Well, we made it through the first six days of 2012. Right?
Photo by GoodMood Photo, via Shutterstock
tgif, haunted houses, open thread
i might faceplant on to my keyboard yet.
Okay, I've got Lidocaine and heat patches, 800 mg of prescription ibuprofen coursing through my veins, a big old bowl of black beans, brown rice and mustard greens, untried yoga in my Netflix queue, and a little girl sleepover at my house tonight. Let's get this Friday party started right, people WHO'S WITH ME.
@kayjay OMG THAT SOUNDS PERFECT <3.
(and I LOVE abandoned, dilapidated buildings and houses. Let's look at more pictures of those)
@kayjay and then listen to the this american life episode!
@cliuless That is my favorite one! I wish I could live in that TAL episode.
@kayjay People are always taking dramatic and beautiful pictures of buildings in Detroit! Have you heard of the phrase ruin porn? Basically applies to any recent and arty picture taken of the city.
@kayjay Me too! (plugging for my blog post from when I mooched around new mexican ghost towns begins... NOW )
I enjoyed your blog post from last time!
@atipofthehat Thanks! I get awkward about plugging, but I love crumbled up buildings, and want to share that totally wholesome and normal love with others. Still trying to find an answer to the mysterious Tierra Amarilla with no luck.
Maybe that's where we should locate Camp Hairpin.
@atipofthehat 'The best time I got Asbestosis from an awesome/terrifying sleep out?'
I've always wanted to have the quintessential dilapidated house -- chipped gray paint, the creaky half-rusted wrought iron gate, and overgrown weedy garden with no semblance of rows or order, maybe some crazy round turret thing -- on the outside, but have it normal and comfortable on the inside. Can this even be?
@kayjay Ooh, I've got some. *awkward plug of flickr account*
@kayjay that house reminds me of
@Hellcat Have you read I Capture the Castle? Dilapidated castle living is really, really appealing in that book.
@Xaxa - gorgeous photos. Bookmarking this for later!
@kayjay I have some, too. I hope this works:
@feartie I have not... but I suppose I will now. And damn you all for frequently adding to the never-ending To Be Read Pile! Good thing I bought two more bookshelves today!
@feartie Okay, disregard my last attempt at linking.
Kingston waterfront ruins
@laurel INDEED. And also GOLDEN.
@feartie No one has tumbledown charm quite like New Mexico's tumbledown charm.
That house is the perfect house for a game of "That's Your House!" while driving!
Also this has been my first week (two days?) commenting on the Hairpin and I loooove it...if I had made a new year's resolution it was going to be "comment more on blogs I like instead of just snickering quietly at my desk wishing I was commenting".
@Ialdagorth GOOBLE GOBBLE
ONE OF US ONE OF US
WE ACCEPT HER WE ACCEPT HER
@Valley Girl I'm just gonna sit here and watch this gif till 5pm if that's cool with everyone!
@Ialdagorth Do you, boo. Welcome to the Pin! :D
@JessicaLovejoy @Valley Girl Now I have to watch The Golden Age of Video again! Hurray. (If you haven't seen it, click through, you will not be sorry.)
@Ialdagorth Me too! I've been reading forever, but just started commenting this week. Huzzah. It's fun.
@Valley Girl Yay! My boyfriend hasn't seen this movie yet. I'm so excited to watch it with him.
@Ialdagorth @tea I'm a newb, too! I lurked for a while and then decided to join.
@Ialdagorth Is "That's your house" like playing "That's your boyfriend" when you see sketchy dudes in ugly pants spitting on the sidewalk? Because I love that game.
@gobblegirl My friends and I just call that game "Teammates" and it's the best game ever.
A few years ago I was wearing copper lamé leggings with a neon pink chiffon tunic and cowboy boots (I was at an M.I.A. show, whatever) and I heard someone at the club say "your team!" to their friend AND THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT ME so be careful, that shit comes full circle.
@Valley Girl @JessicaLovejoy @laldagorth Ahhhhh I love youuuu guyyyyssssahhhhh!!!!
@gobblegirl What is this game?
@beccajanae me too. unlurking is fun
@Ialdagorth You are going to love it here!! Like George Sr. in prison but with less White Power Bill.
Okay, I know chain pizza is of the devil, but I'm munching on some Dominos cheesy bread stuffed with bacon and jalapeños, and it is the business. That is all.
@JessicaLovejoy AHHH that sounds amazing and definitely like the business!
@itmakesmewonder And they're the actual jalapeños, with heat and bite, not the weird "tamed" ones usually put in, uh, "non-ethnic" food.
I am having a love affair with this cheesy bread. [/George Bluth, Sr.]
@JessicaLovejoy We bought some of that for the first time for our tiny New Year's Eve party! So good! SO BUTTERY!
@JessicaLovejoy Fuck, I keep hearing good things about that stuff. But my jeans barely fit right now as it is!!
@JessicaLovejoy I am curious about the spinach and feta ones...
@chirdia: Super, super delicious. I may have eaten a whole one by myself...
@JessicaLovejoy That sounds so delicious I almost can't stand it.
A couple years ago Domino's (I am 99% sure it was Domino's) did a thing where you could get "garlic bites" pizza, where instead of the ordinary stuffed-crust pizza, the crust was stuffed with some kind of garlic cheese delight, and my friends and I ordered one during the Olympics and it was seriously the most garlicky thing I have ever eaten that wasn't homemade and I loved every single bite of it.
@JessicaLovejoy There is a Domino's commercial for the cheesy bread (should that be capitalized? I dunno...) that makes me laugh every time I see it. The two chefs are talking about how Domino's was one of the worst offenders in making subpar cheesy bread and the sad, guilty, beaten-down face of one of them is so funny -- he just looks so hurt and embarrassed.
I realize this is not a great, riveting tale, but I thought I'd take advantage of the open-threadiness here, as none of my friends find this as amusing as I do.
@Hellcat He had better look hurt and embarrassed, that stuff was really, truly awful.
@JessicaLovejoy when my dude and I were, ahem, taking a trip last week, I found the cheesy bread on the Domino's website and it was really hard to pick which one we wanted to order.
@blee cool story bro
@Hellcat I find your description amazing, and I'll pay much closer attention the next time it's on.
@JessicaLovejoy I think you will laugh and laugh. It's the chef on the left -- oh, his face!
I love that it's from "GoodMood Photo" and is a collapsing tiny house!
I had a stressful week with a scary appointment this morning, and now it seems like my worst case scenario is not happening, so now I'm really relieved and want a very large martini.
@thebestjasmine I also found out positive news from my scary doctor appointment this week
Cheers to you both!!!
Exact brim-full, coming right up.
@redheadedandcrazy Mine was a scary doctors appointment too! Yay for both of us.
@atipofthehat Gin please, NOT vodka. And three olives.
Coming right up. Snacks are on the house.
@thebestjasmine @redheadedandcrazy Cheers to you both, that is great!
@redheadedandcrazy HIV positive news?
I'll see myself out...
@ReginalTSquirge@twitter AIEEE! Those results haven't come back yet, but hopefully they are negative :P
So tired. Been at work at 6am all week, worked the federal holiday (as a fed employee), and also made it to CrossFit 4 times this week. I also have a post-back surgery dog at home that tries to jump on furniture everytime I turn around so I have to carry her everywhere (including up and down 3 flights of stairs to go outside).
But, making it through the first 6 days of 2012 - victory.
@ImASadGiraffe I totally read "post-back surgery dog" as a dog that temporarily keeps you company and helps you out around the house after YOU have had back surgery. Like those therapy dogs that visit army hospitals? Anyway, I thought that sounded like a cool thing, but then I was wrong. Congrats on completing your week!
@xx-xx-xx I almost wish it was me that had back surgery and not my dog. She doesn't understand that if she tries to jump off the couch she might rupture a spinal disc again, but I totally would. But, she's getting better and I'm getting better at doing household things with a dog under my arm like a football. LOL
@ImASadGiraffe That is one lucky li'l dog. Is she a Doxie?
@laurel She's a bichon frise. Neuro thinks probably a bad jump off my bed onto hardwood floors.
For several days, I thought my jeep had been stolen 'cause it wasn't where I'd parked it last. Now, my neighborhood in DC is awful for parking so I often wind up having to park kind of far away and it's not uncommon for me to go several weeks without seeing my jeep, which is what happened. I called to see if it had been towed, but no.
But it's a piece of shit! Really! It's an old beat-up Cherokee; who'd steal it, right??
I finally bit the bullet and went to a police substation to report that it had, inexplicably, been stolen, but the policewoman informed me that the license plate number I had was invalid. Turns our the plate number I had belonged to my temporary tags and I just didn't have my current plate number anywhere. So she cross-checked that with my jeep's VIN, found out my current tag, then informed me that my jeep had been moved, though not impounded, a month ago. They just moved it a block away where I never park and never thought to look. Because they were doing construction. And didn't tell me in any way.
Thanks DC. Thanks a bunch.
@Emby OMG that is so wierd! BUT, at least it wasn't towed!
@Emby Ah DC. That would happen.
2012 is such a bitch. It's totes that girl who promises to be your best friend and invite you to it's birthday party, but then it whispers about you while you are standing right there and acts like the victim when you point out how bitchy that is.
(It's been a rough week, can you tell?)
@OhShesArtsy Are you me? Because that's the kind of 2012 I'm having. It started out really well and then everything went to shit.
2012's got 360 more days to make it right.
@OhShesArtsy OH MY GOSH WHO WOULD DO THAT
@OhShesArtsy I'm sure 2012 didn't mean it that way. You're so sensitive! Why are you trying to misinterpret everything she says? You seem very angry.
@OhShesArtsy And why won't she let us sleep? It's making me uncharacteristically cranky.
@WaityKatie And you look tired.
too fast! everything's happening too fast I can't keep up with all these posts and comments and and
@redheadedandcrazy I have been waiting for a not-completely-off-topic place to let you know that this is the Toronto Hairpinner group, not that there is anything going on there now.
@phlox I'm glad you waited, because it would have been totally unacceptable to me if you had posted something off-topic in response to my largely off-topic posts. Ya know? The mobius strip folding back in on itself or whatever.
Nevermind that made no sense.
I actually have that group bookmarked! But there never seems to be anything going on :'(
@redheadedandcrazy I joined it! How was the Pin-Up last week? Sorry I couldn't go, I had to move the next day, and decided going out the night before would probably not be the best idea.
@Megan Patterson@facebook It was tiny! But we should do a bigger one soon, now that people are not busy with Holiday Plans.
@Megan Patterson@facebook I know! I think it was not a great week for most people. But I had fun! Tequila was drank, poutine was consumed, bills were walked out on, so all in all a success!
Are the posts private or something and I have to actually join it to see them? Maybe that's my problem!
@redheadedandcrazy No, there's really nothing there. We don't have emails for most people so Torontonians, if you see this, join the group!
So you guys should pick a date and we'll do something! But not a Thursday, I am taking a class on Thursday nights until mid-March.
I had a wonderful time.
Strange but true:
Be it ever so tiny, there is always a foxy librarian at EVERY PINUP.
Hey, it happens to be true.
@phlox Is there anyone from Montreal, though?
Or will my sister and I just have to have a Pinup of two?
@Teffodee I believe there has been a Montreal pin-up? I know there are other Montreal 'pinners anyway.
@Megan Patterson@facebook WHAT. Why was I not invited? Does..... does my breath smell? I've been wearing deoderant. Mostly. And... and ... I'm going to go eat my tofu burger at the edge of the playground and read some Madeleine L'Engle.
@redheadedandcrazy I could be wrong, they may have just been trying to organize one!
THANK GOD FOR THIS. I need to share the dream I had last night and NOBODY WILL APPRECIATE IT LIKE THE HAIRPIN'S COMMENTARIAT.
I was in a group of people walking down a city street when we arrived at a two-story building that was apparently a maternity ward. Everyone else was going inside and I was like NOPE and kept walking until I was out of sight. I turned around to go home. As I passed by the building again, I saw a lot of people going inside to the first floor with tiny puppies- like, puppies who were the tiny, sickly runts in their litters and needed lots of extra care to survive. Apparently the bottom floor was some kind of place that offered those services and/or advice as to how to care for sickly puppies? Well, I love puppies! At some point, I returned to the building with not a sickly little animal but
a small, abandoned, sad, disembodied set of male genitalia.
I proceeded to care for this cock and bollocks and dote upon it as you would a sickly puppy. I kept it by my side all the time, all swaddled in a soft blanket to keep it warm. I would clean it and take it outside to play and it even slept next to me in its little blanket. I would snuggle it and pet it and care for it and freaked out when we'd been apart too long and I thought it would be sad/sick/in danger.
oh my god you guys I am so weird I am going to barf.
@Third Wave Housewife AMAZING.
@Third Wave Housewife this is my favorite dream i have ever heard
@Third Wave Housewife Awesome.
@Third Wave Housewife
@Third Wave Housewife ...are these the dreams you have when you work at a porn palace?
@teenie They are the dreams you have when you have an extremely strong maternal instinct that has never, ever been directed at a human baby, even once. Generally applies to animals and grown men...
@Barry Grant sorry too busy doting on my junk and going to its kindergarten graduation and tucking it in and taking it to doctor's appointments and making sure it has warm clothes and properly fitted glasses
@Third Wave Housewife Now I have the image of a penis wearing glasses in my head.
@rayray It is also wearing khakis and a Ben Sherman sweater
@Third Wave Housewife
I was thinking along the same lines as teenie, maybe your dream is a statement of how you view your job, caring for sickly, disembodied libidos?
@rayray I'm picturing the penis with a cute little whistly gap in its teeth, tripping over its shoelaces at kindergarten graduation. D'awwwwww I want one!
@Third Wave Housewife This tops even the weirdest dreams I have ever had, even the one about the dead dodos. Because it is fun to tell, I am going to tell y'all my most recent weird dream! Feel free to ignore it, I just like telling it.
I dreamed Iggy Pop brought me to a Friendly Fires/Iggy Pop/David Bowie concert and we made out, and he was clearly singing to me ("singing") for his entire set and I felt all bashful and special. And then he got mad because I bought Bowie merch, and then he brought me to a giant tent where a bunch of people were taking some sort of exam in Iggy's Ethics of Humanitarian Intervention class? I remember there was this one question that was apparently controversial, and I heard someone whispering, "No, he's refusing to answer it, he's taking the test as a Swede" which I somehow knew meant he was approaching it from his patriotic perspective and not, like, objectively. And then I was taking the test too, and then we were all in a helicopter to Sweden to move an enormous rock (? It was very controversial among the Swedes in the class). And somewhere on the way Iggy turned into T-Pain and he and I were having a very serious conversation about when death is meaningful and when it is not while sitting in the giant hole in the ground where the rock had been half-buried, while everybody else went on digging. The End.
@Third Wave Housewife Oh my god, Freud is going to claw his way out of his grave and come back to the earth just to deal with this dream!
@WaityKatie Great, now I have to protect Lee (I've decided his name is Lee) from zombie freud too!
@miwome If we're talking about dreams, my best ever was when in between the last two episodes of Doctor Who Season 3 being aired, I dreamt the second one. Y'know, when John Simm was The Master. I was both in the plot and not in it, so all the characters reacted to me as if I was another character, and I was genuinely worried for everyone's safety, but then the Doctor winked at me and I was like OMG DAVID TENNANT WINKED AT ME. It was ace.
@rayray on the topic of cock dreams...
have any of you ladies had dreams where you have a penis? a friend of mine wants to know.
I love dreams.
@Third Wave Housewife DYING LAUGHING. First at the dream image, then at the image of Lee in glasses and a sweatervest (argyle, naturally) and a little tiny graduation cap.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Note: googling "penis in a sweater vest" doesn't turn up anything interesting. In case you were wondering.
@atipofthehat ditto. I feel like it's one of those topics that aren't discussed when you're being Polite but they're SO INTERESTING
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I am so happy everyone appreciates this as much as they do because I have been waiting for my friend (who currently lives in Munich) to see the messages I left her about this because it is SO RIGHT UP HER ALLEY it is ridiculous.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher That is a damn shame.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher OH MY GOD NEW IDEA FOR DESIGNER CONDOMS: ARGYLE.
@Third Wave Housewife YES MAKE IT HAPPEN NOW PLEASE. Also ones with little glasses printed on them near the tip. Also maybe ones with little hats. Target audience: hipsters.
@teenie I once had a very vivid dream in which I was the hermaphroditic queen of a clan of sea-faring super model lookalikes. I married my male cousin and also two hot ladies.
So, in answer to your question: YES.
Edited to add: Please don't judge me. My dreams are weird.
@pterodactgirl This is amaaaaazing.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher It actually was totally awesome. I once contemplated writing it up as a YA novel (it had classic coming-of-age themes,) but I'm not sure what kind of publisher would actually go for that.
@pterodactgirl I am positive we can find one.
@pterodactgirl @The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I am 100% on board this ship. Hell, I bet if you self-published it it would be a sleeper hit. There would be stage productions in five major metro areas within a year.
@teenie I had the penis dream when I was about 10. Every girl in my class suddenly had a penis and everyone was freaking out. We figured out that if one person agreed to stay be-dickéd, everyone else would magically change back. Dream pause. A girl said "What about Decca, she's kind of weird anyway?" Everyone agreed with her and I was just like "...sure."
@Decca HA! I love it - my penis dreams are always sexy dreams, which makes me feel... uncomfortable. But whatevs, having sex with a penis seems really fun.
@teenie I have had many dreams where I had a penis, and EVERY ONE of them was sexy. Number of times I have had a sexy dream involving my actual genitalia: 1. What does this mean?
@Third Wave Housewife I read that like 5 times over before I caught the "dream" part.
I learned about chard in 2012 and it's so good.
@ginalouise - IT IS. Escarole too.
@ginalouise WORD! How do you make it??
i learnt about kale salad with balsamic vinegar and I will never need anything else to eat ever.
@sarabara I love chard! And kale salad! I've been wanting kale salad all week, actually, but it's been too crazy to get to the store. Yay for the weekend farmers markets.
@ginalouise One of my favorite recipes, which I call Beans and Greens, involves chard, or whatever dark green leafy veg you have around and a can of cannellini beans. First, wash and chop the chard into 1" strips. Sautee garlic and a little onion in a pan. I also sometimes add andoullie chicken sausage for extra protein and flavor. Then pour on a 28oz can of diced tomatoes, add the rinsed can of beans and some creole seasoning. Wilt your chard into the sauce and serve. Takes ~10min and is tasty, fairly cheap and healthy. Best with a hunk of cornbread.
@RocketSurgeon nice. thanks for the recipe
@ginalouise Chard was my first meal of 2012! I made a breakfast hash of butternut squash, caramelized onion, crimini mushrooms, sauteed chard, and sage. Topped with an over-easy egg. EVERYONE should cook this for breakfast tomorrow, you won't regret it.
@sarabara Kale chips, people. Kale chips. Better than potato chips.
Rinse, dry, and tear apart a whole mess of kale (the pieces should be about potato chip size, and obvs remove the spine). Toss with a little bit of olive or canola or whatever oil so that they're all about evenly coated (use your judgement -a couple of drizzles worth?). Spread out on a cookie sheet, and bake for 5-10 minutes at ~350, or until they're crispy and but not burnt. They should look sort of dry, but shiny where the oil is.
Sprinkle with salt, and then stuff your face with them.
@sarabara I made it with minced garlic, minced ginger, and crushed red pepper flakes cooked in a bit of oil, then added the chard, poured a bit of soy sauce and a bit of water over it, then put the lid on. Delicious!
@emilylouise I'm going to make a sunny-side up egg over some sort of Mark Bittman-y fried rice and chard for dinner.
I'm off red meat and bacon for January. Just for January.
@ginalouise I was vegetarian for Lent a few years ago, and I made that same (I think) Bittman-y fried rice with an egg on top a LOT. Is that the one with lots of leeks in it? I would add chard or kale or broccoli to it, and the fried egg on top, yummmm.
@thebestjasmine Vegan Lent was easier for me than No Coffee Lent (which my housemate described as "the lent where it was like you went through a terrible breakup). And chard and kale hash-things were the reason why.
I slept until 8 this morning and am just now realizing that I'm not sure if that's going to be sufficient to get me through seven hours of inventory at work tonight. Time I should have spent on a nap, I spent watching BBC science documentaries. On reflection, perhaps I made the correct choice. I'll remember that when I stumble out of the store at midnight.
@camanda ON THE PLUS SIDE I bought new clothes for work today and just remembered I can wear them tonight! I got my awesome Lane Bryant jeggings all filthy yesterday doing inventory in my stockroom, so this sort of makes up for that. But not for the rest of it.
"What's your dick like, homie, what are you into?" just fell out of my mouth at work and I'm looking for someone to blame.
@youresmalltime PLEASE EXPLAIN CONTEXT. That has the beginnings of the best work story ever.
@unicornparty Sadly it's little more than an earworm problem. I work at a bank and we call the bags full of tickets and checks and such that our courier picks up and takes to be processed "the run." Coworker asked me "Where's the run, dude?" and I had to.
Damn you 212.
If it makes you feel better, a few weeks ago another editor stopped by my desk and said, "Hey, can I ask you a question?" and absolutely without thinking I leaned back, folded my hands behind my head, and said, "Nine inches, man."
NB: I am female.
@melis I frequently tell others that my dick is the size of a loaf of bread? I have lady parts? I have NO IDEA. If you dream, dream big I guess?
@youresmalltime All day in my head, today!!
@melis "Bigger than a baby's arm"
We have already been arrested for car insurance problems, spent one day in central booking, two days at the DMV, and one more at the Baltimore MVA. If your last name isn't Shaw (or, fuck it, Franzia) we ain't talking to ya. And THERE'S your surviving.
@Multiphasic !!!!!! It can only go up from here!
@Multiphasic Oh dang. :( Get thee to Club Charles and forget about the world
@chirdia Club Charles is the shit. I almost got kicked out of that place... oh, let's just call it several times. Grad school was an interesting time in my life.
@Multiphasic - Oh wow. Hopefully you are done with the MVA, but just in case, the Annapolis branch is way less painful (relatively speaking) than those in Baltimore or Glen Burnie.
Cue theme from The Wire.
Sorry to hear it.
@chirdia Still stuck up in Brooklyn until they clear my registration... So tonight it's get me to pies and Commonwealth. However, yes, I plan to spend the entire coming week in either CC or Liam's practicing my "hobo glare".
@curryspice This is good knowledge, but since the NYC DMV suspended my license for funsies, I didn't just get to go to Reisterstown... I got to take the subway to Reisterstown.
Aaaaand speaking of stuck in BK, I have just been introduced to the chocolate cookie sandwiches with mint buttercream at Blue Stove, which are gradually reestablishing my tentative conviction that the world is not an inherently hostile place.
My name is Multiphasic and I ENDORSE THIS PASTRY.
I am kicking off my first full weekend of 2012 as a temporary bachelorette because my husband's out of town at a conference. but I have exciting plans that include making smoked-paprika hummus (shh...don't tell him; it's a surprise!), eating dinner with a very good friend & his partner tomorrow night, & finally making good on my promise to upload a year's worth of pictures to facebook. I also have aspirations of cleaning our (disgusting) bathroom, but I have a cold, so that part may have to wait.
@nonvolleyball I did the facebook thing recently! I was so proud of myself until everyone yelled at me for confusing all of their stalker friends :(
I usually HATE HATE HATE January but this one is doing okay so far, except I have locked myself in the attic to write an essay and I canNOT get in the zone. So I'm just sitting here eating a whole tray of Ferrero Rocher and looking at The Hairpin. Essay's not due til Monday, we're good.
@rayray Also I caught a cold and I can't breeeeeathe.
@rayray i do my best work under extreme deadliney pressure. i'm sure you're the same. have another ferrero rocher. and some wine. thatsa girl.
I work at an American office of a Chinese company. There are all these itty bitty Asian girls who work here and are seriously the cutest things ever. It's been really dry in the office lately since it's winter and all. Some people have brought in their own little humidifiers for their cubes. Ting Ting (that's her name EEEEEEEEE!) walked in this afternoon with a HELLO KITTY humidifier. I died. I CAN'T EVEN.
Did Adorable Asians do anything in YOUR workplace today?
In answer to your question, though, no.
@aproprose: If I'm considered the Adorable Asian in my office (I am the only Asian American woman, I don't know if I'm adorable), I have:
-bought an extra large dunkaccino from Dunkin Donuts
-told goofy anecdotes really loudly in an informal meeting
-heated up some pork and lemongrass meatballs (I think it was a nem nuong recipe that was hiding under an innocuous english name on epicurious, and I was confused because the ingredients were a little different then my mother's recipe) in the microwave with no thought for any aromatic consequences
-wore an awesome ruffled shrug to work
@RK Fire this ruffled shrug: tell me more.
@RK Fire Those are all Adorable! You win!
Is your workplace hiring?
I have such high hopes for this year and I'm working really hard so it won't end up like Liz Lemon's melted plastic containers ("My new beginnings!"), but it's just a matter of time.
@andrea disaster My new perspective is that everything will suck sometimes, but only as much as you let it. It's very freeing.
@punkahontas That is such an excellent perspective.
My husband had it confirmed yesterday that he's going to be let go at the end of the month because his supervisor can't be fussed to actually manage him and would simply prefer to replace him with someone new. I am trying to cope with the fact that we may be going to one-income, which is not unmanagable but will require a lot of rearranging on our end. There's also a chance that he may get hired (he's been applying to jobs) but I am worried and I want to bang my head against a wall.
On top of that--and this sounds obnoxious--but we've been together since college and I feel like it's only in the past year that we've gotten to a point where we have the lifestyle that we want. That's probably going to have to change, and while it's not the end of the world (we were lucky and nothing says we can't get back to urban living/having some money to put in savings and to go out with fabulousness), I am a little sad. We can totally make it on one income for a little bit--he has family in the area, I have family in the area, we have friends. I just hate that we're at this point because his boss didn't like his performance AND never took the time to give him feedback. I also hate that feels like shit because of this. Of course I'm biased, but my husband has tried to reach out to his boss over the course of his time there to ask for feedback, for advice on how to improve, and had been blown off over the course of two years. Then suddenly, he's being asked to leave to make room for someone else, who, btw, doesn't have the same skill set and won't be doing the same things. blergh.
Last edit: thank you hairpin for listening.
@RK Fire I'm so sorry, that's really crummy :(
@RK Fire This is truly crapadelic :( Work-related issues are always really shitty.
@parallel-lines: It's okay, I just wish I could punch his boss in the face.
We just got married (not like that would've made a difference if we weren't) but I guess I felt like we had gotten to a point where Everything is Awesome, and then we got smacked by reality again.
I've been feeling a little weird when I tell this story to people because clearly I'm biased and I'm sure there's more to it that I would realize if I worked there. However, at the end of the day, all I know is that:
1) my husband felt like he maybe wasn't doing well at work, but wasn't sure what he was supposed to be doing
2) he tries to repeatedly meet with his supervisor for feedback and guidance
3) he gets brushed off
4) this goes on for months
5) "hey, this isn't working out.. so can you try to find a job somewhere else? we want to backfill this position as soon as possible."
The worst thing is seeing how hard my husband is on himself for this situation. Well, that and trying to figure out where we might move to in a month if he can't find a job in 4-6 weeks which I feel like is unlikely in the world of government work or contractor work or nonprofit work.
EDIT: Okay, I am done with whining now! DONE. now on to helping him job searching and researching cheaper places to live.
P.S.- Finding apartments in the DC Metro area: is Craigslist the best way to go or should I be looking somewhere else? Most of the listings I seem to find on the DC craigslist are for corporate, garden-style apts.. which is cool, but I'm just wondering if there are other websites to look at.
In Bmore, we ended up finding a real estate broker who found us an awesome formerly-condo-but-the-developers-gotta-eat apt.
@RK Fire I did the Craigslist thing in DC for a long time and finally my coworker suggested her apartment complex, which doesn't list on Craigslist, and it was awesome and now I live there. So I'd maybe solicit opinion from people you work with or people you know to find good places.
Other than that, I'd suggest picking a neighborhood you'd like to live in, then just walking/driving around to look for places that have "Apartment Available" signs outside them. Good luck!
@RK Fire Oh god, that's my worst nightmare. As the kind of employee who may or may not spend hours on the internet every day. At least give me a warning when you've noticed me fucking up??
Sorry, and good luck.
@Lily Rowan: I KNOW! I feel terrible because I actually do spend hours on the internet every day (he does less of it) but he just gets very little guidance, so he'll do stuff to the best of his ability, and then his supervisor would be like "I know I said I wanted X, but what was really thinking was Y."
thanks for the luck! We are trying to work our friends network for conenctions/openings, but it is tricky.
@Emby: Thanks for this! The tricky thing is that we're not really at a point to be scouring a neighborhood.. I'm really thinking I need a place that is less than $1000, and is close to MD Rt. 50. Inside DC, outside of DC.. it doesn't matter. It just needs to be safe, free of bedbugs and roaches, and takes cats. shit. Are my expectations too high?
@RK Fire Also, "backfill"? WTF.
@RK Fire Last summer I had to find a place to live with a laid-off boyfriend and Craigslist killed my soul. Apartment open houses were horrible for me because I'm very introverted and don't deal well with crowds of kooky, desperate apartment-seekers (like myself). We ended up finding a place through Yarmouth Management, which lists rentals in the Capitol Hill area. Some real estate agencies help renters, as well, and a reputable one will be free (they get paid by the landlord). Good luck and I hope your man finds a job soon!
@RK Fire No, but they could be difficult to meet. I had similar expectations and ultimately settled for a smaller apartment than I wanted, paying more than I'd hoped to. But I do love my 'hood, even though it makes me broke.
The area around college park can be OK, thanks to the college (though there are downsides to living near a college, too). And Hyattsville is sort of becoming a better place to live. Other than that, not a ton of neighborhoods that far east that I could recommend or know very much about.
@RK Fire Hill East! Hill East! The area around RFK stadium is one of the cheapest in DC, really close to 50, and just awesome. Not a lot of amenities, but for paying as little in rent as I do, I feel really safe. I usually try not to tell people about it in fear that rents will go up, but I have to help a 'pinner in need.
@franceschances Hill East! <3
@all: Thanks everyone for the well wishes and the recommendations! I'm actually from Maryland (around Ft. Meade) and it's a small state, so you'd think I'd be better acquainted, but ohhhh no. Much love to you all, and thanks for all of the suggestions!
@RK Fire *hugs* My husband and I are in a really similar situation (he ended up resigning in late November to avoid being fired because he couldn't read his boss' mind no matter how hard he tried). I know how much it sucks and I hope things get better for you guys.
First date with a cute guy who brought me two bags of flour, get it FLOURS?!
I've had at least two glasses of leftover champagne every night of the week.
I made friendship peace with my ex--I mean it, REAL peace.
I made plans to visit my best friend out of town and other plans to see a Led Zeppelin cover band this month.
Right now I'm the only person in my office and I'm listening to Rock Lobster at my desk.
Overall? I'd give it an A.
@Kerri Mercury Morris@facebook i love Rock Lobster so hard that i keep trying to make it happen on party playlists, and then approx 1.5 minutes into the animal noise solo/bridge someone inevitably NEXTS it. 2012 WILL BE YEAR OF THE ROCK LOBSTER.
@Kerri Mercury Morris@facebook Did you actually carry the flour around on the date or laugh at the joke and then dump it?
@Kerri Mercury Morris@facebook FLOURS. Oh man, this is awesome. Are you going to bake him some bread with it?
@JessAndNo I will come to any party where Rock Lobster is playing. I will also make us the shot named Rock Lobster. We will listen to the song to completion. And if we're the only ones left at the end, so be it.
Or use it to pretend to be ghosts together?
@rayray He picked me up at my apartment, so I told him I'd put them in water and form a nice paste. I still have them on my computer desk. I think I'll keep them as a conversation piece. Or until needed for baking. Or until the weavels come.
@thebestjasmine I totally should! That is such a good idea. I told him I hoped next time he gave me some sugar. Then I felt like a pimp.
@melis If I thought we'd never go out again, I would have carried them along and talked to them in baby talk the whole time.
@Kerri Mercury Morris@facebook That's pretty badass about the sugar. And you should totally bake him bread! I mean, if you like him, which you seem to. I recommend the New York Times/Jim Lahey no knead bread if you are not a regular bread baker (but put in a tablespoon of salt, trust me), because it will make you seem like a magician.
@Kerri Mercury Morris@facebook Uh, that sounds like an A+ start to the year to me. The sugar comment is fantastic.
Rock Lobster is my ringtone!
When my phone rings, my one-year-old starts dancing.
@Kerri Mercury Morris@facebook MY MANFRIEND DID THAT FOR VALENTINE'S DAY. And he took it up a notch by bringing me Five Roses flour. Yeah. Men who bring you flour are good news.
(only at first I though it was a mean joke, 'cause I'm gluten intolerant.)
Soooo according to my cache, drunk me apparently listened to this on a loop while viewing images of steak tartar.
Am I low on iron, or is this the beginning of a YA novel where I find out that I'm really more than I thought I was, although I somehow always knew I was different?
I just got back from two weeks in Florida where it was sunny and warm and happy. I actually cried on the way home because I hate it here and I don't know how I can survive another Canadian winter.
@likethestore Vitamin D helps keep me from jumping out of the window in winter.
@likethestore I am 100% serious when I ask if you've considered one of those sunlamp things. (I mean, if you hate it there, you should work on being able to leave, but in the meantime.) It works for my aunt!
@miwome Yes, this. I absolutely thought they were totally insane until late fall/the first days of my period collided. Then I dug through the box of stuff my sister left in my apartment and found her old one. It's not like being on a beach or anything but there is a difference.
@likethestore Florida!!! Went last New Year's, the weather was gorgeous, wanted to repeat but couldn't.
Now my best friend is going for a week and asked if I want to come along, and I'm like aBDjhbshjbhjsbhabscjhbf I have 6.25 vacation days for 2012 and I don't know if I should use up 5 of them right now.
All this to say that I am jealous, and you will survive the rest of the winter, unless are you from, like, Winnipeg?
The nursing school I'm applying to put the wrong dates on their website for application deadlines and it turns out the actual due date is TODAY, which is fine because I had my part done but that means that my transcripts and letters of recommendation aren't there and I'm worried they'll disqualify me for that. UGH. I don't want to go through this again!
@parallel-lines Call them up (they can't not answer the phones like they can ignore your email) and make some noise about the fact that they put the wrong dates up. That should be enough to get you an extension on the stuff that's out of your hands, so long as the stuff that isn't is in on time. Be sure to write down the name of the people you talk to, the time and date, and precisely what they said. Then shoot them an email about it right afterwards thanking them for their help and reiterating everything they said. Good luck!
@parallel-lines UGHGHGHGH! @wharrgarbl is right, make the call, put on your best "be nice" hat when you do it, and they will probably (hopefully) hook you up.
stupid anxiety provoking applications.
@wharrgarbl I called and emailed the advisor, who is obviously ducking calls today because applications are due and they don't want to be bothered. ARGH!
@parallel-lines Hmm. Is there a registrar you can call? Or an admissions receptionist? It's possible that someone's already made a call about accepting late documentation on account of the fuck-up with the dates. At least you'd know, you know?
@wharrgarbl I just called her and she said I have until Feb 1 to get my backing documents in - the online portion was just due today (and that is sign, sealed and delivered). So many sighs of relief, holy crap!
@parallel-lines I totally misread the deadlines when I applied for grad school last month, I thought the application was due the day that "supporting documents" were due and so I had to call them and they opened up the online system for me and I got it in. Hopefully this will not reflect poorly on me when they are deciding whether I should get in.
So yes, call them! And also read the fine print carefully and see if maybe it says "application due Jan. 5, supporting documents due later."
@phlox I keep telling myself "I cannot be the only fuck up" over and over again because I see some of those kids and action and...no way, I cannot be the only fuck up.
@parallel-lines Hooray! Grad school apps are THE WORST.
@parallel-lines Unless they have a miniscule number of applicants, I can practically guarantee you're not the only fuck-up.
I did a lot of thinking this week after reading the resolutions article (Boundary Setting! Emotional Unavailables!) and the Ask An Anonymous Person and I decided to not tell my long distance man friend that I want to get back together with him. I am A Young, and there will be other man friends.
But then my Dad told me he thinks I'm too rational about my relationship choices. Why would he do that? Doesn't he know I over analyze everything? Why did I let him bring that up? What am I supposed to do with that information? Fumble along as usual, I suppose.
@ Helenator aw DADS. They try so hard, ya know? To be all father figure-y and what not?
Over the holidays I was returning from a walk where i had been (wait for it) crying and I guess it was noticeable, and he was all "whats wrong? what could you possibly have to be upset about?"
and then he started making random guesses. This was his first guess: "You don't have a boyfriend to spend new year's with."
WHAT. UGH. DAD. NO. I think you have to accept the attempted sentiment (I just want you to be happy) without paying attention to the particulars.
I used to think that, if a relationship didn't fit into a categorical syllogism, it wasn't valid. Then I got tired of women named Barbara.
@redheadedandcrazy When I was trying to decide whether or not to go for it romantically with my long-distance very close friend, my dad told me to 'follow my heart'. This was *such* an uncharacteristic thing for him to say that it kind of startled me into going for it. That said, @Helenator, I'd say you've come to this decision for a reason, so. I was just scared to go against my own advice even though it was clearly what I wanted.
@atipofthehat Hahaha! Good one.
@redheadedandcrazy I am going to write down that last bit somewhere so I can remember it when my brain is going into overdrive. It will be my "chill pill."
@rayray My reasons are very reasonable, but every once in a while I surprise myself by doing something irrational, but I think this time it is for the best if I let go. But, I have your story to encourage me if ever I find myself wanting to change things up. :)
Other than my crazy dream I cannot believe I forgot to mention all the awesome glasses I ordered (to try on at home before I buy) from Warby Parker!
Has anyone ordered glasses online before? Did it work out? I am super nervous but look at all those beautiful frames! I ordered:
Thatcher in Whiskey Tortoise
Owen in Striped Chestnut
Crosby in Burgundy Fade
Winston in Old Fashioned Fade
and Huxley (because how could I not, he is my favorite) in Tennessee Whiskey
ALMOST ordered Pierce, kind of kicking myself now...
@Third Wave Housewife My boy got a pair and they're pretty great. I'd do the same but my astigmatism makes glasses shopping not much fun.
@Third Wave Housewife - that sounds like a great selection. I can't use Warby cuz my insurance is really good in network but terrible out, but free glasses time has rolled around again and an eye doc near me should be able to get me a good price on these frames for my circular face. I think these are gonna be my first new glasses in 7 years...hooray insurance.
@leon.saintjean Those Hugo Boss frames are so perfect and sleek and ugh, I love glasses. I have zero vision insurance whatsoever, which is horrible because my eyes still change every goddamn year. I've just accepted that I'm going to be spending the hundred-or-so bucks every year and it sucks so within that budget I may as well have fun. I have had the same frames for a while, but I really love them! I may keep them anyway, but I decided to order those Warby pairs just to see if anything really does it for me. However, my prescription also requires an extra $30 fee on top of the flat $95 price...because my eyes are that bad.
@Third Wave Housewife My boyfriend & I both got Warby Parkers. I like mine a lot except that they are slightly loose BUT. If you have really bad eyesight, you will have to pay to get different lenses put in. I paid the extra $35 for lenses for people with bad eyes, but they were still shitty/I couldn't see (probably because of astigmatism in one eye). So they refunded me the $35 but I kept the frames and then I went to an eyeglass shop to get actual lenses put in. And that was like $250, and that's why I haven't been able to buy new contacts for the last two months because I spent almost all of my healthcare money account thingy putting expensive lenses into cheap frames.
But now it's 2012 so I'm going to the ophthalmologist and I will soon be free from wearing my glasses so damn much.
@Third Wave Housewife I ordered some a few years ago and loved them! I just had to be careful to do all the measuring they suggest (this is important for me because I have a big round head, like a pumpkin). But I got two REALLY nice pairs (one designer) with super cool thin lenses and anti glare whatsit and bells and whistles and a sno cone machine (almost) for like, 120 dollars.
@Third Wave Housewife I have the Colton in the tortoise color and they're great. They're my B team glasses that I keep on the coffee table for watching TV. My insurance-sponsored pair live in my purse and generally make more public appearances.
leon.saintjean Warby Parkers are only $95, but I guess that's still more than free.
There is a Moscot opening near me, and I can't WAIT.
@julia I will definitely need to spend the extra money for their thinner lenses, ugh, my (21 year old!) eyes are at -475 and getting worse every year. However, I don't wear contacts, which makes me scared of internet glasses and the possibility of them being too loose- hopefully a shop can adjust them for me if they are too loose.
@laldagorth omg do you remember what site?
@punkahontas those look like the perfect all-purpose pair. I wear my glasses from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep and have no insurance so...all this mention of two pairs of glasses and insurance is making me think maybe I shouldn't be buying glasses online if I wear them all the time and need a new pair every year and am HORRIBLY BLIND
@Third Wave Housewife I have a tiny peanut head, and my Warby Parkers are not too loose.
Also: Do you guys know http://amysacks.com ? Every purchase benefits animal rescue. I ordered the Pepper ones in red but they didn't look good on me. They were super nice though.
@Third Wave Housewife I have! Several times! It is awesome. So much better than the store!
Clearlycontacts.ca is the best place in Canada to get them, and the lenses are a lot cheaper. They max out at $100 for the ultra-thins. I dunno about the U.S. I assume there are more? E-commerce is actually pretty small here.
@Third Wave Housewife I want to say it was www.eyebuydirect.com or www.coastal.com during an AMAZING sale. They frequently have amazing sales though, so I go back and look once in a while (I actually need to re-up as my prescription changed ever so slightly).
But start with this guy's blog: http://glassyeyes.blogspot.com/
He compiles all the websites and sales and so forth. Dude is passionate as hell about glasses online.
@Third Wave Housewife Oh. I am only -75 and need glasses to see far. (Which unfortunately seems to keep getting nearer.) I would maybe try online glasses for a B team or just-for-a-change pair, but I don't know about for serious. :(
@Third Wave Housewife Oh I too am horribly blind, which is what makes it so important to get the thin frames. Otherwise I just have to fulfill my ultimate destiny and become Richie Tozier from IT (with the coke bottle frames and the big mouth).
@Third Wave Housewife hey, in about 13 years (if you're anything like me), or 20 (if you are average, pshaw) they will start improving! That so far is my only 2012 positive. Getting old people near sight. I'm scared of internet glasses shopping too. Bad glasses are so bad, and i need to try them on, you know? The ones I ooh and aah over in the window always make me look like a cross between Su Pollard and some kind of insect.
@Third Wave Housewife OMG my boyfriend and I are getting each other Warby Parker glasses for Christmas and boy is it a fun yet stressful time. what if we like the same pair??! this is a legitimate concern. i am in love with the prestons and am prepared to refuse to compromise.
@Third Wave Housewife YES. I could never find frames that I Had To Have on WP, but Lookmatic (formerly known as SpexClub) is my absolute favorite. The orders come super fast, all THREE frames I've purchased have been excellent. You get a case, cleaning cloth and yo specs for like $88 bucks. $120ish if you get the progressive (or whatever-- they turn into shades in the sun).
My tortoise Paytons are by far my faves.
@Ialdagorth I would be happy to have coke-bottle frames (which are apparently cheaper!) if anyone would make them for me! I have been wearing a pair of $9 frames from WALMART for years with the cheapest lenses and still getting heaps of compliments on them- glasses work for me bigtime.
@catfoodandhairnets ugh but Warby Parkers are so beautiful and I am sick of buying them at Walmart which feels like my only option because I'm so blind and need new ones every year and glasses are SO EXPENSIVE AND NO VISION INSURANCE (and why hasn't my man gotten a job with good insurance yet, huh? then we could get married and I could afford things AND I ALREADY HAVE INSURANCE I JUST HAVE A LOT OF ISSUES/MY INSURANCE BLOWS) grump grump grump. Almost no big glasses look bad on me- I am a natural mousy bookish looking person who looks adorable under any big pair of frames, as long as they are wide enough.
@samafaye I would love for me and my man to have matching glasses so much, but he wears sensible ones, unlike me...
@parallel-lines SISTER. Lookmatic (see above) will cater to your astigmatism. I don't know how Warby Parker works (Rx-wise), but there are drop-downs for you to fill in your astigmatism variables.
It is excellent.
@Third Wave Housewife Aaw. If you were my third wave housewife I would buy you all the lovely glasses because I cannot wear them and SOMEONE SHOULD.
@Third Wave Housewife I literally just dropped off my second round of WP try-ons. I bought sensible Langston's in Matte Whiskey Tortoise and super fun hipster Prestons in Sandlewood Matte. So cute! I love the whole experience so far. My vision is absolutely terrible so I did have to pay the extra $30 per pair for high index. But $250 for 2 complete pairs of glasses is less than the lenses alone at any of my local opticians.
@Lil Sebastian I am digging all this feedback! Thank youuuuu for making my life so wonderfulllllllll!
@Third Wave Housewife Wanted to chime in on this Warby Parker party and say that I did two home try ons and landed on the very practical Webb in amber. I really like them, but they're a tad loose. I have a pair of fancy glasses that only go with specific outfits and wanted something a little more understated. Overall great experience with that company!
@klaus I'm so glad that you can do more than one round of try-ons because I was very, very torn about which pairs to choose. Have you brought your glasses to an optician to be adjusted? They can generally do some small adjustments by heating the frames and bending them to fit your face better!
@Third Wave Housewife I probably should do that, but my optician also happens to specialize in designer eyewear and I'm kind of embarrassed to be all, "Hayyyyyyy! Can you fix my $95 glasses for me?" If you're not going to order right away, make sure you take good photos of yourself in the frames you like the most so that you can refer to them / obsessively stare at your face!
@parallel-lines I have astigmatism AND nearsightedness and I am wearing a pair of Warby Parkers that I love!
@klaus Just go to a Lenscrafters if you have one nearby -- they will usually do a free adjustment even if you didn't get your glasses there. And then you never have to see them again.
Things that are fun: rebounding from a year-long fauxlationship.
In the first 6 days of 2012 I have had makeouts with 3 different gentleman callers. Should this bother me? It doesn't.
@alliepants High-Five, allipants!
@alliepants It should not bother you! Makeouts are the best!
@Porporina Welllll definition of "makeout" is wide-ranging in my friend group? And one of the three dudes recently bought me a toothbrush for his place? Ps- is it just me or is it kind of scary when you realize a dude has bought you a toothbrush?
High five for puttin' it on him like dat......as Rihanna would say?
@alliepants "I have a wide ranging definition of "makeout"" (so many quotation marks!) might be my new pickup line. Toothbrushes are so complicated! They're like...a ring for your teeth? Scary, but exciting, maybe?!
Let's give this another shot shall we? Only shorter.
Orange lipstick. Thank you, whoever suggested that it is AMAZING. And gel eyeliner. JANE! GEL EYELINER!
@PistolPackinMama: Aww, you look fantastic! I love the hair.. and the necklace.. and lipstick.. and everything!
@RK Fire Thanks!
@PistolPackinMama THAT NECKLACE
@Jane Marie Thanks!
It's part of a set friends gave me for Eid al Fitr/ as a leaving present when I was in the UK. It also has those earrings that hook up to your hair and a tikka, the medallion that hangs from the center part. None of which except the collar necklace I have much opportunity to wear.
Someone have the kind of wedding where its appropriate to wear all of it? And then invite me? kthxbai!
@PistolPackinMama HAIR ENVY. NECKLACE ENVY. EVERYTHING ENVY [Essence-Faye].
@PistolPackinMama so pretty
@PistolPackinMama Looks so good! And wow that color blue with your hair and skin tone is fantastic.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I am a natural blonde. May I suggest the assistance of Mallory (not that Mallory) at my local salon? Because it's all her magic that makes the hair that way. And she is super-adorbs. (Then we can go out for a drink after).
@PistolPackinMama Unless is that Mallory... in which case, she is magic.
@PistolPackinMama I have naturally medium-to-darkish brown hair that holds NO COLOR IN THE KNOWN UNIVERSE. I was getting it dyed (by a professional! Who is brilliant and knows what he's doing!) darkish red pretty regularly but it usually disappeared within a month or so. Even got the redlights put in (take chunk of hair, bleach, dye--is that right? That doesn't sound like something I would do?) and they went orange pretty promptly. So I will admire your awesome hair from afar and learn to live with mine!
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Drat. Although, living with one's unchangeable greatness is a good skill.
I've been sick for half the new year, but I've still managed to get the recipes I don't have from my mother while they're still right there from her Christmasing, ordered a half-dozen cheapy art-deco lockets from ebay now that I'm thinking about it so I won't get stuck when the birthday-times are upon me, and started on my "catalog our DVDs and games for insurance purposes" project so that I won't need to hyperventilate into a paper bag quite so often when the predicted motherfucker of a hurricane season is upon us.
This post needs more Chris Roberts@Facebook
@chirdia can we do a DIY Chris Roberts@Facebook? just start calling each other revolting names that have to do with dicks and spunk?
@teenie You're all such revolting dicks that Third Wave Housewife wouldn't take you in and care for you in her dreams?
Teenie? Your teenie tinie tom thumb tiny tim dick, your sister told me.
wharrgarbl more like WhoreGerbil
You pig-o-ramas like that?
LADIES, PLEASE! No swapping.
@chirdia ahahha I am so pleased with myself even though that was totally stupid, o i am no better than chris roberts@facebook
@chirdia AHAHAHAH so good. chirdia? shure i'd do ya.
Seriously he almost made me miss the at-least-he-was-literate Jason's Johnson!
@chirdia Chiridia more like chlaymidia.
@chirdia Your mom is sexually liberated! (I'm not doing it right)
@HeyThatsMyBike She's had a lot of fun, cow[person]!
bed headed and coozey
@atipofthehat I'm just gonna hop in here because my name already has "Snatch" in it.
@atipofthehat bed headed and sleazy more like!
@atipofthehat more like a ... more like a tip of the dick!
(it's too good to beat)
But JUST the tip.
I TOTALLY PROMISE!
@redheadedandcrazy Hah! Dick, beat. *snicker*
My inner 12 year old boy couldn't pass that up.
If people in Austin wants to discuss how terrified they are in light of recent events, please do so here!
@ranran Me: EXTREMELY TERRIFIED!
What happened? Can you link us?
Basically, someone has been attacking women, in or outside of their homes, in an area that's generally considered safe, resulting in at least one murder. Another woman's body was found in a dumpster, but they're not sure if it's related -- it wasn't in the same area.
@ranran Okay, this is going to mean that if there goes a single Haipin post without my littlest ramekin checking in, I'm going to PANIC PANIC. Austin people, take care!
@ranran "Barrera, known to friends as "Esme," was an El Paso native who brought an unflagging energy and sunny attitude to everything she did, friends say, whether it was teaching special-needs kids, watching an up-and-coming band perform on an Austin stage or mentoring girls in a rock-music summer program." And still Dick Cheney walks the Earth.
No one open the door to anyone without knowing who it is first.
@ranran Hooooooly shit. Austin ladies (and gentlemen!), please take care of yo'selves! Maybe just organize a Pinup/lock-in and stay there until the coast is clear. Also, paging @wee_ramekin!
HOLY SHIT, you guys! I did not know about this! This is horrifying. I feel so awful for that poor woman's family and friends. What a terrible, terrible thing.
Also, thank you all for your kind thoughts!
@ranran and everyone: If you want to donate to Esme's family to help with her funeral expenses, go here: http://forouresmeb.blogspot.com/
APD hasn't been very useful so far, but Austinist has a lot of updated info, as does the KXAN website. Facebook is also proving to be helpful. Stay informed and stay safe.
I just have to say that I got a Brookstone fabric shaver for Christmas, and I CAN'T STOP FABRIC SHAVING THINGS!
FOR GOD'S SAKE, NOT THE CATS!
@HeyThatsMyBike semi-related, said shaver managed to turn itself on in my checked luggage on my flight home. It took until I got in a cab for me to turn it off, but in the meantime I'm 1000% sure everyone - from the baggage handlers to the lady in front of me in the cab line - thought a vibrator had turned itself on in my bag. Because that's exactly what it sounded like.
(luckily nothing was harmed in the creation of this story. There was still a cover over the shaver part)
@atipofthehat If I had cats, they'd probably be shaved by now. My dog has remained unscathed for the time being, though.
@HeyThatsMyBike My best dude friend saw the gigantor fabric shaver my mom bought me at the craft store, and wants it for his MLK Day birthday. I would warn him about the hazards of traveling with it but I'd rather hope he'll have your problem.
@Valley Girl I couldn't stop giggling. It was worth it.
@HeyThatsMyBike You are lucky the TSA didn't think it was a bomb and call in the bomb squad to unpack your bag! That happened to me once, but with a milk frother in a package at my college post office. And yes, there were several insinuations that it might be a vibrator... if it was not a bomb.
@xx-xx-xx I was actually quite worried about that, so basically shuffled off as soon as I got my bag. It also took me basically the whole time standing in the cab line to figure out what was possibly buzzing away in there.
But yeah, as soon as I figured it all out, I realized I was quite lucky that the baggage handler guys didn't have me thrown into some small room with a disagreeable TSA agent.
@HeyThatsMyBike I had that happen with a razor once, except it was my boyfriend who discovered it when we were unloading his car.
I'm planning to go my parents' house and start Downton Abbey tonight. Woooooo Friday!
@Dancersize Oh my god. All I want to do is start Downton Abbey tonight considering I've spent all day today reading about it and it sounds AWESOME but NO. I have to go to a party. Where they will force-feed me cake. I'm legitimately upset.
@Dancersize YOU NEED TO TEXT ME EVERY FIVE MINUTES ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU HATE THOMAS
@melis MY PHONE IS CHARGED AND READY.
@Dancersize UGH START NOW
@melis I AM LEAVING WORK AT 2:30 WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT FROM ME?
take me with you
@Dancersize I am also starting Downton Abbey this weekend.
I am fully prepared to hate 'Thomas'.
That is all.
@melis Can't. The VP of the company just gave me a big project, so I'll be standing at the copier for the forseeable future.
@Dancersize IMMA NEED 30 COPIES OF THAT STAPLER PLEASE
I get all OCD about STUFF in my head pretty regularly, and the only thing that has helped in the past is setting myself little goals (get through this week without getting weepy and intense with your boyfriend by practicing meditative stuff when the thoughts begin to spiral!! then if you do it get yourself that cute top at forever 21!!) but i fell off the wagon for the last quarter of 2011. So I picked it back up today, and hope to enhance my life tremendously. Because I hate the circular mind fucks my mind takes me on.
I'm trying putting up one glow star at a time as a reward for daily writing (which indicates daily keeping my sanity [admittedly in exchange for a different type of sanity]). Wanna give it a shot? They are cheapies and might help when you're wide awake at night.
@Inkcrafter glow star? like the kind you have on your ceiling when you're a kid?
@Inkcrafter that is actually a really awesome idea, but i'm a bit neurotic about my... neuroses. so telling my beau "yeah, I'm putting a star on the ceiling for each day I'm not cray!" doesn't appeal to me.
BUT I'm 2 days away from my initial goal (which was about a week and a half without getting OCD about THINGS and EMOTIONS which has been difficult because the beau has a huge work project and is stressed and tired and not nearly as nice as usual). If I make this goal not only will I grant myself the permission to buy a new hair dryer (with a diffuser because I'm learning to love my kinda wavy hair) I will graduate to a 2 week goal period. HUZZAH! fingers crossed!
I'mma pretend like I know what a diffuser is, and that it's a really good reward. Good luck, I hope you make it!
My husband and I had our first fight of 2012 last night. Suffice it to say, I am on birth control, but I smoked half a cigarette from the stress. I found out he receives texts on rare occasions from a girl he dated ten years ago. She happens to share my name, which is annoying as shit. He called her the "Original." Ugh. Just, no. I know everyone draws their lines differently, but I have a for sure problem with texting with an ex, even if it is rare. No need. No need for that--email if you want to stay in touch. She is single but living in another city.
Major milestones of 2012 thus far:
5 bags of Flamin' Hot Cheetos consumed
0 men kissed
0 drinks drunken
...maybe I need to reprioritize
@sarabara Same but put in "3 pounds of Swedish Fish" instead of cheetos.
@sarabara Eh, I have 1 men kissed and it wasn't better than Cheetos.
@ImASadGiraffe THOSE ARE AMAZING except for the sticking-to-teeth thing.
@miwome Generally I would agree, but it has been a while for boys and Cheetos have been available daily to me, so it's an issue of supply and demand at this juncture.
@ImASadGiraffe I got a 5 pound bag of Swedish Fish for Christmas!
...and may be trying to DIY Swedish Fish-flavored vodka out of a portion of them.
@sarabara I had Cheetos for the first time in months on NYE and because they were so amazing (how how how had I forgotten?) proceeded to go out to the store within an hour of finishing the bag to buy more. Possibly crack in that orange powder?
@sarabara I haven't kissed a boy since New Year's Day -- and I have a BF (stupid busy week) and now I am sitting here in my "apartment sweater" eating rice crackers topped with goat cheese and pear slices with Discovery ID prattling on in the background...
HOWEVER. The BF is on the way over here and goat cheese is pretty awesome, so I guess it's all good. But now I want the Cheetos!
@sarabara Fast forward to today, I ate another pound of Swedish Fish (omg make it stop) but I also kissed a boy (and then some). #winning
My boss got a gift today of a book of poetry. The last poem in the book is called "Ode To A Beaver." I cracked the joke, "Are you sure you didn't get a copy of the Vagina Monologues?" Which received a chuckle from both boss and co-worker.
Unfortunately for me, my follow up joke, "Yup, Eve Ensler and I are really tight. And no, that's not a double entendre" only got crickets from the peanut gallery.
And here I am, thinking I set that up and knocked it out of the park, and nary a bat of a lash in appreciation. What do you think, Pinnners? Was it a dud?
@LornaLoo I think that's a solid joke, and not just because I'm in the throes of performing in a production of the Vagina Monologues right now. My brain is consumed by twat (or Gladys Siegelman, if you prefer).
@kayjay I love that you're doing Twat. When I did the monologues in college (freshman year, duh!) I didn't have a monologue, but was in the "chorus" if you will. Somehow, my incredibly supportive but uber catholic grandparents found out I was in them and decided to come to the show. They left at intermission.
Fast forward to that summer, I'm in their living room and grandpa asks if I plan to take part in any more thespian activities. I tell him it's unlikely as I have to focus on classes. He replies with, "Oh, so you won't be doing that TWAT thing again?"
@LornaLoo No, my darling. That was absolutely. fucking. hilarious.
I would have laughed very hard at that.
@Hambulance Awww thanks ladies. This is just one more scenario that highlights how I am underutilized and unappreciated at work. If they can't get a good vagina joke, screw 'em. Amiright?
I am full of righteous indignation and would like to have it validated on the internet!
This week I am dog- and cat-sitting for some close friends, a family that I’ve known since I started babysitting for them as a young teenager. I’ve done this for them before, and it’s been fine. They have chill little dog and an awesome cat. It’s inconvenient to move into their place for a week and change my schedule, but they pay me and I like this family a lot.
This time, I came over the day before they left to pick up the keys, etc. The mother reminds me how much the animals get fed, and then drops this bomb: “You’ll also be taking care of my friend’s dog, who are coming with us. She gets along well with [Dog 1], but she’s a complete little shit. Really annoying.” Not a question, not an apology, just a statement.
Of course, I don’t do confrontation so I pretend that this is okay by me. It would be too late for them to change their plans, anyway.
But guys, this dog. It is driving me insane. It won’t let me sleep, jumps all over me, and barks at everything. She’s not a mean dog, just aggressively friendly, if that makes sense.
How could they do this to me?! I am so pissed off! What’s especially crazy is that the mother (my close friend, but someone I still consider an authority figure) is usually very considerate, and also completely no-nonsense. She would never let someone do this to her, and I can’t for the life of me understand how she thought it would be okay to do to me. Sigh…
@gobblegirl You better get a major bonus. My sister has a dog like that- I love the pup so much but he is one of the most obnoxious dogs I've ever met and he is so so so overwhelming to be around. You can always gently say something upon their return, like, "This helldog was rather unexpected, I wish you had told me in advance."
@gobblegirl Sounds like she's under pressure from someone else to have you take care of this critter. Maybe it's an overbearing neighbor, or in law? I have to separate these kinds of things all the time with clients I like and respect who get unreasonable requests from their superiors, and then have to pass it down my way without hinting at their own internal tempest.
Hey, at least she warned you.
... and then drops this bomb: “You’ll also be taking care of my friend’s dog."
Proper response? "Oh, and my fee just doubled."
@Barry Grant Yes this. @gobblegirl GOOD LUCK, that is a shitty thing of them to drop on you. How much longer until they return?
@gobblegirl Is it acceptable to just take leave it at doggy daycare for a few days and tell them to go pick it up there, cash on retrieval?
@gobblegirl Consider yourself validated. She should have asked, well in advance, and let you know how much the others were willing to pay for this service.
Thanks for the validation, all! I am getting paid extra, but no amount of money would be worth this hassle (and it won't let me sleep through the night, so that's extra fun).
I cannot wait until Sunday afternoon!
Ooh, ooh, is this the place I can tell everyone to go to the 'Pinup Google group and hang out with me to plan an NYC meetup? My new years' resolution is to make friends that aren't Leslie Knope and Ann Perkins (aka fictional), but who are LIKE Leslie Knope and Ann Perkins, at the Snakehole Lounge (but real). http://groups.google.com/group/hairpin_pinups/browse_thread/thread/b07d9b457474908a
Or is this the place to tell everyone that once I accidentally attached my Hairpin avatar picture (that one right there) to a job application, instead of my resume?
@alphabiddycity OOH. I'm more of an April Ludgate than a Leslie or an Ann, but I would be deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelighted to befriend you at an NYC 'Pinup.
@werewolfbarmitzvah I'm a big fan of anyone who is anything like any person on that show. Huge fan.
@alphabiddycity I have been following the tentative third-NYC-pinup plans on the Google group and I will totally come when it happens! You should wear a T-shirt with your avatar on it so we can all find you to discuss Parks. Also the Crocodile Lounge and Alligator Lounge both kind of sound like the Snakehole Lounge and have free pizza...
OH ALSO I MADE MY BED TODAY.
@redheadedandcrazy SO PROUD
Did you clear the old plates of poutine off first?
::: ducks :::
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I don't know what to expect when I get home today but fingers crossed there will be an angelic man with rippling abs ready to feed me chocolate covered strawberries etc.
..."So you decided to start making your bed"...
@redheadedandcrazy Please write that right now. And sent it to Jolie.
@redheadedandcrazy: Sounds like you unfucked your habitat.
@Too Much Internet Now I just need to find someone to fuck in my habitat.
@redheadedandcrazy Excuse me young lady, is that the kind of language you think is acceptable in this household? You wash your mouth out with soap right now!
@redheadedandcrazy Yes SIR!
sigh. this comment string brought to you by imaginary conversations i have with rupert grint
@redheadedandcrazy Really? Because it sounds like Imaginary Conversations with Molly Weasley.
@redheadedandcrazy: I won't lie, I tidied my room on NYE just in case I were to bring someone back (I did not.)
My roommate and I are in a loser race to see who can bring a girl into the apartment first, so far we are tied at 0 girls over 4 months.
@Too Much Internet Does she just have to cross the threshold, or do you have to actually get her to...ah...appreciate your bedroom?
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher: Honestly at this point I'm going to count just walking inside. So if the in-sinkerator repair person is a woman, I win.
@atipofthehat "bless this mess"
I have had BBC Sherlock all up inside my brain all week. I've started a diet (oh the cliche it burns) and I cannot concentrate on anything at all. I've been sitting here at work staring at the same document all day.
@HydrogenJukebox It's so good!
@HydrogenJukebox SPOILER ALERT. Highlight...
I AM SHERLOCKED.
@TeresaOtter Ugh I am so mad that Sherlock was all ~intrigued~ by Irene Adler. That man is a big old asexual virgin, come on!
@likethestore Really! Their interactions were... odd. Just wanted to shake him the whole time! Sherlock Holmes should never need to be shaken.
Though, I like BBC Irene Adler a lot more than Superhero American Sherlock Holmes Irene Adler. And anyway, SH: GOS needed more Noomi Rapace.
I want to hear everyone's New Year's will-they-or-won't-they hookup stories! I remember we had a pre-holiday thread where everyone was discussing if long distance relationships were worth it, and several pinners had potentials in the works.
@travelmugs MEEE? I already said but I'll say it again! YUSSSS it's ace and he's coming to visit me January 30th, I am counting the minutes already.
@travelmugs Sigh. Mine is a will-they-or-won't-they that's really a won't, but it SHOULD be a will because we are DESTINED (no really, we were discussing our wedding plans when we were five, no playground weddings because those are LIES and WE KNEW IT). I'm hopeful that by the time I return to the US (I'm leaving in a few weeks) he will have broken up with his girlfriend so we can make this happen. We owe it to America. (His mom has a picture of five-year-old him giving five-year-old me a flower on the wall of their living room. I really really hope nobody who knows him reads The Hairpin.)
@miwome This NEEDS to happen immediately, make sure you blog about it and hire a secret photographer so the inevitable movie will get it right.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Siiigggghhhh I KNOW. Half of the "we are destined" stuff is me dealing with my unavailable crush through humor, but the other half is serious. Like, I would consider him and I having a 24-hour Vegas wedding (annulled immediately) just because it would be so funny?
Anyway, if all goes according to plan, I will go to away to work and stuff, and then in a couple of years I will come back and go to grad school and somewhere in there we will mysteriously end up in the same city, and then poof we both realize that what we were looking for has been here the whole time and it's cake'o'clock. So it's not really a 2012 will they or won't they, but.
Congratulations @rayray! @miwome I'm okay with a 5-year will-they-or-won't-they plan. I believe in you!
@miwome This sounds good to me, as does cake'o'clock. Which is making me want to make cake but I shouldn't because I need to lose holiday weight. Blerg. Maybe I should just have salad for dinner and then cake for dessert, that works, right?
@travelmugs Thanks! Sometimes I feel pretty dumb over the whole thing, as per #1 from Things To Do.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher maybe not making a whole cake? Maybe buying just a slice somewhere so two days from now the rest of the cake isn't staring at you through the fridge door (or wherever you're keeping it) saying, "come pick at me, I promise it won't make a difference"?
@miwome Cakes are crafty buggers. I may just make another loaf (or three? The recipe makes THREE??) of pumpkin chocolate chip Nutella bread which has (a) NO BUTTER so no guilt, right? and (b) pumpkin, so it's healthy and stuff.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Yeah! Just like how the sweet potato crumble cake I made over Christmas was definitely a vegetable. (No, there absolutely was not a pound of butter in it, what are you talking about.)
@miwome: Sorry, that is a super meet-cute, but gurl that is too much time for a maybe. You need to be out there gettin' it done.
@Too Much Internet Perhaps I should clarify that I haven't actually been pining away since infancy! His family moved away when we were five (I guess we were engaged starting at more like three, we met when we were about a year old?) and I didn't see any of them much at all until last summer, when all of a sudden it was like JOYFUL REUNION, and suddenly he and I Had Vibes.
I don't really expect us to get married (except in a tiny corner of my mind, I mean, come on), but I DO expect us to get it on sometime before we die, because every time we DO see each other, it is Super Vibey.
@miwome: Well, fine, as long as you are vibing in the times in between.
@Too Much Internet Oh, lord, it's not like I'm saving myself. Not like that at ALL. I appreciate your concern, though! For real.
@travelmugs I have a New-Year's-set-up related problem that I need help with, does that count? My extremely well-meaning friend had her boyfriend bring a friend along on NYE, and you know? He was cute! Sure! We had fun! Lots of very drunken, makin' out fun.
But you guys. I am not drunk anymore. He is BORING. SO BORING. Like, every sentence he speaks is like, the end of the topic. And she (and her bf) are so excited "we're getting along." And he keeps texting me declarative sentences about like, the weather. And when I asked why she picked him, she said it was because he's very nice and we have similar schedules. Also he's nice. And cute. And nice.
So, I realize I could easily be like, hey sorry, not working out. BUT I wouldn't mind like.. sleeping with him a little? Randomly? For fun times? How do I do this?! There are so many people involved!
Also, I a little feel like a terrible person because I would probably be fairly offended if someone was like "Oh, you're pretty. Let's have the sex! No, don't talk."
@miwome WELL I am disappointed. I thought this was a TRUE LOVE WAITS story, and now I find you are just another HUSSY OFF THE STREETS.
@redheadedandcrazy You may be at the wrong website, madam. Begone! Before we further offend your delicate sensibilities.
@MargotSpeaks: Sexing this guy may very well mean poisoning your relationship with the friend and her boyfriend, as they are all friends with nice guy.
@miwome: Whoops. I read into your comment as like, really genuine. My bad!
@Too Much Internet It's possible that I am hoping, post-sexytimes, he will suddenly relax and be like, wow I've really nervous and awkward around you but now I'm totally cool
@redheadedandcrazy The secret, madam, is to be BOTH. It's called multitasking!
@Too Much Internet No worries! That happens on the internet. And, like I said, I really did appreciate your concern!
Ugh and I keep meaning to say this but ROCHESTER NY PINNERS, DO YOU EXIST?
@Third Wave Housewife I have family up there and will come to a 'Pinup/family reunion if that's being offered...
Oh, also, when getting off the train today the very attractive man that I'd been sitting next to made a point of stopping to tell me that I was very cute, and it made my day. Thanks, very attractive man who managed to do that without being at all creepy, much much appreciated.
@thebestjasmine Yay I love those times! I have two very fond memories like that, just because it's so unusual to have a compliment be JUST a compliment and everybody come out feeling good about it.
I've done that!
(And it's so much better to get the big smile than to run from the pepper spray.)
@thebestjasmine Yay! I always have the urge to tell other ladies (as a straight lady who admires people who look nice/fancy/have good clothes) that they have cute shoes or really good hair or something, but I always wuss out because I'm worried I'll come off as a crazy person.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I totally do that! Not every time, but sometimes. I feel like complimenting people is good, and I promise they won't think you're crazy (esp. if you give the compliment right as you leave or something).
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Example: Once I almost had a heart attack because a guy with neon green hair jumped (literally jumped) into my path, screaming, I'M SORRY I DON'T WANT TO SCARE YOU BUT I REALLY LOVE YOUR SHOES THEY ARE MY FAVORITE COLOR [they were neon orange oxfords] I MEAN LOOK AT MY HAIR IT'S NEON RIGHT IF I COULD GET IT THAT COLOR I WOULD I HOPE I DIDN'T SCARE YOU and then ran away again, and after I recovered I STILL felt good about it! So.
@miwome Soooooo I should totally do this, right? Right.
@JessicaLovejoy You just made my week.
My mother and I are about to give the fatcat (who I've renamed pig-o-rama) his first bath, ahhhhh!!! I want to wash greciangodcat too but I bet my mother will deny me that joy. This is what an open post is for, right?
@chirdia I have never given my 3.5 year old cat a bath, is that a thing I should be doing? He seems pretty good at taking care of himself. Also, holy crap, how is he 3.5 already??
@chirdia the word pig-o-rama is ACTUALLY going to cause me to lose my job. I laugh every time I read it! AND DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TIMES I READ IT TODAY.
@Alixana I don't know... my two year old cat was bathed as a tiny kitten and his heart-shattering cries and vicious claws were enough that I've never tried again. I just recently brought home a 4 year old superfatso who was being neglected and as a result had dandruff like crazy, some bald spots from where he pulled out the fur due to flea bites, and who is such a superfatso that he can't clean those parts (and can't clean his rear which was diiirty). It was decreed by my mother, who will be watching these cats while I'm abroad for a year, that the bath must take place.
Also, he cried a lot and it was really difficult. And I only cleaned about 1/4 of him. Leave your young mancat to clean himself if he can manage it.
I'm trying to rearrange my living room furniture. But it turns out the way I had it set up originally was the best/most aesthetically pleasing way. Isn't that neat! I love pushing all my furniture around just, you know, for sport.
I'm sitting on a love seat in the middle of the floor. So. I'd say this is going great.
@tea You need to get those crazy foam and plastic circle furniture mover thingies! They look insane/may or may not be straight out of As Seen On TV, but they WORK.
@tea My Dude Who Would Be My Godfather If We Were Religious is a fabulous International Gay Interior Designer of Mystery, and one time he and his good friend (who is also an IGIDM) came back to their hotel drunk and commenced rearranging all the furniture in the lobby. Bless.
@miwome This is the best. Also, can he be your fairy godfather instead? (I do not want that to come off as a slur, please don't let that come off as a slur!)
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I have thought about that so many times, and been equally scared! He's not very fairy-y, is the thing. I mean, he's very obviously gay, but he's also a very tall, generally big Spaniard? My mom makes Conquistador jokes about him all the time. But I don't know if that makes it better or worse.
He ACTS like a fairy godfather, though! When I turned 15 he decided I was going to have a quinceañera, damn it all, which he decided meant bringing me to NYC for the weekend and going to the Guggenheim biennial exhibit. Whatta mensch.
@miwome CAN I SHARE HIM? He sounds fantastic.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher As long as all parties consent, you have my blessing!
But why is Minnesota so warm!? It's 50 degrees in January!
I'm not complaining, just wary that the end times will be tropical.
@Aunty Christ 60 IN LEXINGTON KY. We had snow on Tuesday and the wind chill was something like 5. I DON'T EVEN KNOW.
@Aunty Christ It is above freezing in Edmonton, Canada. We have hardly any snow (just a little bit that managed to stay from the TWO times it's snowed so far this year. Everything is brown and ugly and dead. THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE A WINTER WONDERLAND WHY CAN'T I GO SKATING.
@gobblegirl I'll swap, because it has definitely been about -10 (or -20 yesterday) for like five straight days here out East and I AM FREEZING TO DEATH. I am wrapped in a blanket right now.
@The Lady of Shalott Get a puppy/naked dude in your bed.
@gobblegirl Edmonton weather is FREAKING ME OUT. I want my winter, goddammit. (realistically, however, mostly it needs to keep snowing in the mountains, because skiing.)
@Two-Headed Girl Edmonton pinner! I have been hoping for snow and cold since November 1 (in deference to trick-or-treaters). This winter is killing me. I can't get out to ski in the mountains, I want to ski here. So gross.
@Lady of Shalott -10 (and even -20) on the prairies doesn't even feel that cold, because it's a dry cold. It doesn't get in your bones the same way, leaving you free to bundle up and go sledding.
@gobblegirl I've been on vacation for the past week, but someone told me it rained the other day? What? How? I love winter, I feel like I'm being cheated this year. And yeah, I can't go to the mountains till Reading Week, so even Snow Valley would be great right now, but noooo.
@gobblegirl What is this phenomenon of dry cold? I have only ever lived in the Midwest and Ontario and now out East, so all I've ever known is impossibly snowy, blowy, with lots and lots and lots of wet cold heavy snow and snowstorms and now I'm depressing myself.
@gobblegirl It's above freezing in northern BC now, too! What is this? I don't understand. My boyfriend has decided he's teaching me to snowmobile this weekend come hell or unfrozen water so apparently we're just going up a mountain and hoping for the best. It can't be raining up there, right?
@Two-Headed Girl freezing rain. so not only is it ugly, it's impossible to walk without risking your neck.
WHERE ARE MY MONTANA PINNERS AT?
Going in to town for a drink at the Handbasket.
@Jane Err Eeeee!! Right here! And here I was, thinking that it would never happen! Unicorns DO exist!
@Christina All we had to do was ask, and we'd find each other. This has been a veritable will-they-or-won't-they.
Let's be friends forever!?
@melis Move to Helena if you must, but can you be, like, my commentariat sensei? Can you teach me more about the way of the mystical allusion?
All I want for 2012 is Kentucky 'Pinners! Show yo'selves? So we can talk about crazy weather and such?
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher *crickets chirp*
@redheadedandcrazy I knowwwwww. I am sad.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher I might be passing through Kentucky during a cross-country roadtrip with my kiddo this summer! Mostly because I've wanted to see the Appalachians since I was 6 and I decided it was high time I do so. Sooooo....if the world hasn't ended yet I'll put up the Hairpin bat signal ('Pinpoint?) and hopefully you'll respond!
@heyits Aaaaaaahhhh yes please do! Kentucky really is fantastic, the mountains are beyond gorgeous and I'll be hanging in Lexington when you can tear yourself away from them! Please throw up the bat signal/pinpoint (I can give you my email if you'd like) if you're in/near town!
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher great! I have this idea fermenting that it would be really cool to meet 'pinners as I travel across the country. Like, maybe have a travel blog and give out the address so 'pinners can meet up if they want? I don't know, maybe that's a great way to get myself murdered by a crazy stalker. Regardless, I hope it all pans out. I want to have the experience of a big road trip with my son before the gas prices get insane and it's not longer a feasible idea. Boy, I'm feeling mighty apocalyptic lately.
@heyits Yes, love this idea! 'Pin trips for the win, I'm sure your chances of getting murdered are minimal at best. How old is your kiddo? (Old enough to enjoy a big trip/many hours in the vehicle?) Because road trips are super awesome family trips and make for good and fun memories later!
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher My child will be 6 by the time of the trip, and we have done many, many road trips/excursions in his life. I used to live 5 hours away from his dad, so we would drive that road once a month for the custody swapout. Also, where I live (Alaska!) it's very spread out so there's lots of hours in the car if you want to go anywhere. He's also traveled to a ton of places with both his dad and I, and is in general pretty chill when it comes to matters of travel. I'm so glad, because I think it has potential to be a really memorable trip. I am trying to buy a truck with a topper on it in Colorado and go from there. I plan on camping most of the time with him, maybe a hotel if we get really grungy/tired. 'Pin trips! I like it!
@heyits Yes. This sounds like a fantastic trip. Please please include the 'Pin!
Hey Cincinnati/surrounding area Pinners! I bumped the google groups Cinci topic here. I know the last one kind of floundered, but I still believe in us!
Only a week left until my dad gets his driver's license back after losing it for a month for driving without car insurance! There's still the possibility that it could be permanently withdrawn in February, but for slightly more than a month we'll have transportation again. The pressure is on for me to get my license as soon as possible, which sucks because I have severe anxiety to the point where I don't much like being a passenger in a car, much less the driver of one (this makes riding the bus pretty torturous as well). I've taken the practical three times already — here's to the fourth time being the charm!
I finally let myself spend some cash at Target (very little cash, really!) to buy myself a foam mattress pad to make my hard-as-a-rock-futon-that-I-sleep-on a little less rocky. I don't know why it's taken me a year to do this, but I am SO looking forward to sleep tonight.
Also, I bought a kitchen rug with chickens on it.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher chickens!!
Parking ticket this morning! Blast it! They run those dumb street sweepers once a week, which is waaaay too often and completely useless. Second time I've forgotten. $56 donation to the city of Redondo Beach!
@Too Much Internet New year, new picture?!
@emilylouise: Yeah not sure if it's working, may have to go with something else that's somewhat recognizable.
@Too Much Internet The good news is, at least you didn't get a $450 parking ticket!
I got a $450 parking ticket (not today though). Not fun.
YOU GUYS. DID YOU SEE THEY'RE MAKING ANOTHER MEN IN BLACK MOVIE.
I recognize it may be terrible, but I don't care. HERE COME THE MEN IN BLACK/THE GALAXY DEFENDERS
@miwome Unhhhhhh Here Come the MIBs...Unnhhhhhh Here come the MIBs.
@miwome Is it too much to hope that Will Smith will record another single for this one?
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Probably :((((((((((
@miwome Drat. What if The Hairpin wrote him a nice letter? I am sure Jane can arrange this.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Dude we should circulate a petition! Although, I don't want to be greedy. We've already got MIB3 with Will Smith time-traveling back to the 60s to meet Young K. (Trailer!!!)
@miwome JOSH BROLIN. BROLINNNNN.
Anyone else jonesing for an audience with that Mexican wind chime that showed Jolie her life's path?
I have been waiting all week for this!
Guys! I'm reading Vilette and it's amazing and I want to talk about it! I just started volume two. When she wakes up? And she's in her godmother's house? And then you realize Dr. John is Graham? And then she says, oh yeah, I figured that out WEEKS ago. RIGHT!?!?
@Cavendish She is so sneaky!
@Cavendish me tooooo! I got it on my Kindle and have been really enjoying it on my downtime at work. I'm not as far as you are though.
@Cavendish Dr. John is Graham? That's so perfect I'm finally de-lurking. I'm only up to the part where they do the play for Mme. Beck's birthday.
You guys! I think I may have a date this weekend to go look at puppies with this dude (who is younger than me) because he wants to adopt a puppy. And I'm afraid because I think he REALLY, REALLY likes me and I...am going to be moving away in four months and I kindoffwanttojustsleepwithhimthatentiretime before moving.
Also I am ten pages of editing away from sending in the final piece to my PhD application and I'm about ready to shit myself in terror.
@The Lady of Shalott DO IT DO IT DO IT. (This is in response to all the things: looking at puppies ON A DATE, sleeping with the dude all the time, and sending in that PhD application. There will be SO MUCH CELEBRATING after!)
@The Lady of Shalott PUPPIES AND BOYS, hopefully sex, GOOD THINGS!
Agree with @The Everpresent Wordsnatcher. YES TO ALL, puppies, sex, finishing scary applications! You're about to have the best weekend!!?!
@The Lady of Shalott That is basically the premise of my last relationship... TWINSIES. Yes! It will be so much fun! I think knowing that you're leaving makes the new feeling of a relationship last a lot longer. Stuff that would irk me long term was ignored because of short term happiness. After you leave might not be so much fun, but. Fun now, sad later!
@The Lady of Shalott Lady of S, enjoy yourself!
@The Lady of Shalott The best time I ever invited myself on somebody else's awesome date with a sweet sounding dude and puppies! CAN'T WAIT!
@ everyone: You're all the best. Actually the guy is driving from Alberta to the East Coast this week (and arriving tonight, probably) and he's called me like five times in the past two days (I'm assuming because he's bored as fuck driving 3000 miles alone), but in truth I have been too busy eating chips/watching TV to answer the phone and too tired to care. See what I mean about this not being a good potential relationship?
I think it was @emilylouise who brought up the term "banging out" which I enjoy very much. THE TERM.
@The Lady of Shalott "Banging out" for the winnnnnn. You bang that boy out.
@The Lady of Shalott Auugghhh! I am honored you remember. It was. It was totally me. The more people who utilize "banging out" the better! (the phrase, and/or actually doing it.)
Never mind! I am literally on the phone with him right now because he got into a car accident and wrecked his brand-new car. So he is now ninety minutes outside of town, stranded at a "motor inn." NEVER MIND. (But he is OK, which is the most important thing.)
Of course, I am also concerned that he's like "I wanted to see you tonight!" and I am like "dude, I am already wearing pajamas, and if you show up at my place without asking first I will be forced to kill you." But more importantly: THIS IS NOT SO GOOD. But....safety above all things?
@The Lady of Shalott Oh noes! Glad he's okay (though his car is not?)!
Also, pajama time is sacred and not to be disturbed. Once I'm in my pjs, that's pretty much it for the night.
One of my New Year's Resolutions was to start commenting on The Hairpin and finally sign up for Twitter (just to read other people's tweets for now, actually twittering might end up being next year's resolution)and because of following TCM's tweets I think melis (rhymes with trellis) showed up in my feed! It was a weird moment where I was like 'OMG, I know her!' and got crazy excited then I realized that I don't actually know her but it was a funny worlds colliding moment.
@hero worship Oh, how nuts! What a tiny world! ALSO GO TO THE TCM FILM FESTIVAL, IT IS THE BEST. What's your Twitter handle?
@melis It's eng_rachel
I am seriously considering going to the TCM festival this year even though I moved from Southern to Northern California this year and it would have been way more convenient last year.
@hero worship Twitter claims you do not exist!
@melis Whaaaa? This is also the part where I explain sheepishly that I'm not actually sure how Twitter works but if it's not eng_rachel then it's just rachel eng. I am wearing an adorable winter hat in my photo if it helps.
@melis Wait, the TCM film festival here in LA? Are you lovely people going? Because I was contemplating going to that, but didn't want to go alone...
@pterodactgirl I've gone every year! GO! Email me at mallory dot elis at gmail if you want to discuss plans!
Also, who should I follow on Twitter?
@hero worship horse_ebooks
@hero worship Kanye West. No, seriously. You think he's making up all this crazy ish, but it's all true.
Ken Jennings, if you're a Jeopardy fan
Matt Singer, for movie things
You guyyyyyyys, my months of unemployment and apartment searching have gotten me exactly where I should have assumed they would WHICH IS living at my parents' house. Someone tell my why I should not wander off across the moors (okay okay, state forest, we don't have moors in CT) tonight never to be seen again.
I will also accept reasons as to why I should, reason one being BEST SUICIDE EVER
@Nutmeg Because you couldn't read Hairpin comments next week then.
@Nutmeg Moors always remind me of "The Secret Garden."
But I think like half the people I know have moved back in with their parents recently (including my own kin - poor sister), so you're far from alone. It could be viewed as a relatively low-pressure situation in which you can get back on your feet!
Instead of wandering into the moors, just get a netflix subscription. Downton Abbey Season 1 is streaming! You can live vicariously.
@Nutmeg I have a friend who is 26 and has never held a job or shown any interest in moving out of her parents' house, so you're good for a while yet.
@Nutmeg I narrowly escaped moving back in with my mom after college, but I am pretty sure the stress of it knocked a good twenty or thirty years off of my life. I also took a leap of faith or two and do not do that it's too damn scary.
So, I think I'm going to break up with my boyfriend, but I'm going to give it a week. We've both had a bad week, so I don't want to just dump him on a whim.
Wish me luck! And by luck, I mean "wish he stops acting so bored with me, and I stop getting annoyed at every single thing he does!"
@gobblegirl Good luck, you got this!
@gobblegirl Best of best luck to you! That is such a hard decision, I know the pain.
@gobblegirl Girl, I been there! He will continue to be insufferable from afar, but you will be so totally over it and it will be amazing!
AHHH, you guys, I've been on Spironolactone for a month and my face broke out like CRAZYCAKES. It's getting a tiny bit better because I started using a retinol (the one by Revision Skincare, get it!) but I have also had two periods in the last few weeks. It's just light bleeding but I really want to only get one. Tell me it just takes time? Anyone? Also using natural progesterone cream because I'm losing my progesterone as I hit my mid-30s so feel free to holler out your wisdom or tales of natural progesterone cream, too. Have a great weekend!
You guys! I am on Maui right now and it is the fucking best, seriously. There is a beach literally right across the street from our condo! Liquor is so very cheap! (I am Canadian, and the last time I was in 'merkuh, I was only 19, so it is important to take advantage of this!) There are birds everywhere! And it's so WARM! I have a TAN! Flowers are blooming! All of these exclamation points are necessary!
Yesterday I went to a black sand beach and saw a fucking wild peacock on the side of the highway. I never want to leave.
@Two-Headed Girl Although it was 60 today here, it was a wind chill of 5 on Tuesday, and I am epically jealous of you right now.
@Two-Headed Girl I AM SO JEALOUS. It is -15 outside here and unbelievably windy. SOAK UP THAT SUN. Drink up that liquor. LOOK AT THE BIRDS AND THE FLOWERS on behalf of those of us who haven't seen the sun in years (it feels like) and are freezing despite wearing a long-sleeve shirt and jeans and knee socks and a sweatshirt.
@Two-Headed Girl: UNhumble-SUPERbrag!!!
@Two-Headed Girl I'm so jealous. Maui is amazing. My mom is going there in a few weeks and I wish I was her.
@The Lady of Shalott Sleeping-bag shuffle! It's a thing. It's a thing where you hang out in your sleeping bag, pulled up over your head if you have the hood-like kind; your feet are only a few inches apart so you come up with this fun sort of shuffle-hop. People might make fun of them but they quiet down really quickly if you say "I have warm feet" in the most imperious way possible.
@Serafina I like this idea.
@Two-Headed Girl Nice! I did that for xmas last year. Kihei?
@The Lady of Shalott I am from Edmonton and most of the time I would feel this so hard (except not this year, as was mentioned upthread.) I will! Get/stay warm!
@Xaxa Kihei! We got here for New Year's Eve and I rang it on the beach. Victory, etc.
@Two-Headed Girl Nice! Those condos are awesome. Does yours have a communal fire pit??
Ummm I might have passed out in a Teavana yesterday and smashed my face on possibly the counter and then the floor when I landed presumably face-first. Nobody was watching so my only evidence is my swollen face, a fractured nose, and the blood blister half the size of my thumb on the inside of my upper lip. Thanks, period! Because it wasn't enough that you started two days ago on my way to see my boyfriend for the first time since the middle of December when we were both horny as hell.
@Serafina your period did this to you? FUCK. that's terrible. I'm sorry. Feel better soon!
@Serafina Oh my god that is horrible, I am so sorry! I hope you feel better so soon, and that you and your boyfriend get mad sexytimes!
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher @heyits Thank you, ladies. This is quickly shaping up to be The Year I Am Accident Prone, as I knocked my ankle against the table and then a gallon container of juice tipped over in the car and now the whole thing is just a big blue mess.
@Serafina Time to retreat to safe, possibly padded quarters and wait it out.
Also, maybe you're just getting all your accidents in early in the year and the rest of it will be perfect!
@Serafina maybe you need to trick your body into thinking it's still 2011 by staging an elaborate NYE party. Then, when it's suddenly, magically 2012 AGAIN your body will get the message and stop trying to make your life a living hell. Regardless, I hope it gets less, er, accidentally prone!
I am home alone this weekend and 5 months pregnant, meaning I pretty much feel like sitting around the house. A lot. Any suggestions for a series I could get into on Netflix or iTunes to entertain myself?
Things I've enjoyed in the past: The Wire, Twin Peaks, The Office (UK Version), Rome (yes, I'm admitting this), Deadwood, Friday Night Lights, various Top Chef seasons + Downton Abbey. Things that I can't watch for fear of being scared: Dexter. Guilty pleasure: The Bachelor.
Grateful for any and all suggestions.
@Dorothy McGivney Luther! It doesn't have a lot of episodes, but they are all fantastic.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Interesting! I watched a few episodes (because I LOVE Idris Elba, and someone else I'm usually synched up with TV-wise recommended it highly) and thought it started out strong but then got a little nutty when he got coffee with the psycho chick? But since you have called it fantastic, I will definitely give it another try!
@Dorothy McGivney Granted the pickings are a lot slimmer on Canadian netflix but I've been enjoying Monk a LOT - and there are 8 seasons! Also I hear How I Met Your Mother is on American Netflix and it is a GREAT show to lose an entire weekend watching.
@Dorothy McGivney: 'Spaced'. Simon Pegg before the movies. Very funny.
@Dorothy McGivney Justified! It's basically Sheriff Bullock as a modern Federal Marshall/Due South for Americans (do Americans know about that show?). The first few episodes are a little slow but about halfway through the first season it really picks up.
@Dorothy McGivney I second the Justified Recommendation. It is AWESOME. Also Boardwalk Empire and Breaking Bad are really good. And BBC's Sherlock is fun and "so hot right now."
I agree about Luther though. I love Idris, but that show just got crazy. I refuse to believe he would still be employed after all of that stuff. Just sayin'.
@Dorothy McGivney I'd encourage you to keep going with Luther, because that particular point is crazy, but I came around to it! Ditto to Too Much Internet on Spaced, it is amazing. Also Firefly, if you haven't watched it--I am pretty sure it's on Netflix? Oh, and 30 Rock. Allll about the 30 Rock.
@Dorothy McGivney Is The X-Files too scary? I recently discovered it's available for streaming on Netflix. How about Buffy? ALL of them are available! Laguna Beach (I know, I know...)? The Tudors? Both are available streaming. Sadly, Veronica Mars and Freaks and Geeks are not. And My So-Called Life is too! And yes, yes, yes, to Boardwalk Empire!
@Dorothy McGivney Also, I'm curious (not judgy, I swear!) and I forgot to ask in the previous post -- Dexter is scary but not Twin Peaks? This amazes me! I love both but I have to admit that some of the scenes in TP have scarred me for life (and I love that too)! Bob, man...
@Dorothy McGivney Spartacus! Spartacus forever. One of my favorite shows, the first episode is weird and 300-y but then it picks up and you're continually amazed by the battle scenes, loving how deliciously evil quite a few of the characters are, some love stories, an epic bromance, and the excellent swearing of John Hannah. Plus the writing continually surprised me (sad effect of teaching yourself screenwriting: you can figure 99% of shit out :/ ), and lots of sweaty 3/4 ripped naked dudes and also Lucy Lawless. The best!!!
@Dorothy McGivney Battlestar Galactica (the remake): just give a chance! Season 1 is one of the most perfect seasons of television ever.
@topanga_lives *sigh* BSG. I dearly love that show, but I have issues with it (who doesn't?). That said, it does have one of the best female characters to ever grace the screen of a television, so someday I will shotgun it again like I did over the summer.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher @topanga_lives @thesailorsaid @Hellcat @pterodactgirl @MilesofMountains @Too Much Internet WOW! Thanks for all these amazing suggestions everyone! Sorry I didn't respond sooner - I had no idea so many people would be weighing in with recommendations after Friday evening. Ah, The Hairpin. I shouldn't have assumed any less of you.
So - what did I end up seeing? Well, I ended up being far busier than I thought I'd be over the past couple of days, and didn't get to stay in bed too much, but I started watching some Spaced and BSG. More importantly, however, my Netflix queue will be filled for weeks (if not months!) to come. Thank you again!
PS @Hellcat, I realized that my first comment was confusing - I was just mentioning things I've watched and liked in the past, but then thought to include Dexter as a "do not suggest" because I tried watching it and didn't love it after a few seasons AND thought that giving it another go while I was home alone would be a bad idea. But yeah, Twin Peaks is WAY creepier! And one of my favorite things in life ever!
@Dorothy McGivney Yes, beautifully done creepiness in Twin Peaks. I love that show more than any other David Lynch endeavors. And, just this weekend, while cleaning up my book shelves, I found my faux travel guide for the town of Twin Peaks!
So today I was walking back to work after lunch and this (not-homeless, I've met him before and know that he lives in an apartment) mentally-handicapped man in a motorized wheelchair asked me if I had any change. I said, I'm sorry, I don't, and he responds with "Oh, bull!" What a world.
2012: so far it's kind of lame, but I have big plans for the year.
-I'm graduating in June (supposedly. I'm half-considering putting it off for a year because I don't know if I can write my dissertation on top of my other classwork. I don't know how to do this).
-I want to travel as much as possible with the very little money I have and to see my best friend who lives on the other side of the country.
-I really want to make new friends. I don't know how to do this, however. But I'm almost 30 and I have no really close lady friends and it makes me really sad.
-I want to start writing my first full novel after I graduate.
-I want to focus on my health from more of a fitness ability and mental health perspective rather than focusing so much on my weight, and learn to accept and maybe love my body despite its "flaws".
@teebs About the dissertation--you can totally do it! (I say, having never written a dissertation, but am writing a thesis right now with classes last semester and this semester and it's going okay!)
About all the other things--you can totally do those too! They sound like totally fantastic and sane (sane!) goals.
EVERYBODY HOLD UP. Kal Penn serves Qream as the bartender at Ted and Barney's fake bar in How I Met Your Mother!
Scroll to bottom! Be amazed!
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher OMG. I may have just died. DEAD. I kind of love Kal Penn a little tiny bit. (a lot)
(Also, I am at home on a Friday night being low-key and interneting. And having Boy WTH? happening. What is up with boys? They are so weird.)
@PistolPackinMama I am ALSO home on a Friday night being low-key and interneting (obvs) and I am okay with this. WTH is happening with your Boy WTH? (They are so weird.)
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher *sigh* it's just an online "all of a sudden super flirty guy" thing. But you know, a kind of "how likely is any of that ever to happen anyway" flirty. Where are all the local boys with an interest in curvaceous reds?
But on a much more cheerful note... GUESS WHAT @wee_ramekin translates into in German?
or you could go Germ-lish and call her
I am glad I have a German-English dictionary. (Although I suppose I could have looked that up on Google Translate, couldn't I?)
Wait! And Kleiner_Kaeseauflauf
@PistolPackinMama Auflaufformchen! It's perfect! It sounds like a fluffy kitten sneezing.
Boys are WEIRD. And I happen to know that gentlemen prefer curvaceous redheads, it's just a matter of locating them.
@The Everpresent Wordsnatcher Maybe if I wore some kind of anklet/radio collar thing, they could find me? Seems like it would be a lot less work.
And YES! Auflaufformchen sounds EXACTLY like a fluffy kitten sneezing. Ahhhh! Perfect.
@PistolPackinMama I just wanted to say, re: boys WTH, that so often dudes will be all, "women, they are so emotional and weird," I always explode into R U SRS DUDES ARE SO CRAZY and they just never believe me, never.
I am picturing dozens of fluffy kittens sneezing all together and I am dead of cute.
I hope @wee_ramekin doesn't mind that I want to call her @die_Auflauffchen now. It's too good to go to waste.
OMG. And guess what I find when I google "fluffy kitten sneezing?"
@PistolPackinMama OK a comment by you with youtube videos of sneezing kittens showed up in my email, but it doesn't seem to exist here? Weird? Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that this baby elephant sneezing is tangential, but essential to a carefree existence.
@PistolPackinMama AAAAAAAAH kittens! Hooray for the interwebs!
@miwome AAAAAAAAH bebelephants! Hooray for the interwebs!
My mother isn't speaking with me!
@Nutellaface :( I am sorry. I hope things improve soon.
(I love nutella!)
@Nutellaface I know this isn't what you need to hear right now, but best screen name ever.
@Rookie Compliments always welcome!
@PistolPackinMama Thanks! Me too. It's a really weird thing, because we're generally really close, but over the holidays I started to realize all of this stuff about her that I had kind of turned a blind eye to in the past. I told her I didn't like how she was treating me and she flipped out and won't speak to me now. Oversharing! Thanks, open thread!
I just confirmed I'm not gonna be joining my best friend/romantic interest in his new town (for grad school) after I graduate in the summer. We figured that out last August when he first left, but between then and now there had been so many (textual) signs he was thinking differently! So last night we were having an awesome time, and he's like "If you ever need to say something, you can tell me" and -This must be my cue!- so I asked him if it was silly to think I might end up there with him, and he's like "Augh I miss you terribly, that's a huge commitment, that town doesn't have anything for you, what does that mean" and then I cried forever.
*And why did I have to do that midway through his visit and not at the end?
*And looking at all these texts when he's telling me about how he misses me don't make any sense!
*And I keep listening to "Someone Like You" and bursting into tears whenever she says "yesterday was the time of our lives" because if I had kept my dang mouth shut yesterday would have been awesome and we'd be on another adventure today.
*And it's a fact he's not even getting laid up there, so what if he DOES get lonely and realize his mistake? Should I delete him off facebook won't he come back.
*And what if I don't even get through the semester at this point, because I had no idea how much I got through difficult tests and lectures and customers by relying on the idea it was "one step closer to New Town".
And I have a friend I can talk to about this, but I have already bothered him a lot and I don't have any others, so I am going to talk to The Hairpin because it's like a big attic room where all my potential friends live. And there's nice stuff in here too, like armchairs and treasure chests and old maps.
TL;DR I have so many feeeeeelings.
*And, am I seriously listening to a sad song ON REPEAT and CRYING ON THE LOADED STANZAS, what am I TWELVE.
@Inkcrafter You sound like a heartbroken normal adult to me.
I can't quite tell if the problem is, you want to be together, but there aren't opportunities for you in New Town. Or if he doesn't want to be with you, AND there aren't opportunities in New Town?
If A: "can't be together" is only one option. Have you talked about that?
If B: Getting through the tests and papers and such is One Step Closer to Something Else (Maybe Even Something Better).
I'm sorry you're having a crummy Saturday. I hope you feel better soon. :(
Ugh, I don't know EITHER! I just feel like if he actually wanted me there, he'd be like "Yes, I'd love you to come. Be aware New Town doesn't have much for you and you might not be happy there." and I could say "I just want to waitress and write for a while anyhow, this is better than never seeing you again." I mean, right? And just give it a shot?
I'm not in grad school so I feel like I'm not empathizing right.
Thank you for your If B, you are very wise.
@Inkcrafter Sometimes you just have to do what's best for you. And it sounds to me like that's what you did. And it's OK to listen to a sad song and cry. Trust me, that was my October. I almost dressed up as Eleanor Rigby for Halloween. And if you're worried about the rest of the semester... just come read some Hairpin.
You guys made me feel better, and something happened! So, update: We had a talk in which I presented both sides of the disagreement (me: no attachments/responsibilities, him: saturated social/work life) which made him feel understood and understanding of my feelings. AND told him 'bout how he was green lighting me and being all mixed messagey. And zinged him with a zinger.
So now I just have to figure out whether to keep talking to him (possibly stress/possibly success) or forget about him. Thanks 'Pinners, for being there when I was gross and snotty. :) One day I will come to a Pinup and that day will be the happiest day!
I have what appears to be strep throat. While on my vacation.
Oldladydog has always been rather catlike (plays with string if you dangle it, pursues nap-worthy patches of sunlight relentlessly, wants to lie on whatever you've got spread out on the floor, holds doglike behavior in contempt, etc.). She's never been into chewing on bones. If you give her one, she just trots outside to bury it (the babydog consistently reaps the benefits of this practice) or lets it lie on the floor in front of her and awkwardly licks it until it rolls away (and the sly little Babydog nabs it from her).
But this evening I gave them each a beef bone, predicting that Babydog in all her earnest predatoriness would guardedly gnaw her bone and Oldladydog would lose hers one way or another. Sure enough, Oldladydog cautiously carried her bone out the dog door. BUT THEN she came back in with it! And is lying on the floor next to me holding it expertly in her paws, eyes glazed over, gnawing it as if hypnotized! At 14ish years old, Oldladydog is at last exhibiting a key dog behavior.
tl;dr: old dog learns new trick.
2012 isn't awful so far. My promotion(!) so far isn't kicking my ass, which I fully expected it to. My hockey team is winning. My ex-boy may be trying to poach some of our mutual friends but is not getting the one who's Been There for me for the last year.
And today we had a party for the kids at my church, and I don't usually fawn over children but all these kids were so happy and well-behaved and they all liked the presents they got and it was not a disaster!! This is kind of a big deal.
@Rookie I don't know why this didn't post under @hero worship's question of who to follow on Twitter.
In other news, Facebook has finally made a sidebar ad that piqued my interest: "Single and love firemen?" Yes, both of those things.
Dear every TV station that doesn't show football:
Why do all of you just...give up when it is football season? And not show any new programs at all? Sure, lots of people watch the football games. I get that playoffs do cut into the audience you would normally have. I get that you don't want to pull out every stop when you're up against The 417th Consecutive Very Important Football Game Taking Place This Year. But...could you give a half-assed little try at least? Please?
Really, football watching people are like 50% of the population at the outside right? Simple math, that leaves you an entire 50% that do not. And even out of the football population, there are people that only want to watch when their team is playing. Or only when an important bracket is decided. Or they're content one game per 24 hours, or flat out would like to watch something new that is not football at any single point during these months. Hell, I bet some of the people that do watch football all the time during these months only do it because there is absolutely nothing else on.
There are tv-watching people who would love nothing more than to have something to watch during these football-congested times. Lots of us. We are bored, frustrated, and desperate. Why are all of you throwing in the towel and not seizing this wonderful opportunity? Even one of you could put on a lineup and viewers would turn out in droves. Look at what happened to USA a few years back, they released new programs during summer reruns, and had outrageous success! The same principles apply here. I want to boost your ratings. I want to evangelize about your shows and make my friends and coworkers watch them. I want to throw money on your advertisers. All just for the virtue of you getting rid of the assumption that people only want football, all the time, and if not you shouldn't even bother. Please, for the love of god, let me.
Praying for a ray of light,
@thesailorsaid I found a He-Man and She-Ra marathon on Teletoon earlier today. Then after football ended, apparently Jane Eyre was on. I missed it.
I'm not sure what's worse: your non-football-programming conundrum, or missing out on watching The Fassbender.
So, ladies with actual careers. How do I ask for a transfer from my little awful town to, say, Austin? Without feeling guilty about wanting to be somewhere I could actually live without becoming clinically depressed? (Sadly, not an exaggeration.)
I don't think it's terrible that you're thinking about your future with the company/organization. I think they kind of like that?
Maybe characterize it more as wanting to do something specific in the Austin office and less that you personally need to get out of where you are (valid though that is)? Maybe speak to someone in HR or a supervisor in Austin and say something like, "My goal in the next few months is to grow into X. Are there opportunities to do that in Austin?" Or, "I've heard that X is opening up in Austin. Can you tell me what you're looking for in that position?"
@combledore The above is great advice. Even before you do that, you might want to get some more intel on how transfers usually work in your organization so that you're armed with that knowledge when you start having more "official" conversations about it. Seek out whoever is the "person who knows things" in your office. Every office has one - whether it's somebody who has just been there a million years, or someone that seems to have his/her finger on the pulse and miraculously knows everything, or a really approachable higher-up. Ask that person if they know of people who have transferred and how that process usually works. How long does it typically take? Does there have to be an open position there, or could you do what you're currently doing in Austin? etc, etc.
If they are tapped in to people who have transferred, maybe even reach out to one of those individuals for advice or intel if that's something that would seem to fit in with your company's culture. Then you can speak to HR or the folks in Austin as suggested above with a strong understanding of what you would need to do in advance, and it will appear to be something you've thought through/are serious about rather than just something motivated by a "I dunno, Austin seems neat!" mentality.
Also agree that you should stay away from the "I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE!" approach, but I think even saying, "You know, I have really wanted to move to Austin for some time, and I love what I do here at x company, so I'm trying to get the information I need to determine whether working with x company in Austin is something that is feasible," would work well in many companies. Keep it upbeat - you'd be surprised how receptive many companies can be to transfers.
Of course, obvious disclaimer: Do all this with an understanding of your company's culture. If they don't seem to care a whole lot about each individual, definitely go with the "I want to move to this particular role in Austin!" approach, but if it is a place where you feel comfortable being a touch more honest (BUT UPBEAT), then I think that talking to them about wanting to start fresh in Austin for more personal reasons is a perfectly good route, too!
@HeyThatsMyBike @laurel Thanks so much! My office here knows I want to be someplace bigger, I think it's just a matter of getting the ball rolling. I hope. I'm a little afraid of my supervisor.
@combledore Make an appointment with him/her to talk about it. If it's on an outlook/google calendar, you can't keep putting it off! Just walk in, swallow the giant lump in your throat, and get the ball rolling, girl!
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