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Friday, January 13, 2012

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The Week of January 9 - 13

- A Lady thinks you look fine in those jeans, A Mini Lady OD's on stamp glue, and A Clean Person uses ice trays in a new way. (Dudes are away this week.)

- Natalie Wood: gorgeous.

- "15. Sometimes state quarters should have reconsidered the quotation marks around their caption."

- Everyone loves an iPad.

- This brought back horrible memories of the hours spent at an old job using White Noise when the guy next to me ate sandwiches like ... ugh, I ...

- How to steal Carolita's life and stories?

- "39. Melancthon Wade. 40. Pleasant Hackleman. 41. Speed Fry."

- In her Beauty Q&A, Jane hunts for the perfect t-shirt.

- And Elmo Keep hunts KISS on Kruise.

- War Horse: An Illustrated Review. Better with every reread.

- Have an excellent long weekend, if you get one, and we'll see you back here on Tuesday.

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Decca

Kate Beaton is on this week's episode of How Was Your Week and I think you all should know that.

Prairie Dawn

The Ask a Clean Person column the last 2 weeks has actually changed my life. For once in my life, I am a Clean Person (for the next 3 days until it all goes to hell again)!

Jolie Kerr

@capital K That is so awesome! I know you can stick with it - just make the bed every day, that ONE LITTLE THING will make all the difference and it takes so little time, especially the more you do it.

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

Long weekend? whaaaa?

Well, I'm going on a 5-day vacation, so I can't be jealous of you all with your long weekends.

(humblebrag?)

EpWs

@Rookie MLK Day (in the States) on Monday, many places are closed, including the government (where I work), schools (where a friend of mine works), and the Hairpin (where all the cool kids work.) Enjoy your vacation! Are you going somewhere tropical?

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher (Tiny facepalm) I forgot when MLK Day was. In my defense, we don't observe it in Canada? That's a terrible excuse.

I'm going to Florida (and thank you)! It may not be exotic tropical or anything, but it's definitely warmer over there than it is here, they have beaches, they might have Chick Fil A, and I can do all of the American shopping!
Plus, it gives me a few days' buffer zone from all of the minor crazy going on over here.

wharrgarbl

@Rookie Where in Florida? The weather has been so nice lately!

Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)

@wharrgarbl Daytona!
The weather in Montreal is not as nice. So this is going to be good... except for the whole "figuring out a travel outfit" thing.

wharrgarbl

@Rookie If you're flying in at night, you'll probably want to shoot for dressing a little warmer. Florida doesn't get super cold, but it's generally a damp cold, so you wind up feeling it disproportionate to what the thermometer says. Are you going to the Kennedy Space Center or St. Augustine while you're there?

wee_ramekin

If you're in Austin, we are planning a Pin-up at the Violet Crown Social Club. We're still deciding on a date and time; if you'd like to be on our e-mail list, e-mail me at austinpinup at gee mail punto com.

Heee!

Also, we're using Doodle.com to figure out a date and time. That's the site that the Hairpin wrote about aaaallllll the way back in November. So far, it's turning out great, and since there are 64 Pinners on our Austin e-mail list, it is so much easier to try to decide on a time this way!

Megasus

What!? No Hairpin on Monday!? But I couldn't even post yesterday because the stupid Greyhound internet wouldn't let me!!!

The Lady of Shalott

Ahhhhhhhhh a Monday without the Hairpin is an EVEN WORSE Monday than Mondays usually are.

I don't know if that made sense. It's early on Monday morning and there is no Hairpin.

She Saved The World, Alot

@The Lady of Shalott Seconded. All I do at work is read the Hairpin! What shall I do until 6 o'clock tonight!?

OhShesArtsy

@The Lady of Shalott AND there's no coffee in my office this morning. I will not be a nice person today.

one cow.

@The Lady of Shalott FOR REAL. I guess this will be the day when I finally finish things at work! Hahahaha, no no, I'll find other ways of not doing them.

redheaded&crazy

@The Lady of Shalott yep so this is the official open thread for hairpinners stuck at work on this lovely MLK day.

how was everybody's weekend? mine was great and drama free! YAYYYYYY~

worst open thread. tag, somebody else is it.

The Lady of Shalott

@redheadedandcrazy My weekend was also awesome! I got laid and I think I may have snared a Winter Boyfriend. (Well, late winter. Shut up, it's -30 here today, that's winter.)

I'M JUST GOING TO HAVE TO WORK TODAY, I SUPPOSE. Well, work from home, because...you know, -30. At least I can work in pajamas.

She Saved The World, Alot

@The Lady of Shalott My weekend was great too! I hung out with my friend and her 1 and a half year old and made a ton of peruvian food, which said baby did not deign to eat (but his mama loved it). Then I re-read Pride and Prejudice. And bought a snuggly red fleece bathrobe!!

One of my coworkers called out sick and my day just got unexpectedly, exponentially busier. Ugh. Mondays. Wish I could be in pajamas. And bathrobe.

She Saved The World, Alot

@The Lady of Shalott Also -30!? Where are you!? That sounds terrible :(

The Lady of Shalott

@pastina Atlantic Canada. We are having ALL THE WINTERS.

She Saved The World, Alot

@The Lady of Shalott Eeesh! No kidding. It was regular 30 degrees here today and I was like NOOO WHYYYY.

OhShesArtsy

@The Lady of Shalott I have a feeling today will be even less productive than normal simply because I resent being here at all. UGH, work.

BTW, -30 is just disgusting. It's 56 here today (Southern US for the win?) and I'm still cold and grumpy.

@redheadedandcrazy My weekend was full of compulsory family visiting so it was basically non-exitant.

Can I talk about my new dress here? I'm so proud of it but no one in my office is fashiony. http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/coach-tour-dress-in-rouge with a black long sleve tissue weight shirt under and thick legging and suede "booties". (That's what people are calling those heeled boots that stop at the ankle, right? That name is awful.)

redheaded&crazy

@OhShesArtsy OH MY GOD I WANT THAT DRESS.

She Saved The World, Alot

@OhShesArtsy Like! Red is definitely the best color there. Houndstooth a close second.

What is a tissue weight shirt? (I guess I'm not really fashiony either?)

emilylou

@The Lady of Shalott I live in Seattle and I'm SUPPOSED to be resentfully working today, but my super hilly neighborhood got killed with surprise snow yesterday. So there are no buses running here and I'm stuck at home (damn!) and I was like "Yay, totally reading and commenting on blogs all day long from the comfort of my own home" only to realize nothing is posting because it's a holiday. What am I going to do with my snowday now?! (Being outside and enjoying the beauty of winter is out of the question, I hate being cold...)

phlox

@The Lady of Shalott You guys, this is my first day back at work after a week of being out sick due to a sinus infection from hell last week. I still feel kind of crappy but sitting at home is way too boring now, so sitting at work seems like an improvement. But there is no Hairpin :(

My weekend consisted of blowing my nose and sleeping a lot. It was supposed to be awesome, with a trip to an ice wine festival on Saturday, but I did not even leave the apartment.

OhShesArtsy

@pastina Like a really thin jersey knit shirt. The kind you have to layer because it's totally see through.

redheaded&crazy

@phlox i've also been sick all week :( except that I kept coming in to work because ugh, long story anyways.

i get dizzy every time i blow my nose. its awful and disgusting. @_@

The Lady of Shalott

@redheadedandcrazy and @phlox: Last weekend was my sick weekend. You guys have my sympathy! I also had the really enjoyable experience of spending the weekend mostly blowing my nose.

@emilylouise: Drink hot chocolate! Marathon a TV show! Have a themed movie marathon! Make s'mores over your stove or a candle! Bundle yourself up and read a nice wintry book like The Long Winter! Go back through the archives on the 'pin and reread Ask a Dude/Lady/QC/etc! Go find one of the tutorials and cut snowflakes or make a star crown or a Qream concoction! NAP!

Valley Girl

Oh man I was all looking forward to at least a Golden Globes purdy dresses open thread. 'Pinless Monday is a painful prospect.

So, Emma Stone looked the best, right? At least as far as safe choices go...Tilda wins the risk-taker category as ever, forever and ever amen. Mila Kunis should TRY looking less than amazing sometime, just for funsies.

rararuby

@The Lady of Shalott I live in GMT so the hairpin is my after-lunch treat. I'm devastated that there's no posting today, but grateful for the open thread. Well, at least I'm working from home and it's cold here but -30? Never heard of it. I think a hunt through the archives is on the cards for me this afternoon - Scandals of Classic Hollywood ftw!

MEGA VENUTIAN SPACE SCORPION

@OhShesArtsy Excellent dress!

Speaking of dresses, does anyone know a good site for buying dresses that lets you sort by color (or has styles with multiple color options)? I’m going to be in a wedding soon, we’re picking our own dresses and the only stipulation is that they all be in the same color family.

crookedlegs

@The Lady of Shalott I'm in Halifax! I had the morning off and planned on being super productive until I woke up and it was MINUS SEVENTEEN DEGREES (er, celsius) out. What happened to our mild rainy winter of three days ago??

rararuby

@Valley Girl Oh man, Tilda nailed it this time. Rooney Mara is sublime, and Jessica Biel just looked so pretty in the cream-coloured lace.

The Lady of Shalott

@crookedlegs What mild rainy winter???? You must be spoiled by your ocean! I'm in Fredericton, where over the past two weeks we've had temps between -30 and +2, about 15cm of snow, and freezing rain to keep everything nice and slick. ALL THE WINTERS ARE HAPPENING HERE. Ahhhhhhh!

emilylou

@The Lady of Shalott Aw! I love all those suggestions! Realistically my day will probably go like this: Lazily check emails sporadically throughout the day, refresh Hairpin "just in case," drink hot cocoa, half-heartedly work out, burn through some Friday Night Lights, NAP(!), gchat about how bored I am. I'm like an angsty teenager.

Also let's talk about how I went on not one, but TWO disappointing dates this weekend. I'm going to die alone because I hate every guy who is interested in me. Maybe I should just go bury myself in a snowbank.

The Lady of Shalott

@emilylouise If you bury yourself in a snowbank, how will you be able to gchat? Tell us disappointing date stories and we will all commiserate with you!

redheaded&crazy

@emilylouise I don't understand dating. So late 2011 I was um, auditioning guys to be my new year's date I guess? Which worked well, I had a great time on new year's. But this one guy I met that I really liked, this is what happened: I paid for some of the drinks when we met, cuz, whatever, that's what I do. he messages me being all "I didn't mean for you to pay for anything, I was going to get it all, I'll make it up to you next time" cool. then I'm like "so do you want to do the new year's thing?" he's busy with friends, understandable, but says "I'll take you out for xyz sometime." cool. never hear from him again! why even sayyyyyyy those things? if you don't want to see me again, that's fine with me! just.. just don't.. ugh
does not compute

She Saved The World, Alot

@emilylouise Don't bury yourself in a snowbank! Ugh, I don't even know HOW to get dates! The closest I came to being asked out was last Monday by the guy who did my hair! But he came off like a bit of a dick (was judgy when I said I went out dancing to a club that played West African music, and when were talking about Manhattan neighbhorhoods and Chelsea came up he said "But don't a lot of GAYS live there?" uh...and?)

He asked if I have a boyfriend (no) asked why I don't (because boys are dumb?/I dont want one?) and asked me like 5 times if I had plans for that night (sleeping). When my hair was done he said, in smoldery creepy voice, "We should go out tonight." To which I said, "Haaa thanks for the haircut BYE."

HeyThatsMyBike

@pastina Attention work-stranded hairpinners! My hair dryer just completely unexpectedly died yesterday - it had been working just fine - no signs of impending doom - and then it just wouldn't turn on. I think it is still until warranty, but I paid all of like $25 for it and I think shipping it to and from Conair (I would have to include $7 for them to ship back, apparently) is probably not even worth it. PLUS I will still need a new hairdryer for month that would inevitably take.
SO - long story short. Does anyone have strong, loving feelings toward a particular hair dryer? Is there a lifechanger I'm missing out on here? I'm willing to pay more to get one of those fancy ones that won't crap out on me after two years like Conairs so often seem to do to me. But I'm also willing to pay less if there is a super reliable and amazingly efficient cheap one? Oh, and I have pretty run-of-the-mill, boring hair (straightish with a little wave in it if it airdries), so no fancy requirement for taking care of curls or anything. HELP!

HeyThatsMyBike

@emilylouise Btw Emily, my boyfriend is quite possibly going to force me to move to Seattle in approximately 1.5 years. We should be friends then.

HeyThatsMyBike

@pastina It is going to take me a while to process a homophobic male hairdresser.

rararuby

@HeyThatsMyBike my thoughts exactly! @pastina - maybe he was building up to asking you to go hang out in Chelsea for the night?

one cow.

@HeyThatsMyBike Folica is having a 20% off sale on all styling tools with the code APP20. Oh, and it looks like they'll give you $40 off if you fill out some form & send in your old dryer to recycle? Not sure if you can double up on the discounts, but I've had great experiences with Folica! Check reviews, etc, I don't know too much about good dryers.

emilylou

@dating ladies. Okay. Here are the two datesappointments (get it? ugghhgh) of this weekend:

#1 I dubbed "Vegas dude" as he had gelled hair, perfectly manicured facial hair, wearing a baby blue button-down with a tanktop, etc. Two years younger than me which I don't really care about, but I think there is some sort of maturity thing going on because he KEPT HIS CELLPHONE OUT ON THE BAR THE WHOLE TIME :/ Pet peeve of mine. We traded funny drinking stories? Really nice dude but I don't think he was super into me, girlfriend-wise, and vice versa, I'm not really trying to party down at the club all weekend? And he is totally in that stage of life.

#2 was complete opposite! Mid-30s, political consultant and journalist. Unfortunately, kind of a loud talker. Was clearly entertained by me and interested in everything I said, and asked me tons of questions about myself and my opinions. Of course, this means I was pretty bored with him. I felt like it was two hours of small talk about the weather. You can't fucking win. Anyone who is immediately excited about me, I am never excited about. Of course he immediately sent me a text saying he had a great time with me. Yeah, because I am a girl 10 years younger than you who was basically your stand-up comedian for two hours.

YOU GUYSSSSSS :/

And @HeyThatsMyBike, I was going to say the same thing about @pastina's homophobic hairdresser, haha. We can totally be friends if you move to Seattle, BUT I am planning on moving this year so you better make your boyfriend hurry with the forced relocation :)

She Saved The World, Alot

@redheadedandcrazy UGH yes dating is baffling. I have a semi-similar story involving a coworker. SO we were at a bar with all our other coworkers and it got out that I have a crush on this guy I work with. So we're having this whole weird conversation whwere he's liek "what do you want to doooo?" and I'm like "well let me make one thing clear - I'm not getting nekkid with you tonight! I want dates!" And he said "I'm not in the right place/I"m a fuck up/blah blah man excuses." So fine, I was gonna write it off as never gonna happen. Which is fine.

2 days later we're hanging out with another one of our coworkers at my place (I like to have dinner parties), she leaves, he says he wants coffee so I offer to make some and he's liek "No, I want to go OUT for coffee." So we go out, take a long walk by the Met (which is pretty at night! and romantic!) and Gracie Mansion, and then go back to my place, listen to music, watch Dirty Dancing (not even my suggestion!) and snuggle on my couch.

Do I ever get a call for a second date? ....Nope.

Granted, inter-office dating probably a no-no but we don't even see each other at work. Except he's out sick today and I got stuck covering his insanely busy clinic.

Life is so unfair.

The Lady of Shalott

Ughghghg @emilylouise and @pastina, poor ladies. Those are pretty miserable stories. Why are people so baffling???? Why do they DO these things they do???? WHAT PLANET ARE THESE PEOPLE FROM, please tell me so I can NEVER GO THERE.

She Saved The World, Alot

@HeyThatsMyBike I know! It was really weird. I wanted to say to him, "Nothing you're saying right now is recommending you to me at all." And he was also just kind of a jerk. He kept asking me if I was SURE I wanted bangs, and I said, "Yes, I've had this haircut before and I like it." And he was like "Are you SURE you've had this haircut before?"

HeyThatsMyBike

@one cow. Yay! Thank you! This is a particularly annoying time to have an unexpected expense come up, especially because I obviously can't just wander out into the freezing cold with wet hair this time of year.

beanie

@secretbees yes! Asos.com let's you sort by color, price, etc. They have a lot of cute dresses that could work for a wedding as well.

OhShesArtsy

@secretbees Amazon lets you sort by color and type.

redheaded&crazy

@pastina its super confusing. also it's not like I only expect the guy to make all the effort and take all the initiative? so maybe this guy was expecting me to propose something? but am I really going to be like "hey so remember how you said you owe me that date? let's do that!" cuz um, no. if you say you owe me a date, you can follow through. or not, and then i'll think you're confusing and weird.

phlox

@redheadedandcrazy Totally with you all. I had a great first date before Christmas, but due to a crazy holiday season for me and flying to see his family for him, we just emailed for like three weeks and it was all great and we had plans to go to the Science Centre for another date in January... and then last week I get an "oh, I think I'm too busy" email.

crookedlegs

@The Lady of Shalott Oh yeah, we're totally spoiled by the ocean. True story: I was supposed to drive to Saint John this weekend. Realized I forgot to put my snow tires on. Cancelled my trip. :( I'll try to waft some warm ocean-air over toward you guys!

The Lady of Shalott

@crookedlegs Going to take the ferry, or drive? It doesn't matter, you didn't miss anything except snoooooow and cooooold anyway.

She Saved The World, Alot

@redheadedandcrazy I definitely don't expect the guy to make all the effort. I usually am the one who pursues things because I'm pretty outgoing and extremely impatient (aries), but that hasn't served me well in the past so my New Years resolution (one of them) is basically #1 from Do This #7 http://thehairpin.com/2012/01/do-this-no-7-mix-and-match-new-years-resolutions

Plus I think it'd be nice to be pursued for once. It's not so much about the being pursued part as the equal effort thing, I think. I have had tooooo many experience where I've been putting in so much effort for like...nothing in return.

To 2012!! Ha.

redheaded&crazy

@pastina Oh I totally agree, definitely nice to feel pursued. Since I felt like I was doing all the legwork in my last relationship, I guess I'm not doing a whole lot of chasing in this casual dating scene. And I feel pretty good about that decision.

Was heaavily pursued by a hot Cuban while on vacation last year. Best feeling ever. Best. Feeling. Ever.

mabellegueule

@The Lady of Shalott I had to drink instant coffee today and I felt like a martyr. Then I felt bad because today is MLK day and my problems are actually not important. Even though I'm Canadian and we don't celebrate. Ditto on the -30 Canada btw! I'm convinced Montrealers are actually wired to forget how bad winter is since summer is so awesome.

redheaded&crazy

@mabellegueule This must be why I never took to Montreal - would always move home for the summers, therefore missing out on all the awesomeness the city has to offer! Then incredibly rainy fall season and you know, just everything about the winter season, were a miserable smack in the face.

She Saved The World, Alot

@redheadedandcrazy I had a vacation pursuer, too! But it was while studying abroad in Spain. Must be somethin about those swarthy Spanish speaking men, maybe. All I know is I've been sorely disappointed in New York.

Maybe it's difficult for the doodz. There's a fine line between pursuing a girl, and coming off as creepy, perhaps. I mean, *I* don't think it can be possibly that difficult. Just ask to hang out with me, damn ittttt!!!!

It has been a loooong day.

atipofthehat

@OhShesArtsy

WOW

Hellcat

@OhShesArtsy I logged in just to tell you that that is a cute, cute dress! I just bought this one but I might have to be a copycat and get that red one too!

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/darling-daycation-dress

Hellcat

@secretbees Blufly.com lets you sort by pretty much any category you like, if that helps.

redheaded&crazy

@pastina mmmm yes more swarthy Spanish speaking men please

redheaded&crazy

you could just call them ankle boots. I NEED THAT DRESS. IN. MY. LIFE.

I already have a backlog of dresses I have bought and not worn though.

For example, I just bought this dress: http://www.espritshop.ca/en-CA/women/all_brands/CATEGORIES/dresses/all_styles/ZO1559_001

not gonna lie, it looks totally awesome on me - but I've been sick all week and haven't had the energy to dress nicely. when i'm feeling better though! oooh baby

man! my dress looks totally lame and boring next to that hot red number. also I fail at responding to comments in the appropriate section. i can see what kind of day this is going to be.

OhShesArtsy

@redheadedandcrazy Oooh, I love that dress! It looks so sharp and put together!

I have to stop buying new dresses, though. I have too many and no where to keep them in my tiny closet.

Hellcat

@redheadedandcrazy "Backlog of dresses." I hear ya. I think I might have to start wearing them to what I typically deem as "jeans venues" just to justify my random and impulsive purchasing habits.

samafaye

yes! disappointing date stories!!

also, i just looked through the red carpet arrivals for the golden globes and yes, emma stone wins. zooey deschanel.....loses. bigtime. like, what? what.

rararuby

@samafaye Ugh Zooey. i can't anymore with her.

OhShesArtsy

@samafaye I'm so over Zooey. Basically, just no. She and her handlers are so caught up in her "OMG! I'M QUIRKY!! HAVE YOU EVER SEEN A GIRL AS DORKY-CUTE AS ME??!!" persona now. Just no.

samafaye

i think i would explode with rage if i ever saw an episode of the new girl. TOO MUCH ADORKABLE. is there any worse word in the world right now than "adorkable"?! also i think her hair is over her too, because it looks like it's trying to eat her face.

Valley Girl

@samafaye I've had an assful of Zooey, but I love her for enabling the cutest speech-to-text message I just got from my mom a few minutes ago:

"Did you see Gooey Chanel's tuxedo manicure?"

roadtrips

@Valley Girl My mom is the queen of the malaprop - her e-mails to me are basically that message.

beanie

@samafaye I am no fan of the Deschanel, but The New Girl has funny moments. All because of Schmidt, a side character, not Zooey.

She Saved The World, Alot

@OhShesArtsy I got into a fight with my brother over how irritating ZD is. He thinks she's cute and so attractive and I basically exploded with rage and ranted about manic pixie dream girls and how they're terrible and ruining everything. He conceded that Emily Deschanel is preferrable, but mostly I think to get me to shut up.

OhShesArtsy

@pastina I so want the entertainment industry to stop it with the manic pixie dream girls. They are just irritating and make real women seem boring and awful. I meet SO MANY women who try so hard to be these awful ZD kind of characters and they just don't understand why their lives fall apart since being flighty, adorable, and completely unreliable is obvs better than being a boring responsible adult who contributes to society/pays their own rent/ accomplishes legit life goals.

UGH. Hate.

She Saved The World, Alot

@OhShesArtsy EXACTLY! IRL, MPDGs are horrible to be around. They're unreliable and flakey and while it might be fun to like...go skinny dipping in a public fountain, or something, that sorta thing will get you ARRESTED. Plus, there are plenty of fun things to do without being a manic pixie. And the concept of a dream girl is just insulting. Real girls are much better.

Megasus

@samafaye I didn't hate her dress, but that hair was cray-cray. Evan Rachel Wood also won.

rararuby

@pastina The only time ZD is entertaining is when someone else is "doing" her

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqtUcQ2u5BM&feature=list_related&playnext=1&list=SP0FE44DE3769F3641

sox
sox

@samafaye Awwwwww. I don't love or hate Zooey, but I guess I like her more than I dislike her? Mostly neutral. ANYWAYS. I see all the points about her dorkish projections, but I was actually pleased to see her in a clean-lined black and neon green floor length dress with no headband or glasses? I feel like she could have gone way more twee with it. As far as the New Girl show, it's a teeny little guilty pleasure of mine on hulu every once in a while and I have to admit, she is kind of the new Rachel in my humble opinion and at least she is presenting herself as an independent thinker with actual emotions instead of the shallow daddy's girl Jennifer Anniston coined. *ducks*

But on other notes, Sarah Michele Gellar, what on earth? And is Reese Witherspoon playing Dolly Parton in a biography or something? Not sure about that look on her. And YES, Emma Stone wins and I want to see an up close of that fantastic belt!

Hellcat

Ugh, I was thinking about Zooey Deschanel today because my irrational hatred of her is sometimes alarming to me! And are there no other adjectives than "quirky" that entertainment people can come up with to describe her? I know a million people that fit the style she has/is so I don't understand why it is "quirky."

I suppose at least part of what makes me so mad is not even particularly her fault; it's not like I know anything about her other than how she's marketed (though I do think she's a terrible actress). And it alarms me that her clothing is so similar to what I wear (though I am pretty sure mine is far more... well, cheap).

SuperGogo

Herein is my Downton Abbey open thread--Hairpin HOW can you leave us high and dry the day after a new episode aired--threadjack. NO SPOILERS PRETTY PLEASE ILLEGAL DOWNLOADERS WHO HAVE ALREADY SEEN ALL OF SEASON 2! Here are my comments: I'm getting tired of Cora, who is supposed to be a somewhat smart and clever person, acting like a programmed robot anytime O'Brian makes a suggestion to her. Especially concerning Thomas, give me a break! As if everyone would go along with a former footman and proven thief being put in charge! And why is Isobel all of a sudden the most annoying woman ever? And I'm starting to like Mary more and also Livinia, and maybe even Edith, does that make me crazy? And finally, how much did my wee little heart turn over when Mr. Bates refused to take Anna as his mistress and tell her that there's nothing she could change about her hair that would make him feel differently about her?

She Saved The World, Alot

@SuperGogo I JUST watched season 1 on netflix, thought I was going to have to wait for season 2! I hate Thomas! Hate hate hate! Mary and Matthew broke my heart at the last episode of season 1. Sybil is great! And Mr. Bates makes me want to cry every time I see him. Lord Granthem reminds me so much of my dad, in that his heart is in the right spot and he thinks he's in charge but really all the women are running the show. I LOVE DOWNTON!! Ah! I love going hoem and making tea and speaking to myself in a British accent for hours afterward. Season 2 weeeeee!!!

atipofthehat

@SuperGogo

True, but one should only take a mistress if her hair is just so.

anachronistique

@SuperGogo It does not make you crazy if you are liking Edith more, I promise.

Decca

Ugh, everyone, I witnessed some horrendous racial abuse on a train this morning. A train in Ireland! A black woman asked a guy to move his bag so she could pass by and he responded by calling her a slave. She naturally lost it at him and it escalated really quickly, the two of them standing up in the train carriage and screaming at each other. He was calling her a n***er and everything. I've never seen anything like it happen in Ireland.

roadtrips

@Decca Ugh, how terrible. Not nearly as disturbing, but I once overheard a man loudly trashing his girlfriend to a friend on his cell phone and when a woman called him on it - by pointing out that the entire bus was forced to passively listen to his juiceboxy conversation - he got really confrontational and nasty. Those kind of things just ruin your whole day sometimes.

Megasus

@Decca Holy fucking shit. I would have got in on that action, siding with the lady of course. BECAUSE WHAT THE HELL GUY!?

Decca

@roadtrips Right! It really upset me. Especially cause the guy was getting off at the same station as me and I was internally agonising "Should I say something to him? Should I?" (I'd already spoken to the woman as I was getting off the train, just telling her she had my support). He was a middle-aged guy with his wife and two small toddlers, I think German or possibly Scandinavian. It doesn't matter. Outside the train station - and I can't emphasise how fucking weird it was, this is rural Ireland, nobody else around, we were standing by a river - he asked me for directions to the local university. I gave him the directions, and then told him he should be absolutely ashamed of himself for his behaviour on the train. Then him and his wife started yelling at me, saying the black woman had "brought in the race card" (!). I tried to keep calm even though I wanted to spit in their faces, and just told them they were abhorrent and their behaviour was disgusting. The woman yelled at me when I was walking away "You're selling your country to n***ers, you know." I was in shock.

Valley Girl

@Decca Damn, that's horrible. I thumbs-uppped for your gumption, not for the circumstance. Way to go!

HeyThatsMyBike

@Decca Whaaaaaaaaaaat. I actually feel sick to my stomach on your behalf. Good for you, and good for that poor woman.

redheaded&crazy

@Decca Good for you for saying something! What a shit situation, I think a lot of people (myself probably included) would be scared to bring the vitriol down on themselves by stepping in. Who knows what could have happened! And how sad that he's setting such an example for his children!!!

rararuby

@Decca Oh wow, this is shocking. I guess I'm a little relieved that the racist rant wasn't coming from an Irish person, because that "race card" bullshit has been doing the rounds lately in the Irish media. Well done for speaking up.

roadtrips

@Decca Yeah, what a terrible situation but - people absolutely need to know that they're being abominable and sometimes I'm not so good at calling them on it. So, thanks for saying something. As a midwesterner I have to constantly fight my tendency to mind my own business and sometimes it makes me feel even more powerless in gross situations. Way to go!

wharrgarbl

@Decca Seriously, good for you for calling them on it. Getting confrontational with strangers, even when they clearly need it, is hard for most people.

Decca

@Valley Girl et al. Thanks ladies. I never know how to adequately respond in those kind of situations, but that's easily the worst I've ever experienced first hand. My dad is really good at calling out bigots while staying calm so I was trying to channel him in that moment, but it was really difficult to not fly off the handle at them while they were yelling in my face. People don't consider Ireland a racist country, but it is. Last year there was an incident where a mayor gave an interview where he said he wouldn't represent black people anymore. He was fired, obviously, but I heard a lot of people sticking up for him. It's abhorrent.

Decca

@HeyThatsMyBike I felt physically sick myself! I was shaking afterwards and had to phone my sister straight away. Plus I was heading to the university myself to do an exam, which was just the worst way to prep for an exam.

But this isn't about me. This is about something that is insidious in Irish society. Nobody on the train responded while the original incident was happening (myself included): most people kept trying to read their newspapers, avoiding eye contact. Some people were giggling. I don't know. We all should have been up in arms.

rararuby

@Decca Agreed, we are a very passive people, and particularly awkward when it comes to addressing racism. I have been cussed out of dublin taxis for requesting that the driver stop his racist, anti-people rant more than once. I'm putting myself in your position and wondering what, if anything, i would have had the balls to say to that man. I can only hope Ireland becomes more enlightened as we settle in to being a multi-racial country, but there needs to be more meaningful, critical public dialogue on the issue.
Hope you aced your exam, despite the stressful start to your day!

Decca

@rararuby Agreed x 100. And don't get me started on Dublin taxi drivers... After years of uncomfortably putting up with racist rants I now have a two-step policy. I first ask them to not make racist comments in my presence. If they continue, or try to engage me in a debate about it ("But miss, look at all them black drivers, none of them have proper licenses, they're taking my business"), I tell them to stop the car and I get out without paying.

Exam went well, I think, cheers! And yaaaay Irish/Dublin pinners!

She Saved The World, Alot

@Decca Good on you for standing up to him! I definitely would not have been brave enough to say anything...probably would have just sat there looking appalled. At the most, I would have given him purposely wrong directions to the university. Good luck with your exam!!

PistolPackinMama

@Decca It's Martin Luther King, Jr. Day here in the USA.

:)

Those people who were abusing that woman just racked up some serious demerits from The Universe, is all I am saying.

Whereas you should go listen to this, and know you are in better company.

rararuby

@Decca My tactic is to state that I disagree with their perspective on the grounds of offensiveness, and that I want to exercise my right to travel in silence.
Hiberno-pinners ftw! Ireland is so very small, I think we even share a university! (going by the clues of a train station by a "river" and a university that is not in a city - it doesn't leave many options!)

PistolPackinMama

@PistolPackinMama PS: That smile is for you, because you did a mitzvah today. Not for the horrible racism spewing tourists.

Decca

@rararuby Does it kind of rhyme with "Babe Ruth"?

rararuby

@Decca Haha! Why, yes, yes it does! Now I feel quite shy that maybe I know you. You may even be one of my students!

Decca

@rararuby No way! English dept by any chance?

Megasus

@Decca I will pee a little if she is.

Decca

@Megan Patterson@facebook Same!! Come back rararuby!

Decca

@PistolPackinMama Thanks! :) I had forgotten that it was MLK day, until I was telling the story to a friend and he pointed it out. Doesn't make it any more or less horrible, I suppose - abuse is abuse, no matter what day of the week - but it does make me gladder that I pulled myself together enough to say something to the asshole.

rararuby

@Decca Nope, different department. Still, another anecdote to show just how small Ireland is. I shall keep an alert eye around campus for a classy 'Pinner who takes no shit!

Decca

@rararuby Ha, same! I'll start tossing hairpins at likely-looking candidates.

She Saved The World, Alot

@sox, why can't I find your comment?! Because, can we just talk about SMG for a second? My brother said she looked like a Blue Hawaii in that dress.

sox
sox

@pastina I don't know where my comment went??? But yeah, I just...I just don't understand it? Is it tie dyed? Flowers? Splatter paint?

HeyThatsMyBike

@pastina What it definitely was was terrible. Blue Crush goes to the Golden Globes. Plus the blue eyeshadow job just pushed it over the edge.

Hellcat

@sox I didn't quite understand the dress but I was happy to see someone wearing some color. From what I saw, the majority of that event was a beige-fest. And Piper Perabo's dress looked like it was on backwards.

sox
sox

@Hellcat And also Piper Perabo's face looked like maybe her derm talked her into the add-alternate package upgrade?

Hellcat

@sox YEAH! Something was happening there... but what?

She Saved The World, Alot

@sox I think it was a combination of all of those things, and the fact that it was like a froofy ballgown with like hoops and stuff. Too. Much.

Still love SMG though. She looked like she was having fun, even if she did look like a cocktail.

Megasus

@pastina All the pictures I saw of her she looked drunk. She was VERY HAPPY TO BE THERE.

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