also excited that now I have my entire weekend all to myself! What should I be wary of on OkCupid though? It's my first time on there.

EpWs

@Slutface YAY we're so proud of you!

SarahP

@Slutface It's been a while since I was on there, but I recommend not feeling bad about not responding to people. You may get messages from creeps, and it's just better for everyone not to engage. Also, don't use the IM, for the same reasons.

EternalFootwoman

@redheaded&crazie My biggest disappointment about OKC is that I have no horror stories (aside from the number of men who think they should take a shot and message me). One of my really good friends goes on a really, hilariously, uniquely terrible OKC first date on a near-weekly basis and I AM SO JEALOUS.

Slutface

@EternalFootwoman My first online date was a Match.com date years ago and I had my car towed! The guy told me to park in front of his house, that it was fine and when we got back from dinner (we walked), my car was gone! He was just like, "Whoops! I guess you better figure out where to get your car." Then went inside to smoke pot. It was the worst.

tessamae

@Slutface UGH. I just joined Match for the first time this week ans so far the only hits I've gotten are creepy old guys and clearly copy'n'pasted emails. Sorta depressing. :(

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

@tessamae @all
Bless you all for being brave enough to online date. I'm sure there are some decent boy-people out there but I just do not want to sift through millions of creeps and mandolin players to find them.

(I literally mean mandolin players. Happened to a friend of mine.)

fuck fuck fuck

@Rookie hey my brother and rod stewart play the mandolin so watch it!!

okay maybe it's lame i dunno

Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

Also, you guys, oh my god Community last night.

@serenityfound

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood FOR REALS. Fuzzy feelings, y'all.

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood
YES YES YES

WhiskeySour

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood Soooo goooood! I would like an hour and a half block in perpetuity, please.

likethestore

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood The episodes just kept coming and coming!

Lucienne

I might have cried over Troy and Abed . . . a lot. Even though I knew they would fix it!

Cat named Virtute

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood I had to save the last episode for tonight because I couldn't bear for it to be over yet. I got all weepy at Troy and Abed hugging good-bye. Ahhhhhhhh so good.

entangled

@Lucienne you have just earwormed me with "Troy and Abed shooting lava"

Porn Peddler

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood All I want in my life is a gun that shoots endless baby abeds.

Megasus

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood Yes! I just got caught up. I want that video game to be real so badly. Winger in that goth magician's drag did weird things to my ladyparts. Maybe if they get cancelled after the next 13 eps Netflix will pick them up? I'm pretty sure that's how most people watch it anyway.

crookedlegs

As of today, I am halfway to becoming a real live doctor! I get the feeling the second half is going to be a tiny bit tougher than the first half, but whatever! Bring it on!

Wait wait, take it back. I get one last summer first. Hitting the road on an epic trip with some girlfriends - Myrtle Beach, New Orleans, Nashville, Memphis, BONNAROO and Boston! CANT WAIT. CRAVING ADVENTURE AND SUNSHINE. Anyone else headed to Roo next month?

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

Things of note on my current sub assignment:
1) Eighth graders. All day. Every day.
2) My entire "personal" time in the school day is 25 minutes for lunch and 40 minutes at the end of the day. Today I do not even have the end of the day, and all the kids are miserable they have to stay here instead of doing what they want to do.
3) They were also very unhappy to learn that I will be back next week.
4) This assignment is nine days long.
5) I MISS YOU HAIRPIN I'm too busyyyyyyy

oh, disaster

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me I found my 8th grade journal last night and it was just page after page of MY LIFE IS SO HARD WHY DONT HAVE A BOYFRIEND EVERYONE HATES ME. Five minutes with my 13-year-old self was more than enough.*

*Not that all 13 year olds are as insufferable as I was!

dj pomegranate

@oh, disaster OH MAN I was cleaning out boxes a few months ago and found mine from 7th grade. It was basically pages and pages of this: "I don't know why no one understands me. I mean, my parents SAY they do BUT THEY DONT. NO ONE DOES. When I say things it's like THEY DONT EVEN HEAR ME. They are all so caught up in their own lives. I don't have any friends or even a boyfriend because no one tries to understand me NOT EVEN MY FRIENDS."

You could not pay me enough money to be 13 again.

oh, disaster

@dj pomegranate OH YES, NO ONE UNDERSTOOD ME, so I say. I also had about half a journal worth of UGH I'M SO FAT THIN GIRLS GET EVERYTHING. And as much as I want to rip apart my younger self, that part made me a little sad.

EternalFootwoman

@oh, disaster When I was thirteen, I wrote my journal in a "secret code" the my friends and I made up. I was just today wondering if I should bother trying to translate them. But you've basically summed up the entirety of what it would say, so thanks for saving me from that task!

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

Also, Philly Pinup this weekend!!!!

JadedStone

OH YAH

I caught the season finales of both FRINGE and ONCE UPON A TIME this week. DOES ANYBODY WANT TO GO ALL FAN-CRAZY ON THIS WITH ME?

Roxanne Rholes

@Jade Ahhhh, no spoilers! I"m watching it tonight with my bestie! So excited! (Also....AAAAASTRIIIIID!)

JadedStone

@Roxanne Rholes AHHHHHH YOU NEED TO WWWAAATTTCCCCHHHHHHH

Also - Fringe was renewed! yay! But watch it with the knowledge that they wrote it thinking maybe it wouldn't be renewed. It's interesting like that.

@serenityfound

@Jade YYYYEEESSSSSSSSSSSSS. But how do we do that without spoiling others?!?!

@Roxanne Rholes ALL ASTRID ALL THE TIME

anachronistique

@Jade Holy shit, OUAT was bananas. A SOLID HOUR OF SHIT GETTING REAL. Why couldn't it have been like this all season?

Roxanne Rholes

@@serenityfound Have you seen Jasika Nicole's website? I want her to be my new best friend. She draws amazing comics!

JadedStone

@serenityfound we be cryptic and weird.
OMG ON THE SHIP WITH THE THING AND THE SORRY AND THE TEARS???

@anachronistique OMG DID YOU CRY? WITH GOLD AND THE YOU KNOW AND THE 'no, but you will'????

@serenityfound

@Jade ALL THE CRYPTIC

Fringe: WITH THE GUN AND THE SAD FACES AND THE HAPPY FACES? EXIT WOUNDS. AND THE NIGHTMARES ABOUT THAT LADY'S FACE?

(CC: @anachronistique) OUAT: UGH WITH THE TEARINESS. SYMPATHY FOR THE DEVIL AND STUFF. HE'LL ALWAYS FIND HER.

JadedStone

@@serenityfound OMG THE LADY WITH THE FACE IS THE LADY WITH THE BLEEDING FROM LOST! SHE IS REALLY GOOD AT THAT??? SO SCARY!

OUAT: AHHH!!! AND THE CRYING WITH THE PILLOW THEN THE CREEPY SMILE WITH THE PURPLE STUFF? AND IS THE WOODEN ONE OK?

@serenityfound

@Jade I KNOW. NIGHTMARES. I ALMOST COULDN'T WATCH HER THE TWITCHFEST. ALSO, NINA AND BROYLES QUIRKY SITCOM SPINOFF?!

OUAT: YESSSSS. THE PILLOW THEN THE SMILE. SHE IS SO AMAZING. ALSO WOODEN'S TRANSITION = SO AWESOME. DAGRON.

dale

@anachronistique I'm finding it's depending a lot on who is writing a particular episode. I'd have to go back and do some kind of cross-checking spreadsheet thingie, but there are definitely writers who've turned out poorer episodes (vs. Jane Espenson's, which are always kick-ass).

JadedStone

@@serenityfound OH! NINA/BROYLES - MEMBER BACK IN SEASON ONE WERE HAVING AN AFFAIR??? WHHHAAAAA? ALSO THE BELL BACK! AMAAAZZZZIINNNGGG!!!

OUAT: DARGRON! SAD! WANT MORE BFF! THE UNICORN?

@serenityfound

@Jade OMG I FORGOT. (Another reason I need my editor to let me write up a summer rewatch of the series) YES. BELL. NEED MORE BELL.

OUAT: UNICORN? MORE HATTER, PLEASE!

@dale Jane Espenson is the best. There were a few uneven episodes, but I think it was pretty solid overall! Now we just have to see how they handle the treacherous sophomore year...

tessamae

@Jade @serenityfound I ADORE OUAT. The finale was the BIZ. Have no idea what they will do and I LOVE IT. There better be more Hatter (guuuuh Carter Baizen I love you so hard!) and I hope the Wooden One is fine!! Who else will Blonde Extension Disaster wear matching leather jackets with??

@serenityfound

@tessamae Maybe Other Lost Child (who I totally expected the Wishing Well to be about) will come back and they can ALL wear matching leather jackets and commiserate about their orphanness/parent issues!!!

tessamae

@@serenityfound If only! On a non-spoiler side, I read somewhere that they will be doing Little Mermaid next season!!! IS THAT A THINGAMABOB? I'VE GOT TWENTY!

JadedStone

@serenityfound UNICORN! THE THING PAM LOVED MOST! ALSO - WHY NURSE RATCHED AND THE CHIEF IN THE BASEMENT?

@tessamae OH MY GOD THAT WOULD BE AMAZING!

anachronistique

@tessamae OH MY GOD IS THIS TRUE

it's all i ever wanted

tessamae

@Jade Waaaaaaaaaaait! I am so confused about the Unicorn!?!? What did I miss? It's Friday afternoon and my brain is already on wine time mode!

Also, I DIED when a certain Wolf-man with a penchant for skinny jeans showed up! Oh how I've missed his lovely, lovely face and tousled hair. Why can't they revive hiiiiiiiiiiiiiim?

tessamae

@anachronistique !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.eonline.com/news/watch_with_kristin/once_upon_time_courting_joanna_garcia/276205

SHE BETTER DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@serenityfound

@tessamae They talked about that at WonderCon! They also kind of want to do Mulan and talked about maybe having a gender bent version of something (although part of me thinks that was just cuz the audience was all QUEER CHARACTERS PLEEZ). They also promised Wolfie would be back so I totally knew that was him! And now that Purple Stuff is back, ANYTHING COULD HAPPEN.

@Jade I missed this unicorn thing, too? Also, I just started watching BSG so I thought for a minute that you meant Chief Galen Tyrol was in the basement and ran off excitedly to IMDb. But it wasn't!

JadedStone

@tessamae The unicorn was way back when she went to Mali's castle to get the curse and Mali lost the fight cause she was protecting the unicorn. I just thought FOR SURE it would be in this episode cause wouldn't it have also crossed over? I AM SAD.

@serenityfound ABC having queer characters... hmm.... While I WOULD MAD HEART THAT I don't know if it would happen?

tessamae

@Jade They maybe would! Modern Family after all...and All My Children was the first soap to feature a same sex couple, no? Wasn't it La Lucci's daughter?

And ooOOOoooooOO! THAT unicorn! IT'S ALL COMING BACK TO ME NOW. And you're right, this would have been the perfect time for that. Plus, can we call agree that Kristin Bauer van Straten just needs to be in every show all the time. God, I love me some Pam!

@serenityfound

@tessamae @Jade So, at WonderCon, an audience member asked if they would be doing any gender bent characters or (since the show is all about the power of different kinds of lurve) any (explicitly) queer couples. The showrunners were totally for it and started talking about how supportive ABC/Disney is of the queer community and you could just feel half the audience go "waaaaaaaa?" I would like a gender bent or queer Little Mermaid, please. Or Peter Pan?

anachronistique

@@serenityfound OH MY GOD. Please. PLEASE. YES.

@tessamae I miss Sheriff Accent McHotbeard. I hope "things that are lost" includes him, because he is lovely. (Incidentally, he's from right around where one of my best friends lives in Northern Ireland. She has promised to keep an eye out for him.)

Megasus

@Roxanne Rholes Um, link that shit up please!

whizz_dumb

I've decided to have a low-key (by my standards) Friday night tonight. Maybe watch some Friday Night Lights, how fitting. Getting a tune-up for the car tomorrow before umping a few innings of a baseball game. Then on Sunday I'll be the starting pitcher in our team's baseball game. Wow laying out my weekend plan makes me seem like such a jock. Oh well.

whizz_dumb

At some point I'll probably eat a cara cara orange (mmmm) after paring some of the peel into my rye drink (MMmm). #AlcoholicJock

Roxanne Rholes

I'm kind of having an emotional crisis, and I am way to embarrassed to tell anyone I know. Like, anyone. Any Boston 'pinners feel like listening to me vent over a drink or two next week? On me. It's gotta be cheaper than a therapist. I'm a fucking mess.

Slutface

@Roxanne Rholes Yes! Boston Pin-up!

anachronistique

@Roxanne Rholes Absolutely. My calendar is empty after Saturday!

SarahP

@Roxanne Rholes Aw, I'm sorry things are rough right now! I might have evening free next week for drinking for free providing emotional support. I suspect Boston 'pinners are such (caring, I mean, not mooching) that you'll have many such offers. <3

Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

@Roxanne Rholes I'm always down to catch a drink with pinners and vent.

Roxanne Rholes

@Slutface etc., you all are so awesome! If anyone can do Wednesday, I could meet up anywhere near Copley after work. Be warned: I'm a horrible person and full of feelings. What am I doing with my life. Haha.

anachronistique

@Roxanne Rholes I don't know Copley at all, but if you pick a place I will google it and be there.

SarahP

@Roxanne Rholes THERE WILL BE SO MANY FEELINGS.

Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

@Roxanne Rholes Ugh balls i work wednesday! I'm off monday, tuesday and thursday though

Roxanne Rholes

@Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood Bummer, man! I could use a dude perspective, too. Thursday?

Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood

@Roxanne Rholes I'm totally free thursday. Also wednesday, but not til like after 9 so.

anachronistique

@Roxanne Rholes I can also do Thursday if you want this to be a group thing!

Roxanne Rholes

@anachronistique Okay! I'm down for Thursday! Dive bar or nice bar? I'm down for either. In which case I'll throw out these two: Bukowskis Back Bay OR Eastern Standard. Whichever!

anachronistique

@Roxanne Rholes Bukowskis might be a tad loud for venting if you don't want to shout your feelings over everyone? Also I'm a classy dame, so. (That is a lie.)

Roxanne Rholes

@anachronistique Fancy cocktails at Eastern Standard, it is! I work really close to there, so I can be there at almost any time. I'm still down for tonight if anyone else is.

anachronistique

@Roxanne Rholes I will try to make it, but I got not-enough-sleep last night so I may have to go home and faceplant at 5. We'll see!

Roxanne Rholes

@anachronistique Well, no one else has said anything, so no worries! I'll see if I can dig up your email from the last pinup! Yay, internet advisors.

anachronistique

@Roxanne Rholes onthebound at the gmails! I've had a headache on and off all afternoon so I will be going home to put an icepack on my head, I'm afraid. But I will be happy to offer advice via emails!

JessicaLovejoy

Seeeewwww....I was looking at the names of some kids (THEY'RE ALL KIDS) who started following me on tumblr, and I had a thought. POST YOUR FIRST (probably AOL) SCREENNAMES!

Mine was EvilAmbrosia, because of reasons? And my secret one was BillieKidGrrl, because I was obsessed with a wrestler named Billy Kidman.

THIS IS MY SOUL LAID BARE. I AM TRUSTING YOU. THIS IS TO BE A NO JUDGEMENT ZONE.

redheaded&crazy

@JessicaLovejoy no i refuse i cannot.

i will tell you: it was dragonballz related.

I'VE SAID TOO MUCH ALREADY.

maybe partying will help

@JessicaLovejoy

omg omg great idea best idea

My first screenname, on the starwars.com message boards, was Elph1138. Brief camera obsession+LOTR+Star Wars=me in ninth grade.

So uh yeah. Suddenly hoping none of you frequented those forums.

Oh and my LJ still has the original username from eighth grade. By now I'm just like fuck it, it's embarrassing, whatever.

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

@redheaded&crazie My people! Mine was Sailor Moon related.

dj pomegranate

@JessicaLovejoy BondGirl82. Second one was IslandSpice.

I was pretty conservative and not at all an aspiring sex kitten. I don't know why I chose these names, except that I was naive enough to not get the sexy overtones at all.

So, no judgment here, is what I'm saying.

EpWs

@JessicaLovejoy Oh god, I can't remember. I think it was something like fireflower_303, for NO APPARENT REASON?
I also made one (briefly) that was something along the lines of qwiksylvr. AUGH IT HURTS.

anachronistique

@JessicaLovejoy aedlinatenshi. Aedlina was the name of my elven mage from D&D, "tenshi" is Japanese for angel because I was a terrible anime fangirl. O MEMORIES.

@serenityfound

@JessicaLovejoy

Middle school. Unquenchable love of Indiana Jones + this silly "Indie Anna" avatar/character thing I would draw (because I was so indie and cool, y'all) + my first email address was at gurl.com = indiannagurl (still in use in various forms)

i make lists

@JessicaLovejoy SOOO embarrassing...my screen name was something like flutegrrl.I was in band. Thanks for ruining that for me, American Pie!

paperbuttons

@JessicaLovejoy omg mine was SLARFACE. yes SLAR. It was some sort of inside joke with my 7th grade bestie that is now lost to the mists of time.

SarahP

@JessicaLovejoy QueenMebd3. I was so smug at using the "real" (ie, old Gaelic) spelling of the name, until a couple months after I started using it I discovered it was spelled Medb and if I changed it all my friends would know I'd spelled it wrong so I just hoped no one would notice.

No one ever did.

meetapossum

@JessicaLovejoy Remu8, because I wanted to get an emu and name it Remus (What? I have no idea). I had to add an 8 for my birthday because someone had already taken "remu" (???).

WhiskeySour

@JessicaLovejoy Oh god. "EnyoStrider" Combo of fairly obscure Greek goddess of war and "Strider" of course from Lord of the Rings. Such a nerd!

SarahP

AND GUYS, the first forum I ever participated in was a Tori Amos fan forum and I was SilentMermaid and I was SO impressed with myself.

Cat named Virtute

@JessicaLovejoy purplemyst13

I don't even know.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@JessicaLovejoy pSpearBritneyq - SO EDGY.

sarah girl

@JessicaLovejoy My first AOL screenname: Read24Hrs. I was a nerd.

olivebee

@JessicaLovejoy In 6th grade, my very first AIM screenname was ladychick34 (Ahh, so embarrassing! Why did I use two different synonyms for "woman" in one screenname?).

Then I hit my emo phase and made the screenname CuteWithoutTheE34 (based off the Taking Back Sunday song of that title). Also terribly embarrassing.

meetapossum

@olivebee Ahhh! Your lipstick, his collar, don't bother, Angel, I know exactly what goes on!

Oh man, high school emo phase was one of my favorites. Every once in a while my friend and I will have Ataris singing sessions.

Holden Cauliflower

@JessicaLovejoy
VioletEyes, because who the hell knows what a Mary Sue is at 12?

Fodforever

@JessicaLovejoy

It was...

FODForever. When I say 'forever' I fucking mean it!

phillystout

@JessicaLovejoy badphish81 (we got AOL when I was 15) because the music of Sublime and Phish just spoke to my soul, maaaan

fondue with cheddar

@SarahP The first forum I ever participated in was a Homestar Runner forum* and my screen name was Smorezipan and I was impressed with myself.

*This was before its popularity exploded, and I don't say this to be all "I knew it before it was cool," but just that it was a really small and friendly group. The creators frequented the forum, and they actually knew me by name (my real name). I thought I was so cool.

meetapossum

@jen325 My current screen name/'Pin name is from HSR! Maybe it's sad/weird that I'm still referencing it since I haven't been on the site for years, but oh, well!

Killerpants

@JessicaLovejoy zamigrrrl. I was in college and a women's studies minor, go figure. Next one was rawkstar_m. Yea. So cool I was.

fondue with cheddar

@meetapossum Ha, cool! I don't remember anything about a possum, but it's been a very long time since I watched it so I've missed a lot.

olivebee

@meetapossum I LOVE going back and listening to my old high school emo favorites and just belting them at the top of my lungs. I still know every word to every song from Taking Back Sunday's and Brand New's first few albums.

EpWs

@olivebee @meetapossum I am definitely rocking out to TBS right now. MEMORIES. (God I was a terrible human at the age of 14.) LITERATE AND STYLISH, KISSABLE AND QUIET, THAT'S WHAT GIRLS' DREAMS ARE MADE OF. /2004
Also, @meetapossum, I totally got your HSR reference! And I <3 it.

meetapossum

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher @olivebee Oh, I just remembered the TBS/Brand New feud. And then the TBS/Straylight Run feud. My roommate was talking about how he finds my hair all over the apartment, and I sang, "Your hair is everryyyyyyywheeeeeere", and he had no idea what I was talking about. When I explained that they were Dashboard Confessional lyrics, he looked so disappointed in me. I'M SORRY I WAS A SAD AND ANGSTY TEEN.

ImASadGiraffe

@JessicaLovejoy My first screenname was DanceQT684. Yeah, I was a dancer.

dale

@JessicaLovejoy Well, not AOL, but usenet...I was xphile42 there.

tessamae

@JessicaLovejoy Mine was autumnskye. Based on nothing. I thought it sounded pretty and grown up.

Fuuuuuck, I was such a weird piece of shit.

Inkling

@fodforever
What is fod? Fear of Dice has always sprung to mind when I read your comments. Fear of dice forever.
Mine was Ice_Island_Hero, because I made it to chat with my college-bound sister so we could continue playing out the story we were writing. At the time, our heroes had escaped an exploded ship and were taking shelter on an iceberg.

maybe partying will help

@meetapossum

Well, I think your screenname is hella tight.

schrodingers_cat

@JessicaLovejoy My AIM screenname in 7th grade was swimmerwitch. Because I was a swimmer.

meetapossum

@maybe partying will help I have a crush on EVERY BOY!

EpWs

@meetapossum I swear if I needed/wanted to change my username here, or had to do it over, I would go with WhatsHerFace. Because she is my spirit animal.
@schrodingers_cat Were you also a witch?

schrodingers_cat

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I liked to think I was. I was 12 and my life was SO HARD, OKAY.

okaycrochet

@meetapossum I can count to PURPLE BACKWARDS!

Fodforever

@Inkcrafter I am not 'Fear of dice forever'! I am, however, terribly paranoid that someone I know in real life will discover my secret Hairpin account, and the story behind what 'Fod' means would surely give me away.

That said I am quite touched that you have even given my username a second thought, and so, I will share a secret with you that no one in my real life knows (further perpetuating my need to keep my secret-account-no-one-can-know-about secret):

I am totally into watching cheesy kdramas (korean soap operas; there are a million on Hulu and DramaFever)! This may seem trivial, but yeah, they are awesomely terrible in a way that I cannot describe, and have never let on to anyone I know that I watch them.

Please accept the above in lieu of the actual origins; honestly the story of Fod is uninteresting and probably couldn't hold a candle to your iceberg story anyway!

Inkling

@Fodforever
I am truly flattered you told me! I would now like to check them out myself :) For you, here's what was going on when I made my account name.
Team rocket's top DNA splicer, secretly the mother of my sister's main character, escaped the wreckage on her winged blackfire rapidash! But she stole Gary's Arcanine! And he's comforting himself with a hyper-intelligent scientific experiment ditto that is imitating an Arcanine and it's kinda sad. There might be Articuno in the iceberg. These things are also secrets.

LooseBaggyMonster

@JessicaLovejoy What is your tumblr?

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

@schrodingers_cat THE SPIRAL DANCE/ALL LLEWELLYN BOOKS 4 LYFE (I still have the ones I purchased sitting on my bookshelf, out in the open, roughly 15 years later)

Also, my AIM sn was abbreviated in a made-up way because it was back when you could only have like 10 characters in your name.

Kate Kane

@JessicaLovejoy I was MansRuin78 and I haven't gotten any better at online naming! My tumblr name makes me sound 17, oops.

schrodingers_cat

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me YES! And now I look at shows like The Secret Circle and can't believe I would would have been really into that back then.

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

@schrodingers_cat ummmmmm I am really into that show. Some things, they don't change.

Fodforever

@Inkcrafter Love it. I watched Pokemon every morning before school from like 7th grade through *mumble, mumble, all of high school*

Haha, for sure check them out. Kdrama and Pokemon have this sort of calming thing that I feel is common in a lot of Asian media. Like, the story is really repetative and moves super slowly, but it is also peppered with spikes of mad drama/action to keep it interesting...

BadWolf

OH AND ALSO. Everyone go get a copy of "Below Stairs" as soon as you can. It's the memoirs of Margaret Langley Powell, who was born in 1907, was a kitchen maid and then cook throughout the 1920s and 30s, and then wrote her autobiography in the late 1960s. Her life story, and her perspective in history, are simply amazing, and she is just a sassy old broad and funny as hell. Really, if you liked "Downton Abbey," or anything like it, you need to read this. It will make you laugh on the subway and also feel very, very glad for things like dishwashers and worker's rights. Do it.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@BadWolf OOOOOOOOOOH...!

Two-Headed Girl

@BadWolf This sounds like the best thing.

(Also unrelated but I just watched the S2 finale of Doctor Who last night and your username is making me feel so many feels. Rose! :((()

BadWolf

@Two-Headed Girl OH MY GOD ROSE! All the feelings. BUT! Just you wait, things get so good for her. Eventually.

Is yours a Neutral Milk Hotel ref? Because so many feels for the Two-Headed Boy!

Two-Headed Girl

@BadWolf People keep telling me that about her! And it makes me glad! But I have so much to watch before I get there. :(

And it is! I just saw Jeff Mangum in concert last month, actually, and he played through all of Aeroplane and it was the most amazing thing I've ever seen.

i make lists

Has anyone else read this article??? I read through all the comments last night and was seriously disturbed.

maybe partying will help

@i make lists

Karen Healey wrote sort of a riff off Scalzi's piece as well. Less problematic comments.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@i make lists Roxane Gay wrote a sort of response over at the Rumpus, too!

Holden Cauliflower

@i make lists
THE COMMENTS WHAT THE FUCK
I don't know why I ever go to the Gawker hub anymore.

dj pomegranate

@i make lists I really should just stop reading all non-Hairpin comments everywhere on the entire internet.

EternalFootwoman

@i make lists I posted it to Facebook and someone commented, "Anyone who invokes 'privilege' is usually using it as a springboard to quotas, affirmative action, or more government entitlements, so the 'vampire being fed garlic' reaction is understandable." Nice.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@EternalFootwoman UGH ALL OVER THAT.

redheaded&crazy

@i make lists I saw it posted elsewhere. love the article, would not read the comments!

i make lists

@dj pomegranate Oh man, I got totally sucked in to that thread. I even tried to comment, but apparently Gawker didn't approve it? Never commented there before, but it was probably not approved due to sarcasm. Plus I had to create a new email address, and I named it stupidgawkeracct@hotmail.com. Maybe they though I was a troll?

Veronica Mars is smarter than me

Also also, would anyone be interested in joining a different (additional) d-list a la the Hairpin Fashion Club, but for other interests? I really like the glimpses of pinners' homes that I've seen in the HFC pics and was thinking about home decor. Tell me what you'd like to see!

dj pomegranate

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me LOVE THIS yes yes yes. I have bright blue walls I need to share with everyone.

OhMyGoshYouGuys

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me Wait, there's a fashion club?

camanda

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me Home decor is MY JAM. I am not super fashionable (though I love clothes), so I am mostly a watcher/off-topic-er in the HFC. I would LOVE a home decor group and I could put my professional skills to good use! Plus I could use advice on what the hell to do with the giant in-law apartment in my parents' house that I live in. SO MANY BIG WALLS.

redheaded&crazy

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me I love home decor omg

redheaded&crazy

@Mere fashion club here the cliquey name is extremely misleading i am just uncreative

The Lady of Shalott

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me I would like this VERY MUCH because I solicit opinions on things like this!!!

redheaded&crazy

@redheaded&crazie also people could talk about home decor there if they wanted ....

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me Yes. I have so much interest.

tessamae

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me !!!!!!!!!!!! SIGN ME UP. I just moved into my very first very own apartment and I have gone a little cray but it is so awesome that I want to sing its praises from the mountaintops!

smackeroni

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me yes please!

sophia_h

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me I would! Home decor is one of my favorite things, partly because there are no sizes on awesome throw pillows. :)

terrific

@Veronica Mars is smarter than me YES. that is all. YES

angelinha

Yay open thread! I read Rona Jaffe's The Best of Everything at Nicole's recommendation and LOVED it, but am confused about the significance of the ending. But I loved it. Next step: watch the movie. And the TV series.

angelinha

@angelinha Related: can anyone point me to criticism on this book not published by random Goodreads users?

WaityKatie

@angelinha I LOVE The Best of Everything, but I must warn you, the movie is a serious disappointment! It is not like the book at all and actually quite boring!

charlesbois

The weather here in Michigan is going to be GORGEOUS! Thinking hard about attending Flower Day at Eastern Market in Detroit, then heading over to the pop-up biergarten Tashmoo!

OhMyGoshYouGuys

@charlesbois Yes! It's going to be in the 80s on the west side. Pop-up biergarten sounds amazing.

AniaGosia

@charlesbois Yeah! I'm in western Michigan and it is gorgeous!! Bike rides! Gardening! Margaritas!

werewolfbarmitzvah

Whooooooooooooooooooo, today is my last day in the office for a hundred years, because I'm going to the Philippines next week!!! We so exciiiiiited, we so exciiiiiited (as long as I don't get sick, fingers crossed).

MollyculeTheory

Cocktail crowdsourcing pls!

I am staying at the Boatel this weekend! Any suggestions for boaty-themed drinks that can be made with no electricity, limited mixers, and bag ice? Part of me is going "suck it up and drink whisky" but... but... boat drinks!

@MollyculeTheory Just bring your flippy-floppies and a nautical themed Pashmina afghan and you'll be set.

Whiskey.

charlesbois

@MollyculeTheory How about grog -- a million old-timey sailors can't be wrong. That or rum.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@MollyculeTheory You could make anything and then float a piece of fruit in it and call it a boat??

Janestreet

@MollyculeTheory Bourbon Smash! Bourbon Smash! bourbon, some berries, pre-made sugar syrup, some mint, mash smash smash, ice.

meetapossum

@MollyculeTheory Pimm's cup! Pimm's and Sprite and some fruits.

EpWs

@MollyculeTheory Crunk Arnold Palmers! Any combination of lemonade, sweet tea, and vodka. (Lemonade+sweet tea vodka is easiest for me.)

Bittersweet

@MollyculeTheory Dark 'n' stormies 4eva. You don't even need limes if you don't feel like it.

MollyculeTheory

@Bittersweet Dark 'n' stormies! Of course! Jolie would be mad at me for forgetting the old Stark and Dormy.

highfivesforall

@MollyculeTheory The Boatel! What an awesome concept! Tell us all about it next week?

As far as boat drinks, according to wikipedia they are "a class of cocktail generally containing rum and one or more fruit juices." Also "The quintessential boat drink is the mai tai." The more you know!

Lee Van Queef

You guyyyyyyys, I got in my first mansplain-countering internet argument yesterday on another blog and it is still going. Defending Betty Draper Francis, no less. BABY FEMINIST'S DAY OUT.

:( or :) ?

Holden Cauliflower

@Woman Laughing Alone With Boas
:D!

Snicker-snack!

@Woman Laughing Alone With Boas Awesome! I, too, love Betty and will defend her to the death!

Kulojam

FRIDAY NIGHT LIGHTS! Why did I resist it so long? I'm halfway through season one and will be finishing it this weekend as I pack up my apartment. I SO want to be Tami Taylor - she is so wise!

Also, I had to see my husband (ex? if you're just separated?) this morning to register our separation with the civil registrar (yay chilean bureaucracy). Anyway, I straightened my curly blonde hair, and he said that with straight hair I look like that actress who played that lawyer in that movie. Any ideas about who the hell he was talking about? Was this a compliment?

@Kulojam I'm packing all weekend, too! (See post a few threads below). I may just need to turn on Friday Night Lights and allow that to help me work up the motivation to Clean All The Things.

Fodforever

@Kulojam The only thing that comes to mind is Legally Blonde. So, I'd say it's a compliment (?)

Kulojam

@S. Elizabeth your packing reasons are so awesome! i commented down below but your summer job/post graduation job is so fantastic that it deserves two comments.

Inkling

Is anyone else playing Diablo 3? Because, Diablo 3. How do you feel about that witch doctor and the appropriation of Voodoo culture? Are you excited about the male and female characters?

Also, since my emotionally unstable skaterboy landlord run-in, I found a lovely new apartment with a big backyard. The yard has chickens in it. Chickens in the yard. I really hope my new landlord is too lazy to get rid of them. Their little peeps!

JadedStone

@Inkcrafter I have mixed feelings about the race thing BUT! I am PLEASED they included black characters, Asians, and redheads. The only blonde is the female monk! I think it's a huge step for a game.

Otherwise I'm... kinda... umm... do you find it easy? Compared to 2? Cause.. I feel letting us identify and teleport as much as we want is sorta cheating!

Granted, I haven't had a chance to play much. I have a level 13 demon warrior named, are you ready for this? JADED
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Biketastrophy

@Inkcrafter Wait, wild chickens? They don't have a coop or anything?

ELECTROMAGNETIC CHAOS

@Inkcrafter: Female monk cute and sassy haircut +100

Cringe inducing gypsy accent -40

ELECTROMAGNETIC CHAOS

@Jade: IDing magic items was pointless, may as well be able to do it in the field. Since town portal scrolls were so plentiful anyway, it wasn't like you couldn't get any. They do have that time delay so you can't ninja vanish out.

Battletag: #1666

Inkling

@Jade
I am downloading it literally now, after installing 2 new GBs of RAM all by myself! (Suck it, HATERS.) That does sound like some easiness going on... I will justify it to myself saying that my character is very magical (portal) and worldly (ID) which is why she's even on this quest.
Is the demon hunter big into jade or um something else? My sister has named hers Enoby (My Immortal) and my friend named his witch doctor DrSpacemen.

@Biketastrophy
The chickens are coopless, and sleep beneath a small platform under the deck. I dunno how they are not all eaten by snakes, but I will build them a coop if I can keep them!

Inkling

@Jade
I previously thought of my character as a young whippersnapper who wouldn't know everything about everything magical, so it made sense that they couldn't ID stuff without reference papers, but now maybe they're all big Twilight Sparkle nerds who really studied this stuff beforehand. Also, the Druid in Diablo 2 was a redhead! And a hottie. I would tap that.

ETA Ohhh okay. No that's good! She definitely needs to have an Ebony Raven Dementia Dark'ness Way type of name.
PS Is your brother's nickname Beerbarian, just curious.
PPS Speaking of hotties, I'm assuming the majority of appearance-minded people will be wizards, because they are conventionally attractive.

JadedStone

@Inkcrafter OH. It's because I'M big into Jade and the demon hunter is super bitter and stuff and therefore JADED is HILARIOUS but probably just to me.

I would battletag the heck out of all of ya but know that there's this 8 year old autistic barbarian who follows me on all quests. (My baby bro. Diablo 3 is actually good for his social conditioning, and he is actually very good to fight with. Diablo 3 is his social skills 101.)

Girl Named Jack

@Inkcrafter Me and my unsupported video card are just going to bask in this thread, 'kay?

Inkling

@Girl Named Jack
Babygirl! My laptop doesn't support the game either, but luckily my future roommate has a gaming desktop so I'm just gonna play on hers all the time. It sucks how you can't upgrade laptops. Are you plotting a solution?

Terrifying Wife-Avatar

My weekend? Ongoing recovery from a scorching dance crush that I cannot even describe in the FOT without the whole thing sounding like a giant humblebrag. It does seem to be the case that examining the nature of a crush helps me figure out stuff about myself; unfortunately all that healthy revelation does not entirely remove the desire to put my tongue in his mouth.

Also I just realized we got home from the grocery store without buying any beer. FAIL.

TheRisottoRacket

Chicago people!! Let's talk about the NATO summit and how I'll be porch dranking all weekend because I already can't deal with all the added security.

thisisunclear

@TheRisottoRacket YES. Let's talk about how I treated today as my weekend since I could freely travel to and fro (and how I now plan to spend the next three days cooped up in my neighborhood grading and writing, thank you NATO?)

TheRisottoRacket

@thisisunclear I've never seen so many cops out and about all day. But I am excited to do NOTHING all weekend, because you basically can't.

dj pomegranate

@TheRisottoRacket mr pomegranate is in chicago doing nato security! The porch sounds way more fun, honestly, because security for crowds = all the headaches.

ImASadGiraffe

@TheRisottoRacket I work in Federal Plaza. There are a ridic amount of Federal Protective Service SUVs and Chicago police trucks down here. We have delayed start on Monday though, so yay for that.

mackymoo

@TheRisottoRacket Yeah I work at a hospital so they are doing a lot of prep and they sent out an email about everything going on including the Crosstown Classic. Just reading the email was stressful as I thought about everyone trying to do their thing. Personally, I'm going to fly a kite after work and celebrate Craft Beer Week. Oof.

TheRisottoRacket

@mackymoo I just walked home and everyone was already patio drunk. Also, YAY craft beer week.

Rock and Roll Ken Doll

@TheRisottoRacket
Enh, hundreds of people marched by my office and then, a few minutes later, when I had finished up the task I was working on and ran out to try to join, it was like nothing had happened. Sooo not really that bad? I suppose traveling around tomorrow could be more difficult, but just take the El?

Lucienne

I'm curious about what everyone's going to be watching this summer while we wait for TV to come back.

Me, I'll probably try and crack The X-Files.

smackeroni

@Lucienne The Wire. Why have I never seen this show???

WhiskeySour

@Lucienne Doctor Who. Why did I resist it so long? I know I'm supposed to have powered through it in, like, 2 weeks flat. But I'm savoring it. No more than 2 episodes per night. So that should last me a while.

Lucienne

@smackeroni It's really good! I can't bear to finish it, though.

JadedStone

@Lucienne I really really need to watch Twin Peaks.
and catch up on: leverage, psych, nurse jackie, etc.
AND finish deadwood! GAH

maybe partying will help

@Lucienne

X-Files is an excellent choice.

I will be catching up on the Who and the Skins and I haven't decided what else yet. Probably rewatching Veronica Mars...again.

JadedStone

@WhiskeySour I resist Doctor Who because an ex broke up with me because of it. (Dating me interfered with his watching it) Not ONLY was he a jerk but he ruined my ever watching Doctor Who.

tessamae

@Lucienne Um, my favorite summer show of all time: SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE. Can. Not. wait.

smackeroni

@Jade that sort of happened to me with the beatles. assholes abound everywhere!

WhiskeySour

@tessamae Oh my gosh...yes! That is must-watch TV for me. I've never missed a season. How does it stay so awesome?

camanda

@Lucienne I actually have a summer show, but it's Alphas and the first season was kind of dreadful on balance but I don't want to give it up just yet.

I've had Spooks and Wire in the Blood in my Instant queue for ages, so I think I'm going to try to power through both of them as well.

olivebee

@Lucienne I'm planning on finishing up Justified and then doing Oz. Whoo TV!

Sidenote: how frickin' amazing was it to have not one, not two, but THREE new episodes of Community last night?? So much love.

@serenityfound

@camanda Wire in the Blood! I love it so much, even if it does fall off at the end a bit. I actually own the first season on DVD (weird international region coding and all) because SO GOOD.

@Lucienne I just started BSG, because I am a terrible sci-fi fan and avoided watching it until now. SO GOOD. I'm also trying to convince my editor at the sci-fi blog I write for to let me do a Fringe re-watch this summer in prep for the final season.

dj pomegranate

@Jade Whoa. That's some fierce devotion to Dr. Who. Because I feel like ... there are ways to watch Dr. Who AND date at the same time...? (But seriously Dr. Who is so good!)

I'm also finally going to watch The Wire. I also just finally started watching Parks and Rec from the beginning.

tessamae

@WhiskeySour I dunno! How does Mary Murphy's face stay so smooth and Cat Deeley's wardrobe stay so bangarang? It's a mystery of the universe. Maybe I need to spend the rest of the afternoon YouTubing old clips...

anachronistique

@Lucienne I started Life and liked the two eps I've seen so far, so... that! Probably also Nikita, which I watched about six episodes of. Ladies kicking ass! My favorite!

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@olivebee Ooh, me too! Somehow I got stuck midway through season 1 of Justified and keep forgetting to pick it up again (my stupid boyfriend keeps wanting to watch things like Deadliest Catch and American Choppers, ugh). Guess I'll have to rewatch it from the beginning, shucks!

tessamae

@Jade UGH WHAT A CHODE (CHOAD?)! I hope that in time you will be able to watch Dr. Who. Maybe start with David Tennant or The-Love-of-My-Life Matt Smith as it is impossible to watch them and harbor negative feelings?

PS-I know loads of people are sticklers about starting from the beginning, but pishaw. I started on 11 and worked my way back and never had a problem. Like the Doctor, I move through the Whovian timeline as I please. ;)

Lucienne

@anachronistique Liiiiiiife. It's really good! When you finish it, watch Terriers!

Also, I'm going to watch all the Daniel Henney kdramas I can find.

Slutface

@Lucienne Luther!!!!!

WhiskeySour

@tessamae I started Doctor Who with the 9th Doctor because even though everyone says that Tennant is the one to start with I cannot help but love Christopher Eccleston. Partially because he starred in what very well may be the Best Worst Movie ever: Revengers Tragedy. I've never met another person who has seen it, but it is totally insane. Derek Jacobi, Eddie Izzard, music by Chumbawamba. Totally bonkers!

olivebee

@sudden but inevitable betrayal I LOVE Justified! So far, season 3 is my favorite (though I am only 5 episodes into it). You must keep watching! (At the very least, watch for the sexiness that is Timothy Olyphant with a Southern accent).

sophia_h

@Lucienne X-Files is so good! Buuuuut for your mental health I'm going to recommend you stop after the second-to-last S7 episode, "Je Souhaite." The last two seasons are *rough*, and I like to pretend in my mind that the show ended there.

tessamae

@WhiskeySour Is that on Netflix because I officially need to see that movie. Everything you just listed sounds amazing, especially about the Chumbawumba soundtrack.

Eccleston is my #3 after Smith and Tennant! AND I KNOW: it's positively grievous that I have Tennant as #2 yada yada. He's perfectly lovely, but Smith gets the edge he makes me want to put my mouth on his mouth.)

ELECTROMAGNETIC CHAOS

@Lucienne: When Mulder and/or Scully leave the show, just stop watching. Well, the first time is just her having her baby. But once Robert Patrick shows up, bail.

dj pomegranate

@WhiskeySour This movie just moved to the top of my to-watch list. Derek Jacobi, Eddie Izzard and Christopher Eccleston? What?!

EpWs

@Lucienne Spending the summer watching the rest of Supernatural and Buffy. Feeling good about this.

WhiskeySour

@tessamae @dj pomegranate It is available on Netflix in DVD form, no Instant (which gives me a sad) But fair warning, I mean it when I say Best-Worst movie, kind of like Repo! The Genetic Opera and movies like that. I recommend just allowing the film to wash over you rather than trying to understand it. I've read the Jacobean-era play on which the movie is based and it still was...intense, for lack of a better word.

sophia_h

@WhiskeySour If you love Revenger's Tragedy and also parody, I think you will enjoy this thing my friend wrote.

Lucienne

@Too Much Internet Good to know! I'm not a "to the bitter end" kind of person - I'm totally comfortable bailing on something if I don't enjoy it (Breaking Bad). Thanks for the warning.

WhiskeySour

@sophia_h Your friend is brilliant! That totally made my day. Thank you for that!

sophia_h

@WhiskeySour You're welcome! :)

dale

@Lucienne I really want to catch up on Community, but since I no longer have a nearby video store & am not getting netflix, I'll probably have to just console myself with my BBT and Bit of Fry & Laurie DVDs.

Ladies! I leave for a whole SUMMER in San Francisco in a WEEK. I get to spend the whoooole summer working at the kickass law firm and enjoying palm trees and sweater weather and delicious Mexican food and farmers markets and my favorite coffee drink evaarrrr (Philz "Coffee Mojito," iced coffee with muddled mint served sweet and creamy). I am ONE WEEK AWAY from amaaaaaazingness in the Castro and and and SO EXCITED.

AAAAND: Ladyfriend is OFFICIALLY coming to visit for a week! My boss called this morning and we ended up talking about Ladyfriend's favorite type of bourbon so it will be available (my boss has a bar cart in her office, holla!) when she arrives.

Other big news: When I arrive, boss and I are sitting down and hashing out the details for my job. My post-graduation job. As an associate attorney. At the kickass lawfirm.

ROCK THE FUCK ON, life!

Cat named Virtute

@S. Elizabeth WOOOOOOO! Amazing news all 'round!

realtalk

@S. Elizabeth THIS IS AWESOME! I live in SF, and if you're on the evil facebook overlord you should join our SF pinners group, OR just keep an eye on the google group for meetups. congrats on everything!!

@realtalk Done and DONE.

stonefruit

@S. Elizabeth A JOB A JOB A JOB! So excited for you, and looking forward to our S. Elizabeth-inspired 'pinup!

EpWs

@S. Elizabeth Yesssssss this is all amazing!

Kulojam

@S. Elizabeth That.is.amazing. Way to go, you!

@Kulojam Thanks!!!!

Ophelia

@S. Elizabeth YAY! So glad it's worked out perfectly!

Also, take Ladyfriend to the Moss Beach Distillery when she's out there. Fog + booze + firepits + blankets + rumors of hauntedness = awesome.

all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

@S. Elizabeth I'm so happy for you!! I was totally gonna write a whole "I feel you" thing a while back, (about your ish with the queer community) but then I just had TOO many feelings and had to step away from the keyboard. And I remember your job situation was somehow tangled in that. Anyway I hope that this professional change will get you into a safer place & a more positive experience of queer community (whatever that means to you!!) and just wanted to belatedly let you know that I'm totally feeling where you're coming from. <3 u S. Lizzie.

(also, just glanced through that herpes article comments and saw you totally schooled everybody on harm reduction/STD's. you win at the internet.)

ETA: also being gay in SF is amayyyyyyzing you are gonna have an awesome time. Go to Mango at El Rio if it's still around.

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy awww yay! So it's actually the same firm, things just worked out. Long story, but no, no longer working on crazy project (cause I finished it holllllla!). Which rocks! And I get to return to the kickass firm in all of its glory.

all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

@S. Elizabeth all the thumbs up!

@realtalk Just posted to the SF pinner group!

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy Your username is AMAZING. For the past 24 hours or so, every time I've been a little stressed out (packing! laundry! cleaning! gaahhh!) I've taken a 30 second dance break while singing "allll the kittens in the club gettin nipsyyyy!"

It's helped immensely. I think that when I'm visiting my parents, I'll sing it to the cats in front of my brother, just to make sure he knows what an awesome/cool sister I am.

all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

@S. Elizabeth Haha, thanks! Glad you're getting a kick out of it. I wanted a more fun name than my previous (100kb, just chosen for ungoogleability). I actually came up with it while cleaning, I was listening to some hip hop classix and just got inspired to mad-lib it: all the scissors in the club gettin snipsy, all the stains in the club gettin bleachie, etc. It can apply to almost any task! Kittens getting nipsy is probably the best one I came up with though. In conclusion, cleaning + hip hop = win forever. Let me know what the cats think about it.

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

All the stains in the club gettin bleachie.

Please be my new best friend. I LOVE YOU.

all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

@S. Elizabeth <3! Can we have hangouts centred around old hip hop/r&b and fancy drinks??? And also macrame some "INNERWEBS BFF 4EVA" bracelets? If so, I am very much down with this.

For serious though, I might be in SF in August? With family, so I can't have all the adventures, but I would be excited to meet you & other SF Pinners! I'll mention it again closer to the time, as dates haven't been confirmed.

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy I'll be in SF until around Aug 10-ish. We'll have drinks, it'll be great!

And today I pretty much hung around my apartment cleaning all day (i.e. prepping to leave) and definitely did some old school hiphop white girl dance moves while rapping "alllll the scum on the tub gettin bleachie!" I then decided to get into some girl power late 90s R&B with some "I don't want no scum, scum is a residue that gets no love from me!"

I'm the coolest, guys. Seriously, the coolest.

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

All the puns in the club gettin quipsy.

EpWs

@S. Elizabeth QUIPSY

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher YES.

all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy

@S. Elizabeth Aaaaaahhh oh noes. I'm arriving Aug 10th at the earliest. So we might miss each other by a sliver. But in other news, you and Everpresentie are hilarious, and I wish we could have a cleaning dance party together! I was totally sweeping under the bed and singing "let's talk about dust, baby, let's talk about allergies!" I feel like A Clean Person was probably smiling down on us from her throne on high today.

EpWs

@all the kittens in the club gettin nipsy Aw man, you're way more fun/creative with your cleaning songs than I am. I've just been singing "Troy and Abed in the mooooooooorning NIGHTS" to myself over and over.

Holden Cauliflower

Did anyone else get a 'pin pal back in February when we were all talking about writing letters? Have y'all managed to keep in touch?

I......just dropped a letter in the mail, in response to a letter I received at the beginning of April. :[ I'm so bad at this you guyssss I hope she doesn't hate me!

smackeroni

@Holden Cauliflower How did I miss this? Can we revive the 'pin pals?

meetapossum

@Holden Cauliflower Agh! I just remembered that my PinPal sent me another letter a couple of weeks ago. We're slow about correspondence, but it's happening!

The Lady of Shalott

@smackeroni Yes, absolutely! Email me at sdqsdq at the gmails, and I will hook up any and all Pin Pals who are interested! Just send me your name and address, and whether or not you are open to international mail, and I will be ON IT!

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@Holden Cauliflower Over time I have acquired THREE pin pals - one never wrote me back, one I owe a letter and one I still have not initiated contact with. Sorry, everyone! :( My shit is not together.

smackeroni

@The Lady of Shalott A bajillion thanks!!

cuminafterall

@Holden Cauliflower My pin pal moved and I don't have her new address! This is super embarrassing because we're in the same city now and could totally hang out, if only I knew how to contact her...

Holden Cauliflower

@cuminafterall
Aww, maybe you could email @The Lady of Shalott at the above mentioned gmail and see if she still has your 'pin pal's email address?

@meetapossum @sudden but inevitable betrayal
Augh thank you for making me feel better! I love getting mail and I love sending mail, I just...sometimes procrastinate a lot on the whole "writing it" part of the equation.

The Lady of Shalott

@Holden Cauliflower Yes! Everyone, feel free to email me with questions, comments, and concerns about your specific Pin Pal situation and I will do my best to fix them!

EternalFootwoman

@Holden Cauliflower This is totally off-topic, but I love that you said "Augh". It makes me think of Claudia Kishi.

tessamae

@The Lady of Shalott I want to do this too! Sounds awesome!

EpWs

@Holden Cauliflower I've been communicating with mine! Except I got a letter from her a week or two ago and haven't written back because school and moving and I'm terrible. SOON.

terrific

@Holden Cauliflower Augh. I feel terrible. My letter from my Pin Pal (we've had one round back and forth so I'm not totally terrible) is still sitting on my desk from... like... March. I keep forgetting to write back! I am a terrible person!

Xanthophyllippa

@Holden Cauliflower My PinPal sent me a letter with absolutely adorable self-portraits of herself, her boyfriend, and her canine friends. PinPals FTW!

Quinn A@twitter

On the heels of my "OMG I HAVE NO MONEYS" post, my boss just called me and informed me that I'm getting my bilingual bonus back! It's only an extra $800 a year, but dude. That's still $800 a year that I didn't have fifteen minutes ago. :D

SarahP

@Quinn A@twitter Stay away from Modcloth. It is too easy to justify buying cute flippy dresses when one receives one's bonus.

I speak from experience.

SarahP

@Quinn A@twitter Also, congrats, of course! ^_^

Quinn A@twitter

@SarahP Oh, God. Modcloth has entirely too much of my money already. Modcloth is a super-cute devil. I will definitely stay away. Thanks for the congrats!

ELECTROMAGNETIC CHAOS

@Quinn A@twitter: Excelente!

The Lady of Shalott

Ughghhg, I know that this is graduation week and a lot of people are super psyched, but I personally skipped my MA convocation because...super boring and I didn't want to spend my birthday sitting in an auditorium with a lot of people I don't know and people I don't even like. Unfortunately, this really cliquey group in my cohort ALL went to convocation and they ALL posted stuff all over Facebook, being like "I'm so happy to have the best and most supportive friends everrrr!" tagging each other, and calling each other the 'Group of Seven' and whatnot, and saying how they couldn't have done it without each other.

I'm just bitter because for the first YEAR of my program, I was really tight with most of these people! Then I organized a conference, and one of the girls volunteered and then didn't do jack shit and I wound up having to do her work for her. She, in turn, got mad at me for "taking her work," and then started shit-talking me to everyone else in the program, which meant that NOBODY would hang out with me, started calling me a slut behind my back, etc. THEN I found out that all my former friends had started doing a potluck every Monday night, never invited me (Despite the fact that EVERYONE knew about it--except me), had parties without me, and specifically told each other not to invite me or let me know. (My other TA spilled all of this to me at the end of the year.)

I'm really grateful to be OUT OF THAT POISONOUS ENVIRONMENT, but my feelings are still hurt, because...they were totally all hanging out without me. It's not even that I really wanted to hang out with them, because fully 5/7 of that group made me INSANE, it's just that...they were totally hanging out without me and I feel left out. Probably because I am a thousand miles away and STILL don't have very many friends.

BadWolf

@The Lady of Shalott Awww, honey! I have nothing for you but hugs, if you are a hugging sort of person, because I thought my classmates were horrid, but yours absolutely take the shitcake. They SUCK! I am very glad on your behalf that you are soon free of them, and never have to see them again, and hope very much that your imminent future is full of excellent friends who make you forget all about that clutch of very, very bad eggs.

Cat named Virtute

@The Lady of Shalott Oh jeez, that sounds AWFUL. I feel like in grad school there's so much pressure to bond with our cohorts because we're in this weird stressful insular environment, but sometimes the people you're in it with are just super unpleasant. I haven't bonded with most of my cohort despite it being really big, and it's super lonely. I'm really glad you're getting the hell out of all that toxic crap.

dj pomegranate

@The Lady of Shalott ohmygod. How do old people (in grad school!) still act like 5th graders? I am sorry this happened to you.

smackeroni

@The Lady of Shalott that's messed up. it will probably sting for awhile but you've got your freakin' master's! go you! don't let idiots who obviously don't deserve your time of day steal your joy. you are amazing. stand tall and go forth!

redheaded&crazy

@The Lady of Shalott ugh that is the worst. i am really really brutal about getting left out of stuff i take it so personally and get so upset and it's like, a constant struggle with myself to chill the fuck out.

i don't have anything useful to say. however, i certainly commiserate. those people sound like total friggin rude ass jerks.

anachronistique

@The Lady of Shalott What utter assholes.

The Lady of Shalott

@ everyone: Thanks, guys! I feel ten times better NOT being around them, and frankly I spent most of the last six months with my boyfriend making fun of them because they were pretty cruel to me, but...it just stings to be left out of shit! Especially since on facebook they would talk about "Had a great time at Margarita Monday yesterday!" and CREATE EVENTS that were NOT LOCKED so I could TOTALLY SEE EVERYTHING. And it hurts to be left even when I didn't want to go in the first place!

The instigator is this crazy girl in my cohort, who heard that I got a thank-you card for the keynote speaker. She said "Well, what's on it?" and I said uhh...a little drawing of a tree and a bee? And she said "Well, we should get a different one...he's an environmental historian so maybe he has strong feelings about trees. Or maybe he doesn't like bees, or he's afraid of them or something!" I swear.

Also once she heard that I was dating an officer and her boyfriend/fiance/whatever he was at that point was only an enlisted man, she got really sniffy with me and told someone behind my back that I was "pretentious.'

I swear.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@The Lady of Shalott I skipped mine and took shrooms instead!

That sucks. I have this issue with feeling invisible to people who I desperately want to be visible to, so I totally feel you. They're a bunch of fucking assholes, and you are great, so...we know who wins here.

redheaded&crazy

@The Lady of Shalott oh so two of my friends made a fb event for a show and left it public AND stated in the event that it was open to anybody and invited all my friends except for me. FUCKING BRUTAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

that was back in january and the show was in april and I was like we are SERIOUSLY going to still be doing this in april!!!!!! (it's still an issue in may actually) but anyway "the more wounded party gets to set the tone" is what I repeat to myself a billion times a day.

facebook is the worst.

EpWs

@The Lady of Shalott Fuck 'em, they suck.

You just have to get through the summer (and hang out with 'Pinners! Summer in Chicago! The best!) and then you'll be somewhere more permanent (with the boy!) and then you can settle in and assemble a crew.

Also FUCK graduations, I skipped mine and feel no remorse.

EternalFootwoman

@The Lady of Shalott Ew, how does this happen in adult circles? My grad program had twelve people in it and there was a little clique of about five who would hang out together all the time, post things about it, mention it in emails to the whole group, and then get mad that people like me didn't "make an effort to be part of the group". So, what, I should stalk you and show up to your homes uninvited?

whateverlolawants

@The Lady of Shalott Oh my, what a bunch of juiceboxes. (Is that a non-gender-specific term?) Reminds me a bit of my undergrad friend group and how I eventually got given the boot and still had to see their clique everywhere. Even when you don't like them anymore, it stings! Sad that it continues on in grad school. You have always seemed pretty cool to me!

Also, the card and the officer stories... hahahaha, she is so petty!

Fodforever

@The Lady of Shalott That is just the worst! Are you still friends with them on Facebook? De-friend their assess if you are, or if for some reason you still need to be able to contact them, at least block their feeds (why torture yourself by looking at all their petty group of seven fun time bs?!).

AniaGosia

@The Lady of Shalott Oh awful! You are well rid of them! Get rid of them on Facebook too! I love my MA peeps but didn't go to my graduation either because I hate that kind of thing. If I ever finish my phd, I'll be skipping that one too, for sure. All you missed was a super boring afternoon! You have the degree! (congrats!!)

The Lady of Shalott

@ Everyone:

You guys are pretty awesome. I wish you could have been in my cohort instead! I'm going to go ahead and defriend most of them right now!

whateverlolawants

@AniaGosia I'm still FB friends with 2 of the mean girls because I want to know where they are so I can avoid them. (One lives in my city now.) I don't know if that's healthy, though.

EternalFootwoman

@The Lady of Shalott Hairpin grad school!

Passion Fruit

@The Lady of Shalott Oh, that SUCKS. SUCKS! How old are these losers? (Can I call them that?) That is so mean and petty and childish. I hope you make many new friends, you are cool!

Porn Peddler

@The Lady of Shalott Quasi similar sort of thing, but last night I went to a party on a farm with my new friends, a party thirty minutes outside the city....and ran into someone who at some point walked up my street (back in college) with his ladyfriends screaming "SKANK!!!!!!!!" and other charming phrases at my open window. This in addition to lots of other abuses. When he said "Oh hi TW how are you" I wanted to say "Skanky, of course. How are you, you piece of shit?"

ASSHOLES FROM SCHOOL!!!! *shakefist*

EternalFootwoman

@Third Wave Housewife I don't understand that at all--how can people who were such major a-holes act like they were always best buds with you?

whateverlolawants

@EternalFootwoman I figure they either don't remember (sad) or feel bad but are afraid to bring it up. @Third Wave Housewife- wtf??? Who does that? Grr.

tessamae

I'm getting all sorts of crunk up in the club on ROSÉ WINE this weekend and I don't give a fuck! CAN'T WAIT!!!!!!

Bonita Applebum

@tessamae It has been way too long since I got crunk up in the club!

tessamae

@Bonita Applebum It's the best! And technically, the club is my apartment tonight and a wedding tomorrow, but whatevs. Nuances. Wherever my beloved rosé is, the club shall be also.

Donovanesque

@tessamae I have just recently started drinking rose and oh man. I LOVE IT.

tessamae

@Donovanesque RIGHT? It's SO GOOD. I think so many people think it all to be white zinfandel, and therefore gross, but tuh! There's so much more to it! I highly rec Ménage à Trois' rose blend. Cray cray deelish and pretty easy to find!

http://www.wine.com/v6/wineshop/Detail.aspx?product_id=111517&s=GoogleBase&cid=GoogleBase_CSE_111517&state=CA

Ophelia

@tessamae A few years ago my friend and I decided that we were going to have The Summer of Rose. It was the Best Summer. So, all I'm saying is, this sounds like a very good plan.

whatdream

Packing to move to Austin in a month. Ack! Be my friend.

Passion Fruit

@whatdream I don't live there, but I visit preeeeetty often. We can be friends! Just don't judge me. This is my safe space!

flippinmackeral

Yo, ladies. Been meaning to post this for six weeks: I had my baby! She's awesome & is beautiful & cries & eats & poops & smiles. We went putt-putting today at a natural grass mini golf place and I totally popped my boob out on the 13th hole to feed her after I scored a mad-skilled Eagle with her wrapped up in a sling on my chest.

redheaded&crazy

@flippinmackeral baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaby! congratulations on that and more importantly the mini golf eagle!!!!

dj pomegranate

@flippinmackeral BABY! Baby who eats and poops and smiles! (Please post pics of baby feet and/or cheeks.)

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@flippinmackeral Congratulations!!!!

EpWs

@flippinmackeral YAY! Congratulations on Baby Mackeral and that mini golf eagle and general awesomeness. YOU GO GIRL.

EternalFootwoman

@flippinmackeral Congratulations! On both the baby and on your badass putt-putt/breastfeeding skills.

AniaGosia

@flippinmackeral Congrats! Baby! It sounds like you are kicking ass as a momma!

H.E. Ladypants

I'm going to a wedding tomorrow!

There will be a bouncy castle at the reception.

I love my friends.

tessamae

@H.E. Ladypants I am also going to a wedding tomorrow! With my best gays! Which means D-A-N-C-I-N-G my face off! Supe pumped.

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@H.E. Ladypants Best wedding ever?!

Killerpants

@H.E. Ladypants Niiiice. That is the kind of wedding I could get behind. My friends are going to have a memorial day party w/ a bouncy castle and a flip-cup tournament, and I can't wait. [I swear we're not frat boys]

stuffisthings

@H.E. Ladypants Just bought my tickets for a wedding in Austin June 2. Now I am so broke.

reebs14

I just found out that I will have grounds passes for the Senior PGA championship, which is being held approximately 2 miles from my apartment. Am genuinely excited about seeing adorable old-man golfers.

Xanthophyllippa

@reebs14 WIN! I grew up about two miles from three different PGA/LPGA championship courses, so it seemed like there were always pro golfers around town.

Related: when I was really little I used to yell, "Daddy!" every time I saw Jack Nicklaus on TV because my father is his Doppelgänger.

reebs14

@Xanthophyllippa Ahahahaha, Best Doppelganger Ever. My roommate and I are hoping to procure some sugar daddies, if only to buy us drinks. We'll see how that works out.

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Gosh the earlier mention of euchre just made me really want to play euchre.

The Lady of Shalott

Where does everyone like for bedding and comforters and the like? I am in the process of picking out a new bedroom set, so I'd prefer something that wasn't super expensive, but also not super-duper feminine looking, if that makes sense?

cuminafterall

@The Lady of Shalott West Elm has a bunch of stuff on super sale right now, including several very good-looking bedding sets.

camanda

@The Lady of Shalott I just get all my stuff at work because of discounts/sales/coupons. I am also unadventurous, evidently. But! Any color scheme in particular you're interested in? How many pieces (like are Euro pillows and bed skirts involved)?

smackeroni

@The Lady of Shalott no lie, Macy's and Century 21 have some legit good buys on linens - bed, bath, and bey

The Lady of Shalott

@camanda Ahh but where do you work???

I'm looking for something EITHER in a neutral/dark colour scheme (taupes, grays, etc) OR dark greens/blues. Or a combination of both! The ones I've been liking have been embroidered with branches, which is nice but not overwhelmingly THIS IS A FLORAL BED, you know?

As far as pieces...I'd like something as basic as possible! I.e., a comforter/duvet covers/bedspread and shams. I'm not keen on bed skirts, Euro shams, or ten thousand extraneous pillows, either.

werewolfbarmitzvah

@The Lady of Shalott Garnet Hill has fun stuff and lots of sales!

tessamae

@The Lady of Shalott I just got this guy from UO...such a steal! Love the varying shades of gray (About 50 or so? Ha. No. Terrible. I'm sorry. Uncalled for.). But they have a ton of stuff on super sale too!

http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?id=24341851

camanda

I don't want to edit my comment because I'll lose all my formatting and I closed all those tabs --

@tessamae I have a different UO duvet cover! They are pretty nice and I just washed it to store for the summer and it held up well. I'd recommend that avenue, too, at least at that price.

gobblegirl

@The Lady of Shalott IKEA! Lots and lots of fun fabric to be had, and decent quality. Also, sale racks in department stores. I always forget to shop at department stores. Do you have Homesense in the States?

schrodingers_cat

@The Lady of Shalott Seconding Ikea. My duvet cover from there has lasted about 8 years. I went for crazy bright colors but you can get nice, understated ones as well.

OooYeahAboutThat...

@The Lady of Shalott Overstock.com! The highest / cheapest thread counts for everything :)

AniaGosia

I am starting my summer job as a bartender in the tasting room of a cool new distillery! So excited! Also: I biked out to a nature preserve today and saw a mink! A mink!

reebs14

@AniaGosia You're in my neck of the woods, aren't you? SW Michigan? Is it the Greenbush Brewery? Because I've heard great things...

AniaGosia

@reebs14 Greenbush is fantastic, but it's actually Journeyman Distilery in Three Oaks! Come and visit! The drinks are delicious and everything is organic/local! I will be working Fri & Sun and maybe Wed and will be the bartender with the pink glasses as in my pic!

reebs14

@AniaGosia Awesome! I'll see if I can drag my friends away from the beach for delicious drink time.

WhiskeySour

No plans for the weekend; maybe a trip to the National Zoo? Seeing pandas could be fun. I live in one of the farthest-tier DC suburbs and I don't think I'm made for suburban living (Come on job transfer, any time now would be great...) One of the only positives is that I live within walking distance of a grocery store and a county-run liquor store. It's not too early to make one of my namesakes, is it?

EternalFootwoman

@WhiskeySour I love your name and, though I live in Baltimore, 80% of my social time is in DC. Clearly we are already best friends.

stuffisthings

@WhiskeySour I'm just going to jump in here to say FUCK THE FUCKING RED LINE for serious.

At least I have a pre-made excuse for being late 2 or 3 mornings a week.

WhiskeySour

@stuffisthings Oh. My. God. Yes. Awful, just awful. What the hell, Metro. I hate you, Metro. I hate your dumb cutesy "track work this weekend" image on the homepage. It looks like it comes from a Geocities site circa 2000 and doesn't make your stupid, non-stop track work any less horrible. Ugh.

EternalFootwoman

@stuffisthings The greatest day of my life was when I discovered that I could alter my school commute by using the Orange line instead of the Red. It made me way happier with my life. But sadness is standing drunk for half an hour on an outside platform at midnight waiting for the next train.

SarahP

Just scrolling down the Friday Open Thread reminds me how much I love the Hairpin and all the awesome people here. I want to hug you all.

@serenityfound

@SarahP I really wish they would turn the thumbs-up button into a hug one.

camanda

@@serenityfound Or have both!

sudden but inevitable betrayal

@@serenityfound Awww a hug button would be so cool!

@serenityfound

@sudden but inevitable betrayal And so much more useful! It feels so weird to thumbs up a sad comment to show "support", but a hug works for both happy and sad things!

Xanthophyllippa

@@serenityfound I want them to turn the thumbs-up button into a hug one that when you click it, someone cute and happy runs out of the computer and hugs the person who made the comment and then goes away again.

sophia_h

Yesterday they told us they were giving us pizza for lunch today, which made everyone on my project super paranoid that they were letting us go a month early since that's usually an end-of-project thing. But so far, we have pizza and no layoffs, which is pretty awesome and much better than the reverse.

smackeroni

@sophia_h do you have leftovers? i'm hungry. also it's cool that you're still employed.

sophia_h

@smackeroni Sorry, too many hungry doc review attorneys for any pizza to be left. And fingers crossed I stay employed until the end of the day; if so, I am buying myself this awesome skirt.

ELECTROMAGNETIC CHAOS

Last day at work! Putting in your notice is like getting the star in Mario. Big, fat unused PTO time check, ding! I am unemployed for the weekend.

I've been hanging out with the rider girl consistently but it is solid friend zone, which I'm okay with. We're going to the track again in June, so that'll be another 12 hours drive time to hang out.

Bonita Applebum

These are my daily websites/blogs:

STFU Parents
Failblog
Regretsy
No way girl
The Hairpin

What are yours?

tessamae

@Bonita Applebum Oh hai there, fellow Fat Jealous Loser! :)

EpWs

@Bonita Applebum
Go Fug Yourself
Hairpin
Reddit
Epbot
Topless Robot
STFU Parents and Not Always Right when I can think of it

Bonita Applebum

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher OMG I love the fug girls. It's been too long since I visited those two!

The Lady of Shalott

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I hit up Tom and Lorenzo for even MORE fashion-related celebrity news: http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/ But they do tend to be meaner and the commentariat there is....a lot crueler and more bodysnarking than GFY. (I love GFY--Heather and Jessica are the best.)

mabellegueule

@Bonita Applebum
This is my new favourite (second to thehairpin, natch) the ragbag

Which I just realized that I learned about because he wrote a guest post on the awl. SO really, all roads lead back to here.

Ophelia

@Bonita Applebum
Suri's Burn Book
XKCD
...and weather.com. I love the weather.

Bonita Applebum

@Ophelia It's killing me! I'm on computers at a school and all of these sites are blocked! Damn you, search filters. Keeping the kids safe is keeping me from my Friday afternoon slacking:(

i make lists

@Bonita Applebum textfromdog! And the Hairpin, of course.

Ophelia

@i make lists Oh, my god, this is amazing. It's reminiscent of louis v. rick, in a very good way.

Passion Fruit

@Ophelia
The Hairpin
Apartment Therapy
NYTimes (does this count? The articles sometimes read as neurotic blog posts. In a bad way.)

These are the sites that cover a broad range of topics, then I use the links included to jump around the web and piddle away most of my waking life, par example: this thread.

Faintly Macabre

@The Lady of Shalott Tom and Lorenzo's Mad Style posts are one of my favorite things on the internet. Half of why I watch the show is so I can understand the posts.

anachronistique

@Bonita Applebum Tumblr, Hairpin, The Billfold, Charlie Pierce's politics blog on Esquire, a bunch of dorky roleplaying games, Bad Machinery (well, most weekdays).

gobblegirl

Ugh. Today started with a nosebleed that went on so long it made me late for work, and things are NOT getting better. Realizing (costly) mistakes at work, computer problems, and I just realized that I forgot to put a yogurt in my lunch (I like yogurt).
I can't wait for the long weekend! Fuck yeah, Canada.

lindackerite

Open Thread!!! Of course I was waiting all day for this and then I have to go into a meeting from 1 until now.

Sorry to continue the break up theme, but thanks to all the Hairpin commenters who have helped me with coping with my situation with the ex-boyfriend moving on to someone else. I had thought I was beyond it, but now my main emotions include more anger along with sadness.

With that in mind, I am doing my best to bust out of this since the Philly Pinup is Sunday and I don't want to be the one bawling into my beer in the corner. (But no promises!)

Megasus

@aheapingspoonful Woo! With on that situation girl! Fistbump?

lindackerite

@Megano! Yes please! Fistbumps for all! I think it's impossible to fistbump and not smile.

Megasus

Ugh so I came home on Wednesday to the dog having gotten into the garbage (he is mad at me for having to be at my internship full-time I think), plus MASSIVE POO BOMBS EVERYWHERE that I had to clean up. I almost puked. Then I had to keep taking him out, including at some fuzzy time in the early morning before my usual wakeup time to make sure it didn't happen again. And I've had to come home early the past two days cuz there's nobody to watch him. I got back as soon as I could today and he was still covered in poo. I am so, so tired. I am like Rob Lowe in that episode of Parks and Rec where he got the flu and he says to the mirror, "Stop. Pooping!" Except instead of a mirror I am saying it to a dog.

Megasus

@Megano! Bahahah I just found out Anthony Bourdain has a crime novel, and it is called "Bone in the Throat" and that is still giving me much lulz.

Ophelia

@Megano! Ohhh, this happened to me a few weeks ago, and it took a week of chicken, rice, and panacur to get him back to normal. Blergh. I feel your pain.

Megasus

@Ophelia He is having black rice, because that is what I have. It seems to be fine. It just comes right back out again though.

ELECTROMAGNETIC CHAOS

@Megano!: Where do corgis store all their poop? I can't do as much as they do and I weigh x 7. If I walked my friend's corgi long enough, he would produce four piles, from oldest to freshest.

Megasus

@Too Much Internet Well, they're pretty long...and they like to eat...but mostly they just really like pooping outside and save it up for you.

dale

@Megano! It's safe to give dogs a bit of Pepto, you might be able to give him...a quarter of one, though you could check with your vet clinic? Our 60-70 pound dogs were allowed to have (I think) a whole tablet. It at least might slow things down a little bit.

Megasus

@dale Oh man, I should make a store run and get some. It's so far...

just reading in a boat no big deal

Yay!! My semester is over!! It got really hairy there, for a few weeks, but everything is passed, and the grades are even halfway decent. A hearty thanks to the Hairpin ladies who sent me mental-health good wishes. And basically to all Hairpin ladies, who inspire me by being kickass and unflappable in the face of life hardship and adversity.

Much love!

sarah girl

@just reading in a boat no big deal Awesome, that's wonderful to hear!! I hope you're getting some hardcore relaxing time now :)

terrific

I am going to Pennsylvania for this weekend! It is my first trip with the dude and I have also never been to Pennsylvania. So I'm excited! Cabins! Cuddling! Stars! Ahhhh!

EpWs

@terrific Have you seen Cabin In The Woods yet?

...maybe don't do that before you go. (Have fun!)

terrific

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Heeee. Yes! I have! I am reassured by the fact that, according to Google Maps, there are other cabins in the wood by my specific cabin in the wood.

EpWs

@terrific Good! Just in case, don't go down in the basement, don't split up, and for the love of sweet tiny kittens if a creepy old man tells you not to go, DON'T GO.

okaycrochet

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I like you.

EpWs

@okaycrochet :D

Bittersweet

OK, you guys, so yesterday I got laid off. Or at least, got word that I was going to be laid off, effective June 1 (end of my company's fiscal year). Of course I'm upset and annoyed and nonplussed at who kept their jobs (it's not that many people - huge carnage in my group).

But the more I think about it, the less annoyed I get. I know where I stand, after months and months of tension and worrying about getting laid off. I'm getting a decent severance package, I have a few other opportunities in the works, I could take the summer off if I wanted to. I have the most awesomely supportive, encouraging family in the world. And this could be the kick in the ass I need to set up that blog I've been meaning to start for months.

Plus, you guys, I could be one of the survivors, wondering how the f*ck I'm going to do the work of 17 with 6 people. Let's raise a big glass to that, y'all! Drying my tears and going to open the Sauvignon.

SarahP

@Bittersweet I'm sorry you lost your job, but I'm really glad for you that you can see an upside to it. Good luck!

tessamae

@Bittersweet So sorry too! But I've been there, sisterfriend. Your head sounds like it's in a great place (which is half the battle) and you're completely spot on: being one of the survivors would have been awful. It, of course, took me a while to be able to see this, but getting laid off was the best thing that could have happened to me career-wise. It gave the the boot in the ass I needed to go after the job I really wanted to do and I haven't looked back. Best of luck!!!

laurel

@Bittersweet This was such a big moment for me two years ago. While I initially felt so powerless, I ended up more in control of my life than ever before. Now that I'm contracting (including for my old organization) I'm so much happier and not doing anything I don't want to do. I'm about to fire a client I don't enjoy working for, wooooo.

Lily Rowan

@Bittersweet Really glad you're in a position to see this as an opportunity. Summer off!!

alpacasloth

I posted this on the google groups and I hope it's not frowned upon... but I really need help planning my sister's bachelorette party in SF in July! Her other bridesmaids are really nice people but they keep suggesting things like clubs by Union Square and dueling piano bars and I just... no, I can't. Do you know any of bars that have awesome drag shows on Saturday? Little hole in the wall amazing restaurants? Dive bars with music that is less annoying than most bar music? I'm going to spend all weekend looking at stuff on Yelp but I trust you guys way more. HALP!

AniaGosia

@alpacasloth I don't live in SF but I used to spend a lot of time there and literally The Best Time I've Ever Had was dancing at Little Baobab. The sexiest men ever! Delicious drinks! Senegalese music so good that I danced until I was exhausted and still couldn't stop dancing. Go!

alpacasloth

@alpacasloth Little Baobab - noted. Thanks! I really want to do something more than the standard bachelorette experience, and this sounds right up my alley.

AniaGosia

@alpacasloth It would be perfect for a bachelorette party because the music is just so good and the men are so hot - they want to do dance with you but not in a pushy or icky way (at least in my experience). You may have to check to see what they have going the night that you're doing it - we went on a Saturday night. Have fun!!

stuffisthings

I'm just going to play the Friday Open Thread Comment Count Drinking Game: every time it hits a prime number, I drink.

redheaded&crazy

@stuffisthings As soon as I get home I will join you.

also, my previously suggested drinking game which would not lead to as many drinks:

take a drink every time somebody likes your comment
take two drinks every time somebody responds to your comment
i had a third one i think but i forget

stuffisthings

@redheaded&crazie Yeah I just checked and my drinking game would have resulted in like, 112 drinks by now. So proceed with caution!

tessamae

@stuffisthings Awesome. I've already nearly killed myself playing the Bachelorette drinking game this week, why not start another?

Take one everytime someone mentions the dead fiance
Take one everytime someone says single mom
Take one everytime the show is referred to as a "journey"
Finish the bottle and pass out, you lose for letting yourself watch the Bachelorette

Ophelia

@stuffisthings I suppose if you only drink when the "refresh" hits exactly a prime #, then you wouldn't die of alcohol poisoning? I feel like it'd work often enough (and be dependent on how rapidly you refreshed) that you'd still get nicely buzzed, nicely fast.

fleurdelivre

MY BEST FRIEND'S LYMPHOMA IS STAGE ONE AND HER HUSBAND IS COMING BACK FROM DEPLOYMENT OVERSEAS NEXT WEEK! This is accompanied by a happy dance.

Megasus

@Megano! Bahahah I just found out Anthony Bourdain has a crime novel, and it is called "Bone in the Throat" and that is still giving me much lulz.

i make lists

@Megano! OMG! Who approved that title??

A facebook friend posted a picture of her dog chewing on a bone and she titled it, "sometimes all you need is a good bone."

Am I too old to be making "that's what she said" jokes?

Megasus

@i make lists Nope! Ugh, just saw that comment went through three times, thanks wonky comment system!

Reginal T. Squirge

Is it about blowjobs?

...I'llseemyselfout...

Megasus

@Reginal T. Squirge More like see yourself IN

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

@Megano! omg I just got that!

...on second thought, it was probably intentional.

Megasus

@Megano! Bahahah I just found out Anthony Bourdain has a crime novel, and it is called "Bone in the Throat" and that is still giving me much lulz.

Hellcat

I am so sorry to be a broken record (I know I've mentioned/whined/ranted about this before) but please, some deity, grant me the strength to NOT CARE that the CEO of my company (at which I am a copy editor/writer)
- takes perfectly correct copy and crosses out necessary punctuation while inserting unnecessary (and incorrect!) punctuation. We're talking unnecessary quotation marks, people... like surrounding the actual/legal names of places and organizations.
- writes incorrect information and will not allow her "work" to be edited... so that it ends up in print, which our customers see.
- adds random capital letters to nouns that are not of the "proper" designation.
- asks for last-minute "engaging copy" (for events and/or merchandise), which I write (whether it's engaging or not is a matter of opinion, I suppose), then opts instead for something like "Save 10% Off! On All [ITEM]!" (Yes, the exclamation points are like that.) Which leads me to...
- "Save 10% Off" (which, as you all know, does not mean what she thinks it means). And...
- "$5.00 BUCKS!"

I am losing my shit. My job has become "Lady Who Makes Sure All the Asked-For Errors Are in Place."@Hellcat What kind of insane place do you work that the CEO is copy editing stuff that the copy editor has already copy-edited?

stuffisthings

@Hellcat What kind of insane place do you work that the CEO is copy editing stuff that the copy editor has already copy-edited?

Girl Named Jack

@Hellcat Oh god, I am having anxiety flashbacks just reading this. I used to work for a designer who, when faced with the merest hint that something could be misconstrued or vague, would just keep adding words. It was never "pavement", always "bituminous concrete paved area portion" or something. I consoled myself with the fact that it was his name on the cover, not mine. And sometimes I would IM really egregious passages to my writer friends. Also: quitting. That was a good consolation.

Fodforever

@Hellcat Hey, fellow editor here. Just reading this is making my blood pressure spike! Can you like, make a quick-reference style guide for "everyone" and make sure she sees it?

If she keeps doing it I guess just try to let it go (that said, I would be Hulk-ing out).

stuffisthings

@Hellcat You could also try forwarding "common grammar mistakes" articles to "everyone," maybe that would help a little?

Xanthophyllippa

@Girl Named Jack That's how my students write - that style, but also that precise example. On that note, I have to go back to reading papers. At least this year none of them are on concrete.

Hellcat

@stuffisthings HA! Not a publisher, that's for damn sure. Retail operation with a catalog, website, and actual stores where there are events for which we need all kinds of copy. She doesn't "like how hyphens look," mind you... or apostrophes after an S... or the correct contact e-mail address that we include for customer to use to--oh, I dunno... contact us (which they can't... because it's wrong... because she is too good to be proofed. But I guess she knows best!

Who wants some highlights from her unedited "Greetings" notes that she writes for every catalog issue?
- "Whattaya'll think of [blah-blah-blah]!!!??!!?"
- "And, Boy, do we have a 'treat' for you."
- "Check-out the fabulous! deal on {whatever thing]..."
- "YOU GOT EM'!!!!!!!!!" (Yep, 3,365 exclamation points--and somehow her apostrophe, which is in the wrong place, is backwards.)
- "Keep em' coming."

I know I am being a bitch. But... well, yeah; I am being a bitch.

Gracefully and Grandly

@Hellcat do you work for Ke$ha or something? That's crazy...

Hellcat

@Fodforever I have tried and tried. Maybe if we were an actual publisher, people would be more receptive to that. However, it seems that "they" believe that speaking English as a native language is enough to qualify one to write and/or edit. Oh, and those mistakes ("$5.00 BUCKS"!)? They think they're cute; someone in the exec office got hold of the term "house style"... and ran (the wrong way) with it.

As it is, I think they believe mine is a job I made up, and proper punctuation is something for snoots (e.g., me) and thus not in keeping with the casual "everyman" vibe they want (...until, of course, they all of a sudden don't want it, that is).

And I apologize humbly for any errors I make here, as we all know that the time you're sure to make a silly mistake... is when you're preaching bitchily online about your mad grammar skillz. Bear with me, I really am about to Hulk out! Phew!

Xanthophyllippa

@Hellcat I won't shop in stores that have egregious grammatical or spelling errors. I also have been known to whip a Sharpie out of my bag and correct the signs. (Yes, I am in fact that much of an elitist semicolon. /pimping)

atipofthehat

@Hellcat

My all-time favorite is "Ladies' Dresses, Half Off."

See if you can sneak in some howlers?

Ophelia

@atipofthehat @Hellcat Seriously, you should just start writing ridiculous stuff just to see what you can get away with.

gobblegirl

@Hellcat OH MAN, I feel you on the "technical writer/copyeditor is not a real job that takes actual skill" thing.
My immediate boss is often guilty of that, but not nearly this badly. She just doesn't understand that different jobs require different types of writing (for instance: technical phrases from government regulations don't make for engaging advertising copy), or that what I do is a real job that shouldn’t be on the same pay grade as an intern who answers phones.
Luckily her boss’s previous career was as a writer and editor, so I usually can avoid disputes by just running copy by her, and telling my boss that the copy’s been approved.

Xanthophyllippa

@atipofthehat There's a store here that occasionally advertises its "big jean sale."

Hellcat

@Ophelia Oh, I plot all the time but I don't really do it. I did write some copy with and exclamation point after every sentence though. And, what do you know--they were absolutely fine with it.

@ gobblegirl I sort of ran into this at a previous job, where I was copy editing the exam that has to be passed in the US by people who want to be CPAs (riveting!). Obviously, there were many sentences I did not like structure-wise, but they had to be that way in a technical sense. So I let go and didn't care.

Here, though... oy. My blood boils! I just can't understand why they don't want the best possible copy; why a CEO is bothering with hyphens and the like in the first place; why they don't seem to think I know what I'm doing (this part is what I think is giving me a real headache and just making me feel like... absolute crap, to be honest, and I hate that I might be taking it out on the BF. Plus, I hate going through the week feeling so stupid, like I am somehow doing all the wrong things)--I know not to make our text all fancy-pants and the King's English and such, and I am fine with the slang and casual stuff! Aggggghhhh.

Fodforever

@Hellcat Yeesh, godspeed to you and what I assume is "ya'lls jobsearch!!!!"

Hellcat

@Fodforever and everyone: Thank you, thank you, thank you for patiently listening and replying to what really amounts to First-World Problems in the grand scheme of things. I appreciate it very much. I now have a cup of non-office-(full of dummies!) coffee and a cigarette after taking a shower with my coconut-scented body wash, and the BF (on whom I will consciously not take take out this crap--and who just called to see if I need anything) is on the way here to watch movies and drink beer with me.

So, I'd love to find a new job but... I'm kinda scared to try that right now. Editorial work seems scarce (along with a lot of other types of work) and, because I get paid somewhat well, I've recently decided to start looking to buy a townhouse (and that point was just now punctuated by the approximately 250 crying babies surrounding me on all sides. Oh, timing, you really are everything). I need to figure out how not to be so bothered by this work stuff; I mean, "they" want it that way, it's their catalog, and they pay me, so I should... go with the flow, I guess? But it's hard for some people (and I have a vague feeling that copy editor types probably make up a big percentage of "some people").

Anyway... thanks for indulging my freakout, and I am so sorry if I gave you fellow editors terrible flashbacks and sympathy rage!

EpWs

@Hellcat I'm sorry, doesn't like how hyphens look? I am flabbergasted. Sending you strength and deep breaths, because I would also be Hulking out.

Hellcat

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Yep, "doesn't like how hyphens look." But she does like exclamation points used in the middle of a sentence to emphasize a word (a word which may or may not also be bold, all caps, italics, and/or underlined -- oh, and in quotation marks too, so that you know it is an "IMPORTANT!!!!" word.

chnellociraptor

"Nothing has ever made me question my life and my faith in myself like the taste of an olive." -- my roommate, just now, while making pizza.

There's a story about her teaching herself to like olives but that's the most beautiful and profound statement I've heard anyone make about food ever.

okaycrochet

@chnellociraptor lovely. f'real.

just reading in a boat no big deal

Question for Clean People!: How does one squeegee floors?

I bought this rubber broom thing (http://www.amazon.com/Large-Sweepa-Industrial-Broom/dp/B0071CB950) because the bristles are awesome for sweeping up hair. Now I want to figure out how to use the squeegee side, but I can't find any decent youtube videos on how to do so.

Also, this is going to sound so silly, but . . .what do I do with the water I'm squeegeeing around? It's been so long since I've worked a mop (I've been using swiffers, instead), I don't even remember how things get dried up. I remember growing up (in another country) that some kitchens have a little drain in the corner, but American kitchens do not? Helppp me be clean.

EpWs

@just reading in a boat no big deal Augh, I have never squeegeed a floor that doesn't come with a drain before! Really all kitchens should have drains, seriously.

I would say maybe just use a terrible/designated Kitchen Towel (as opposed to a touches-your-body Bathroom Towel) to sop up the water, squeeze out what you can into the sink, and then wash the towel with a liberal application of Bleachie?

Two-Headed Girl

I'm moving in with my boyfriend, a week after we decided "probably not" for this year, because all of his roommates are leaving and it's easier to find a new place for two than three new people. This is exciting! And also kind of nerve-wracking, because I don't want to fuck this up.

On the other hand, we're going to have to make SO MANY trips to IKEA and Value Village and it is going to be the best thing. We're getting a chocolate fountain...that makes us adults, right?

whateverlolawants

@Two-Headed Girl Chocolate fountains are the best! A must-have for any living unit.

Two-Headed Girl

@whateverlolawants See also: marshmallow gun, mini pie maker.

Our parties are going to be the best.

Hellcat

@Two-Headed Girl YAY! With the exception of the actual moving (so stressful!), setting up a new (or at least new to you, in this case) place is fun! My BF and I like to talk about out future Star Wars Tchotchke Museum room.

Two-Headed Girl

@Hellcat New to both of us! His old place becomes unaffordable when it's only inhabited by two, which is really unfortunate because it's old and lovely and has a giant backyard (see also: close to everything), and we've been hard pressed to find anything that even has a balcony that doesn't cost srs dolla dolla bills.

And double new to me because I have never lived anywhere but my parents' place! I feel very Grown Up.

Hellcat

@Two-Headed Girl Well, congratulations! Oh, it's fun! And if it pleases you to know this, I have had my Ikea coffee table for 10 years now and, other than a few errant nail polish splashes, it's fine! I cannot say the same for the end table though; it's from the same "family" at Ikea ("Lack") but, instead of a wood(like?) finish, it's dark blue something-or-other, and it's nick-and-chip city on that bitch.

whateverlolawants

@Two-Headed Girl I learned about marshmallow guns recently and really want to try one.

fondue with cheddar

My boyfriend's daughter is home from college this weekend, and I'm nervous because she's more judgmental about our relationship than the boys, who seem to be varying degrees of apathetic and cool with it. This will be the first time I'm seeing her since winter break when I first met her. I've never dated a guy with kids before, let alone adult kids. I don't know how she feels about me, but I worry that she may have already formed a negative opinion, and she's very stubborn so that opinion would be likely to stick. GAH I'm in completely uncharted (for me) waters here and I'm so afraid to say or do the wrong thing.

Alexa Villaume@facebook

@jen325 I think you shouldn't be worried about saying or doing the wrong thing. Just be yourself, obviously your boyfriend likes you. It's not like the daughter is a child but a grown-ass adult and should be treated as such.

Ophelia

@Alexa Villaume@facebook And actually, speaking as the grown-ass adult daughter of divorced parents, one of the nicest thing about my step-parents is that that's how they treat me. She's probably not looking for a mom-replacement, so just be a friendly adult to another adult. But maybe with less swearing or whatever ;-)

fondue with cheddar

@Alexa Villaume@facebook @Ophelia I treat all his kids like grown-ass adults, including the ones in high school. I don't have kids, so I'm not naturally inclined to act like a mom toward them. In fact, the reason I broke my rule of not dating guys with kids is because they're older.

The reason I worry about what they think of me is...well, it's a really complicated situation involving emotional abuse and manipulation on the part of their mother. They're heavily influenced by her, so they don't necessarily see things the way they really are.

She had dinner alone with her dad on Friday (during which she asked a lot of questions about me), and she hung out at the house for a little bit afterward. It didn't go badly. She came over again with her brothers yesterday, but when all four of them are together it's a completely different dynamic so it's hard to judge. But she expressed an interest in staying at our house for at least part of the summer. She told him it would be weird living there with me around but she was still willing to do it, so we'll see how that goes.

Thanks to both of you for your advice! :)

EternalFootwoman

A few months ago I agreed to co-write a paper with a friend. She got a new job two months ago and has done zero work on the paper since then. And in that time we've gotten edits from the journal editor and our peer reviews, so there has been a lot of revision and additional writing. Which I have been doing. She is effusively thankful every time I say I'll do one of the edits or write extra stuff. But she never asks--she'll insist that we discuss the paper, list what needs to be done, and then start talking about how busy she is until I say I'll do it. AND she is still listed as the primary author, which makes me mad like a twelve-year-old because it's not fair. Pout.

Bonita Applebum

@EternalFootwoman You need to make yourself the primary author post haste. It's the right thing. And that's pretty crummy of her. Great that she got a job, but that doesn't mean she gets to abandon all the commitments she made prior. If she is that busy, she should take her name off it completely or buck up.

VDRE

I'm on the low iodine diet right now which means I can't eat eggs, dairy, seafood, or soy and it's driving me insane. I've been daydreaming about eating cheese all week. Seriously, I have these semi pornographic images of nachos that I can't get out of my head.

VDRE

Also hi I'm new here. I've commented maybe three times and never introduced myself but then I saw other people introducing themselves here so maybe I should? Internet etiquette?

Megasus

@VDRE I have never heard of this diet before. All of those things are good for you! I don't understand!

dale

@VDRE Could you pacify the craving by having Daiya cheese instead? I know it's not quite the same, but maybe if you have enough salsa with it...

VDRE

@Megano! They are good for you! The problem is that I need to get a radioactive iodine scan so I can't eat normal iodine for a whole do the scan will work.

@dale is it made with soy? If it isn't I'm going to tear apart every grocery store I walking distance until I find it.

dale

@VDRE Here's a site (not the official daiya site, though) that talks about their ingredients in the particular cheeses: http://blog.onespotallergy.com/2011/12/daiya-vegan-cheese-ingredients-allergen-information/

Megasus

@VDRE Is that the one where they inject you with dye? Because I had one of those and did not have to do that. BUT it was in my foot.

VDRE

@dale I didn't even know that soy-less cheese substitute was possible! Unfortunately it has salt in it which I didn't mention because I can eat regular salt but not iodized salt and I can't assume that packaged food has non-iodized salt in it (unless I call and ask which I might? But also they might not know because this isn't an issue for like 99.999% of the population). I'm still going to try and make this happen though.

@Megano! No the radioactive iodine is a pill actually and they bring it into the room in like a thick walled metal box with a long handle and then the radiation safety tech opens it with the handle and tips it into a dixie cup and then you swallow it. It's really only for people who have thyroid issues because the thyroid is what uses iodine so it should be taken up by thyroid cells but not other cells. I had one once where they injected me with dye too but I think it was in my arm?

Megasus

@VDRE That sounds...terrifying. I hope it turns out OK!

dale

@VDRE I don't see a phone #, but you could use the contact us page on their website! http://www.daiyafoods.com/contact-us

Porn Peddler

@VDRE "Watch us take all these precautions with this scary little pill. Now put it in your mouth."

VDRE

@Third Wave Housewife Right? Like I am pretty ok with dealing with medical procedures but it's kind of hard not to get freaked out.

VDRE

@dale Contacted! It would be so awesome if this works out.

gunface

Help!

After some annoying "will he or won't he?" drama, my roommate is moving out this summer! So now boyface and I need to find a replacement.. We're going to reach out to some friends, but if that doesn't work out, Craigslist is our next move. I have no idea how to go through this process of finding a roommate. Can someone give me tips/pointers?

Also, if anyone want to live or knows someone who wants to live in an absolutely gorgeous 3-bed 1bath apartment in Logan Square (Chicago) wot has free W/D, DW, a sunroom and a deck and totally rehabbed and beautiful 2-flat, please hollllaaaaa!

mackymoo

@gunface Ok I have no apartment help but since I also live in Logan Square I Hairpin stalked you and your comment on the Friends post could have been written by me. If you still need friends, let me know! If not, then this has been good practice for my new "reaching out and being friendly phase." (I have been meaning to come to a Pinup, but keep chickening out. Are you going to the one at the Boiler Room?)

gunface

@mackymoo yessss! i'd love to hang out sometime! i'm trying to de-lurk on here, but then i get lazy with logging in and commenting on shit, bah. i've been to 3 meet-ups, though! i had NO idea that there was going to be a meet-up at the Boiler Room -- probably because i haven't checked the Google Group in so long, ugh. i just checked and i'm going to be in Houston that night! the meet-up is on the 4th and i come back to Chicago on the 5th. pfft. it's just my luck that everything works out that way.

ps. i work at Starbucks and i am always trying to find people to give coffee or tea to (we get a free pound or box every week and i just don't go through that much!). soo. if you like coffee or tea, i'm your hook-up! :D

my e-mail is hanalei [dot] darbar [at] gmail. :)

atipofthehat

I just bought Peter and the Wolf for my daughter: Eugene Ormandy & the Philadelphia Orchestra, story narrated by David Bowie, 1978.

Based on a first listen, highly recommended.

dj pomegranate

@atipofthehat Whaaat! I didn't know that existed, but I love Peter and the Wolf and I love David Bowie, so this is obvs a must-acquire item for the pomegranate household.

BadWolf

@atipofthehat And you, sir, are the bomb. Relatedly, I need all the Bowie.

laurel

@atipofthehat I own that! I haven't listened to it in ages, but oh my, yes.

dale

The past few weeks have been all over the place.
The bad: Mom needed back surgery to fix her sciatica.
The good: Surgery done, sciatica seems better.
The bad: Post-surgical infection with super-high fever, requiring readmission to hospital.
The good: Several days of antibiotics cleared it all up.
The bad: Almost as soon as she got home, my dad had some sort of near-loss-of-consciousness episode that meant *he* needed to go to emerg. And then be admitted. I'm still not sure what it was, though mom & my sister think he wanted a little bit of attention too.
The good: My sister is there to be driving them back and forth. *whew*

whateverlolawants

@dale Oh no! I hope things just start being good.

dale

@whateverlolawants Ugh. Me too. I told her the other day that all the drama happens at their end, there's never any point asking me what's new in my life!

phillystout

I -need- summertime fruits and veggies to come into season already. I'm making a guacamole for dinner, and these tomatoes taste like...nothing. Seriously! Like biting into textured water. The guac is gonna be good because it's pretty hard to fuck up guac, but I'd kill for some lumpy fugly heirloom tomatoes from the farmer's market right now.

atipofthehat

@phillystout

Farm share time from the CSA is coming soon for me. Last summer in peach season I ended up giving everyone I knew about 10 perfect ripe peaches.*

*Perfect for peaches not grown and eaten in South Carolina

gobblegirl

@phillystout It will help a bit if you don't keep tomatoes in the fridge (unless you already knew that). I am finding some really good, not too expensive hothouse tomatoes on the vine just at the regular supermarket - I wish you similar luck!!

maiasaura

@phillystout Tomato season cannot come fast enough. I am reading Tomatoland and now eating commercial tomatoes makes me sad, so you should only read that book if you like depressing-but-true things more than you like feeling ok about grocery store tomatoes.

Xanthophyllippa

@phillystout I don't eat tomatoes at all until they're available at the farmers' market. Tomato sandwiches are possibly my favorite thing EVER and store tomatoes are just too depressing.

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

@phillystout Okay, not gonna lie, summer is when I love that I live at home because of my dad's garden and fresh tomatoes (as long as we wait til they're ripe to pick them because otherwise, no).
Also fresh herbs.

I am so excite.

phillystout

@atipofthehat
CSA giveaways to the neighbors are a given in our household. Last summer we gave away enough extras to feed a small army. The winter CSA was tough - it's hard for two people to put back 5lbs of potatoes a week!

phillystout

@gobblegirl
I just learned about not putting tomatoes in the fridge a couple of years ago. My coworkers and I talk about food/cooking/eating often; it's surprising how many people don't know that!

phillystout

@maiasaura I've had Tomatoland on my wishlist for a few months - time to bite the bullet and order it!

phillystout

@Xanthophyllippa @Rookie
Fresh herbs, farmer's market and backyard tomatoes....sigh. I know that feel bro.

harebell

@phillystout as i recently learned -- it's ok to put the tomatoes in the fridge for storage as long as you let them warm back up to room temp before you eat them. The flavor comes back.

just fyi, since this partially solved some minor tensions for me & my husband. (That, and sometimes we have his-and-hers tomatoes because I do not like waiting for my tomatoes to warm up! He "warms up" good cheeses and good ham, too, so it comes more naturally for him).

dale

Oh. Also. Back a week or so ago there was discussion around how pinners might be able to best recognize each other out in the Wilds of the real world, and I suggested maybe site-approved tshirts or buttons. I did email Edith about it, and she seemed excited, so I'm not sure if that will turn into an Official Website Thing That Is Orderable or not, but just wanted y'all to know I'd brought it up.

Passion Fruit

@dale You know what I'd like to bring up? Maybe this has already been proposed, but a monthly book club here would be so awesome. We could all read it in the month given, and no one would have to brush their hair, put on clothes, or make a baked good or casserole for a potluck to discuss it. Plus we could vote on the book beforehand! AND the book could act as a secret symbol out in the world!! AND EVERYONE HERE IS SO SMART, I COULD FINALLY GET THROUGH INFINITE JEST WITH THEIR HELP!!!!

Porn Peddler

@Passion Fruit OH MY GOD I SECOND THIS EDITH EDITH EDITH HAIRPIN BOOK CLUB!?

Quinn A@twitter

@Passion Fruit YES! We should definitely have a Hairpin book club! Such a good idea.

Passion Fruit

@Quinn A@twitter Thank you, it's basically the best idea I've ever come up with in my life. I wish I had this type of intuitive vision with, like, middle school science fairs or my career.

dale

@Passion Fruit I'd say that's grand. But...what if you also had a bookmark (with the 'h' on it) in the telltale book just to cement the certainty!

Fodforever

@dale Secret decoder/stone cutter/wonder twins/capt. planet rings, STAT!

Passion Fruit

@dale Yes! A bookmark would be so classy. "Yeah, I READ," it would say, "And not just on the internet!"