How to Reveal a Pregnancy Over Facebook Chat

@Gnatalby Ah, thank you! I could not for the life of me remember the name of this little gem, but it popped into my head as I read this, too. Off to watch it again, then maybe go on a little Paul Simon binge…

@Gnatalby Also viewable here: http://vimeo.com/6410278 It's a sweet, funny, and eminently watchable little film.

@le mango That is exactly what I've been doing since my memory was jogged. <3 u paul simon!

@Gnatalby Obvious Child is the best song ever (& Rhythm of the Saints is a really underrated album. that I adore).

& I hate, hate, HAAAAAATE Knocked Up. love raunchy comedies, loved 40-Year-Old Virgin, but Knocked Up was the bleakest depiction of romantic relationships I've ever seen.

also, this piece is awesome.

@nonvolleyball I'm always confused when people call Knocked Up a comedy. It's a horror movie, right?

@franceschances No, no you all shut your damn mouths! What, ewww no I so do *not* inappropriately love Seth Rogen. I do NOT.

@rayray I find him devastatingly attractive, especially pre-Hollywood weight loss. But it's in spite of his career choices.

@rayray I love Seth Rogen! I just hate the thesis of "all long-term relationships are based on apathy & mutual disdain, so just give up on being with someone who brings you consistent joy" that Knocked Up espouses.

@nonvolleyball And don't forget that you're not getting any younger!

@Gnatalby Don't forget (spoiler alert) Fast Times at Ridgemont High! It's still the only movie I've ever seen with an abortion in it where nothing horrible happens to anyone because of it.

@Gnatalby Thank god. Yeah, that's how I feel. Knocked Up is kind of horrendous.

@SBGBlogs I never actually saw that. SO THANKS FOR RUINING IT! (jk)

@nonvolleyball I dunno…all evidence points to Seth Rogen being kind of an asshole IRL. Give me Paul Rudd any day.

@D.@twitter Why not just give me Paul Rudd? Why do we need to QUALIFY it? Paul.Rudd.

@D.@twitter Paul Rudd FOREVER. He will always be Josh from Clueless for me. That sounds creepy. Obviously I know he is a human being, and I love him in many other movies (even Romeo and Juliet. I mean… I crushed pretty hard on Leo as a teen but I would maybe have married Paris if he was that dreamy). But every time someone says 'Paul Rudd' I think of the staircase scene in Clueless, and also him sitting by the pool all in black, reading Nietzsche.

So beautiful.

@Gnatalby True about Fast Times, but I've always thought that it was a little too…easy. JJL is like, "Well, I guess I'll just go get this abortion!" and then her brother picks her up and they go have pizza or whatever. What.

@Gnatalby Knocked Up is the WORST. Not only for the shitty depiction of relationships but this:
Female Doctor: Oops. That's not your vagina. That's your asshole.

Maybe I'm overreacting, but my feminist rage fires start burning with the fire of 1000 suns when I think about it. Like a fucking woman gynecologist wouldn't know where her fucking vagina is WHEN SHE HAS THE PARTS HERSELF. FUCK OFF APATOW.

@Gnatalby not to mention Wet Hot American Summer–which, in addition to being the best movie of all time, features Paul Rudd at his most hilarious.

@D.@twitter I met Seth Rogen at my old job, and my husband's met him a few times (he married hubby's co-worker's sister). He's not an asshole. He's very chill. Although my friend used to be Paul Rudd's assistant and LOVES him, so yay Paul Rudd!

@Craftastrophies, nonvolleyball: For me he is hottest in The Cider House Rules, even though he is a mere backdrop to my irrational dislike of Tobey Maguire.

@nonvolleyball Andy having his mess hall temper tantrum is my pic!

@rayray UUUGH Tobey Maguire.

Maybe there is a correlation between liking PR and disliking TM?

@Craftastrophies No really, you must stop being me this. instant.

@rayray But… but… you're so preeetttty. Can't I be you just until after the weekend?

@Craftastrophies Yeah alright, but you have to go on this OKCupid date I just arranged, okay?

@rayray oh…

@Craftastrophies YESYESYES CLUELESSSSSS HE IS SO G-D DREAMY

@Craftastrophies I lost all respect for Tobey Maguire when spiderman turned emo in Spiderman 3. There's about 45 mins of that movie where I just couldn't watch – i was embarrassed for TM, I was embarrassed for Kirsten Dunst, I was embarrassed for everyone in that movie. They all looked like they wanted to punch through the screen and escape from that movie, because of TM being so punchable. *rant over*

@Ames@twitter Fast Times was just like my abortion. Except I was 27 instead of 16, substitute pizza for a pit beef sandwich with boardwalk fries, and my mom drove me home. For some of us it is easy – and a relief!

@New Hoarder oh my god it is! I will like you forever (even if you start tasting like a burger).

@thenotestaken Hate to be a b-word, but an abortion can also be a happy ending for many women or couples who aren't ready or able… just saying.

@DrFeelGood Yes of course! I meant only in this particular context and referring more to the romantic relationship, since in the story it seemed pretty clear that she wanted things to work out with this guy.

@thenotestaken Yeah, I'm happy that the author is happy, but I was kind of hoping as I read this that this was about to be a happy story about an abortion as I think those kind of narratives are under-told.

@dakdakdak Haha. I know, right? I'm all "Congrats, how wonderful for you, now where is my inspiring abortion story, hmm?"

@thenotestaken perhaps not inspiring, per se, but this is why I love the 'pin SO HARD: http://thehairpin.com/2011/03/ask-an-abortion-provider

@Dani Bryant@twitter NUH UH!!!!

@Dani Bryant@twitter: shit, I hate to defend any Facebook action whatsoever, but as a good friend of someone who lost one of her twins in utero (she had announced the pregnancy, but not the loss of one of the embryos), I know that each and every Facebook comment about her "coming bundles of joy" broke her already shattered heart.

@Dani Bryant@twitter shudder.

@karion ohhh, so awful

@karion
Oh, that's awful

@karion A couple of my friends have just gotten pregnant and are navigating that who to tell when thing. It seems to me that a good policy, at least in the early months, is not to tell anyone you wouldn't want to also know if something bad happened.

It's not always possible, of course. And, you know, there's not really any way to spread that awful news without it being awful.

@Dani Bryant@twitter A) Dani! So nice to see you here. It, like, makes SENSE B) Oh. em. gawd.

@BenIsAGirl YES THIS

@special_boots Agreeeed.

@BenIsAGirl Is there a place to view the meet ups or do we just have to keep an eye open for the post? I'm quite new, made an account just to ask this, and would really like to attend a meet up.

@avoidmadness you can go here to see all the various meetups:
http://groups.google.com/group/hairpin_pinups/topics

@avoidmadness so sorry! I'm a slow responder. Oddly enough the LA one is on facebook, dunno if it's included in the google group and I'm lazy/behind on a work project so I probably won't ever know. But here's the fB link: http://www.facebook.com/#!/event.php?eid=281080915248792

@BenIsAGirl Ah thanks for the facebook link!

@tortietabbie I feel like that is what I would do, if it happened. ;;;hugs;;; ALSO, the song "Brick" by Ben Folds Five.

@tortietabbie ohhhhhh hugs

@TooCool4School This, along with "Slide" and "Breathe" – My husband thought I was crazy b/c he kept saying, "I like this song," and I'd reply, "It's about abortion." But they are! ALL THE SONGS.

@tortietabbie That is probably what I would do too, and hugs hugs hugs

@tortietabbie Oh man, me too. I ended up drunkenly crying in the gutter a few months later and telling some random dude all about it. He then walked me home and put me to bed and left a note that said something cheesy like "hey, sorry you're having a hard time" or whatever. I was so sad when I lost that dumb note 2 years later after graduation.

@tortietabbie I am with you. I still have only told one person ever. But we can also have happy endings and boyfriends who love us!

@paperbuttons All the things should be illustrated by Esther.

@Ella Dorband@facebook Yea I'm not going to be all BOO you had the baby, but I'd like to hear an inspiring abortion story!

@Nina B.@twitter Maybe because (some?) people who had an abortion don't think of it as an integral part of who they are the way having a child (unexpectedly or not) then becomes an integral part of who you are?

Also if you had an abortion not because you were raped or a survivor of incest or indigent then by being out about it you are pretty much saying "yes, I did that, and I did it for me, so that I can have the life I want and can give my future kids the life I want them to have." and people can make assumptions about what Kind of Person you are from there.

@julia That's an interesting perspective.

@julia I don't disagree with anything you've said. I think I meant to say that there ought to be more safe spaces on the Internet for women who have had abortions – regardless of reason – to share their stories.

And you're right – having an abortion is different from having a child. While it doesn't have to be an integral part of who they are, I still think that sharing those stories in some form can create a dialogue that helps destigmatize abortion.

@Nina B.@twitter Yeah. This is making me think about it more. It's just such a divisive thing – I mean either you think it's a bunch of cells or you think it's a baby and that kind of defines your position. So then does sharing the story help destigmatize or does it reinforce everyone's existing beliefs? I don't know.

@Nina B.@twitter Well, there's the "I'm Not Sorry" website, but that's pretty political, so it might not be what you're talking about.

Though I agree with julia's point above that for a lot of women who get elective abortions, it's a thing you do to get back to whatever you were doing. It's not really life-changing in the way having a kid is. And if you needed a therapeutic abortion, that might not ever wind up being a story you want to tell to strangers.

I'm super-glad everything worked out for the author. It's getting to the point where unplanned-and-ambivalent pregnancy stories make me want to hide under a blanket until they're over more than slasher flicks.

@julia Without that sign off, it could have been either ending. Or if the sign off had said, Catherine Mejia is still working on a strongly worded letter of complaint to everyone involved in the making of Knocked Up. She lives in California with her boyfriend, who is still the most handsome man she's ever seen up close.

@julia I wish there were more stories it was just a casual part of. In the same way that I wish there were more stories about queer people, but I will gladly take any story in which one of the chracters is queer and that is not actually the point of the story. Sometimes that's even better. Just a 'hey, look, this is a normal thing, it might be a plot point in the same way that failing a test or having red hair might influence a plot point, but it is not the Biggest Thing'. It is a normal part of life, after all.

@julia Looking at the perspective of what would happen if you did have the kid – I think it can be pretty life altering, even if it just keeps you the same. I'm not trying to say "yay they had an abortion", but by stating "yay happy ending" it's as if having an abortion ends in an unhappy ending…

@chickaboom It helps if you just watch Paul Rudd, but stick your fingers in your ears and sing 'La la la' for the whole movie.

@kayjay *you're. I really wish the edit feature worked for me.

@candybeans ps, this piece is beautiful. and Nth on the absolutely lovely bio at the end.

@candybeans I did this too, and then spent a week freaking out that I was going to have this above situation on my hands, and now am spending every night reading about IUDs.

@klibberfish Ditto.

@candybeans IUDs are the best thing in the world. I love mine so much I named it.

@candybeans As someone who cannot take the pill (crazy stab stab stab), might I gently suggest relying on some combination of condoms and the Fertility Awareness Method? Different from the rhythm method or the calendar method, it allows you to do science to your cervix and your body temperature and COMPLETELY ELIMINATES PREGNANCY SCARES. It's amazing. You always know what's up. Check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility from your local library.

Big plus is that if/when you want to get pregnant, it makes things go so much more smoothly if you can look at your man and say, "Now. Right now. You need to have sex with me now."

@MmeLibrarian yeah but then what if you're ovulating and you want to DO IT SO BAD but you can't because you're ovulating!?!? That's my prospective problem with FAM. Although I guess that's when you use a condom. Also maybe not everyone has such strong "make all the sex" feelings around ovulation.

@candybeans My IUD is a-ma-zing and now thanks to @Sarah L.@twitter I'm trying to think of a name for it, a year after I got it inserted.

@realtalk Mine is called Ivan the Terrible. I may be a bit of a dork.

@candybeans IUDs for all!! I can't do hormonal BC but relying on condoms was just too scary, so I finally womaned-up and got the copper IUD. Not gonna lie, it's been a rollercoaster (what's up having a period for over 2 weeks at a time), but I don't have a constant "BUT WHAT IF A BABY" fear rolling through my head.

@candybeans 2+ week periods have been part of my IUD experience, too! My doctor tried to tell me that this was abnormal, but other posts on the internet seem to disprove this. Even though I'm no longer even having sex right now, I'm not having my IUD taken out. If I ever again get the urge to hug a penis with my vagina, I don't want to rely only on condoms to keep me from getting pregnant.

My bro and his family are without power from the storm and are currently bunking with me; consequently, I've had a lot of up close and personal night-time action with my 8-month-old niece. She now goes by the nickname "Party Baby" for her nocturnal alertness, and also managed to contract some sort of gastro distress that necessitated double bagging diapers. She's the cutest, sweetest kid ever, but holy cow: Do. Not. Want.

No, ma'am.

@realtalk If you use FAM/etc you should not use a condom while ovulating, unless you want to spend Valentines Day crying in the rain (LITERALLY CRYING IN THE RAIN) while you tell your boyfriend that he miraculously knocked you up. Goddamn him and his ridiculously powerful sperm. GODDAMN THEM ALL (until next year when we can actually plan to have the damn baby).

@taigan I used to have an implanon, which I really loved but a lot of people have issues with. And also, coming off of it has been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. But for ten or so years it was the BEST.

@Sarah L.@twitter et al good suggestion! my silly gyn (picking drs because they'll charge you a lower "cash patient" fee=flawed strategy) is one of those old ladies who thinks that IUDs are for women who have already had babies. I mean, this is an "in the future, when I have health insurance and unicorns dance in my living room for my merriment" sort of move for me, anyhow, but it's good to know so many ladies like them, and that most gyns don't still ascribe to that theory.

@dk THAT IS TERRIBLE. I'm so sorry. Yeah, that's why I got an IUD, because no babies right now please. By the time I need to get it out (10 years! such a long time!) I'll be the excellent baby making age of 31.

@candybeans my gynecologist is like "yeah, pretty much it's the most reliable form of birth control for a lot of people, and there's no science to back up the wait-till-you-have-kids-to-get-one approach, so it sucks that so many doctors are still hesitant about them!" So, hie thee to a planned parenthood, or a community clinic, stat! They're super flex about insurance/lack thereof/being a "cash patient". Just make sure whoever puts yours in is experienced in the procedure. The nurse-practitioner who inserted mine does 15+ a week. She was in and out of there in 5 minutes tops. Magical.

@Sarah L.@twitter I am also having a slight love affair with my IUD. Sucked upon installation, but now, I don't know why I waited so long to get one.

@taigan Ugh I am going through crazy shit with my IUD right now. I got it about 2 years ago and it is getting worse. Between periods, spotting and cramping, I am doing one of the 3 or 2 of the 3, 20 out of the last 29 days. I have intense cramping in my left ovary, but I had an ultrasound and they said I don't have a cyst, but the IUD is was slightly implanted on the other side of my uterus – relative to the pain. The doc says that it is "normal" and I shouldn't have anything done. Not sure what to do at this point… BC is almost besides the point anymore, since I'm not having any sex in this state

@DrFeelGood Fuck what that doctor says! Pain isn't normal, and the person who put it in did it wrong. Get it taken out! Two years later, you shouldn't be having too many issues. Something isn't right and you shouldn't be enduring pain because some jackass doctor told you that everything is "normal".

@kayjay Yea I love the idea of it – am thinking can they re-adjust it so it is not implanted? I am leaning more towards getting it out, but I really really do not want to be on hormonal BC. So babies or condoms?
I thought that it would get better, but its not really better or worse, just the pain is changing? Some months are OK, some are not. I have another GYN lined up so we'll see what she says. One of the problems is so few docs know anything about the IUD, perhaps I should go back to Planned Parenthood… Just got the ultrasound results, was really hoping it was like ah you have a cyst this is why you're in pain. ugh.

@DrFeelGood Having spent years going to PP, I'm of the opinion that, in general, they probably do far more IUD insertions than anyone else and are absolutely pros at it. I think it's worth going to them. The whole point of an IUD is so that you don't have to worry about birth control and to stay away from hormones. Birth control should not mean, "I'm in so much pain from my birth control that I'd rather not have sex." I hope you can get it sorted out. You should not live with pain if you don't have to!

@Craftastrophies I HEART MY IMPLANON .

@Gilgongo: This is my kind of story.

As is the post author's story.

Also, I very much want to know what weird shit you had to do.

@karion Heh, nothing like voodoo or anything. But, honestly? Kinda like voodoo! I was seeing a kinesiologist. He did "muscle testing" where he would ask me questions and press on my arm and diagnose me depending on whether my arm stayed up or went down. He made me stop eating sugar/white flour & gave me pills (herbs, I think). He begged me to give him 3 months before going on Clomid (a fertility drug my OB/GYN wanted to put me on because she said I wasn't ovulating). I was pregnant in 2 months. I pretty much never go to regular doctors anymore. (I didn't get into it in my above story, but a "regular" doctor is why I had the stillbirth in the first place). I used a birthing center & midwives for my second pregnancy.

@Gilgongo That's kind of what happened to my parents! They had a rough first couple years of marriage (I think actually a lot more unhappy than they've let on to me). My mom wanted kids and my dad definitely did not. She had two miscarriages, and then my dad had an emotional revelation/change of heart/etc. Got pregnant a third time, first baby born. Both so happy to have kids…and both my mom and dad were and are amazing parents.

@kayarr That's awesome to hear (errr… read)! To clarify, we actually had/have a very happy marriage. We were married for several years before I got pregnant, and we were feeling like we probably didn't want kids, but we weren't sure. We got a puppy. Oh my god, that puppy! She broke us. Drove us INSANE! (she still does!) My husband, one night, was in the fetal position on the floor crying and saying "I can't do it. I can't have a kid. I'm so sorry, but I just can't do it! I'm not ready and I never will be." I hugged him and told him it was OK and we didn't have to have kids. I mean, we couldn't even deal with a DOG! Two days later, I found out I was pregnant! So, yeah… that happened.

The getting pregnant by accident, stillbirth, and me wanting a baby and him not was tough/rough. Really hard. (we also went a little crazy after the stillbirth and moved all around the country) But, I will say we still, oddly enough, had a great marriage. And because of all the stuff we went through… we're stronger than ever. So that happened too! Our daughter is almost 2 and hopefully we'll be (are) amazing parents like yours!

@u_u: Go to a hospital. I was 21 when I found myself unexpectedly pregnant, and I had an abortion scheduled. I ended up 'starting my period' (as I naively believed was the beginning and end of a miscarriage), and within about eight hours, I was in terrible, crippling pain. I drove by myself to a hospital and had a miscarriage in the waiting room.

You'll get a hospital bill, yes. No question. But there are options for getting that waived later, and you don't want to fuck around with reproductive health.

@u_u karion is right — yes, a hospital bill will be expensive, but the sooner you treat or get more info on whatever's happening to you, the better. Letting things go is also usually more expensive in the end.

@karion But if you had your miscarriage in the waiting room anyway, wouldn't it have been better to stay home?

I am just so overwhelmed with thinking about everything that I am like a zombie, kind of paralyzed. I can't think what search terms to even Google to figure out if I could keep the pregnancy. Like if there's social programs that could help me enough that it's feasible for me to do so.

If I don't know how I feel about the pregnancy, how I can I go to a hospital and ask for help? What would they even do? Just like… "Yep, you're miscarrying," or "Nope, you're not." If I'm not but I'm bleeding Planned Parenthood won't do the abortion on Tuesday. But I don't even know if that's what I want to happen.

I really – I don't know – I don't know if it's worth it to go to a hospital. What did they do for you after you miscarried in the waiting room? Just pain pills, or an exam or something?

@u_u: You can always deal with the bill later, but if there is any complication from the miscarriage, you could have lasting damage. It is far better to be near a doctor than near a computer.

I don't remember, to be honest. The whole experience was traumatic and awful. But I am really glad I went to a hospital when it happened. I didn't go until the pain got really intense (like the worst cramps imaginable). I believe I had a D&C following the miscarriage.

@u_u Planned Parenthood told you right. Don't worry about the damned bill right now. You need to be seen by someone who can tell you what's happening to you. If you're miscarrying, and something goes amiss, it can be a real emergency. If you're not, then you can call off the abortion if you want to. But don't try to wait this one out.

My grandmother was hospitalized for several miscarriages, once upon a time. It's not easy, even when there are no complications. Please go.

@u_u Girl, I am not sure if you are still reading these replies, but if you are you really should go to the hospital. This may be a miscarriage, it may be nothing, or it may be a life-threatening emergency. I know that the bills are insane, but you can deal with them later. Ectopic pregnancies can kill you so quickly

@u_u Two years ago I was 27 and pregnant with a one-night stand (that didn't even involve penetration and WTF IS UP WITH THAT UNIVERSE?) with an ex bf. Unprepared, totally broke, totally terrified. I scheduled an abortion but before it happened, started spotting/miscarrying so went a day early. I then had a medical abortion to make sure it was all cleaned out. I only told one person because I couldn't even think of which friends to call. It sucked like nothing else in my whole life, but I am fine and you will be too–other women have gone through this and you are not alone.

Please go to a clinic or a hospital or Planned Parenthood. They have people to talk to and know what your options are and how to keep you healthy. Please go. If you are in NYC I will go with you. Not kidding.

@u_u Please, go. And then remember to come back and tell everyone that you are ok, because we will be worried 'til then.

@u_u oh babygirl go to the hospital. Sure it'll cost money, but your health is worth it. If you're in the SF Bay Area, I'll come with you and hold your hand if you want! You need better friends, because robot friends are terrible. spew your feelings forth and let me give you a hug, ok?

@u_u I love you guys! You're so genuinely nice.

I went to the hospital. I got a pee test, blood test, I cried and talked to a really nice social worker whose sympathy prompted me to cry harder but who ultimately helped me clarify my lack of certitude about what I wanted to do about the pregnancy.

Then four and a half hours later, the results: your levels of the Whatever Hormone (can't remember, am zonked from all the crying/waiting) that signifies pregnancy are slightly elevated but not enough so to mean that you're currently pregnant.

Me: …Whut.

Nurse: So you're not pregnant. You probably were. But you're not now. You're okay.

So. !

I mean I shudder… shudder… to think of how much the bill is going to be. (Although I am applying to a program through the hospital for broke people where they lessen the amount owed.) I got it out of the doctor that it costs at a minimum $500 to sit in a room with him for five minutes. No one wanted to tell me how much it was going to cost me altogether, maybe because I was already crying.

But! But. I am relieved the problem is over. As far as life lessons about being responsible with contraception are concerned: I am relieved that this one is merely financially expensive, merely momentarily emotionally expensive, and not long-term either of those things. You know? Having to decide what to do – I was sure at first that I was going to terminate, and then I was terrified to admit to myself that I wasn't sure that was what I wanted to do – ahhhh! all so scary! – I mean.

Life lesson. CONDOMS. (And lube, I guess, since that's why I declined to use a condom to begin with – even the alleged "lubricated" ones make sex painfully dry for me, not sure why.) (I have never used lube and am totally lost about how to introduce it. If anyone uses it and has a cute method for announcing its use, I'm all ears.)

Thank you everyone who convinced me to go – I got a list of sliding scale therapists in my area out of it. And the relief of having a doctor tell me exactly what was going on. It's true I could have spent twenty bucks on another couple pregnancy tests and figured this out myself (probably), but I would have still been worried.

And maybe the lesson that costs thousands of dollars (eek!) sticks a little better than the lesson that doesn't.

Anyway. You all are the best and I love you. Yay Hairpin Sisterhood!

@u_u Loved waking up to this update! Hugs and happy endings!

@dj pomegranate This thread made me happy.

@u_u As someone who got slammed two summers ago with a massive ER bill, hospitals don't actually expect you to pay the full price. Insurance companies don't even pay them full price on what they bill. You can call the billing department, explain that you don't have insurance and can't afford to pay the entire bill and start negotiating it down. I would bet you could talk that bill down by 40%-50%. They will even set up a payment plan if need be. It works, trust me. Just start negotiating the moment you get the bill. And whatever you pay, it's cheaper than having a baby and a juicebox of a guy in your life for eternity

@u_u Oh phew. I actually left this thread open overnight so that I could refresh it when I got up. I'm so glad you're ok!
Yes, being poor and owing money sucks, but ectopic pregnancies and possible threats to your future babyhaving abilities suck more. and listen to @maevemaealone about negotiating. Hospitals charge so much because they know that nobody ever pays the full amount. It's like paying full price for a mattress.

Also, with lube, you just buy some and then pull it out and slap it on there after the condom is on. You don't even need to say anything. No need to be cute. Just another part of the safe sex routine, basically! If he's confused (unlikely), just say "this brand of condom needs a little help," or something along those lines. And then you'll be good to go and babyfree.

@u_u Please go to the hospital! Most have financial assistance. I got some when I went to the er last winter. Cut the bill in half. I am so, so sorry this is happening to you. Please take care of yourself.
*Ah, just read the rest. Glad to hear you went!

@u_u Ask what your bill could be reduced to if you pay in cash. MANY hospitals will reduce the bill up to 80% if you pay cash.

@u_u I just read all of this, and I've never been so relieved that someone I don't know at all ended up going to the hospital.

@u_u I am happy that you are okay and healthy!

@u_u I am so happy to hear that you're ok!

@u_u I'm so glad you're OK!!

@u_u I continue to love you all! Thanks for caring and for the advice.

@u_u Oh God, I am so so so glad you went to the hospital and you had a nice nurse and that you're okay. I hope you go to a pinup soon so people can buy you a drink, because I would so buy you one and give you a big hug.

@u_u I don't know if it varies by state, but where I am, all you have to do is pay at least $25 dollars a month. Just do a payment plan.

@Craftastrophies I agree. Although I tend to be the kind of person that tells big news in person (I don't know why).

@Craftastrophies So once, in the early days of facebook/collegetime, I found the guy I had a one night stand with and sent him a FB message that I was pregnant with a GIANT j/k, yo attached…and then we laughed about it and continued to have one night stands with each other for a while.
BUT THEN, karma came around when this OTHER juicebox from college time sent me a message that basically accused me of giving him some terribly drippy STD (even though I HAD NOT and he just did not know how to keep his junk clean) and then when I was all WTF, he basically disappeared from FB for like a month. I finally tracked him down on the phone and he was like, "oh yeah. that. it was NBD."
And then, in true juicebox fashion, he tried to be my friend on facebook.